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Bokoharam: It is so because you have a yardstick for comparison. Assuming you never had s.ex, u can never measure what is BIG, STRONG, RELIABLE. That is the reason premarital s.ex is bad.

While I deliver talks on customer service in organisations, and marriage/relationships in churches [PLS, I AM NOT A PASTOR], I tell them never to allow their customer (spouse also) to taste another competitor because it will never be the same. So also it is in relationships/marriage. The koboko will never be the same, the drive, the energy, the skill. On the other hand, s.ex improves with age and experience. It is better for you two to grow together. If his pen.is is tiny, don't forget that he is the one that bore the hole in the first place (since you are a virgin), and it must fit at any point in time. Problem arises when an INSTRUMENT OF TEN STRINGS re-bores the hole already created by your hubby. It is only then that comparison sets in.

There is this way God created a woman. Have you asked yourself why a woman bleeds (no matter how little) when deflowered? Do you know that no matter how hurt a woman is about her ex, she never forgets the man that deflowered her? That is how God planned marriage to be. Such that a wife never blinks on issues pertaining to her hubby. But what do we see today, a lady sleeps with every Tom, Dick and Harry. And gets married to one because of the necessity of getting married. Sadly, ladies marry men they do NOT love. And more often than not, women still love and sleep with an ex, who either 'disvir.gined' them. It takes the grace of God for a non-vir.gin to focus on only her hubby and not either fantasize on another man elsewhere, or hv actualise s.ex with him.

Summary, cling to what you have. Let the unmarried never have s.ex until they get married. It has a high level of dignity. And dignity comes from integrity and discipline. Interestingly, I keep saying, integrity/discipline has nothing to with religion or faith. It has to do with what you made up your mind to do or not to do before you ever get to that point.

true talk

Lolaabokoku: How can Ɣ☺ΰ
Buy å car without testing †ђξ
Engine?
As ƒό̲̣̣̣̥r̶̲̥̅̊ m̶̲̥̅̊є̲̣̥ I love big, strong, aΩ̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ ‎​ reliable koboko..
If I were Τ̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ have se.x after marriage aΩ̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ ‎​ I find out †ђξ
Kini is too small ƒό̲̣̣̣̥r̶̲̥̅̊ M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊
Liking or he's not able Τ̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ perfom well nor satisfy me, watcha expect m̶̲̥̅̊є̲̣̥ Τ̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ do

Quote m̶̲̥̅̊є̲̣̥ wrong if ya like
I no carry send

lol!

efia suny: Many says they actually prefer sex before marriage to know how best their partner can perform. while other prefer sex after marriage.

sex after marriage would have and is still better. but the issue is, with the tested okay syndrome of nowadays ladies, how many are willing to zip up till they say i do?

olumaxi: I wonda y i would indulge in a long distance relatnshp wen gals ful evriwea

transfer for work, school and even NYSC can make you be in a long distance relationship.

alaric saltzman: Hell no! I doesn't work out!!! I've had like 3 long distance rships and it didn't last...aint indulging in that shit no more!!!

lol!

Orikinla: It will only work if both of you are mature and secure.
But it does not work for immature and insecure people.
A girlfriend studying in another state in love with a guy in Lagos has many temptations, trials and weaknesses especially when she is very sexually attractive.
I have such a girlfriend now and we call often, but I feel for her more, because she is more disciplined than me in romance. I am in open relationship with several girls and women and now with four different girlfriends after breaking up with three others.
I love women and addicted to pretty and sexy babes whether nearby or far away does not matter to me.
I can travel even to the moon to meet any girl I want.

I hope you are a man of condom... cool to recognize your weakness.

olumaxi: i tire o

love and trust

KINGwax: Mine is currently workin a hundred percent.
1. Call regularly. Flirt with her on phone and tell her u miss her as often as necessary. Remind her of past memories.

2. Trust her. Even if like me, u dnt trust urself

3. Find time to fucck. Mine comes almost every 4months. And wen u do, make it memorable.

5. Do sex on phone while she is away.

Temptation full ground ma friend. And as I dey attend satisfactorily to the temptations, either sexualli, materialy of morally, I dey tell maself say, 'KINGwax, no fucck ups'

all the truth, nothing but the truth...cool to recognize that you don't trust yourself...Lol!

lynpetra: Emotional, psychological and physical stress can be a cause but not in all cases.Sometimes having sexx can make you feel relaxed after a hectic day or when your are stressed out.

i agree with you

bobonicez: A 23-year-old pregnant woman, Adaeze Mba, caused a stir at the Lagos State Police headquarters on Thursday after she confessed that she had sold her unborn baby for N200,000, in advance:

“I am seven months pregnant and as I speak to you, my husband has already sold our unborn baby for N200,000. I was against it but he convinced me to agree to it, saying he had already collected the money.”

She and her husband also sold their neighbour's son for N400,000 and escaped...
The woman, who was arrested for conniving with her husband to sell their neighbour’s four-year-old son for N400,000, said it was poverty that pushed them to crime. She confessed that she and her husband had sold two other children for N700,000.

She said, “In March 2013, my neighbour’s son, Stanley Ezeaka, was following me about in the compound at Jakande Estate and it was at that time that my husband received a phone call from his partner that she needed a child for sale. My husband then suggested that we took Stanley even though he was a bit old.

“We travelled to Imo State the following morning and sold him for N400,000 after which we relocated to Calabar.”

When asked about the other children she and her husband, Chibueze, had sold, she said, “The male child was sold at N400,000 while the female child, who was two months old but is now over a year old, was sold at N300,000.”

The husband, Chibueze, on his part, said he went into the business last year. He said he had sold ‘only’ three children to his business partner, Madam Benedicta Ogbonna.

He said, “One of the children was born by a mentally challenged woman; so I have committed no crime by selling the child to people who would take care of her.”

Ogbonna, who bought the three children from Chibueze and his wife at different times, said she sold children to barren couples.

She said, “I am doing this business for humanitarian reasons and not for monetary gain. I am 35 years old and I have four children. I can never sell my own children and in fact my husband does not know I am into this kind of business.

“Chibueze brought Stanley to me and told me that his mother was a prostitute so he sold him to me at N400,000. I then sold Stanley to Mrs. Patricia Anibogwu for N600,000. So far, I have sold only three children. I buy boys at N400,000 and girls at N300,000.

“I use the money to take care of people and also invest it in my business. I sell shoes for a living at Anambra Wholesale Market.”

Anibogwu, who was the final buyer, said she thought Ogbonna was an employee of an orphanage. She said she bought Stanley because she was lonely having lost her husband.

She said amid tears that, “I was married for 28 years without a child. After my husband died, I decided to adopt the child because I was lonely. Someone introduced me to Ogbonna. Ogbonna told me she worked at an orphanage and would sell Stanley to me for N600,000.

“I used my savings to pay for him and she brought Stanley to a roadside. I took Stanley home and started taking care of him like my own child. I changed his name to Uchenna. Ogbonna promised me that she would give me legal documents later but, unfortunately, I was arrested.”

Parents have been advised to be vigilant and childless women too are urged to go through the formal process of adoption rather than buying children from just anyone.
olokunbolablessing..Com gathered that all those involved in the dirty business will appear in court for trial.

http://www.punchng.com/news/pregnant-woman-husband-sell-unborn-baby-for-n200000/
http://www.olokunbolablessing..de/2013/05/how-pregnant-woman-her-husband-sell.html#more

the craziest thing is that they are not showing any remorse at all!

http://naijalatest..com/2013/05/i-sold-children-on-humanitarian-ground.html

albridge: With the worsening economic situation in the country do nigerian girls stil believe in love? Would a girl still date a guy based on her feelings for him alone or is it now all about her feelings for his pocket or bank account?

true unconditional love still exist with the sensible ones.
if a reasonable lady sees a guy with a bright future she definitely will stick to him.i have seen a girl who love his guy and did everything to give him a future and they succeeded together.
up bringing matters a lot in this case

[quote author=Okiki_Oluwa]True love still exist.
But from a particular state in Nigeria, I think the percentage of girls with true love & the ones after your money is 40/60%. I think broken marriages contributed to this. My research made me to know that most of those girls v Father's who divorced their Mamas legally/illegally.
More to follow.[/quote]lol!

fasuyit: Creating magical moments in your relationship is something everyone thinks about, but few people do. Perhaps it's because they actually can't think of exactly what to do. Here are ten "acts of love" that you can do with and for your partner to bring a little more romance into your relationship.





1. Make your morning time special by bringing your partner a cup of coffee while he or she is still in bed. If you're willing and able you can also serve them breakfast in bed. It will make your partner feel cherished and the kindness will be returned.

2. Make the time at the end of the work-day when you first see one another extra special by giving each other a 10 second hug and kiss. You will both feel more deeply connected throughout the evening. Also remember to touch your partner affectionately throughout the day, not just when you want to be romantic



3. Make time to make-time. Plan a romantic rendezvous during the week. You can get a room at a local hotel or plan to have the house all to yourselves. Just the anticipation of being together in this way will add spark to your romantic life.

4. Whenever you can, take the time to give your partner 100% of your attention when they want to talk to you. Put down the remote control or whatever you're reading, face your partner and say "What would you like to talk about?" It will make your partner feel loved and important to you.

Source;
http://fasuyit..ch/2012/12/ways-to-make-your-relationship.html

what about giving special welcome

BIGVAJINA: it’s hard to imagine someone getting to adulthood without experiencing the pain of a broken heart. It’s all part of living life and forming relationships.

I remember the girl in high school who said, “I don’t think so” when I called to ask her to the movies. Then there was that high school dance when I’d finally gotten the courage up to ask a special girl to dance only to spot her across the room dancing with the guy who would become her boyfriend.

As painful as these experiences were, with a little bit of time, I got over them. Most people do. But on this Valentine’s Day, I wanted to answer a question I’ve been asked: Is it really possible to die from broken heart?

Unfortunately, it is.

There is actually something called broken heart syndrome, the name for sudden heart failure that comes on after emotional trauma. It was first recognized by Japanese doctors in the 1990s who named it takotsubo cardiomyopathy after noting a resemblance between a Japanese octopus trap, a takotsubo, and the shape of the affected heart on X-ray.

Fortunately, the condition is quite rare. It’s almost exclusively seen in postmenopausal women. And while the symptoms are similar to a heart attack — 1 to 2 percent of people who are diagnosed with a heart attack are really suffering from the broken heart syndrome — what’s happening to the heart is quite different.

During a heart attack, the heart muscle is cut off from its supply of oxygen, either from a blockage or a spasm in one of the arteries that supplies blood. Broken heart syndrome, on the other hand, is thought to stem from a surge of hormones that impairs the ability of the heart muscle to pump.

Many stressors can trigger the syndrome, according to a 2005 study by Johns Hopkins Hospital researchers published in the New England Journal of Medicine. Some stressors were related to sadness, but not all. Indeed, one person was struck down after being startled by their own surprise birthday party!

It’s unclear why middle-aged women are at the greatest risk. One possibility relates to differences in hormone levels. If you think you are having a heart attack after emotional stress, call your doctor, and keep broken heart syndrome in mind as a possibility. Your doctor will be able to do the evaluation to tell the difference.

The good news is that unlike a heart attack, broken heart syndrome is rarely fatal and most people make a full recovery. What can you do to prevent it? You could stay at home, avoiding anything that might cause sudden excitement. You could guard yourself from situations that might one day lead to emotional pain, like being in love. But what a dull life that would be!

broken heart can lead to withdrawal - depression - suicide...

handson: Guys please i need ur advice, i am 26 years of age a graduate of accounting but not yet working due to some health issues. The problem i am having is my dad who abuses me every minute he no longer calls me by m name where is dat idiot, fool and i am the the first born male child i even went to a pastor to cry out and he said my dad has other wives outside guys please what do i do should i find some where and move out cos i cant even comminicate with GOD well cos of this every minute it pains me i lov my dad but he hates me with passion i dnt no what i did. This is hurting me i am vey humble mature advice please.

if you have anywhere else to go leave the house for some time.

Do you think your partner is cheating on you? Or you feel he/she is exhibiting signs of infidelity. Have they changed in anyway that suggests infidelity? Yet you are not very sure if your partner is cheating on you or not. Well you are not alone in this dilemma. Suspecting infidelity without a concrete evidence can put someone in a traumatic condition.

However, here are some warning signs of infidelity to lookout for in your partner if you are suspecting cheating -

1. sudden change in sex pattern - eg wanting more sex than usual, less interested in sex, demanding you to experiment some new sex technique

2. Your partner start keeping Late nights

3. Your partner start working late and in most cases you can't reach him/her on phone

4. Your partner start making and receiving calls in odd places like the toilet,backyard and garage

5. Your partner becomes less interested in food at home, suggesting that they are eating somewhere outside

6. If your partner is the type that love taking kids for a walk, they suddenly stop walking with the kids

7. Anytime you try to show your partner love outside, it is met with a cold shoulder

8. Your spouse stop wearing their wedding ring

9. Your partner becomes emotionally withdrawn

10. He/she develops sudden interest in a new hobby

11. He/she develops Sudden interest in their appearance

12. They start deleting call memory

13. Your partner start deleting text messages

14. Your interest no longer interest them

15. You catch your partner lying always

16. Your friends start behaving strangely whenever you are around, distancing themselves from you, suddenly keeping quiet when you come around

17. In the case of a man, lipstick stains on them

18. Your partner spends more time chatting on the internet or phone more often than usual and secretive about it.

19. He/she suddenly password their phone and computer

20. Your partner starts picking fights with you unnecessarily

These and many more are warning signs of infidelity to lookout for whenever you are suspecting infidelity. However, some partners can be exhibiting all this signs of infidelity and still are not having affairs outside your relationship. You have to be cautious and tactful when dealing with suspected infidelity to avoid ruining your relationship.

Is any of the signs missing? add it up or what do you think?

Kalamaya: He dont have other choice for now. they are using fashola achievement in Lagos to sell their party. Baba Osho of Edo state is managing Tinubu & Buhari well than Fashola. In my own opinion there is still no alternative to the PDP in the center.

true talk

ichomi: Former Head of State and Presidential candidate for the Congress for Progressive Change, Major-Gen. Mohammed Buhari (retd), and the National Leader of the Action Congress of Nigeria, Asiwaju Tinubu, will arrive Kagoro town, Kaura Local Government of Kaduna State on Saturday (tomorrow) for a seminar.

A source told our correspondents that the seminar would be in the form of a rally and that “women, youths and groups/associations have been fully mobilised to receive the visitors in our fold.”

Other high profile opposition leaders expected include Governor of Lagos State, Babatunde Fashola (SAN); Governor of Nasarawa State, Alh. Tanko Almakura; former Governor of Kano State, Alhaji Ahmed Shekarau; former Governor of Benue State, Senator George Akume; Senator Mohammed Saleh, representing Kaduna Central Senatorial zone; and former Minister of the Federal Capital Territory Mallam Nasir El-Ruffai.

The seminar with the theme ‘A Decade of Democracy: A Region at Cross Roads’, will be chaired by former Chief of Naval Staff, Vice Admiral Ibrahim Iko (retd), a native of Koi in Jabba Local Government Area of Kaduna State,

The opposition party has however alleged that it had uncovered a plot by the Peoples Democratic Party in the state to disrupt the gathering by using the Nigeria Police Force.

Secretary of the Conference of Nigerian Political Parties in the state, Mr. Francis Koza, told newsmen in the state capital that the event would mark a significant political turning point in the southern part of the state, saying the opposition parties had already informed the state police command of the event.

He said, “Tomorrow’s rally will mark a significant shift and higher attainment in our search for alternative leadership in Kaduna State.”

Meanwhile, Elder Statesman, Chief Edwin Clark has faulted Maj.-Gen. Muhammadu Buhari (retd.) for questioning the competence of President Goodluck Jonathan.

Clark said this while fielding questions from newsmen at a press briefing, in Abuja, on Thursday.

He was responding to comments attributed to the former Head of State, who was reported to have said Jonathan lacked the competence to deal with Nigeria’s challenges.

http://www.punchng.com/news/buhari-tinubu-fashola-lead-kaduna-rally/
http://www.emmanuelbabatunde.com/2013/05/buhari-tinubu-fashola-lead-kaduna-rally.html

they can only uncover plots by the leading party while the nation is looking for away to uncover the people behind this bombing madness in the country. they should put their uncovering skills in a better use, for the benefit of the nation if they mean well for our NAIJA

JideTheBlogger: All these without money to spoil her with gifts etc is useless.

oga jide money cannot buy true love o!

the fear of infidelity is a common issue in any relationship. when suspecting infidelity, you go through a lot of mental and emotional trauma. dealing with suspected infidelity can be very difficult and tricky. it will not be fair for you to accuse your partner of cheating since you don't have a concrete evidence. this makes your trauma worse. suspecting infidelity without knowing how to handle the situation is a hell of a problem to be in.

follow the steps below if you are dealing with suspected infidelity.

1. Watch out for these warning signs of infidelity

- change in sex pattern
- sudden interest in a new hobby
- if your partner is spending more time outside than usual
- deleting of text messages
and many more.

2. gather evidences

if you suspecting infidelity of your partner you must gather enough infidelity evidences to prove your suspicion. cheating partners don't easily agree to infidelity. so go ahead and gather evidences if you must prove your suspicion. you can gather evidences by

- invading your partners privacy
- common sense investigation

3. confront your partner

with your infidelity evidences you still face a hard task of confronting your partner. You don't have to be confrontational or aggressive when dealing with suspected infidelity. if you are suspecting infidelity of your partner, you must remain calm when presenting the issue to him or her. choose a time suitable for both of you to discuss. Neither of you should be disturbed when discussing the issue of suspected infidelity. decide on the way you will present the issue so as not to destroy your relationship. especially if your partner is faithful. they may not agree to cheating on you for the following reasons-

- fear of hurting you
- fear of losing you

whenever you see your partner exhibiting the signs of infidelity and you start suspecting infidelity, remember that some people displays infidelity signs and still are faithful. whenever you are suspecting infidelity in your relationship, always put yourself in your partners shoes to know how you will feel before going ahead to accuse them.

[quote author=Sunehri_145]Suspected cultist Killed 5 people this afternoon in Alaba international market Ojo Lagos
(i saw them with my two eyes)
People are running helter skelter[/quote]wahala every where

bawomolo: women play the game too, they just don't brag about it like men. it's not my fault that society allows men to be promiscous.

in fact they are more guilty than men. its just that men feel they can talk