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brilliant!!

Catholic Church is a Universal Church, Mother Church. I'm proud to be Catholic!

It's a MURDER, period!

We all know that marriage is not a bed of roses, and it's not a bed of thorns either. It's a little bit of both. The UPs and DOWNs, arguments, disagreements and all the circumstances that we deal with on daily basis, requires a lot of patience, tolerance and understanding. Lets say after all these years, your effort to make it work comes to dead end, but you are still in the marriage for the sake of your kids; the love between you and him/her fades away day by day. Then out of the blue, your spouse starting to deny his/her marriage infront of certain individual(his/her best friend, allies or exs). How would you react if this sort of dilemma happens to you?

Outstrip:
Most Nigerian christians are basically pharisees anyway. Exactly what Jesus despised. All they cared was following the law but had no compassion. Sometimes when I hear them talk I immediately think about the Scribes and Pharisees. What does the Lord require of you? To do justly, to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God. Most Nigerian Christians have a big F in any of those three things that the Bible says God requires of us. Most of them do not even realize that their thoughts come from a wicked place. they believe this is how Jesus would have done it. Jesus actually despised people like that. Go and read Jesus' teachings.

u got a point there sister. pharisees r everywhere even amongst the priests in fine suits! the dedication itself is beautiful and every baby deserved it. we can look at this thread in a good and bad ways, and everyone has their own understanding of the happenings. like i said, its a funny world we lived in

generally speaking, marrying single dad/mom is like swallowing a bile. all the "i love u' before marriage is more likely turns "i'm not sure anymore" after the 6th month.

simple>>because they don't get what they want at home, and vice versa - ladies as well

ThiefOfHearts:
why did you attend the event if you knew you'd be badmouthing them anyway

Is that what your Jesus taught you?

didn't mean to badmouthing them. like i said, i was curious cos i have attended 2 dedications in the past but the couples were married. so when i attended one like that, i was puzzled

Fhemmmy:
You can ask someone to represent the father if he doesnt wanna be there.
But make sure he is aware.

u kidding me right?? someone can represent the father if he can't make it?? if only the baby can talk during the dedication <<where's my daddy?>> that would be on CNN

hard to tell because pple knows how to fake their marriage funny world

today's churches are so 'flexible' allowing the unmarried couples to do it is like 'promoting' fornication there's a saying "mama crab wanna teach baby crab walking straight but she herself walks the other way around" oh boy,

so it is a common thing to have a baby dedication by unmarried couple in pentecostal church? some pentecostal says to do that couple must be married a bit confusing

was kinda odd to witness my neighbor dedicating their son in pentecostal church because they are no married

Just curious; is this dedication supposed to be done by married couple (parents of the child) or marriage is not compulsory (for single parents) in Pentecostal church for this event?

10 years tells u something can love alone bring food to the table and pay the bills??

We can give 1001 excuses to live a healthy lifestyle and vice versa. Be that hot mama your hubby and kids can really proud of!

It's a big NO NO. Does more harm than good. This sort of lifestyle is for those who scared of commitment, period.

Aging is part of growth. We should embrace it, not against it.

both dammit!!

It's a MUST. Love alone can't bring food on the table.

@poster

I think u should post this in Religious section

chaircover:
Madam I have read all your responses and posts and most were very discourteous, off point and had Ignorant general sweeping statements of Nigerian men and women

You don’t have to be impolite to put your point across and to be honest I haven’t seen anyone on this forum insult you. All have tried to offer constructive advice which incidentally is what you asked for when you posted the topic.

You come across as very disrespectful and a very conceited individual and with an attitude like that you will have problems holding down a good relationship with any decent man from any nationality; nothing to do with the man being Nigerian. If you can be this rude to strangers then I hate to think what you will be like behind closed doors with your man.

What you have achieved or accomplished financially or career wise is not the point of discussion here and for the record, none of what you’ve mentioned is extra ordinary.

What interests me is what you have achieved as a mother to those 4 children who haven’t got a father figure in the home due to no fault of their own and with the way you are carrying on I do wonder what kind of example you are giving them.

I note that the only person on your side & you call intelligent (your words) is Whome.

Someone who by her own admission has been “duped” (my words) by 3 Nigerian men and has 1 child for each of these 3 men. Now tell me does that look like an intelligent woman to you? . . . .once, twice, thrice??

The same one who thinks that women who don’t end up being single mothers only achieved this through abortion

@poster, I suggest you choose your friends and take advise wisely and work on that manner of yours. No man wants an army general in his house; Nigerian or Jamaican.

I’m not saying be stupid & just accept all shit thrown at you by men but learn to put your point across in a refined manner.

Aggression is not the answer to any problem.

agreed with chaircover

How 'Christian' are you to call the Catholic aren't Christian?

Please! Whatever you wanna thread here, do know what u talking about before you speak

We are EVERYWHERE!

Most men, singles that is, are trying their best NOT to deal with someone's baggage. Unless he was previously married and has his own baggage, that's a different story. But then again, if he has no kids from previous marriage/relationship he still prefer single lady.

LOL fellas! U are entitled to your opinion

It depends on our logistic and issues we deal with. Some thinks generalization is a good thing, some don't. It changes our mood for sure. Take it easy,

Not all hang outs, sexes or kisses, make us someone's bf/gf. Some doing stuffs based on individual purposes. Not everyone wanna take things seriously

Generalization is good It will broaden our perspective and mindset on certain issue based on our personal or general experiences. It might seems hard to engage ourselves to this topic, but the point is to transform this topic into some sort of contribution in decision making so as not to prejudge one's action when they seems to slow down or shifting gear as i called it, its like owning/driving a car u know, have we ever tried to understand our car when it crankin' on the road?

U see, men in their 20s are not so much into details; its like all about love , we all know love alone can't put food on the table. In their 30s/40s it seems like "if u can't cook, don't even think about it", that is one example

If u are in that age groups, u know what i'm talking about

, more on traditional and old fashioned values, stuff like that