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ebonyvibe:
have many female friends without the intention of asking them out the closer you get the easier it will be to ask them out

Nice one.

Also build your confidence and believe that you can only get any of this 2 answers YES or NO. If it is yes, thats good and if it is no, life goes on.

You are single, she is single. She trying to get your attention and its like she is succeeding. So man, what is stopping u?

ANTI - sex, na u give that girl belle. Takia of her o

If na me, i go ask her if she fit takia of me also.

2go, na wa for that place. I had to run for my life.

Being alnoe for over four years now. I guess i'm tired.

Make sure u marry one of them.

Abeg leave our dear precious Dame o.

2:1 ke? Its starting.

Arsenal pls beware o.

http://soccernet.espn.go.com/news/story/_/id/962673/roberto-mancini:-carlos-tevez-'refused'-to-play-for-city?cc=3888

Sorry Man City. Try next time

Congrat guys

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Guy cool down now

Na God save Man U.

Arsenal, who you offend this season? 3 of your players out again?

Now the film is just beginning

Dear Taiwo, I am 28 years old, a graduate from one of the Nigeria’s federal universities. I am at a confused state and I need your help urgently.

I don’t want to disappoint my parents or disobey them, but if I give in to their wish and marry the man they want me to marry, I will be sad for ever.

Adenrele (not his real name) and I are childhood friends; we grew up together, our parents were friends long before we were born and this automatically made us friends; in fact we were like a family. I could remember very well that my siblings and I have had cause to spend some of our holidays with him and his parents.

Sometimes, he would come to our house too.

Both of us were born the same day, through Caesarean Section. But unfortunately, his mother could not concieve again ; this made Adenrele their only child.

Being an only child, one would expect that he would be pampered, but his parents did not. I really don’t know what made me like him so much, probably because he had no siblings unlike me, I have three other siblings.

We all attended the same school and we were in the same class all through. The only time we were separated was when we went to the university; despite this, we still communicated with each other and any time we came home on holidays we were inseparable.

The first time Adenrele made me realise he had more than brotherly love for me was during our final year in school. He studied Eonomics while I read Law, which automatically meant that he would go for his youth service before me. When he told me that he loved me and would want our relationship to take a new dimension, I told him I did not feel that way towards him. He said he was prepared to give me some time.

I must confess that after he told me this, I tried if I could feel anything towards him, but the feeling was just not there. When I went to the Law School and he proceeded for his youth service, I encouraged him to have a relationship, but his answer was always the same. I however made him to realise every time that I do not feel the same way about him.

After his youth service, he travelled abroad for his Masters degree, by the time he came back, I had finished my youth service and was already working. On the day of my call to bar, Adenrele’s mother called me her daughter-in-law, and I thought she was joking. I raised this issue with my mother later that night and I was shocked at her response. My mother told me that there was nothing wrong with my getting married to Adenrele. I tried to tell her that I felt nothing towards him and that I see him only as a brother. Her response further baffled me as she said I should tell my father that. I never knew they had discussed this issue before now.

My parents are the approachable type, so I discussed with my father and I was shocked to find out that he was also of that school of thought. I then asked if both of them did not consider my feelings.

My father asked if I were in any relationship, and my answer was no. If I had known, I would have said yes, but my no further encouraged them. Daddy said I would definitely grow to love him. But I didn’t share this feeling.

Few months after my discussion with my parents, I met Alfred who just arrived the country from the US, and he needed the services of our firm. I was, however, directed to handle his matter. Our relationship started on a business note and later graduated into a love affair. In fact, he was the one who deflowered me.

He proposed marriage to me before going back to the US and he has since been responsible for my upkeep and everything. I took him to meet with my parents before he left, but I did not like the reception they gave him. He was not really bothered by it because I had intimated him with what was happening.

He advised that I should take it easy with them, that they would eventually come to terms with him if they saw that we are both serious.

I expected that after telling Adenrele about Alfred, he would come to terms with my refusal to date him and look for his own woman, but I was wrong. He kept looking for me.

My problem now is that, Alfred will be coming back in December and he wants us to get married so that I could go back with him. I don’t know how to convince my
parents. Any time I raise his issue, my parents do not want to hear about it.

It is certain that I do not love Adenrele and I can never love him. I have tried to ask my parents the reason why they insisted that I should marry him they have not been able to give me a concrete reason. I have never disobeyed them, but I am afraid it will happen now.

Kindly help me, what can I do? How can I handle this situation?

I am a man in my late 30s, a father of two boys, I got Married five years ago and I loved my wife dearly.

We met when we were in school, I knew she would be my wife the first day I met with her, so I did not ask her to date me, rather I asked her to be my wife. She did not hesitate accepting my proposal because she told me she felt the same way about me that very first day.

All our friends envied us when we fulfilled our promise to each other by getting married. Some of our friends actually confessed that they felt the day would never come and we might not get married. But to the glory of God, our day of joy was a glorious one.

Our almost similar background might have been responsible for our determination to make things work, especially our marriage and the home we intended building together.

I am a product of a broken home. My sister and I were raised by my mother and I know what she went through. Her situation made me to promise myself to work hard so that I can take care of my immediate family and also take good care of my mother.

My wife was raised by her mother, but not because her parents were separated or divorced; her father died when she was still a baby. Although she tried to go into another relationship, which did not work so she decided to train her child alone.

Probably the need for a complete family was our drive; we tried all our best to make our home what we wanted.

Things were going as we planned until a fateful day about 18 months ago when my cousin who lives in the United Kingdom came to Nigeria and stayed with us.

On this day, my cousin travelled to our home town to see his mother. We finished dinner late and after making sure that our boys were fast asleep, we retired into our bedroom. The television set in our room was on, that was the reason why we did not hear the armed robbers until the door of our room was banged.

To say I was shocked would be putting it mildly because we were not expecting anybody at that time of the day and if my cousin was going to come back, he wouldn’t have come into the house at that hour of the night. The door was not locked, so they gained entrance into the room without hassles.

When we discovered who they were and their number, I asked my wife to lie low and decided not to struggle with them because they were fully armed with guns and other dangerous weapons.

They asked me to produce my cousin who just returned from the UK and I made them realise that he wasn’t around. To confirm my claim, two of the robbers stayed with my wife in the room, while four of them took me round the house.

When they discovered that my cousin was not at home, they relocated our children from their room to ours. They carted away all the money we had, some electronics and all our handsets. As they were about leaving, the alleged head of the gang said he wanted to have sex with my wife. I begged him, and my wife did too. When I made move to save her, the other members of the gang beat me.

He asked them to stop beating me and said my punishment would be more severe. They made me watch as he raped my wife in the presence of my kids and two other members of the gang.

The dastardly act lasted for a few minutes, but it was the worst minutes of my life.

Dear Monica, I cannot get this scene out of my mind, even up till now. Since then, I have not been able to sleep with my wife and this fact is already generating problems in my home.

After the incident which we are yet to discuss with any other person, my wife saw the doctor; she took series of tests, HIV test inclusive. She was certified negative.

But I really cannot have sex with her again. I have come to realise that this is killing her, but I just cannot. I have tried several times but I cannot hold an erection.

Please, help me. Like I stated above, I don’t want to lose my home and family. I know I need help, but I don’t know where to seek it from.

THE much touted improvement in electric power supply has yet to come but the utility organisation, Power Holding Company of Nigeria (PHCN), is planning massive increases in electricity tariffs. By the time the Nigerian Electricity Regulation Commission (NERC) concludes what it called consultations with all the stakeholders, electricity consumers will pay between 50 and 100 per cent increase over and above subsisting tariff. Perhaps it should be mentioned that many consumers have described the current tariff regime as choking and exploitative, particularly against the backdrop of poor services.

IN a communique issued at the end of its two-day workshop with the 11 PHCN distribution companies in Abuja on April 13, 2011, NERC decried the passing of unauthorised and illegal charges to consumers and advised its discontinuance. Prominent among the illegal charges are Meter maintenance and meter replacement and installation charges.

PERHAPS the most burdensome of the illegal charges is the meter maintenance charge. Not a few customers find this charge very offensive, because unlike the meter replacement and installation charge, which is one off, meter maintenance is charged monthly and it is quite significant. For instance, a consumer using 3-phase pre-paid meter gets energy of N2,800 only if he pays N4,500 to PHCN under the existing tariff structure. The balance of N1,700 is deducted as charges.

About N1,300 of this sum is attributed to monthly meter maintenance charge! This has been the practice since pre-paid meter was introduced even though PHCN does not maintain any meter. It was, therefore, a much needed elixir for consumers who were already suffocating when NERC declared those charges as unjustifiable, illegal and ordered that they be discontinued.

OVER five months after the seemingly unequivocal directive from the regulatory body for the stoppage of the illegal charges, the PHCN is yet to stop. Ironically, at one of the PHCN distribution offices in Ibadan, an official of the company claimed that NERC gave them the authority to apply those charges and, indeed, specified the amounts to be charged. An official memo allegedly originating from NERC supporting the official’s assertion was displayed at the customer care section of the PHCN office. Could it be that NERC simply chose to condemn the illegal and unjustifiable charges in the public just to tell the consumers what they would like to hear?

WHETHER or not the PHCN has the tacit approval of NERC to continue to rip off consumers under the guise of meter maintenance charge, the fact is that the charge is unreasonable and unwarranted. The PHCN does not maintain any meter. It is, therefore, immoral, unconscionable, and fraudulent of the utility organisation to charge for services it does not render. And it is annoying and insulting to the sensibilities of Nigerians that these illegal charges, including meter maintenance charge, have been reportedly factored into the subsisting Multi-Year-Tariff-Order (MYTO). Yet, the PHCN is still charging consumers specifically for it. The implication is that electricity consumers are being charged twice for a service not rendered. This is not acceptable.

IS it not curious that PHCN even charges the monthly meter maintenance fee whether or not a customer uses electricity in a month? Indeed, a PHCN official in Ibadan confirmed that if a consumer travels out of the country for, say, six months and shuts down power supply to his premises for the period, the company will still charge meter maintenance fee for the six months. It is that bad.

IF the much touted power/energy reform programme is to succeed, the PHCN must be structured and monitored to operate in an efficient and transparent manner. The PHCN, clearly, is yet to purge itself of the inefficient, extortionist, and rent seeking monopolistic indulgence of its predecessor, National Electric Power Authority (NEPA).

FOR starters, NERC should promptly look into the allegation of collection of illegal fees, especially the meter maintenance charge. The regulatory agency should rein in this illegality, very timely, if it is to be trusted with critical roles in the ongoing reform programme in the power/energy sector.

http://tribune.com.ng/index.php/editorial/28817-phcns-illegal-charges

The Commissioner of Police, Kebbi State Command, Alhaji Latif Abiodun Junaid, has charged the officers and ranks serving in the state not to commit suicide or be allowed to be killed while on active service but should pray for successful retirement so as to be alive to enjoy the fruits of their labour.

He gave this charge while addressing police formations in Bunza, Dakingari, Birnin Kebbi, Area command and 36 Mobile Barracks, saying “you must ensure your personal safety first so that you can provide an effective performance of protecting others.”

Mr Junaid advised the policemen to always be cautious. Though Kebbi State was relatively peaceful, he said, issues of security must not be taken with laxity saying, they must be at alert at all time to prevent any unpredictable situation as security cautiousness always prevented crime occurrence.

According to him, it had been a standing order that no police station must be allowed to be bombed or burnt, adding  that any station that such happened, both the state commissioner  and policemen on duty would be arrested and prosecuted,  warning each policeman to remain at security alert of his environment.

http://tribune.com.ng/index.php/news/28859-dont-commit-suicide-commissioner-tells-police-officers

Nigeria will face Guinea in a must-win match on October 8 to emerge Group B qualifier for the 2012 Africa Cup of Nations. The two-time African champion is second on the log with 10 points, three adrift group leader, Guinea.

Coach Samson Siasia, who was among the hundreds that watched Heartland FC of Owerri saw off fellow oriental foe, Enyimba International of Aba 1–0 in the final of the 2011 Federation Cup on Sunday at the Teslim Balogun Stadium, Lagos, said that the Guineans’ dream for a Nations Cup slot would be punctured on the last day of the qualifying matches.

“We must win against Guinea on October 8. It does not matter whether it is one, two or three zero. What matters is to win and qualify for the Gabon/Equatorial Guinea Nations Cup,” the Nigerian manager said.

On the Federation Cup final in Lagos, Siasia believes that the Naze Millionaires are deserved champions.
“Heartland played more purposeful football and showed more hunger for victory.
“I think they deserved their win. I wish them an excellent reign,” Siasia, who once handled Heartland said.

http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/sports/2011/sept/28/sports-28-09-2011-001.html

Roberto Mancini has claimed striker Carlos Tevez refused to come on as a substitute for Manchester City in their 2-0 loss to Bayern Munich in the Champions League on Tuesday night.


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Mancini turned to Tevez in the second half of City's European match at the Allianz Arena as his side trailed 2-0 following a first-half brace from Bayern forward Mario Gomez.

But, speaking after the defeat, the Italian coach has said Tevez, who was linked with a move away from the club in the summer although a transfer failed to materialise, would not enter the fray when Mancini looked to alter City's fortunes.

Mancini said: "He just refused to go on. I don't know why. I cannot be happy with this situation. Would something like this happen at Bayern Munich, AC Milan or Manchester United? I am the manager. I decide everything.

"I have helped him every time for two years, he has wanted to leave but I still picked him. The thing is there were still 30 minutes until the end of the game. We could still change it. Carlos didn't play at the start of the season because he has not had a pre-season for three years. He was not ready to play.

"If it was another player maybe this could happen but for a player to refuse to go on in an important game like this is not right."

When asked if he had any explanation for Tevez's behaviour, Mancini said: "It is impossible. I asked him to go in and help with the team. We have 11 players. Maybe he was disappointed because he didn't play (from the start)."

City boss Mancini went as far as to suggest Tevez, who left Manchester United for City in 2009, will not play for the club again. Mancini said: "If I have my way he will be out of the club.''

Pressed further on if Tevez was finished at City, Mancini said: "I don't decide this, but if I did, then yes. I helped Carlos for two years but I cannot accept this behaviour.''

Tevez, speaking through an interpreter, gave little away. In an interview with Sky Sports News he said: "I have been professional during all my time here. Last season I was the top scorer and I wanted to leave for family reasons - but I keep trying to do my best.''

The mood contrasted starkly with Bayern who are top of the group with six points from two games thanks to victory courtesy of two goals by Mario Gomez.

After a good opening by City, the Bundesliga leaders took control and were ultimately good value for their victory. Manager Jupp Heynckes said: "We chose the right time to score and then played very confidently.

"At the beginning of the game we were nervous and we did not do ourselves justice. We changed midway through the first half and came into the game. Franck Ribery has given a world-class performance, Bastian Schweinsteiger also.

"In the second half we played as a unified team. At the moment we have not only a great team spirit, but also act in harmony, a good foundation and outstanding individuals.''

Chairman Karl-Heinz Rummenigge concurred, saying: "This was a very good game from us. Manchester City also played very well in the first 30 minutes to show that they are a strong team.

"We played mainly in the second half, totally in control. It was a great team performance, with Franck Ribery and Jerome Boateng playing really strong.''

Goalscorer Gomez said: "Manchester ran the ball well at the beginning. We were perhaps a little nervous, which is really inexplicable, because we are actually in a good phase. As a team we have from the 30th minute done well and ultimately deserved to win. I have not played outstanding, but scored two goals.''

http://soccernet.espn.go.com/news/story/_/id/962673/roberto-mancini:-carlos-tevez-'refused'-to-play-for-city?cc=3888

Congrat. Yours is on the way.

My problem is, those you call trusted friends, how trustworthy are they?

And so what?

OP, i'm constraint to agree with ANTI-sex cos i dont know the type of advise you want from NL. You expect them to tell to to continue? Do you know Ben Johnson? Go and borrow his shoes. I'm out

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