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michigang:
thank you my sister brother. At my I still dey read nosec because I want to speak better English

Spartachico007:
Upgrade your self bro and it doesn’t have to be cause of the rejection ,what if you’re business grows into a multimillion company and then you will want to run for a public office that requires a higher institution certificate ....what will you .... we aren’t electing any ssce holder into higher places in government anymore

coldcandy:
Lol..
Then he is an incurable egoist

KillingIsFun:
Well, the emphasis is on written English, not spoken English.

When I was a student in the University of Ibadan, I had a lecturer who spoke English with a thick Ibadan accent and we used to make fun of him. Today he's a PhD doctoral candidate in Tufts University in the United States and his articles have been published in international journals.

Your ability to express yourself fluently and competently matters.

advanceDNA:
Guy...girls no plenty ooo...
Have u seen the streets lately...na shédì bálábálá girls full outside now.

. girls wey dey fvck ex, girls wey no get marriage values, girls wey no see paternity fraud as anything, girls with no team mentality, 20 body counts with abortions to match...

If I loose the girl I have now...I'm not searching again...

yunqdady:
For self improvement.

SmartPolician:
Bro, it's not about getting married to a woman. Getting a high education now will save you a lot of embarrassment in the future. Imagine how Soludo is using his professorial academic qualification to intimate other contestants in Anambra elections.

You never know the ambition you will have tomorrow and someone says you cannot have it because you didn't further your education.

You can do a part-time and get that certificate. It improves your worth and nobody can belittle you because of ordinary documents. More importantly, you are definitely going to learn when you return to school.

Alternatively, you can settle for a polytechnic. Do your OND and pause. Later, you can finish your HND. Anyone who stops learning is DEAD! This is an angle to look at things from.

coldcandy:
The poster seems too proud and pompous. The family saw that too.
OP, when u upgrade your education you will realize that there's more to life than having money.

TheOldGods:
school was never and can't ever be scam

Imagine without this same school, no body would have found covid vaccine, na so all of us go die, a bi what about malaria, you don even see illiterate produce drug?

TheOldGods:
this is the most stupid nonsense I have read here in a while.

And im sure it's coming from a person who has no degree.

advanceDNA:
You and you girlfriend should fake pregnancy for the family ...that's the way people have been solving this type of issue...if they call your bluff...get her pregnant for real......nonsense and ingredient...because of SSCE ...they are not serious..

yunqdady:
You should upgrade.

McLizbae:
All I know is that the God I serve will never let my daughter settle with a man she's higher than financially, educationally and intellectually.

TEACHER4REAL:
Degree is not ordinary paper it is knowledge and knowledge is power and they might be right in there own one because marriage requires compatibility so that they can reason in similar direction and not just money

lilyheaven:
If she wants to go let her go, but she will regret it later.

My husband had this issue before he met me.
The young lady he wanted to settle down with refused him because he was an OND holder, while she was a medical student then. Unfortunately she was already pregnant, but her mom said over her dead body would her daughter marry a nobody, they aborted the baby.

When he met me, my family started their own drama,
They turned their back on me, called me names, hmmm,
I have never regretted saying yes to him.

As for the other lady, he won’t leave my husband alone, claiming she can’t live without him.

Make more money, Na them go rush you

KillingIsFun:
The syntactic and grammatical quality of his written English is nowhere near as good as he thinks it is. It may be better than others with his level of education, but it lacks the degree of fluency associated with a good University education.

Guyman02:
I senior you well well and I am doing a part time programme in a Polytechnic at weekends and enjoying it, I have my seniors in the class that we have formed a bond, some have patronized me that I met in the school to boost my business, do it for yourself and the woman you love not because of her family.
It's nothing much to worry about, knowledge is endless.

From your written English it will be a smooth sail to pass your courses, my wife is a Master Degree and well placed.
I took up upgrading myself as a personal challenge starting ND 1 at my age

muykem:
You can go back to school. I can't allow my daughter to marry illiterate even if he's a billionaire.

Aforxzy:
Why not have a discussion with your babe again and know the real reason behind this SSCE thingy. What led to it and how did she react. Did she just accept their excuse without a fight back orshe is with you despite this.

If you trully love each other then love will conquer this too.

Jemmysax:
Thank God u have SSCE. It's not too late brother, u can still get yourself a degree, I'm sure the family will have a change of mind once they get the news that u're now enrolled into one tertiary institution.

descarado:
You never loved her.
No need. Move on

Lostchild:
GraciousGod190

I also blame you because at 36 you are supposes to use common sense to know that your girlfriend and his families are using your education as their proxy over their hidden agenda.

There are many factors they are not telling you.

1. You may be from a different tribe

2. You do not have enough finance to their expectation. They wanted someone with a more better career and money than you.

3. She is listening to her family to make choices for her over her future.

4. You should use your head. Marriage has nothing to do with education. It is left for you to move on and be pround of yourself, don't beg them, show self worth and your girlfriend will see your worth.

5. If your girl can't stand for you, she is not worthy to be your wife.

Some nigeria families with their gold digger mindset, they want to eat cook food without cooking the food.

DaddyRochie1642:
Your English and your writing is good for an Ssce holder.

maureensylvia:
Upon say I'm there fellow woman oo

Joyceaile:
u hit the nail on the head ,i perharps U didn’t get my point sir,in most cases,it’s is not a daily thing,somtimes it’s psychological,cos of so many challenges ,the mood does not set in,but in most cases when it happens,it becomes heavingly

Spherical77:
You won't blame those women at times. It's what their aged parents had deposited into them. No matter their education or level of exposure, it'd only take God's grace for them to know

Besides, some might be Muslim. It's a norms in their religion

989900:
Leave those species, they like arguing just for the sake of it.

My cousin married (court wedding) a rich man with wife (traditional wedding) and 5 kids . . . we all kinda disowned her, but bottom line, she is the legal wife, and God forbid, if the man dies intestate, no be kasala be dat?

Joyceaile:
u are right to an extent ,but I disagree with u regards single guys only dey hype am

Bellerophon:
OP is actually very right as every points raised within her concise submission are salient and infallible truths, for those trying to comprehend the discussion from a tainted view of cultural sentiments such attempts are opinions lacking of the thoroughness of empiricism and thus subjective and less reflective of cogent truths! Human societies are governed by laws, laws universally assumed to be a product of collective will represented by political republicanism, these laws are extant and codified in acts of the legislative arms of government and are deemed sacrosanct and preeminent over other types of laws cultural ones inclusive! One of such laws is the marriage ordinance or act which defines what a marriage is between a man and woman by way of statutory codification with regards to ceremony and legal requirement! Events transpired in the course of relationships that involve cohabitating as a domestic household or marriages recognized under the disparate bodies of customary law cannot be actionable in a court of competent jurisdiction as the existence of the subject matter is null and void in the eyes of the law since the prevailing law pertaining to marriage (the marriage ordinance or act) and don’t forget the infallible supremacy of positive law here does not recognize relationship of the sorts in its legal canonization ! Now does customary law enables polygamy? is another salient question worthy of answering, the axiomatic truth that will always prevail beyond bias and sentiment remains that the African society in its cultural majority is a patriarchal one, where gender defines and influences significantly the roles, responsibilities , privileges and moral allowances apportioned each member of the gender subset! It is morally common to have public opinion accommodate men cheating over their wives and trivializing infidelity with the advise of polygamy in the stead, more like a slap on the wrist and rabidly demonizing a woman when we strays outside the vows of her marriage ! This is the harsh reality of contemporary African society despite the improvements and influences of technology over our lives! However this argument does not legitimize the fallacy that the African society prescribes polygamy substantively by default, even if the question of cultural enablement continues to be incumbent and lingering. The foundation of human culture is conscionable existence that engenders the welfare and continuity of the collective with allowance for a respect for the inalienable rights conferred on others by the default of their human nature! Culture is not repressive and is as dynamic as the society that it models! Humanity is dynamic and change is the only constant, culture and modernity continues to interact in a way that prevails over the order of our lives, The old common law, a relic of colonialism and the primary source of our jurisprudence and legislation, a part of which is the marriage act continues to interact with our lives even as we remain with our cultural education in our marriages, however it is important knowing this to go all out to make sure such relationships qualify for the definition of marriage for all intent and purposes under the law to avoid stories that touch further buttressing OPs argument but with a lot of dimensions

vRendoh:
No mind that Guy....his type has led many fools into polygamy while he is stuck to just one. They hail and clap an idiot to abandoned his wife for a side chic and eventually marriage.
One na heavy load to carry o!

Miarose:
Please just shut up. This thread is to educate ignorant girls like you. Dont you see how stupid you sound, in this nigeria, you dont know the importance of court over traditional marriage? Please pick up a primary six social studies textbook for more explanation. Even the men here know the truth and are trying to explain to you....

@kobojunkie, God bless you for being soo civil with these kids.... Girls for that matter in this nigeria... Na wa oo.....

flavnwokem:
Under traditional marriage ,there is no restriction on the man not to marry more wives but with court or approved church marriages, is bigamy for him to get another wife legally without divorcing the first , but the catch is he can go traditional with the next wife acquisition without kegalizing it through court or church ,but in the eyes of the law ,the 2nd acquisition does not exist .