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i'm in love with points no:1,2,4,5,8,10,15,20-23. all the truth needed are all here. the problem with most of nowadays girls is that they start trouble with their mother in-laws without even meeting or knowing her in person.... they have this negative mindset about their mother in-law before even meeting her for the first time. nice post dear!

silverdam: This is a true life story and its from a reader/
friend, things are happening in this world… Read
below:


Hello, my name is anonymous, I’m a polytechnic
student and I am pregnant for my cousin for the
third time. Me and my cousin are age mates in
our early twenties, we’ve been secretly dating for
2 years now.

I don’t have a boyfriend neither does he have a
girlfriend, we started having sex 2 years ago and
this is my third pregnancy for him, we’ve
previously aborted 2 pregnancy that almost took
my life. Its all started when I gained admission in
his school, I was told to live with him for some
period before I would get my own accomodation
cos he was a year senior to me and he was living
alone in one room on campus.

I accepted to live with him cos we are cousins
and I see nothing bad in it, to cut the story short
we started having sex due to the fact that I’m
always careless with my body. I broke up with my
boyfriend and he also did the same thing to his
girlfriend, we fell in love with each other, we were
behaving like couples to the extent that
neighbours were suspecting, we had sex almost
everytime cos I decided to live with him as
couples on campus before my mother separated
us because she wasn’t comfortable with the way
we were living together.

Now, I am pregnant again and I am really scared
of abortion because the last one I did almost took
my life, its not like we don’t use condoms but we
can be careless sometimes. Our parents must not
hear about it, I’m 6 weeks gone now, my cousin is
begging to go for an abortion but I am so scared
and out of my mind cos I don’t want to die.

I don’t know what to do, I’m even considering
informing our parents cos I don’t want to die,
what can I do apart from abortion?




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na so craze de start o... na only em thing de sweet you? a beg make i hear word!

and the ability to love even with his/her imperfection

[quote author=bizmogul]Are you in a distance relationship? Do you worry about calling it quits but you love this person and can't let go? Your survival in a distance relationship depends on how the relationship got started. For example I spent some time together with my girlfriend in school before I graduated and we got separated by distance. Distance relationships could be very painful and tiring but in order to sustain it you need to apply the following.

1. There must be genuine love: I love my girl so much, right from the outset and she loves me in return despite the fact am not rich this has been the core of our relationship. Each time we talk about the past and how memorable it was being together the memories keep us alive.

2. Trust: without trust distance relationship goes dead. Trust issues begin to come up when one party begins to act differently, like myself I erased my thoughts from ‎thinking my girl has someone else; I don't think about it no matter what, it’s not a perfect relationship but because we trust each other we keep going on and on.

3. Don't Listen To Friends: friends sure have a way of destroying distance relationships. I remember the times when I sit over a drink with a couple of friends, they make me feel like a loser, they make me feel like a complete idiot, asking questions like do you know what she is doing now? Maybe she is having fun with some other guy while you are here being the good guy. I almost fell for all that, it almost ruined my relationship but as I earlier said, trust is what keeps me going.

4. Regular communication: keep in touch at all times, say sweet things you will normally say to her, don't let her feel you are ever tired, with various communication gadgets blackberry, facebook, mobile phone, skype communication has been made easier.

5. Send a surprise gift from a distance: you know where she stays? You could courier a package to her with a recent picture from you, a hand written note and some gift items. It helps.

I will stop for now, more updates coming soon.
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cool! see more here ... http://realdeeplove.com/2012/11/making-a-long-distance-relationship-work/

[quote author=maar!a]10 BASIC RULES FOR NEW RELATIONSHIP...

The following ten points I'm going to state are extremely simple, yet people sometimes forget them:

1.) ASSIGN BOUNDARIES:
if you're a big fan of PDA (public display of affection), make sure you create a line and not cross it. Whether you hold hands, kiss, lie on her lap, just do one of these and don't make it go overboard.

2.) PERSONAL SPACE IS IMPORTANT:
Make sure both of you give each other appropriate personal space.You're in a relationship, it doesn't mean you start creeping each other out.

3.) LOYALTY IS KEY
Don't play hide and seek with their feelings. If you have done something wrong, come clean.

4.) A CLEAN PAST
Let's face it, everyone makes mistakes at some point in their lives. So when you start a new relationship, make sure it's new in every aspect. Clear your past in front of your partner, so if some day some of your past demons wake up, nothing would decrease the love between you two and it will also strengthen their trust in you.

5.) DON'T CHEAT
You're probably saying to yourself "What sort of slowpoke would cheat?". You'd be surprised.

6.) KEEP IT IN THE BEDROOM.
Every couple fights. Some fights end quickly. Some take time. Regardless of how long they go, you need to keep it between the two of you. Do NOT involve friends and family. It'll only make you two drift apart from each other in the long run.

7.) ONE SPECIAL DAY
Keep one day for the two of you. It could be thrice a month or four times a week, depends on you. But define a day for you two when cell phones are turned off, no work talk, no family talk, just the two of you spending some much-needed quality time together.

8.) BE FRIENDLY
Get to know each others' friends. It never hurts to get involved in their hangouts if they want you to.

9.) LITERAL DATES
You need to remember each others' birthdays. And the anniversary is important too. Celebrate each of these events with your full commitment and effort.

10.) KEEP IT SIMPLE
This one is especially for the ladies. Ladies, people love you, but you need to SAY what's on your mind rather than telling them "It's Okay" when it's really not. Keep it simple.

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charlesblaze: 1. Don’t take off your panties, because he called you beautiful, take them off because he married you.

2. Don’t open your legs because he said you will make a good mother. Open them because he’s ready to be a father after your wedding.

3. Don’t take him home because he gave you a ride or buy you ice cream and fried rice, take him home because he treated you like a queen and is committed to be the love of your life.

4. Don’t push him away because he has no money today. Hold him close if he is a man of vision, to another woman, he’s Honey and he got brighter days ahead, with a prospective blossoming future.

5. Don’t go punishing him because another man hurt you! All men are not the same! A man who fears God doesn’t hurt! If he loves you, give him a chance and he may be the best thing that ever happened to you.

6. Don’t stay up all night wondering where to find a good man. Work on your character! Be an asset! Serve God.

true talk but... most of them love tested okay... size... how you sabi reach... and some suckor... so why won't they put off their panties and open their legs?

compatibility is very necessary especially if you wish to settle down with each other

Perfecter4real: I was just curious,in the past most single ladies saying i want to keep myself till i get married for my husband but reverse is the case these days.so my question is..
1) did u had sex with ur spouse before marriage
2) to the single men will u marry a girl if u have not had sex with her?

to men it is possible but the ladies of nowadays... i doubt... they wan know weda u sabi!!! if you no sabi< sorry na your name

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let game begin!

[quote author=ichommy]Sunkanmi or wetin, Nah North abi? See Market o.[/quote
yea! real village setting. but the first two pix... i doubt..

ok now! we are watching

happy birthday Mike!

One united! we remain the pride of English football!

lol! who tell una say them dey fight? olofofo them!!!

Turiano: Nairalander here are 100 pratical ways to make your husband happy and think of u always and u can ask questions in regards to the above topic.
1.make him know you love.one most important key to makin your husband happy is develop and show him genuine love and care for him.tel him how good and how good and handsome he looks.
2.sendin love note or message through phone to him at his place of work or when he travels.and tel him how u mised him soon.
3.let him see that your love is genuie and not circumstantial i.e.even when he is down finacially.
4.love need to be nurtured before it grows,i.e.you need to always show ur husband love.
5.watch out and avoid seriously any tendency to love other men more than your husband or that wil make you compare him wit other men.love him above every other person on earth.
6.learning how to pratice love that is faithful.
Under this same topic we are going to treat the nxt sub heading.SEEK TO ALWAYS PLEASE HIM,

all are facts. encourage him always instead of criticizing, be supportive, be interested in his interests

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there is nothing like that. please remove this thing

[quote author=Mynd_44]Lemme go and find a thread to derail jorh. Atleast we don scatter our exams with riot, man must find something to do[/quote]ok now!

May God have mercy on us in this our NAIJA

Kaymisola: http://www.kemifilani.com/2013/07/linda-ikeji-goes-head-to-head-with.html

It may not necessarily be that of Rev. Chris. it also may be a coincidence, there is nothing to prove that she is the one. But if she is, she should be very careful. "Touch not my anointed and do my prophets no harm" na bible talk am. God is the only rightful person to judge anybody be it a bishop,pastor,alfa or baba alawo... period.

bennyraz: To me, i believe long distance relationship is a big sham by one of the party involved. It might be the guy or the babe but one party is definitely playing one party. How can you explain a girl in School in PH riding/sexing another man while answering the call of her supposed fiance in lagos saying "Sweetie, i miss you, I love you" while the joystick of another man is still inside her?? how can you explain another married man harboring a young girl in his home while his wife just took a trip to South Africa. Nairalanders.. my eyes have seen, my ears have heard and what more should i say? Is long distance relationship really worth the stress? knowing fully well that one party would cheat? and why do people involve themselves in long distance relationship? Is it because of their low self esteem or timidity? mind you, I have enjoyed the benevolence of long distance relationship it ended well but not an happily ever after well.

it really can work out well. it depends on the people involved and what they want from such relationship. see http://realdeeplove.com/2012/11/making-a-long-distance-relationship-work/

chikito93: my boyfriend and i were having problems. At least i was having problem with him. I felt like he wasn't putting too much effort as in putting quality time for us to be together. I felt like his excuse of " working" was man made. In short, i thought he could be seeing some else. so i broke up with him. We were apart for three weeks before getting back to together. A couple of days into it i asked if he was seeing someone else, he said " kind of" that they are just friends and are not sleeping together. He said i should stop worrying. I probed on, he said that he wants to be with me but that i should give him time to sort himself out. During this time we'll still be together

Anyway, i called him three nigths ago, he did not pick up. I was so sad  because i really love this guy. I decided to go to his place. On getting there i buzz the door bell and a lady answered, she questioned me for a while before opening the door. I got to his front door and knocked, the same lady opend with A WHOLE LOT of attitude syaing this is X wife, how may i help u. I was lost for words. i politely told her to get X for me that i needed to get something from him, she slammed the door on me about three times


He finally came out he was dripping with water so i guess he was in the shower. He asked me to come inside, i said no. I asked him to give me my stuff( about 12 naija movies) that i never want to see his face again. HE said no. So i left and he followed me. He was begging me. he said this is what he was trying to tell me but wanted to sort it out before telling me.
We stood out there for a long time . The girl came out twice to ask him to come inside but he didn't.

He still wants to be with me, wants me to give him some time while he sorts himself out. I have been crying for one week now. Everyone is telling me to hold on. That the girl ( his ex, she use to call and threaten me. The girl use to call the whole community to beg him, i guess she succeeded. they are from the same tribe.) is fetish that he needs to let her down gently. People who don't know me are sending this message to me. Please dear people. what do i do under this circumstance. I am extremely hurt. Should i move on? i have never known this much pain in my whole life. My heart burns, the pain hurts. Do u guys think he cares about me? or is he eating his cake and having it too?

Sorry it's too long. but i want u guys to know every detail.

You did not make something clear here. Is the girl his wife as she claimed or just his girl friend? If you keep waiting and at the end the girls juju cage him to her what will you do.
He has given the sign that you are not the only one he is seeing so i wonder why you are crying. the earlier you get a replacement while you wait the better for you... wishing you the best

A guy came to me and was telling me about a girl who he said has been his close friend for a very long time. The problem now is that he is falling in love with this girl who he calls his best friend.

I told him with all sincerity that i see nothing wrong in it. But he should however consider the following issues...
1. Is there any sign that the girl is in love with him too because if not, it will amount to betrayal of friendship.

2. If he value there friendship telling the girl that he wants more friendship from her may jeopardize their friendship.

3. I told him to be sure what he feel is note infatuation and lust. Because if it is, it will be just a matter of time before the relationship and friendship collapse. Finding a best friend to trust and rely on is not easy to come by.

4. I also asked him if he can look the girl to her face and tell her he is having a romantic feelings for her.

5. I made him understand that for him to take the girl as his best friend, then they must have shared a lot of secrets with each other. Meaning that the girl has a lot of information about him and he also knows much about the girl. Will the things they know about each other have a positive or negative impact on their dating relationship if it eventually kicks off.

Some may say can a man and a woman be just friends? well in my own opinion the answer is yes because i have experienced and seen it before.
Please if you have any other advice or question for him it will be highly appreciated. Have a lovely day ahead.

abugbe: true bro. Some go extra miles for the one they love. Like the one I have, she is more than some wife. Jus too good to toy with.

congratulations!!!

marialucia: What I've noticed about women who are inlove :

•» They never believe in rumors about their partners cheating, even if it's true.
•» They will do everything in their power to protect their relationships, even if apologizing for what's right.
•» They are very jealous and as a boyfriend you should be thankful 'coz that shows she's very afraid of losing you(she believes in your relationship).
•» Sometimes they might sacrifice their friendship for that one person they love the most.
•» They hate it when you've got a female friends 'coz they know, "A shoulder to cry on becomes a dick to ride on".
•» They are real bad in faking their happiness and emotions, you'll notice very quick when they don't like something you've done.
•» They don't care about money but they care the most about the time you spend with them, if it was possible they would want to spend every minute with you.
•» They go around calling 'emselves bo "Mrs mang mang" without checking the time frame they've been in that relationship.

True or False?

They go out of their way to please you

Sanboy25:
Haha, I don't have a boyfriend.
It's on Internet, he's an e-stalker...
I don't have the possibility to block him...

why don't you have the possibility to block him

he wrote those words to you because you both have something in common. He cannot write that to just any girl in the street. you definitely over reacted or don't you have feelings for him?