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Lmao. Tinubu slaves are crying in this thread .... But the fools voted Buhari twice. Very funny idiots

emmy4uNME:
hmmm..... Are you sure you can cope on the long run??
know that
1. A woman's body ages fast than a man... so she'll look more older than you in few years time. Will you still be faithful and be happy and proud having her as your wife??

2. Will you also be able to absorb all her mouth and don't think she's talking because she's older than you?

Think again my guy!!!

Very good question. Na when she tell am, "I don't blame you, you're still a small boy", na then him eyes go clear

oldienavie:
In all these examples there is not 1 single African there talkless of Nigerian.
Even abroad, younger men marrying older women is the exception not the norm.


@oP na small child still dey do you... when you grow up small your eye will open.
Age is not just a number, especially if you are an African. Oyinbo people have already normalised homosexuality while it carries 14 year jail term in Nigeria.
The summary of my talk is that we are Africans/Nigerians and as such reason like one.

You're wise. Let these ones continue deceiving themselves

UndauntedYOCA:
Shakira and Gerard Piqué have been married for about 10 years now, Shakira is Older than Piqué and there's been no bad news about them(none that I know of).
Macron is way younger than his wife and younger than her children.
I think what you should be more concerned about is respect, do you both respect eachother regardless of the age difference? Even if you're older and neither of you respects the other, it might not work unless you both enjoy violence.
Personally, respect and other stuff are what I consider and not the age (especially if the age gap isn't much).
Anyway, no be Piqué, Macron and other people go decide for you.
What do you both want? How do you treat eachother?

They're not married and I find it funny that you focus on marriages in the West, while totally forgetting this is NAIJA

wunmi590:


As a married man, one of the things I have always prayed for is never to raise my hand to beat the mother of my kid, who go through alot to bear me my kids (never will I do that)...

Please, that marriage is not for you, because marrying him would give him more leverage to beat you more at will, knowing fully well he has paid your bride price...

Not just my wife, any woman at all. Anything wey go make me think to beat my wife is strong enough to necessitate a divorce. I would gladly tour the lane of divorce than raise my hands on somebody's daughter

2braithe:
Personally,I don't give a hoot.
I don't even greet anyone in my neighborhood.
I face my front.
The highest they'll do is to murmur.

Till it happens

2braithe:
I'm not a celebrity so I'm not perturbed.

She is only being dragged because she is a public figure.Me I'm a "private figure"

You don't know what you're saying. You matter fit no reach social media, but you go hear am for your area. Be calming down

2braithe:
How did she f up?
Who doesn't have sex?
Recording it is a personal choice.
And it was uploaded mistakenly not intentionally.

Let your own leak, make we see whether you go still make mouth

ivolt:
Fake news.
CCTV or not, there is no evidence of rape and the man was never going to any jail.
Rape is one of the most difficult case to prosecute and the victim's word is never enough for conviction.

That Yoruba case is a joke to you!

UselessBuharist:
I wonder why anyone will try to justify that act, a full grown woman making a sex video of herself?

All her husband accused her of is true.

Me as a guy will never allow a woman to record that act with me..

41 year old woman o. Even the Kim they're comparing her with was a kid when she did hers

bukatyne:
I understand his anger and frustration.

However, he is not working out solution to resolve the issue, he is throwing in the towel like it is easy for him to move on.

He can even engage the family and alley their fears without going back to school sef.

Hopefully, he does that later. Personally, I may not. It almost never ends well

Afodot0022:
Good day my fellow nairalanders. Pls pardon my typo errors and will just make this brief as i can. I need your inputs in this scenerio that is giving me some sort of concern.

I have been married for close to five years now and have two kids to it. My marriage to my wife has been ups and down but have always tried my best to be a responsible husband and also father. I ensure I take care of my home financially to my capabilities.

My wife happens to be a good wife though with her own flaws as she is not perfect. She always has the notion that am cheating on her and have a side chick. But to be honest to you guys, i have never had sex with any other woman except my wife ever since i married her. Though at times the temptation might come to catch some flings out there but will later decline such thought and abort any action have made to do it on the long run.. At times my wife will read chats I do have with some random girls and have the notion that am cheating. I know i have been wrong in this but attimes a man will want to be a man but as i said earlier, have never had sex with those girls. Just random chats that all and it doesnt go further or lead anywhere.

So it happened that me and my wife had a very serious misunderstanding recently that resulted to verbal abuse and also almost physical violence from the two of us. The last time i intended to have sex with my wife, she denied me and this had been in my mind and got me so angry towards her. So it happend that she needed my help for something and did not help, she started shouting and nagging and this got me angry and i almost hit her but i didn't. During those heated moment she started saying things about my cheating and so on. She said if am not cheating that i should swear with bible but i refuse to swear that night. Upon the following day i decided to even swear with bible that i have never had sex with any woman ever sinced i married her. I know i was innocent and i truely swear that very day to make her change her mindset and perception about me.

After the swear, something happened that makes me confused till this very day, I ask my wife to also use the Bible to swear that she had not cheated or slept with any man ever since she got married to me. Could you imagine that despite all my efforts to make my wife to swear using the bible, she refused bluntly that she will never do such. I asked her why but she insisted she is not going to swear.

This got me concerned and was asking myself why is this woman refusing to do this if truely she is innocent and doesnt have any skeleton in her compound. Her excuse was that she cant use the world of God to swear but mind you she is the one that prompted me to do such at first. I even seized her phone that if she doesnt swear i wont return the phone to her but despite my threat, my wife didn't not.

This lasted for hours and I later gave up on the quest. Ever since then have not being myself and have been thinking alot. My wife doesnt look like someone that can cheat on me cos have not seen any traces as such but with this her action, its making me to have a rethink about her.

Pls house i dont know what step to take as i need your mature advice on way forward on this issues troubling me. Every input will be well appreciated especially from married and experienced people.

OP, stop disturbing your wife to swear with Bible. Even if she's cheating, you won't know. I have a baba you can go to. Just take her name there and swear on her behalf. If she has cheated in the marriage, you go come back house see say she don die. But if you love her so much and don't want her to die nonsense death, threaten her about you going to one baba to see if she's cheating. If she tells you to go ahead, please do. Her death na ontop her head be that. This is the ONLY advice you should be considering now

Saintmary:
I don't care for your opinion, my point is that the husband and wife are wrong.

They should both grow sense and run their marriage effectively, whatever happens to their marriage, heaven will not fall.

If the husband, who is the leader cannot avoid appearances of evil like emotional cheating, then he cannot understand that the wife is only responding to his type of leadership. He deserves the type of wife he got. That's my point.

If you go to court and you're to swear by the bible to tell the truth, you won't? You ladies eh, who no fear una never get sense

Nwaezehopr:
Guy, it seems you don't have adultery forbidden tradition in your village. I can never bother myself about my wife cheating because I know the village I come from and she knows the consequences. Once she tries it death or madness is the next. But, I really know how you are feeling now and she is not even helping the issue. Your mind will not be at rest unless you settle the score.

You still dey learn

Bola146:
It is wrong!! Swearing with the Bible, let them use Cutlass or gun

Why did she insist on it? The lady is guilty

error4040:
The Part I saw MTK Processor I just de Vex since, make them no de behave like that Transion abi Transistor company

Believe it or not, mtk has come to stay. The gcam vibes don dey die, so

genius43:
Redmi Note 11 Series Launching on 28th October in China.

Centered Punch Hole Selfie Camera
Side Mounted Fingerprint
Dual Speakers (JBL)
IR Blaster
3.5mm Jack
Matrix Camera Module.

No talk of Global launch and expect MediaTek processors as well

Good. Make e quick come make I for fit buy Redmi Note 10 pro

bukatyne:
I don't see his love shining through in the whole situation.

Like I said, dude is disappointed and angry. If you love someone truly and you planned on building a family with that someone, nurturing such relationship for 4 years, only to be ready to tie the knot and you're rejected simply because of your educational status, you'd also be angry and your "love" may also not shine through the whole situation. Like I said, it's natural. I would feel same too

rosalieene:
You clearly don't love her.

See the way you're saying SO BE IT with your full chest.

He should die? Abi force himself on the babe against the family's wish? Love with your brain and not with your heart

Vision101:
@ityP

Many educated illiterates on this thread. So, after your secondary school, you didn't know what menu is abi? Na for uni dem start to teach you English? How do seemingly educated persons look at a secondarians as illiterates? Like how? I was already very good in speaking and writing English before I entered the university. And if you've been to the university yourself, you of all people should know they don't teach English there. Even GST 101 didn't go half deep into what I learnt in secondary school. In fact, that class was so unnecessary, I barely attended. As someone who've been to the university, I can authoritatively tell you SCHOOL NA SCAM. The only reason I dey enter school na to use the degree find work. If I see something way better to generate income later, my certificate would be totally useless. I know many graduates who can't speak good English sef. Why? Their educational foundation was faulty. You only need primary school and secondary school education to be able to speak good and sweet English. If you think otherwise, you're more likely an illiterate yourself >:


@me
Oga calm down. That statement was used to show the typical behaviour of an illiterate or semi-illiterate man. In the 21st century a school cert holder is at best a semi-illiterate person. I will not allow my son/daughter to marry such no matter how rich the person is.

Those that went to school and still claim that "school na scam" are those that went to school for certificate and not knowledge. Nothing polishes and emboldens a man like sound education. Money or no money.

That statement shows many ssce holders may just be more educated than you are. As one commentator told you, a university is an institution purely for advanced knowledge. There's nothing like a semi literate when referring to secondarians. A secondarian is a literate. Like I said, there's no knowledge to be sought in places of higher learning in this country; none! You use Facebook, and you maybe surprised to know that Mark Zuckerberg no attend higher institution. You may never be more polished or embolden than that guy. I have a friend who is a computer wizard and he didn't attend the four walls of the university. I can boldly say; you as a graduate, you can't stand where that guy stands. He is invited by professors in universities to tutor PhD students; dude has no certificate. If you think a university degree is what it takes for one to be called literate, bros, you be illiterate. Nuff said

bukatyne:
You do not have disposition of a man who has loved a girl for four years and wants to marry her.

Perhaps that's what her parents are really responding to.

Dude is angry and rightly so. He's also disappointed. Most men would feel this way

NaBanga:
Later later the married woman will cry. I've seen it many times. She will then run to her parents to help her flee the marriage. I pray it is not your own marriage that I am rubbishing, but these type of marriages rarely make it for life.

You're funny

trevorhorace:
Bro I tire o. Most people think to be regarded as well educated is when you go to the university and get a degree. Without realizing that you are already educated if you attended a good secondary school. Many graduates can't construct a simple sentence without blunder. Writing is a chore to them. Yet they have degrees. University is mainly for advanced studies relating to a choice of career.
Many of our so called graduates cannot hold a feather near the bright minds in secondary schools. Look at competitions like Olympiad or our very own Cowbellpedia . Some masters holders cannot even dare those teens.

Most Nigerians idea of education is so warped and limited.
That's why they look down on ssce holders. To them acquiring more and more certificates is what education is about.

Omo. You've said everything abeg

NigeriaIsGreat:
I'm not surprised anyway. There are foolish girls like her out there who would always dance to the tune of their boyfriend and husband. If she can boldly lie about his level of education to her parents. Then trust me she'd forever lie for anything just to make him look good to her family

Last last na premium tears dey always end am

They would find it difficult going back to their parents and family because of shame. Whatever you start with lies especially relationship, friendship, marriage don't always end well

I pity her parents honestly

Beautifully put tbh

bukatyne:
@bold:

Interesting.

E shock you abi

bukatyne:
Would the school retrieve the certificate after his marriage?

Would the knowledge he gained (which can expand his business) be lost on his wedding night?

Which knowledge? Cram and pour? Lmao. I've been there abeg. If I show you my transcript, you go fear. But all na wash. Nothing like knowledge. We cram, we write exams, we pass. We're hailed as good students and those wey even sabi sef, na Dem dey fail .

This dude has never thought of furthering his education, but because one family said their daughter won't marry a secondarian, he should now run to school, so that he will marry ONE girl Out of the billions of ladies in the world Lmao.

toren:
Your mother doesn't have sense.

Aswear she get sense pass you and your mama. Most likely, na your mumu mama teach you to lie. She probably lied to her own parents about your dad .... Generational foolishness

bukatyne:
What if she becomes 'higher' in marriage?

Good question. I await his answer

NaBanga:
Would you want your highly educated daughter to marry a dog breeder? What do you they have to discuss? Money is very important but it's not everything. Unless the dog breeder has Buhari level money, help your child avoid disappointment later.

They're married and they seem very happy together. For your mind now, if I marry babe wey go uni too, we go dey discuss better abi? LoL. We will be talking about uni days .... You people should stop deceiving yourselves. I dated a fellow uni student and we just didn't flow as much. My ex sef wey be secondarian, we flowed more. She run marry, if not, I for don dey think marriage. I know many couples who are like these ones and they're living happy. Make una dey segregate dey go

bukatyne:
He can even do NOUN that is online.

Because he wan marry babe?
You people are funny

NigeriaIsGreat:
This is what you know how to do best

1. Carry man put for head a.k.a love wantiti
2. Lied and decieve your parents about a man
3. Always doing what a man tells you

Do you know what? Those of our parents and senior omes who did exactly or similar like you. Putting man on their head always regret it. That's the fact

Those men usually fail them at the end. You can go and ask. Ask from your elder ones. Do you know Why? Because they are not supposed to marry him at first, but they're so foolish enough to be blinded by his dick and senseless obsession as someone rightly said, that you lots call love

Dick and love that you can always get elsewhere

That isn't love but foolishness. Those men will never bend any rules for you in their family. Those men will never cover up for your short comings to their friends and family

I still don't know what is wrong with some girls. Especially Yoruba girls. Didn't you read NPTJ post about his sister on family thread? Na your Yoruba sister like you. She was so stupid and foolish to have be lying like you and covering up for the man

Look at where she is today.

I don't pity you honestly. Na una parents i dey pity

Having raising una up one idiot will come and use deceit to take them away. Parents make una shine una eyes o na mumu daughters some of una dey raise

Btw, yes you will continue lying in your marriage. You will be telling your parents and family members good good things about your husband even though it's all lies. You've started the lies already. You will forever continue. I know your type so you don't have to say anything

The babe no get sense aswear

NigeriaIsGreat:
You will still continue telling tales of lies, that's the truth

You've started with lies already. You will lie yourself to marriage. No Jupiter can tell me you won't continue with that. It's in your blood already

I know your type, una dey carry man put for head. Yoruba girls wey dey put love above everything, they can marry anything, just anything

Na love dey shark you Madam love in Tokyo No worry, you go still get sense continue giving reasons why is good to be telling lies especially when it comes to marriage

May God not give us daughters that would take us for a fool because of a man. May God also give parents the wisdom to detect every lies their daughters will tell just to favour a man

The babe shock me aswear