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Nyascobar1414:
Sorry..
You gonn' get a better man

I hope so, thanks

larryking540:
I believe the signs where already there but u didn't pay much attention ,if man wan marry you it's very very easy ,you see those questions most ladies call irrelevant in relationship ,they are the real questions to determine if he go marry you or not ,but to confuse our sisters we use money to buy their love ,time and brain ,you just can't sit for a seconds and ask your self reality questions because the truth is bad for the heart

Thank you

Yeah, he proposed 2019 and when I asked him about his plans for wedding by 2020, he asked me why I was in a rush to get married lol, that marriage shouldn’t be the top of my priority list, whereas, he proposed on his own, I wonder why he’ll propose without the intention of marriage, December 2021 and we’re still not married, I’ve returned his ring.. we’ve been dating since 2016

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Travel with hubby, she leaves..
These live-in ish tho, I don't buy the idea, Inlaws should let young couples breathe, she was living somewhere before yall got married nah.

Saintmary:
OMG!!!!
At 24, already feeding a man and his entire family

I off small

jaksmillioniar:
I didnt said DAT. but wat bad in helping d one u love. no one know tomoro. his family fit blow tomoro. is Linda ikeji not helping her family today

Lol, so, she should help him help his family?

jaksmillioniar:
so u want to marry him and keep him alone dats wicked. his older one dont have today dont mean dey wont have tomoro.let ur heart be clean

So, you mean, she should keep borrowing him money? While he does absolutely nothing for her?wow

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Marrying the Breadwinner doesn't usually end well cause once he stops providing for his fam, they might hate you for turning his back on em, and if you run dry on cash, it'll end in premium tears like a poster above me posted..

Tamakay:
At your age, you should have known that you're too naive and immature to be engaged. He just took advantage of u because u don't know anything. Sentiment and emotional blackmailing me by praying for my sisters to be naive like u will not solve d problem here. You're supposed to be in school or learning one handwork somewhere.

Sorry sir, but you sound very unintelligent, Goodluck trolling, hit the road. Eranko.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I hope you'll learn to see that he's really not into you like that. A man who hasn't made plans to leave and cleave definitely has no business getting married. That he is 31 doesn't mean he's ready. You cook and tend to his family whenever you are around them, right? You'll do worse when you get married. You'll become head chef and senior nanny to his siblings and aging Grandmother.

Have a serious discussion with him, tell him to give you a time, set your own time too since you're the one whom the shoes hurts. If he still shows signs of unseriousness and unwillingness, then I see no reason why you shouldn't start extending your search outside. This is your future. Don't ruin it. The partner you marry is liable to make or mar you.

In the end, it's all your brunt to bear. Choose wisely now to avoid coming to the front page of Nairaland tomorrow seeking for marital advice.

Ladies, even if you date a douchebag, please endeavor not to marry that douchebag. Please, see it as an importance to marry a man that has sense. You're Queens and Queens do not eat debris nor settle for less.

Thread wisely and carefully.

Wow, I love this.

You alone wears the shoe and know where it pinches, Goodluck.

Been there before, if she calls you by name, call her by name as well, shikenah.

Sorry for your pains ma

I never turned bad but I can partially relate, I was in science class back in secondary but I lost passion for science and wanted to switch to arts, my counselor never allowed me, she said I wanted to ruin my life and I should work harder blablabla, got me sad and down that I lost interest in school, other things contributed to me losing interest e.g I got bullied a lot, started skipping school, wrote waec and passed, woulda graduated already but I've never really understood calculations, and botanical names, in essence, I'm a sucker for science, still struggling in school now, applied for transfer to another department already, I might drop out if its unapproved... All these woulda been avoided if I was allowed to switch..


Please ma, talk to her like a friend and a sister, motivate her to finish up with her studies and promise to let her study music in the university, you can also enroll her for music/ dance classes before then, let her go for what she has passion for, it's not too late ma.

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I'm so sorry you're going through all these, my case is sort of similar, difference is, I'm a lady, I've been a lot suicidal and depressed until I watched Beyond the lights movie, I feel a lot better and free from the cage I was put in, maybe you should watch too, I wish you the best.

So happy for you, but then again, you can't be so sure ALL of your mates graduated already, but then again, there's more to life than academics.

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