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I doff my cap for you. kudos!

eyinjuege:
Thank goodness women are getting wiser about getting their own property now, and always prepare for such eventualities instead of being left homeless or destitute. It's important to think smart, and always look after yourself. As a woman, you need to look after yourself first before you can be useful to any child or man.
Getting another wife is not a big deal, afterall it helps everyone move on with their lives. If a marriage ends, it doesn't mean anyone's world has to end. That's really not a threat to anybody, those that want to remarry can do so. Those that are content with just having partners, without any binding contract can equally go ahead.
You own your life, and really owe nobody any explanation. Good or bad, own it.

I doff my cap for you. kudos!

eyinjuege:
Thank goodness women are getting wiser about getting their own property now, and always prepare for such eventualities instead of being left homeless or destitute. It's important to think smart, and always look after yourself. As a woman, you need to look after yourself first before you can be useful to any child or man.
Getting another wife is not a big deal, afterall it helps everyone move on with their lives. If a marriage ends, it doesn't mean anyone's world has to end. That's really not a threat to anybody, those that want to remarry can do so. Those that are content with just having partners, without any binding contract can equally go ahead.
You own your life, and really owe nobody any explanation. Good or bad, own it.

MIKOLOWISKA:
why should wives unleash viper tongues and not think men have feelings?

I noticed you attacked all the positive posts on this trend

Get matured. Put arrogant pride and selfishness aside and face reality. Real men don't behave like you and the poster. Pls, get life.

God bless you. Why would husbands be treating wives as if women are not human being who don't have feelings (emotions)

Caris77:
My humble submission.

1) marriages pass thru phases and the phase you and your wife is determines the future of the marriage. Pls talk things out with ur wife.

2)probably you acted like most men does when it comes to marriage, which is ; "i can spend money more on my family than yours ". Am not disputing the fact that ur half went on ur dad 's medication but be honest if it were hers would you had allowed her to use her half for her parents medication. You probably would have told her to give some certain amt. And if this were the case , she must have queried herself on what the future holds and did what she did .

3)that she used her name dosent mean she stopped loving you but its for future security should incase what you did or said by asking her to leave ur house comes up.

4)oga , women are moved by what they hear and you stopped telling her how much you appreciate her effort ,started having harmless friends like you said . Some whom you sometimes compliment and of cos she felt threatened of her position and ur Love. So stop all you did or do which made her to question your integrity .

5) you sound like one who doesnt apologise when he is wrong but maybe buys gifts to makeup, and she wil forgive and you wil still do same thing again. Oga things like this can make even the softest, most forgiving woman to harbour resentments ,and the day she will explode, you will marvel at the depth of bitterness from her mouth and i guess this is why you where shocked she insulted you and family members together .
You really pushed her by telling her to leave the house and her full bitterness came up. Show ur wife love and make her fill important again.

6)finally quarel brings out the worst in ppl ,so you showed her what she feared most by telling her to leave ur house and belives putting ur family ,s need most is the reason she did what she did. Pks you guys should make up, dont allow urself think you cant beg her .if this marriage is important to you then put pride aside , call your wife and thrash things out . Let her unburden her years accumulated resentment out and make her know that there is no other her if you claim you dont have another .

Ogwula mu na onu.

What I deduced from the couple's writeups, the husband is full of greed and ego. If he can adjust, the woman seems to be a good hearted woman, then she will dance to her husband's tune. Everything that's happening now is been dictated by the husband. It's not good to be greedy, selfish and proud at the same time.

CioAngels:
He can take your option 2 if he must take any option at all, which i think is better for them Taking transfer and taking your children with you and if she wants she can come to where you are. What makes you think your children will go with you? If you love your children so much, then you should know you will destabilise them over their education, health and other trauma that will associate with it no matter how little they may be. Going away from home is a childish idea. Madam, apologise to your husband and let peace trust rein in your home again for the sake of the untainted love you have for him.

Zirah:
Whoever you are, you're an ingrate and a fool. Last last this pride that isn't making you reason well will finish you soon. You got yourself an intelligent and resourceful woman who made money for you both yet aren't grateful. Your wife is a good woman, you should be thankful.

You did business. Shared the profit. You used yours to build a house. She used hers to build a house. You gave yours for your parents to live in. She gave hers for her husband and children to live in. There's equity. What's your problem then?

May I ask? In whose name did you build the house you gave your father? Your wife's? Hypocrite!

You nailed it. Women dey suffer.

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

I detest greed. According to this writeup, both the husband and wife did a business which yielded a profit and the profit was shared between two of you, husband used his own share for his parent and the wife used hers to build in her name. My question is, why did you people share the profit for the first instance?


I could imagine what would have been the wife's ordeal now if the building was built in Mr's name. Pls, let's fear God o

Pls house, how do I go about processing visa for a child, who will accompany me to USA, my study duration is about 4years, and the child is just 7years old(the youngest out of 3)? Pls, I need the procedures.
And can the child be taken along on the interview day?

Nitta08:
VISA Experience

Consulate: Lagos
Date: 17th July 2018
Arrival time: 5:18 AM
Time Slot: 6:30 AM (interviewed at 8:20, second person to be interviewed by the lady)
Counter No: 1
Status: Approved

VO: Good morning ma'am, pass me you I-20, passport please.
Me: Good morning. Sure, here they are.
VO: What are you going to the US to do?
Me: I am going to the University of New Haven, Connecticut to pursue a masters in Environmental science with concentration in Geographical information systems and applications.
VO: What is your highest degree?
Me: Bachelor of Technology in Geophysics
VO: What year did you graduate?
Me: I graduated in 2014 (actually 2013 but my certificate has 2014)
VO: What have you been doing since then?
Me: After my NYSC in 2016, I took up a job as a tutor with Think First Tutors. While on the job, I learned some programming skills online ( Python and Matlab) and also did a course in Project Management to better equip myself for graduate studies while preparing to take the GRE and TOEFL. As a GIS analyst, certain skills are required like problem solving skills, project management skills and programming skills.
VO: What is your intended job after graduation?
Me: (smiling) I intend to enter the GIS field as a high level specialist in a reputable organization and make significant contributions to projects requiring the applications of GIS 'especially' in the environmental sector of Nigeria. Projects such as: environmental resource inventory - GIS is used to carry out rangeland surveys, coastal zone resource surveys; environmental impact assessment - GIS is used for route selection of roads and pipelines, oil field development, mines and quarries, agric development; water resources - since water is one of the main constituent of the environment, GIS helps in analysing the geographical distribution of water resources; environmental risk hazard analysis...(she cut me off)
VO: Who is paying for your studies?
Me: I received a scholarship after my I20 was sent (showed scholarship letter)
VO: while reading the letter...what do your parents do? (and I also have family funds
Me: My parents are both in academia, my Father is a Professor (showed SOA)
*she returned them
VO: Do you have any children?
Me: No ma'am
VO: Are you married?
Me: No ma'am
VO: You qualify for a Visa ........
Me: Thank you ma'am with a smile.

*It was more like a conversation, I was relaxed, smiling and I think demonstrating.
When I entered the Visa hall, I felt normal, didn't feel tensed one bit... honestly. I saw the dark fat lady and as usual, she gave the first person a blue paper. Though when the VO that interviewed me gave the first person a blue paper, my heart skipped. But then, my consolation was it is a case by case ish.
All the while, she kept looking at her system but looked at me a bit when she asked my plans after graduation.
*Dressing: Black pant suit with a sky blue shirt on heels.

God's favor saw me through honestly.
It's a combination of prayers and preparations.

This forum helped me big time.
Thank you guys.
And to those that took their time to vet my proposed transcript, I am super grateful. God bless you for me.
@Whyqueu
@Walspring
@Imperriox
@Folmus
@Ariesben5

Congrats ma'am.

Sorelee:
Tobigspice go and collect your visa... your why US first answer is good that's sud do, how did you hear about the school nice but make it shorter not sure you did be given all the time to say all that you have a edge with your funding use it for your reason for choosing ETSU

Sir, is it a must to mention more than one school, when you are faced with the question of "how many schools did you apply to"?

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sunshineluv5:
Bro your words are contradicting is it denied or approved?

I deduced he was trying to inform us that though, the interview was easy and simple but he went there unprepared.

May the Lord see him through next interview.

Congrats. I'm happy for you.

Tunmise100:
Visa Approved by 6:30am today.
I arrived the consulate at 5:10am and was able to be among the first 12 people to be attended to. The guy at window 4 interviewed me.

V.O: Good morning
ME: Good morning

(Pass me your passport and i-20)

V.O: Why are you going to the U.S
ME: I am going for my masters in computer science and quantitative methods with concentration in mathematical finance at the Austin Peay State University Clarksville, TN

V.O: Why this course?
Me: Having acquired a bachelor's degree in Industrial Mathematics. A master's degree in computer science and quantitative methods with concentration in mathematical finance will help me achieve my career goal of being a quantitative analyst in the investment banking and financial services industry in Nigeria.

V.O: How many schools did you apply to?
ME: 3 schools

V.O: Name them?
ME: Austin Peay State University, Florida state University, North Carolina State University.

V.O: Why this school?
ME: I was offered a graduate assistantship and most importantly, the research conducted by Prof Sam Jator who happens to be the chair of the department of mathematics and statistics aligns with my area of interest which is to consider methods for testing option pricing models including the black scholes model, constant elasticity of variance model, stochastic volatility model and the jump diffusion model. I also discovered from my research that majority of the faculty major in applied mathematics. I will like to work in such a department.

V.O: Are you married?
ME: No, I am not

V.O: Do you have kids?
ME: No, I don't

V.O: Have you travelled out before?
ME: No, i have had no reason to

V.O: How will you go about sponsoring your studies?
ME: I was offered a graduate assistantship which includes tuition waiver and monthly stipends. The remaining cost will be taken care of by my uncle.

V.O: What does he do?
ME: He is a member of the board of directors of an asset management firm (**** asset management Ltd) which is a member of the Nigerian Stock Exchange.

V.O: Do you have his bank statement?
ME: Yes (I then pass the SOA to him)

V.O: Your Visa is approved. You can go to the circled location on the white paper after 3 days to collect your passport. Kindly focus on your studies.
ME: Thank you

P.S: In all of these, i can say "IT CAN ONLY BE GOD".
Prepare as if God does not exist and Pray as if your preparations is Nothing.

Thanks to @Falana who helped to correct my transcript and helped with numerous mock interviews. My God bless you plenty.

Thanks to @Ubah1 who also helped in going through my proposed transcripts before the actual interview.

Thanks to the Queen of USA visa thread @lagosismyhome for always pointing out errors in people's transcripts. That really helped me a whole lot.

Thanks to the Nairaland Family. Preparing to meet TRUMP.

Nastydroid:
visit slot at ikeja ,they now have a process for stolen device recovery

Thanks aplenty

madgoat:
i can't dispute my name

Abeg, let me be joor

aribolseg:
Hello people

Had my F1 visa interview today in Lagos (with my wife- F2 visa) and both were approved.

Not sure i have posted on this topic. busy schedules at work, but i tried to read lots of pages here within the past few weeks and i admit i got many useful tips. All of the questions asked have repeatedly featured on this forum. Many thanks to who started this.

i know its part of the house norms to post transcripts so i must do that. but let me relax a little. my head is still banging from the short overnight sleep and increased heart beat for a larger part of the day.

I will edit this shortly but before that, many thanks to walspring, he helped with my sevis payment when many of my padi in yankee were forming busy for me. Doubted the dude first sha ooo but i use one mind carry am.

Good luck to all other applicants.

Praise God! Congratulations!

I shall testify also. Amen

ghs007:
Visa approved at Abuja today!!!� I'll post my transcript soon.

Congratulations! I am happy for you. Praise God, to Him who made it possible for you. I keyed into your testimony!

madgoat:
someone's blessing was granted; lucky fellow

You are indeed 'madgoat'!

Erudite01:
Miss i don't know anything concerning your missing phone and i saw your text message am not paul, i was just surfing the net looking for cheaper alternative then i found that, you can pretend to buy the phone from the seller and then scrutinize it to check if its your own i wish you goodluck finding your phone but how come tecno w3 and gionee A1lite in a day.

See another link https://deals./gionee-a1-lite-pid2204054

Thanks bro, the truecaller indicated your line as Paul's. The link had been removed, I've been trying to open it since yesternight.

I don't even need to worry as the identity of the new user is revealing now. Mine was stolen on 11th (Wednesday) of this month.
Thanks.

phemmyfour:
keep deceiving yourself......This is Nigeria

I heard you. Thank you

phemmyfour:
Its gone, go get a new phone

I will retrieve it by God's grace. Though I've gotten a new phone but I'm not satisfied with it.

Thanks

wisepluto:
Who knows anyone writing GRE soon. I have a fantastic Princeton material that helped me a great deal. Will give it out for free, though it cost me some dough when I got it.

Pls, send it to me: dejummy@gmail.com. Thanks aplenty

Lionbite:
big girls with a big God don't panic o

Thanks

Thanks!

darol4real:
Pele 1 Pele 2 and Pele 3. Pele is your name

darol4real:
Get the tutorial on youtube

I have sent the phone details and my details to a VSNL agent, it should be found soon.

Thanks for this useful suggestion. I'm grateful.

Erudite01:
I know i might sound crazy but am not i just came across the spec of gionee A1lite and am mad with it for the price on jumia compared to tecno yeye which is overpriced, but to bad i don't have the 36K on jumia so i opt out for alternative fairly used or new so i came acrossed this links below for cheaper rate but i doubt the authenticity of the price i will show them one by one
1 https://deals./gionee-a1-lite-review-digit-indigit-in-pid2811456

It should be my missing phone. It was stolen on Wednesday together with my techno W3. Pls help me. It was stolen 2days after I bought it from Jumia. We are on the look out for the phones.

eduzone:
The statistics on phone theft are amazing. According to discoveries, a phone is stolen every 51 seconds. If you think it won’t happen to you, possibly you may be wrong. Forgetting phone on public table to ease self is not the best way to prevent loss. Be ultra cautious and don’t ever leave your phone unintended. Look at it this way.
Would you leave a stack of hundred dollar bills on a table unattended even for a second?

Visit link below to See how you can trace and track missing or stolen phone anywhere in the world within 24hrs.

https://www.ebunzy.com/2018/07/how-to-trace-stolen-or-missing-phone.html?m=1

Timely information! Thanks aplenty. I have done this. I'm waiting patiently for the solution

Hello house. Pls, I am here to seek help on how to retrieve my stolen phones.

A Gionee A1 Lite and a techno W3 were taken away from my bag when I was struggling to board a bus at bus stop in the rain.

The most painful part of the scenerio is that I just bought the phone (Gionee A1 Lite. White and gold colout) from Jumia two days prior to the incident. I I have the two imei numbers with me.

Pls. I will appreciate your help to retrieve my lost phones. Thanks in anticipation.

Abiboss:
I'm Damilare by name and have married for 8yrs and I've never hit my wife before so get your facts right

God bless you. God's spirit must be residing in you.

Almost all your namesakes(Dare) I know are violent and they usually look cool and quiet to deceive people.

I don't know why some Yoruba men molest their wives. Why are those people bearing the name 'Dare' are wicked and wife beaters?

I still don't understand. May God uphold Nigerians homes.

This kind news saddens my heart.

It is well.

HappyPagan:
Dear Sister, stop believing in a lie. Nobody died to pay ransom for any sins. Abraham's God is not your God. Find your own.

I chose God of Abraham and Isaac to be my God. I need no other evidence or plea, it is enough that Jesus died and rose again for me. Nothing can separate me from the love of God.

okwabayi:
Which of the hundreds of thousands of religions does s/he own?

I pick a life to please myself and those dear to me. Whatever consequence I face in the afterlife will remain one of my choosing. God gave us free will, I'm exercising the right the best I can.

I wish you the best.