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Princeojua:
Who will inherit his or her Nairaland account?

mhisbliss:
In our contemporary world, moving in with someone you're not married to is a common spectacle, and its often ladies moving in with guys, it has its advantages which includes shelter, feeding, the opportunity to know each other better and show you how you guys can live (if) he pops the question, but that's not the motive behind such a huge step most times, You hear statements like
"It’s crazy to marry someone without living with them first. You need to test out the relationship!”

Yes, You're inlove and all, and theres no doubt in your heart, but before following your heart, take a step back and ask yourself Those crucial questions to avoid becoming a shacking up statistic.

1. Why Are We Moving In Together?
2. Do You Want Children?
3. How Are We Handling the Financial Obligations?
4. Where can this possibly lead, marriage? Or breakup
5. What Happens If We Break Up?
6. If he's so eager to have me, why don't he just put the ring on it
7. How long will your biological clock permit you to stay with him, before it becomes a do or die affair

When you do, you'll realize that the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, living together before marriage has alot of pitfalls.
Below are reasons why I believe living together is a bad choice if a woman wants to marry.

1. Men and women have very different ideas about what living together mean,
women typically see it as an almost inevitable step toward marriage, while men see it as a no-obligation "test drive." Couples who initiate a live-in relationship under the fog of such contradictory assumptions are already in trouble.

2. You've heard the old expression, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"
It's an ugly phrase, but there's some truth to the message. Living together results in regular, no-strings sex for a man, thus removing the sexual motivation that is part of a marriage proposal. And don't worry about his proposing just to bed you, there are too many sexually available women out there for a man to propose marriage just for sexual release.

3. Living together makes you look cheap and easily acquired
why would he struggle to get you when you offered yourself on a platter of gold, theres always the younger ones whos hard to get, those ones are treasured, and when he's ready to marry, he'll go and have his pick of those ones he hasn't tasted.

4. There is no interest on taking things to the next level,
“If you want to marry him, don’t even think about moving in. He’ll have no reason to propose!”
moving in removes much of a man's motivation to make the formal commitment of marriage within a reasonable time, soon you run out of patience and its marry me or its over either way you'll loose, because you cant coerce someone into marrying you, you'll look desperate and if your partner calls your bluff, its your loss as well.

5. Living together is not a reliable way to predict long-term compatibility or marital success
In fact, couples who live together before marriage divorce at higher rates. There are other ways to set yourself up for a happy, healthy marriage. Serious dating allows two people to get to know each other as loving friends and determine whether they have a reasonable chance of being a faithful, respectful and cooperative couple with shared values and vision.
Spending time at a boyfriend or girlfriend's house will reveal many personal habits and quirks, while a practical pre-marital class that teaches communication, interpersonal and life skills can give couples the tools they need to help avoid common problems and resolve those conflicts that will invariably arise.

6. Alot of things that might happen if you move in
Getting pregnant, probably aborting it, or becoming a baby mama, very few people who had babies outside marriage ends up married, and if he doesn't get married to you, the child will pass through alot growing up without both parents,
This is important, since children who are raised by both biological parents in a low-conflict home are more likely to be emotionally and psychologically healthy than children whose parents are cohabiting or divorced. They are less likely to experience mental health or behavioral problems, or live in poverty.

7. Living together takes the excitement out of being newlywed
all the anticipation, excitement and curiosity, about how living together as couples will be, what he likes and dont etc, will vanish because you're already married before you could tie the knot.

ukyeyibio:
Recall this thread :
https://www.nairaland.com/3365501/police-academy-releases-results-academy

The Nigerian Police Academy has released the list of successful candidates of the Entrance Examination held on the 6th of August 2016.

Kindly check your names.

Source: https://ukeyibio..com.ng/2016/09/police-academy-releases-results-of.html?m=1

lordkay10:
Wow! Never knew sha, my love for you is now raised to power 100

Smellymouth:
Alaye, I nor know who I want to win oo..

But I think am gonna support Arsenal because of my guy EmperorLee..

timunstopable:
I see your keypad can't type names with P and G let me help you

Patience Jonathan ..Goodluck Jonathan... also deserve the treatment along the names mentioned

JOF2:
You better be careful with your statement. What evidence do you have against those names you mentioned - Take my advice

frankmoney:
what about Jonathan ,PEJ ,diezani , dasuki etc there heads deserves to be chopped off too

IYANGBALI:
Their body go don full. Any girl wey dem fok na belle straight. The spam go thick well

Smellymouth:
Alaye, make we pity them give them 2 kondo..

AfricanApple:
Cooking will never ever define me.
why can't my husband know how to cook so that I can have a good feeling too
Don't even use our mothers, because most were stay-at-home mum, full housewives. but now women work and also bring money to the family.

the both of us goes to work and we are both tired, then we have to share the responsibility.


Plus, i said I hate cooking, I didn't say I don't know how to Cook. difference

UchaNwababa:
When did the Woman get Pregnant, Na from Motherless Baby she buy them Joor.

gudbadgyal:
Oh please, don't abort. I love kids damn much. Wish I could get one right now. But mum says kids are only after marriage. Mhen can't wait any long

ireneony:
why

HtwoOw:
Ya Ya we heard


Congrats

MadCow1:
Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

mukina2:
Ini still has it meh.. good good cross

izzou:
Just be sensible when exercising your rights


Dumbass

izzou:
Everything has always been a joke to you

CindyeMerAld:
ur a fine looking young man buh d background whr u took dis pics is a big no for me..