₦airaland Forum

Dude says he "needed" a sugar mummy and believe its in the past now. He def has no need for one and and i want to believe his leaving his number is to advice and dissuade younger less obnoxious lazy young men from following in such obtuse path, abi @ post nah lie?

@mrbrownjay,
point is when two career minded people get married one person always has to put his/hers on a slow.
Yes you could say they both shouldnt get married if they both realise this before marriage, what if in a case where they are already married and have to now take this decision in the light of events unfolding @ that time? I hope u get me.




@upendo 98,
there are strong and salient points that justify, and swing in both favours, but my concern is if the guy is true to himself, and sees that his wife stands a better shot @ a blossoming carrer than he does, will he be willing to do it?

You all think cos she is a masters degree holder makes her literate? With this our present educational system.

Where i previously worked, i was head of training, so almost everyone somehow came bym me. A lady once came highly recommended, with her masters and all. I was unable to conduct her training, so i asked my assistant to. Dudes report about the lady shocked me cos he is even more patient than i am. Well i eventually had to conduct myself and boy was i dissapointed.
She was nothing to write home about, and i had to doubt her masters. As @ when i left that place, she was still being transfered from dept to dept looking for iwa she could fit in.
So if nah dat kain masters dis one hold, abeg tell bros to marry go one hand.

@ post, i think you basic problem is immaturity simple!

I did have ur same issue @ some point in ma life, but guess what, i was 17 then. I wasnt mature enough to handle a relationship, and i guess i dint even know what a committed one was meant to be like. Which brings me to ask, how old are u?

That said, i just think you should grow up and act mature, afterall do you know how much crap the ladies u dumped saw in u and had to put up with? There is no perfect being, ask ur sisters!

Its truely difficult to forget and let it move on especially when half the time you know the dude who she cheated on you with. And when you get to think about it, he probably wouldnt measure to ur standard, which keeps you asking " why on earth do women cheat":

If a situationa rises where a married couple has to determine who's careers sits on the burner while the other progresses, and after looking @ all angles you find that your wife stands a better opportunity @ having a more successful career than you would, will you give up yours and support her?

Forget that aspects of pride eventually creeping in or she maybe cheating on you or looking down @ you, cos she aint the type and you know her well enough.
My question is, can you be that man?
The one that would support his wife, stand by her, advice her and give up his dreams to help her achieve hers?

Please i ask for matured answers here, ladies with such experiences are welcomed to comment.

There was an undertone to the banky tale, but not the way its carried here.
And yes,, we all know the u.s had a hand in it,

I really dont see the reason why you feel tied to this new lady with all this complains. But then again, ur also a part of the problem cos u av refused to let ur past be and keep using ur ex as a standard which this new lady fails to meet up with.

Dude, we all had ex's who we tot where the one, but they r the past now and we faced the present.

Let ur ex be, and if miss who ever is present doesnt meet what you wan in a wife, show her the door.

If you choose a wife that works with you and not walk by you, that understands you and knows your goals and aspirations and helps you work and plan towards achieving them. Then you inadvently have chosen God's will for you as a wife.

I believe its only in rare cases God actually points to an individuals and say "thats her". More often than not its a case of what ur heart desires.

If you choose a wife that works with you and not walk by you, that understands you and knows your goals and aspirations and helps you work and plan towards achieving them. Then you inadvently have chosen God's will for you as a wife.

I believe its only in rare cases God actually points to an individuals and say "thats her". More often than not its a case of what ur heart desires.

@octar, i believe what you mean is that there should be some level of discipline and a sense of direction.

@mrs chima, i never described a parent to child relationship.
Am talking of a proper home, where a man and a woman are living as married couple.
You dont just expect that each party does as he/she pleases do you.
Someone has to lead, could be the guy or the girl, but must be done in a subtle manner.

When you say she is not the wayward type, what exactly do you mean, cos her actions and ur obversations speak otherwise.

If she dates other people on the side, to which she admits to, does that not smack of waywardness?
Better get ur tinking cap straight, and do right before u come to nl in the future complaining of a cheating wife!

It would hurt, but i suggest you let go and move on.
Onething i do, is try to see the positives about every situation.
The girl he is marrying might have hurriedly taken what could have been a disaster for you if you had married him.
Moreso, i choose not to believe ur friends hubby dint know abt this all the while.
Aniways, he has his reasons and until he's side of the story is told, i can only advice u based on urs.

There is def no reason to tryy controlling your spouse, as it simply proves a sign of insecurity and weakness.

But all relationship has to have ome level of discipline and authority, and the one supposedly welding that authority has to show it with maturity.

I do understand the clamour about how we will be exploited by leasing this lands to foreigners, but the major question here is can Nigerian government afford to make adequate provisions for its people when greed and selfishness has thrown most state into the brink of bankrupcy?

What i believe the wisest thing to do, is sit with this peole, and negotiate terms that are beneficial to both parties. Afterall, they have the money to invest and we the land to provide.
If we turn them back, is our government bouyant enough to carry out such plans immediately?
What they should consider is % sharing formula in both produce, employment and security provision. We cant cry thief to foreigners just becos its okay for the locals to continue to rob. Development must come, either by force from the western world, or by realisation by our own people.

I welcome the idea, albeit with alot of caution and protection to the Nigerian economy.

I do understand the clamour about how we will be exploited by leasing this lands to foreigners, but the major question here is can Nigerian government afford to make adequate provisions for its people when greed and selfishness has thrown most state into the brink of bankrupcy?

What i believe the wisest thing to do, is sit with this peole, and negotiate terms that are beneficial to both parties. Afterall, they have the money to invest and we the land to provide.
If we turn them back, is our government bouyant enough to carry out such plans immediately?
What they should consider is % sharing formula in both produce, employment and security provision. We cant cry thief to foreigners just becos its okay for the locals to continue to rob. Development must come, either by force from the western world, or by realisation by our own people.

I welcome the idea, albeit with alot of caution and protection to the Nigerian economy.

One of the reasons confessions are made in the first place, is cos u accept ur wrong and are ready to face the resulting consequence.

Only a fool will expect to be forgiven and embraced when trust is betrayed.
If for any reason u'v cheated, then whenever u decide to tell the truth, tell it knowing that could be the end of ur relationship as u knew it. And if he certainly forgives, ur one of the lucky few out there.

Seems the main issue has been disregarded here.
The question i believe should have been how many nigerian guys propose maraige really.
The norm has always been that the girl either keeps asking the guy"when r u coming to see my people", or the guy wakes up one morning and tells her " lets go and see ur people". Inn between all this, no ring changes hands. Its the girl who eventually buys herself an engagment ring when she is sure she is "the one". Thats the naija way.

Seems the main issue has been disregarded here.
The question i believe should have been how many nigerian guys propose maraige really.
The norm has always been that the girl either keeps asking the guy"when r u coming to see my people", or the guy wakes up one morning and tells her " lets go and see ur people". Inn between all this, no ring changes hands. Its the girl who eventually buys herself an engagment ring when she is sure she is "the one". Thats the naija way.

I believe bakare took the right decision, and though am not sure what the reasons or intents are as to why he did.

Come to think of it, the man was asked to append his signature to a document that was falsified, bore wrong status of the man and also compromised his faith.

If he was after selfish interest like soo many claimed, the wisest thing to have done was to have agreed to the shoddy offer knowing fully well that he stood to gain something from the arrangement.


Maybe sometimes, some people in nigeria do things for the right reasdons. Just maybe,

I must add here that i am not here to judge the political inclination or his choice of alliance, since i know some would divert thier attention towards such, but rather his moral tenecity displayed in the face of a political victory for cpc if he accpeted the alliance of an ACN venture.

I watched bakare on AIT during his church service this morning, and although he raised soo many issues, one was of interest to me.

His refusal to sign the post-dated resignation letter as the vice-president for an election in which had not been conducted, or a position he was yet to assume.

My question is, was he right to have refused, or did he do more damage to the political situation by refusing the offer.

Bear in mind that part of the problems Nigeria faces is the political compromise by our politicians that most of them have sworn to keep in secret.

"And they will bring destruction upon thier own house with thier own hands" its clearly stated. Hence lets watch them put themselves to ruin!

Get a grip of yourself. If you are truthful with you, the answer lies not far off.

If there is anyone who should embrace the idea of a televised debate, should be jonathan.
What other expo does he need when he is the one sitting in govt presently and knows the true state of the nation. Moreso, he has around him a brigade of advisers who should be able to anticipate likely qusetions and most prolific solutions, even if they are lies.
Am sad saying this, but the man is clueless as to what this nation needs to turn around. I was one of those who clamoured ffor his coming into power believing things would look better, well he has proven otherwise.
Pray tell me, what was the rational behind appointing v.c's to none existent universities when the present ones on ground are hugelu underfunded and grossly ill prepared.
His raising 200million dollars for the entertainment industry, is that something to smile about as remarkable achievemnt.
The man needs to attend that debate and tell us what he supposes for this nation.
To all who support him, i understand. You rather see the supernatural occurence of his ascenssion to power as asertion of God in the matter, dont be in hurry to crown him the messiah, saul the king of isreal was also seen in that light.

why would you want to believe in falsehood.

if you are not appreciated in a relationship, what exactly are you waiting for then. hoping he would marry you out of pity and treat you worse!

@babaosaze, for female footie too!!!!!

sorryyyyyyy

gooooooooooaaaaaaaaaaallllllllllllllllllllllllllll!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

nope not your fault at all,
not your fault that u decided to put the life of loved ones on the line by being a cult dude.
not your fault that you did not realize that some day your coin was gonna be repaid right in front of your eyes, after all am sure u must have done same to others.

but most of aall, not your fault that she foolishly fell in love with a dumb guy who had his priorities misplaced.