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adeboyewareez:
Dude chill! you don't even know what I'm busy doing! why jump into conclusion that fast? are you a girl?

hhhh sorry i was only teasing. all the best. but truly you need to plan for settling.

adeboyewareez:
As for me, I'm reluctant to commit to a relationship simply because I'm busy. . . . .

kwantinue being busy. very soon you will start toasting your friend's children if you do not settle down for a relationship

teepsee:
op you just so on point. Men love varieties , being free not being tied down

thanks bro. although varieties is said to be the spices of life but it can turn sore to be the injury of life. if men don't want one lady to tie them down, Hiv and other stds might end up tying them down

ojun50:
We want to receive has many channels has dstv

God is watching u. kwantinue

Warhawk:
thah no1 .....

what happen to number 1? or are u guilty of it

kinggogo:
Dey r afraid of not tasting oda soups

just say you are afraid and stop using "they are"

JIXZ:
so on point dude

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thanks. add yours

judeefcc:
Too young , don't want to break their hearts

if you are too young why not stay off them ?

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The fact that guys are usually afraid to commit are due to several reasons. Women always want to know why guys are reluctant to commit to a long term relationship or to marriage. These reasons listed below will give you an idea as to why they have fears of tying the knot!


1. He does not want to lose his identity

If you are the pushy and demanding type then he could be afraid that once he commits to you, he will slowly but surely change into the type of person you want him to be. He is afraid of losing his own identity and changing into a lapdog who has to do everything to please you. This could prove very scary for a guy and therefore he is reluctant to make any sort of commitment.

2. He is confused as to what your feelings are for him

If you have not really been forthright and clear about your feelings towards him, then he will be cautious about making a commitment to you. The smallest doubt about you and your feelings will make him reluctant to take a step towards commitment. Only when he knows for sure that you reciprocate his feelings will he turn bold and take the initiative!

3. He hates the thought of being tied down

Most men have a morbid fear of being tied down to one woman all their life! These men are the types that want to enjoy dating different women before they make up their mind. They are generally those who are concentrating on just having a good time instead of being serious and thinking of the future. i know many Nairalanders in this category but i will allow seun and other audience to list the "soup testers"

4. He is not sure that you are the right woman for him

There could be a hundred reasons why he has certain doubts as to whether you are the ideal woman for him. He will never make a commitment unless and until he is convinced in his heart that you are the right one for him. Even though he has been dating you all this while, he could feel that there is something missing in the relationship and hence is not ready for commitment.

5. He is terrified of the financial responsibility involved

The very fact that commitment means a whole lot of new responsibilities make men nervous and reluctant to take a step in that direction. In case he is not really financially secure and feels that he will not be able to provide for his wife and family in the near future, he will not be able to commit.

6. He thinks that you have too high expectations

There is no way he is going to commit if you have been setting the standards too high or been having too many high expectations where he is concerned. See if you are the type of woman who has been very demanding, critical and a stickler for perfection in every thing. He is obviously scared of falling short!

7. He is unsure and insecure

If the guy is aware of his faults, failures and shortcomings, then he could become insecure and afraid of facing the future. He will naturally become less confident of being a success and making the relationship ideal. This insecurity will prove to be a huge blockage where commitment is concerned.

8. Add yours

Bahddo:
It's either you just learnt that expression and you are trying to practice, or you believe everyone longs to return to his vomit. Which?

I think it's stupid trying to get back with an ex regardless of who initiated the breakup. If the relationship were that awesome, it wouldn't have ended in the first place.

if its that awesome it wouldn't have ended in the first place? you made me laughing in chinese . in your illusive thinking perfect relationships now exist were issues dont come up ? as long as issues can come up break ups can come up. even the best relationship teachers in the world have their own personal relationship issues. remember our lord says "he has created humans with free will" as long as the free will and the imperfection are their, we can sometimes break up and regret it in the future. that is where getting him or her back comes in

Bahddo:
Why would anyone want to get back with an ex?

the answer is just between your ears. think and you will find out why

uzobaby:
@op I can relate with this loooooooool...men sha

just tell us that you fell for this

hahn:
How did you come to this conclusion?

the picture you posted said it all

hahn:

hhhh, after everything you are calling her bi*ch after all u made her who she is. what do you expect us to call u ?

LordZero:
[color=#FFA62F] What happened to her accepting you for who you are? what happened to both of you working/learning to accommodate and tolerate each other?.
Change yourself and she'll say you are fake or she find other things about you she doesn't like and you guys will have to break up again then you change again and the cycle continues.

If you are trying to improve yourself because of a partner and not for the betterment of yourself then you need HELP..[/color]

if learning to improve yourself and make you better means you are fake, then i am still wondering why you are sent to school. changing through learning only means you are improving yourself and most likely going beyond her standards. once it is clear that you are much better than her, then you surely have an upper hand

Raina80:
Change too much then you have lost yourself as an individual no one is perfect, change comes from both parties what if the guy tries and the woman has not made any attempt to compromise ( the issue with most women it's her way or no way)

yes sis you are correct. most ladies is their way or no way because most of the guys going to them have no dependency value to attach. once she truly loves either you or your cash their will surely be another way. remember one of the laws in the 48 laws of power "Always make other people dependent on you". ladies are mostly unknowingly applying the rule. making guys dependent between their legs. it is that sense of dependency that makes it only her way or no other way but once a guy reciprocate and make her dependent on his love, company, favor or cash their will surely be another way

KissChrix:
As I don see bbmpin like this....

I don know what to expect

Surprise Us for once na

i wish seun will introduce psychiatric section to send people like him their

oga lalasticlala and mynd44 here is my sunday gift to Nairalanders

Today is sunday, while others are somewhere having fun others are suffering from Break ups. No one wants to go through break ups, and yet millions of people are dealing with them on a regular basis. If you want to avoid the issues that are related with breaking up with someone, you are not going to be able to do it. There's no way to avoid it. If it's going to happen, it will, and you will be left out cold. Now, there are ways that you can change things up. In fact, you could learn how to get your ex back. This is something that a lot of people will no doubt want to chase, and it starts with changing. You will need to change a bit, or else you will not get anywhere.

Just Be Friends

The first thing that you need to do is make sure that you are friends. You will not be able to win her back if you do not go this route. Make sure to call, and just check in. Ask about getting a drink, as friends, and just catching up and staying in communication. You don't need to do this a lot, but you should make sure that you chime in and see where they are and remind them that you're there if they need you. You have to become a good friend, not just an ex. Don't get angry, don't bring up the past, and just be open minded about what your conversation may entail, including dating. Without friendship, you can't possibly figure out how to get your ex back.

Make Changes To Your Lifestyle

Think about the complaints that your ex had before you broke up. Start making changes to your life in the opposite direction. Change your wardrobe, start learning about self improvement, improve yourself and go to different places. Look as though you're having fun. Go to meetings, and gatherings, meet new people and soon enough she will see that you are making strides. She'll actually ask you to go back with her, and that's something worth exploring. Remember, this is not so much about how to get your ex back, but rather about how to get your life back in order. Remember, you're trying to learn how to get your ex back, by changing.

Ask Her Back

Once you make changes, and you have been apart for some time, ask how she is. Ask if she's seeing anyone. If she's not, then ask her for a unique date. Take her somewhere you've never taken her before, and somewhere that you have discovered since being single. If you do this, she'll be in awe of your changes and will give you a second chance. However, you cannot get to this step if you do not focus on the aforementioned first.

Happy Sunday My People. we are here to listen, share your break up stories with us and we will advice you

your questions are highly welcome.





cc:lalasticlala mynd44

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good morning to everyone on the thread