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stupidity:
Stingy selfish self centered and egocentric calabar girl is what you are.

Common 2k, he say he go give you this evening and the evening don reach now.

Gerrarahere jare.
U jux a replica of my main side chick.
I dey vex

Why you dey vex? Did you struggle with her for the 2k that you feel you can tell her what to do with it??

It's this sense of entitlement that kills relationships.

Assuming your babe asks you for money and you can't give her at that moment, then she begins to abuse and curse you.....Is it her money??

If it pains you that much why not go outside like your mates and hustle for your own, after-all if you don't want insult from anyone you will respect yourself and look for your own hustle instead of disturbing another equally struggling individual with your self entitled self.

Somebody that Nigerian Police will release as long as he has Christmas roja for them....

Go to the station next tomorrow and ask for the guy, Police will tell you he turned to air and vanished from his cell overnight.

Bloody country.

Photoshop in action.

Wth.

Mynd44:
The major problem here miss is that you don't seem to understand your husband. He is avoiding you not because he does not forgive you or he is punishing you, far from it ma'am, he is avoiding you because he is scared.

Him being scared here is because of the fact that he fears what he might/do if he does not stay away from you. He might have a wicked tongue he is trying to check or be the violent type and everytime he remembers what you have done, he might lash out at you which will eventually make him feel guilty and of course hurt you.

Try to understand this and try talking to him about it after the next round of silence. You will be suprised.

LOL...Really? Fear? Anger at lashing out??

LMAO!

It's common knowledge that people who like to keep malice do so not out of anger or fear of their utterances,

It's mainly a form of control, emotional torture.....the malice keeper feels that starving his/her partner off attention would get them to see the error of their ways, but forgetting that malice has a way of creeping up on you and building resentment in your partner towards you over time.

Malice keepers think that they're doing their partners....meanwhile they're only doing themselves.

I once broke up with a guy that wanted to marry me because he was a major player in keeping malice, I had to walk on eggshells around him, I was always afraid to upset him lest he decides not to speak to me for 3 months (which he did once).

It wasn't until my sister advised me....she said "Is this the man you want to marry, someone that will not talk to you for 2 months over a simple matter like a difference in opinions"? She went further "What happens when you get married and there are other differences in opinions....will you keep mum because you're afraid he will ignore you for 3 months again"? After that.....I found a way to break-up with him, it wouldn't work...furthermore it showed a very immature side to him that I couldn't tolerate after a while, rather than deal with the problem he preferred to go cold and he would stay silent for weeks.

Naaah....This was not why Jesus died for my sins pls.

The mature way round any marital problems as such is communication, a man who enjoys keeping malice with his wife over petty things is still a child....a man child who needs growing up.

Real men don't keep malice.....whether angry or hurt.

Real men communicate.

yamunla:
1. Discover his favorite pet name and call him by that.
2. Allow him exercise his authority as the head of the family.
3. Do not challenge him when he is hurt.
4. Be silent when he is angry. You can go back to him in his
sober moment with apology and explain why you behave
that way that annoyed him.
5. Be quick to say " I am sorry dear". Whenever u offend
him, insist on his forgiveness and kiss him when he does.
6. Speak good of him before his friends n siblings.
7. Honour his mother.
8. Insist that he buys gift to his parents and so be sure that
he will do same for your parents
9. Surprise him with his favorite dish especially when he
has no enough money at hand
10. Do not allow maid to serve him food when you are at
home, because you may lose him to them.
11. Give him warm reception with an embrace when he
returns, collect his luggage and help UnCloth him.
12. Smile when u looks at him and give him occasional
perks when u are out socially.
13. Praise him before your children.
14. Wash his back while he is in the tub or shower.
15. Put love note in his lunch or purse.
16. Phone and tell him that you miss him.
17. Dial his number and on hearing "hello" just tell him I love
you
18. If he is a public figure or politician, gently wake him at
the early hours of the morning and romance him to the
point of demand.
He will not be enticed by any other woman that day.
19. Tell him how lucky you are to have him as your husband.
20. Give him a hug for no reason.
21. Appreciate God for the Adam of your life. Implement this
law that every morning your family will wake up n pray.
It brings unit. Value your husband because you may not
have the second chance to love him. Pray to God to protect
him.
If u practice all these, your husband will be afraid to cheat
on you, even if he does his mind will not be at rest.
If your husband is already cheating on u, begin to practice
these and u will win him back.
Do support it with prayers because nothing is impossible 4
God.
I wish you a happy home and lovable husband.

So....after you do all this for a man the only thing he can reciprocate with is not to cheat on you??

This your post is very lopsided, it actually brings out the chauvinism and superior attitude we see in men that feel that a woman has to be the one to work hard at marriage why the only thing a man needs to do is to bring home the bacon and not cheat.

Some women have been known to go all out like this and still get trampled upon and used as toe-rags for their husbands.

I don't think this is how successful marriages work....my opinion.

I love Clarke.

Great guy

Cossy looks really tired like a retired prostiture.

One's mind boggles to think of the many daddy issues she MAY have.

Fathers.....to be a father is not by paying school fees, guide and train your daughters.

vault:
The honourable patrickish peepz on nairaland should please pardon my english

So I can be very hot tempered whenever I feel cheated on but that temper drastically reduced during my 200 level days as I can recall a very bad day I had with cultist.......

I didn't fight a cultist though, what actually happened started as a little quarrel in my hostel to a big fight with a 500lvl student (kc) which if I could go back in time would have listened to those who were willing to settle the little argument until my hot temper scattered everything..... we fought until we were separated and I was feeling myself for being the one able to stand up to him cause he has always been acting like the idiamin" of the hostel, I didn't regret being the "jack bauer" until that night around 7:30 when I was at the hostel gate then a very huge nigga with the perfect description of a goon approached and asked me "guy who be lanre 4 this hostel?" I knew perfectly well I was the lanre they were looking for but fortunately for me we had two lanres in the hostel so I directed him to the other lanre (cypher) he went inside and I ran away, (as I was told) he knocked at cypher's door and as soon as cypher opened he received 3 super hot slaps followed with the accusation "na u dey do anyhow abi, kc na ur mate?" as soon as cypher had kc he knew there was a mistake so he answered angrily "oga I swear no be my own lanre I fit carry u go wer Im dey now" he started asking people about my whereabout before a girl told him she last saw me running away..... now I'm in big trouble, the goon begged cypher and asked him to let him know whenever I came back to the hostel, they probably exchanged contacts.... I came back to the hostel the third day thinking everything had died down, i was about to take my bath in the night before I go to sleep when these 3 guys came in and bundled me on bike and off we went, my hostel mates couldn't do anything other than chant "they don carry lanre go" here and there.... we stopped at a bush just as I expected then two of them whispered to themselves and the next thing I was ordered to move further inside the thick bush, by then all I had in mind was that I was going to be killed I didn't know how it happened but I was already shedding tears "wetin make we use u do now?" one of them asked, I didn't say a word, I received two hot slaps one of them removed an axe from his side bag and said "u fit chop one for head" then I started begging for my life about 5 more came and I received approximately two hot slaps from them each, I was with them for over an hour were they forced me to smoke and drink with them before one of them suggested I go and buy liquors and drug for them if I want to go, I was about going to buy everything when one of them called me back and collected my wallet, took my roommates money (2000 naira) and ask me to forget I was here and never ever look kc in the face again..... I went back to the hostel silently, ignored series of stupid questions from my mates "were dem carry u go?" "na kc call dem?" "shey dem no beat u sha" and so on.... I headed straight for my room where I vowed not to fight just anybody again in my life.

and I'm still looking for an anger management therapist.

LMFAOOOOO!!!

dinachi:
If only your parents have sold you to buy Suya,we will not be in this mess. you are completely worthless!

You call someone worthless for having an opinion contrary to yours

They say the truth is bitter.

Says a lot about you and all you stand for.

derecho:
i usually wont like to reply but you just removed every iota of doubt i had about your stance.
What you typed above is 'grammar' and gave you away as either a kid or one who does not understand Biblical stance about marriage.
Remember,marriage is not for babies.tnx

BTW,this is christian marriage we are talking about not some phantom narrative in Nairaland's Romance Section.

The problem with people like you is that you may have a log of wood in your eye but will chase another individual with a chip in theirs.

I am not a kid, I chose to DESCEND to your level so that you would have no doubt in your mind of my exact opinion on this matter.

I don't need to understand the bible extensively on marriage to recognise "man's inhumanity to man", in my opinion....the true test of a Christian is one who shows love to his fellow man (Like Jesus asked us to).

A married pastor who allegedly sleeps around and is abusive towards his spouse is not what Jesus preached and if the pastor in question is guilty, his wife has every reason to make her own decisions as an adult, after-all it's her life and not yours.


Like it or not....this is the truth.

Mobuzy:
I won't join issues with you.
Thought your sagacity was top notch
Now I fear the worst.

Everyone's entitled to their own opinions of others...

Does not change a thing *Shrugs*

My opinions will still stand as I believe in speaking out when wrong doing is involved, regardless of the parties involved.

You all want to stifle others and their opinions anytime a pastor is involved, this does not apply to people like me who do not hide behind hypocrisy.

Good luck with your fear.

Gaidenk:
David killed the person who killed Saul because even when Saul was falled David called him Gods Anointed. Be careful what you say,or u end being the accursed

Lies!!!

The only people who will be cursed are the people who see wrong doing and hide behind the cloak of religion.
.

Hypocrites of life.

[quote author=MCRUEMUS post=40647739][/quote]Who did the Lord say it to?? You??

LOL...Pls go and read an informative book or something.

Mobuzy:
Have you any proof?
can you substantiate?
Don't just come here and 'run your hands'...

Keep searching for proof there..

No be only proof na water proof, you fit also vex come seize my laptop Mr Voltron of all abusive men.

Anita's ability to post these things freely on SM is proof enough for me.

Abusers and rapists hiding under the cloak of religion.

Hypocritical bunch.

It's like many people don't have sense in this place.

Encouraging somebody's daughter to stay in an abusive relationship because Religion forbids divorce.

I pity us when we die and realize all these rules we all follow were made by men like us to keep you ignorant and controlled.

derecho:
so if he abused her,divorce is the way to go?She should be ashamed justifying divorce.

Wonderful Lord.

So a man will physically and emotionally abuse your daughter and you will tell her to stay because of marriage??

Ok....I'll just assume you are not old enough to understand the connection between life, relationships, mutual respect love, understanding, care with marriage and responsible adult behaviour.

So i'll just leave you to stew in your own ignorance.

Peace.

I have learnt to easily spot obsessive people from a mile away....

So no news here.

*Cycles past*

MissGdope:
Proverbs 21:23 - Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.

Ephesians 4:29 - Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

I will say it AGAIN....Chris Oyakhilome abused Anita, let us stop hiding behind hypocrisy of religion and speak the truth.

[quote author=MCRUEMUS post=40647739][/quote]Go and kill her then or force her to go back to an abusive ex-husband, since it's better to be abused in marriage than to be a free single person.

After-all God almighty has ordained you judge over the earth.

Good one Anita!!!

Congratulations on 1 year of being delivered from bondage, oppression, low self esteem and abuse.

We appreciate your strength and hope that other men/women living with abusive spouses or even dating abusive men/women....learn from you.

The Lord is your strength.

Tallesty1:
I stay fit by running away from commitments

Let's hope you don't run and jam a trailer one day.

I don't know how you folks spend so much time keeping up with the Kardashian.

I can't.....Too much fakeness and fuckery there.

But...to each his own.

There's also........

The Commitment-Phobe. This one is usually a big problem for many females.

doomsdayII:
Someone said "if u read up past this place, then you're jobless"
I actually read up to page 5 wanting to see who actually saw what I saw. You did.
While everyone was busy circling round and round trying to win arguments, you simply stood up and nailed it.
She wasn't in the the first place supposed to put their pictures in a tourist centre and ask of people's opinion about who's much better or prettier. No good mother who knows what she's doing in her right mind does that. It's like a father comparing his wealth to his sons when he ought to be hoping he's surpassed by his son.
OK if I as the mirror mirror on the wall tell her that her daughter is better, does she want to kill or disfigure her? Beauty ages as you age so don't think you can be more prettier than a freshly made juice.
Mercy should focus on her job as a mother and not trying to be the fairer of the two.
IndiannaJay, God bless you for your post

Thank you....

I initially felt there was something wrong with me when I saw what was wrong with the whole brouhaha and no one else here did.

tayo60:
Don't know d reason y som ladies keep their used pants somewhere until they have finished wearing all before bringing out d used pants and wash. Dey wl now line dos pants on d spreading line for everybody to see. What a shame?Any lady dt does dt is dirty and not does not follow d rules of personal hygiene. And most of des pants are bad and worn out. What wl it take dem to wash d pants upon removal? What i also discovered is dt dos ladies dont wear gud and nice pants. Is al des nylon and net pants dt do not look nice on d line. WHAT A SHAME!!!!

Madam....to each his own.

If it works for you to wash pant everyday before going to work, good for you.

If it works for other people to pop in in the laundry basket and wash with all laundry on the weekends, equally good for them.

THERE IS NOTHING SHAMEFUL ABOUT WASHING AND SUN DRYING YOUR UNDERWEAR(S) ON A LINE AS LONG AS IT IS YOUR HOUSE.

One of the problems we have as Nigerians is not being able to look the other way and mind OUR own business,

We are always quick to point fingers and judge others what doing what they feel most comfortable with.

Afterall.....is it ya pant??

But....did God say we should use our faith to cause others pain??

There's a church beside the house my mum lives, the loud speakers from there cause her a lot of discomfort and makes her unable to even sleep sometimes.

When I complained to the owner of the church about the loud speakers, he said that they use the loud speakers to harass unbelievers to get up from their beds and come to church, so they can't do away with it.

Imagine....

raayah:
Or maybe its because her daughter and her are wearing the same type of hairstyle. For crying out loud, nothing is wrong with this picture!

No one is saying that the picture is wrong....

But why ask the world who looks better between you and your 12 year old daughter when you should at this stage be more concerned about her academics and entry into puberty, mothers are there to protect their young girls not expose them to unnecessary scenarios for attention.

"Whose selfie is better in my daughter's and I"??

What does the above even mean??

Na wa.

Youngpo413:
Don't expect to meet any decent lady on any social media,except you are just looking for some asss to chop and clean mouth.

This is not a sensible comment.


All the girls on social media getting married every Saturday to decent men, are they unicorns too?? Or they don't exist??

Please go and look for work instead of posting rubbish.

Mercy is foolish for putting her daughter on Instagram like that, then asking her followers to rate their pictures reeks of a deep inferiority complex, sounds like someone being competitive with their child.

"Mercy be like: Look at me, look at my daughter....who looks better"?

What good mother behaves like that?

Anyway....Mercy Aigbe is a slowpoke so I'm not at all surprised at the nonsense she puts on social media.

Being able to go 4 rounds is not necessarily being good in bed.

You can be pounding the woman like mortar hard and all night long and she may not even enjoy the sex.

Being good is about how you make the other person feel, knowing where to touch, stroke, kiss, when to take it slow and when to kick it up a notch.

It also means being able to make your woman climax over and over and over again.

It is relative.

Darven2:
What's always blue when it's happy but turns black when it's sad.?

The sky??