₦airaland Forum

IndianaJay:
Most of these questions are stupid questions to ask anyone tbh. they reek of insecurity and lack of confidence or self esteem.

Are relationships supposed to be question and answer sessions? Besides I see no questions on serious issues like: How she manages her finances? If she's okay with birthing 5 children? How does she expect to balance work and child care? Does she save money or is she a money squanderer? etc......

You should over the time that you have been with your gf/bf know the answers to these questions anyway....

lofty900:
Cute little baby. The only downside is that every year they will continue to buy new leg for her until she fully grown. She should start learning how to wear trousers too. Lol

Lattop:
U are alive to write dis rubbish eennn instead for u to start rolling on d ground Thanking d ALMIGHTY for sparing ur life to dis moment





INGRATE of the FIRST ORDER

adren:
My pastor's wife uses an iphone6.. i use an iphone 5s.. Apparently, she had a little problem accessing one of its features..
So, she sought for help from me been a co- iphone user..
As soon as i was done.. i was bored and checked her playlist while she was away to listen to an heavenly-inspired that would transfer me to the spirit realm..

I got as much as i was looking for and indeed my desires that moment was met..

Minutes later, i was stunned when i stumbled on 'falila ketan' by olamide..
i did see others from wizkid, godwin but that olamide got me bewildered..

it wasn't a joke ooo..i have been reminiscing on certain things ever since..

question is. does that matter??
does my pastor's wife choice of song have anything to do with her faith??

should i keep on trusting God in her life??
matured answers only..

donpata:
Na u get stupidity ohh. I never said she should feed him dummy. Besides, u cant claim to b 21st century lady and c feeding your husband as a senseless thing. And yes, my sisters show courtsy when giviing or takimg anything frm me- they bow teir knees. they dont even notice they do it- it's a part of them and a part of Nigerian culture which they were trained to uphold. Ive stayed for upward of 3yrs in the SW, a year in SE and the North is my abode. It's simply our culture-take it or leave it. Na advice i give.

donpata:
So we were at the parlor discussing and my uncle's wife dropped the food b4 him without bending her knees-yeah u understand how ladies do it nah. i first tot it was an oversight but its over a week naw ive been at their place and i dont c her do that. I believe is wrong as thats a sign of honor to the husband. Ladies of the 21st century, bash me if u like but its wrong to serve a man food without giving him that honor especially if he's older or simply ur husband.

Godwin10123:
How some Ladies are destroying their Marriage without knowing

If you are one of those ladies who no longer respect people who are older than you because of the things you see in social media then you can't be my friend; I will keep you at bay. Respect for ones elders is one of the cardinal principles I learn from my parents and I live by that. Many marriages are failing today because women want to be equal with men blindly, hence there is no peace on many homes.

Read this interesting eye-opener from a married woman...

When I got married, I was amazed at the instant, overwhelming sense of responsibility I felt to love and care for my husband. Suddenly, a huge part of someone else’s well-being and happiness was largely affected by my choices and actions.

Women, we need to be careful about how we are caring for our husbands and marriages. Don’t let the small stuff ruin the things that will bring you the greatest happiness in life.

Here are just a few ways you might be unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage.

1. Living outside of what you can afford
A wise old woman from my church congregation once advised: “The best thing you can do as a wife is to live within your husband’s means.”

Wives, show sincere appreciation and respect to your husband by carefully following a budget and making the most of what you have. Be wise about your finances.

Constantly complaining about not having enough to fulfill your lavish desires or racking up astronomical amounts of debt for yourself and your husband is a poor way of saying “thank you” to a faithful spouse who works hard every day to provide for the family.

Yes, you may not have enough to buy that deigner shoes or bag you’ve had your eyes on recently, but your husband will love and appreciate the fact that you honor him and are grateful for what he provides.

2. Constant negativity
You hate your hair, the messes around the house, the neighbor across the street, your dumb co-worker, the old dishwasher, and everything in between. As soon as your husband walks through the door, you launch into action and dump every negative and angry thought that’s crossed your mind.

Can you imagine having to carry that burden? Negativity is draining. Men like to fix things, and constantly being hounded with complaints makes it difficult for him to help solve your pains.

If there is one thing I’ve learned from marriage is that a good man wants you to be happy, and if he can’t help you do that, it makes him unhappy.

3. Putting everything else first
When your children, mom, best friends, talents, or career in front of your husband, you send a clear message to him that he is unimportant. Imagine having that message sent to you every day for many years. What would that do to your self esteem?

Put your husband first! Although it sometimes seems counter-intuitive and counterproductive, I think you’d be amazed to find that it’s often the key to the greatest happiness in marriage. So many couples get divorced these days, because of neglect and to a large extent disrespect.

If you choose to put him first, you will find a lot of joy.

4. Withholding physical affection
Men crave and need physical affection with their wives. When you constantly decline intimacy, it wears on them. Sex should not be used as a tool to control your spouse; it should be viewed as a sacred tool to draw you closer to one another and to God.

It is a great blessing to be wanted and needed by a loving, romantic husband who wants to share something so beautiful and important with you — and you only. Even though you might not always be in the mood, it’s worth it to give in (unless you are sick) and spend that time bonding.

5. Not speaking his language
Don’t waste your time giving subtle hints that he won’t understand: Speak plainly to him. Be honest about your feelings, and don’t bottle things up until you burst. If he asks you what’s wrong, don’t respond with “nothing” and then expect him to read your mind. Be open to your man and grow your marriage.

http://www.olufamous.com/2016/01/how-some-ladies-today-are-killing-their.html?m=1

Demmocrats:
Majority of the shops are owned by Igbos.

bjdon:
6 years of 'clueless', 'incompetent' GEJ nothing like this happend.

The almighty wise one, whose name we are not worthy to mention has only been in govt for 8 months and we've got a crashed currency, rule of law consigned to the dustbin, and now we are at loggerheads with Iran! Iran of all countries, a country that even the US treads carefully with. Good one ACP, carry on, 2016 promises to be very interesting.

trusted:
Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognised. This shows how important sex is in marriage. When you look at how aggressive men are towards sex you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married sex is never what he only needs from you - maybe let me say it better; "WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM AWOMAN IS NOT SEX."

Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experience they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex. Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all. There is this young girl who is very beautiful and sexually active. Due to that she thought sex is all that matters to a man. Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her sexual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue and reason beyond imagination a very handsome good man married her. The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage fell on rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.

The problem was simple. She thought sex was
all that matters so she would never submit. But submission is what men need, not sex. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his sex drive but a woman who will submit herself to him. Excuse my language, "every woman has vagina but not every woman has humility." So when you are a humble woman, you are an expensive jewellery. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you. What does the holy books say, "wife,submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.

Sadly, many young ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be. When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love he sincerely. There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need sex, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the African queen you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and be his maid also.

I wish you all the best as you submit in your
relationship and marriage. May God bless you
with good marriage.

Addicted2Women:
Chibok girls ??
I feel like shooting you in the head at a close range.

Chibok girls kidnap is the greatest fraud of all time.
Why is your mentor and sugar daddy Buhari not talking about it anymore or finding the alleged lost girls ??