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Bluff or no bluff, let her go to the Police before he actually posts something.

Normality:
Ignorant baboon, black man that doesn't ask questions before spitting empty nonsense that have being concocted by an empty brain.

https://www.nairaland.com/2015869/agony-igbos-benue

Do you have to insult people to make a point? A well raised person would not insult another in an intellectual discussion. You should go and re-read the thread you quoted and see the views of other people on your claim.

Masterclass32:
Much as I generally agree with the the OP, I have a few reservations.

Suggesting that we learn to live in Nigeria is not it. On the contrary, Nigeria should learn to accept the Igbos into the Nigerian fold. Since the civil war, we've been more or less treated as outcasts in our supposed country. Despite the Reconciliation, Rehabilitation and Reconstruction mantra, not much has been done in the south east. How many states do the Igbo have as against what others have? Federal presence is virtually non existent in the east. The so-called International airport in Enugu is an obvious joke. Any move to build a sea port in the east is crushed. 2nd Niger bridge nko? There has been a deliberate and studied plan to undermine the south east. U can't keep treating me like a slave and expect me to be happy. Left to me, I would advocate REGIONALISM. Make all man develop at their pace.

Again, if we wanted to split Nigeria, inter-tribal marriages wouldn't have stopped it. Who says you must be in the same country with your inlaws? I have friends with inlaws in Germany, south africa etc.

Nigeria better get her act right. The polity is gradaully boiling.

Masterclass32, most of the people who write here are too young or were not born during the Civil war to understand what they shout about. The other thing is that Ndigbo forgets to hold its own accountable and that leads to a lot of problems that are pointed at other people.

Jonathan's Government claimed it undertook massive projects in the South East. Where are those projects today? Money earmarked for lots of those projects were actually embezzled by sons of the soil. Why are those people not being held accountable and the Hausaman has to be blamed for a man cheating his own people?

I am from Benue State, it used to take 45 minutes from Otukpo to Enugu and about 2 hours from Otukpo to Onitsha. Our Benue son was Senate President and a South Easterner was the Deputy Senate President. Those guys were the most powerful people in Government and Onitsha is our biggest regional market. The contract for those Federal roads were given to sons of the soil but they used the money and left the roads non motor-able. The second bridge across the Niger would make Onitsha even bigger. Andy Uba is a powerful man who had the ears of Obasanjo enough that he just took Saraki to get Obasanjo to solve his (Saraki's) mess, how much Federal infrastructure did he bring home? If all these powerful people do not fight for their region, how can anyone blame it on another tribe?

The matter of regionalism you talk about, is it not ironic that the late Northern Premier Ahmadu Bello fought tooth and nail to keep the regional governments stronger but Awo and Zik laughed and said he was not educated enough to see the reason why the centre should be stronger. When Ironsi made the Centre stronger by military fiat, look where it got us. The fact of the matter is if the will is there, any form of government can be screwed up and our individual greed is such that we can mess up regionalism as much as we have screwed up the present system. It is not the system, it is the people.

winniz:
Iddiot, who are Yorubas to tell Igbos the states that will join them or not, don't forget we have Igbos in benue and SS, so just go face your South West state and leave biafra issues alone.

Where in Benue do you have Igbos? The problem with Propaganda and brainwashing is that it causes intellectual laziness in some of you that Ndigbo is not know for.

myklangelo:
Wow the kind of news I love to hear...way forward.
But lemme laugh...hahahahah!!!
Why did I laugh, because some scrupulous, incredulous individuals will politicise this and tell us it is Buhari's handwork, despite the fact that na-ejighi otu onwa aru bridge.
I just politicised it but don't mind.
I have a dream that Nigeria will stop importing refined petroleum but export.

New proverbs are there in my blog.

The 1st Igbo language blog is out, it is fun and insightful. Visit, comment, share and criticize.www.odeniigbo..com

Instead of making everything political, let us fight those who steal our money and do nothing. Please comment about all the Federal roads and projects in the South East for which fund have been paid and not delivered. If you do that, you will be fighting for Ndi Igbo instead of getting caught up in hatred and hero worship. This goes for all of us.

If Jonathan were to be still in power, someone would have just pocketed the money and the work on the refineries still not be done just as was done a few years back. Defend and make comments that will bring meaningful development on Igbo Land.

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Tail - 5

It is perfectly normal. You have kind of wired your sub-conscious to detest anything that might lead to you losing your virginity before the time you want.

My wife died ten years ago and we had a pact that if any of us died first, the living one would wait at least five years before re-marrying. After her passing, I literarily detested most women who showed interest in me who were looking for me to wife them up.

You have said that you are not attracted to girls so that solves that angle.

The fact on this one is that this is in the domain of the Local Government and indirectly the state Government through which the funds get channeled. In addition, Tyogbenda is NOT in David Mark's constituency.

A defective Oxygen sensor can cause this, but as others have suggested, do get a scan done to pinpoint the exact problem.

First of all, you cannot help who you fall in Love with. Follow your heart. When all is said and done, Toto na Toto, if love come enter am, na sweet pass food bonus be dat.

If you are one, keep it and do not give it up until that time that you are saving it for culturally, religiously or personally. Screw (Not literally)whoever thinks otherwise.

Our development should not be about crude alone and it definitely should not be about any nation thinking they should punish us because we make friends who are not to their liking.

China has been fixing our railroads since the Abacha days and it still has not worked. Do not get me wrong, I do not doubt the capacity of China to make or build things at a cheaper price than most other nations. I have a problem that a country that hangs people for corruption in its own country would turn a blind eye when our leaders go to their country to buy outdated trains worth 100 Million Dollars and we are invoiced 1 Billion Dollars while they sell better trains to a place like Ethiopia for 400 Million Dollars.

We must impress on our Leadership to work hard at making the economy less dependent on oil; this is the only way that we can take control of our destiny. The British controlled it for so long and all it gave to us was leaders who had no vision other than keep us performing to benefit London.

Fashola will be our Foreign Affairs Minister I believe. On the job training in progress.

If you ask me, the International community already knows Borno state as the home of Boko Haram and the man who is in charge in that state would be in the best position in describing what has happened and how they have tried to fight Boko Haram, if they actually did.

Fashola going on this trip suggests that he is seriously being considered for Foreign Affairs Minister - To introduce him to some world leaders ahead of when he officially meets them with the portfolio.

bigiyaro:
is d console jailbroken to play pirated cds or play games from external hdds?

Hello bigi,
The units are not cracked.

[quote author=successinlife post=34512464][/quote]Did we watch the same game, I thought our defence was rock solid.

Microsoft XBOX 360 with accessories
includes -
Console
Power Adapter and Power Cord
Controller
AV Cable
Network Cable
Each unit is clean and white - the picture lighting is bad but units are white

N30,000 delivered to Lagos

Items are Canada used and we ship from Canada every Friday, normally ready to pick up at Ajao Estate next Thursday. We will be sending some to our Makurdi, Benue State store for those who want to purchase in Nigeria.
We also have some PS3 consoles that will be posted later

I hope the communities are able to get those amounts adjusted to factor in differences in Naira value at the time the judgement was rendered and today.

All these other guys wen been de work for oda countries. All the listening devices wen dem don put for dia, make dem comot dem before Baba and Osinbajo reach dia.

Dem don take style spoil market for some people.

braintext:
Please pros in the house...I want to buy a cheap digital camera that can record 1080p or 4k video...

I wanna use it for my youtube channel...

My budget is 40k....

Please suggest a camera for me...One i can find here in Naija

Please call our store in Makurdi to see what they have left. Ask to speak to James at 0706-244-4423 or Flex at 0806-352-6068

I sent them a shipment that should be there in a couple of days and there are 2 low end cameras but seeing that you need it for you-Tube, ask them if they have any Digital Camcorders left. There should be one there that is 1080 capable.

A refurbished laptop is one where the unit is opened, the internals cleaned, noisy or defective components such as fans are replaced. The refurbishing may be done by an independent repair shop or in some instances, the original manufacturer or their accredited shop. In cases where it is refurbished by the manufacturer, you may see it referred to as "factory refurbished" or "recertified" or some other related tag.

Are they as reliable as new units? Generally, yes the units are reliable and most reputable refurbishers will provide some kind of a warranty even though the duration may not be as long as that given for a new one. In some cases, the units may even be more reliable than a new one. A case in point is when some components used in the original manufacture had inherent defect. New components used in the refurbishing process may have higher tolerance to guard against premature failure.

I hope I have been able to help.

barcanista:
So he is going to seek for external coorperation? The same Buhari that criticised Jonathan for doing same? What a clownish old corrupt general.

He NEVER said we should not cooperate with those countries. He merely said they were fighting our fight for us. Let us be honest, before those countries started seriously fighting Boko Haram, our armed Forced were denied the necessary tools to deal with Boko Haram. Jonathan and his team's plan to use the NE as a tool backfired on them. If he had been serious and used the same zeal employed in the 6 weeks of postponement, he would have most likely won the election.

Hit me up!

ifedubatoochukw:
I repeat once again the Central Military Command are not combatant soldiers they are experts there you find computer scientist manning the drones and satellite images rebroadcasting Enemy troop location to the combatant soldiers on ground and the airforces, there you even find Military nuclear experts etc..

they gather information, plan and cordinate military assaults ...

Central Military Command is an intelligent unit in the Army that is where military operation is directed using satellite images .. Buhari in this single directive acted as a man who is no longer in touch with modern military techniques



Nigeria military Command Area Of Responsibilty covers the whole of Nigeria and outside Nigeria where our troops are stationed currently

so it is very much senseless to relocate such a unit with sensitive data right at the frontline as if modern military intelligent information is gotten by trekking around sambisa forest in the middle of the Night? what are military satellites for? and surveillance drones?

You are trying to compare an army of a country where they can send a drone to read the phone number on a mobile phone thousands of Kilometres away with that of a country where a General in Abuja will get "no network" when trying to call his girl friend who is in the lobby of the Nicon Noga Hilton from his room a few metres away.

Abeg make we hear word. You are aware that the US had Operation command centres in all the corridors in which it wages wars right? When they were going to help us fight Boko Haram, they were going to set one up in Maiduguri as well.

Mutuwa:
Pretty face..nice smile
But kai..dem don nack am well well..

How can you write something like that? You get small respect for am because na woman abi? Abeg make you try gather small class!

Will things be better in four years? What is your opinion?

Excellent job, Sile12!

RedBenson:
A neighbourhood brother was seriously angry with his younger bro this morning when he realised that the plates his fiancee ate with when she visited last night was not washed by his younger brother.

The guy may have purposely refused to wash the plates because he believes it's an insult for a lady (be it his senior or junior) to have eaten from a plate and lacked the basic womanly manners to leave it unwashed.

Since the dude who's a student and well over 25yrs realised that a lady, who should be respecting men would rather try to bring him down to that extent and had thus refused to wash the plates.

This issue actually caused an uproar between the two brothers up to the point the elder brother was telling the younger one "finish your school asap and leave my house...nonsense".

Well, the elder brother later went and washed the plates furiously angry without his sibling. The fact that he even supported the lady on such act is what surprised everyone.

The question is, what RIGHT does a lady (be it a wife or fiancee) have to keep the plates she ate with for her brother in-law to come wash for her? Who should rather do that to who? Smh @women of nowadays. No iota of manners in them again.

What is wrong with a man doing dishes for his brother's wife or fiancée? Will doing the dishes shorten his penis or make him impotent?

peleson:
I thought they wanna train people become pilots! Why attaching pilot qualification already! U wanna train an already trained pilot?what is ministry of labour doing about all these rubish?

I applied for this almost 30 years ago. I already had my Commercial Pilot's License at the time on Fixed Wing Airplanes and was looking to convert to Rotary wing. The requirement for flying experience is for those who do not have a Bachelors.

This is one of two Nigerian companies that I ever applied to work with and the interview was very well conducted, based on knowledge and not who you knew. I made it to the last batch and I admit that the last 3 who were selected performed better than me in some of the tasks undertaken.

Give it a shot, you have nothing to lose!

youngalex:
Yeah

His threat to probe the NNPC, subsidy payments, jail this and that fuelled this scarcity.

I am in support of him probing and punishing anybody that dipped his/her hand in our treasury but he should have held it to his heart till next week.

Marketers are scared of loosing their investments and subsidy claims ..and the APC never agreed that subsidy existed.

If subsidy is removed after May,29 the price of PMS will increase by at least 30% and some marketers are already hoarding the products..Dumkem12

Is Jonathan truly as clueless as they say that he wants to go out with Nigerians remembering him for leaving the nation in a crippling fuel scarcity? What smarts do people have for blaming that on the incoming government? It is sad if we cannot hold our government accountable.

shadrach77:
They forgot to add one thing...David Cameron struggled to understand Buhari's thick Hausa accent

As a matter of fact, a thick Hausa accent is easier to understand for a native English speaker than a thick Yoruba or thick Igbo accent.

http://brando.tickld.com/x/woman-realizes-that-shes-been-accidentally-abusing-her-husband-this-whole-time

Woman Realizes That She’s Been Accidentally Abusing Her Husband This Whole Time... Wow.


My "Aha Moment" happened because of a package of hamburger meat. I asked my husband to stop by the store to pick up a few things for dinner, and when he got home, he plopped the bag on the counter. I started pulling things out of the bag, and realized he'd gotten the 70/30 hamburger meat - which means it's 70% lean and 30% fat.

I asked, "What's this?"

"Hamburger meat," he replied, slightly confused.

"You didn't get the right kind," I said.

"I didn't?" He replied with his brow furrowed. " Was there some other brand you wanted or something?"

"No. You're missing the point, " I said. "You got the 70/30. I always get at least the 80/20."

He laughed. "Oh. That's all? I thought I'd really messed up or something."

That's how it started. I launched into him. I berated him for not being smarter. Why would he not get the more healthy option? Did he even read the labels? Why can't I trust him? Do I need to spell out every little thing for him in minute detail so he gets it right? Also, and the thing I was probably most offended by, why wasn't he more observant? How could he not have noticed over the years what I always get? Does he not pay attention to anything I do?

As he sat there, bearing the brunt of my righteous indignation and muttering responses like, "I never noticed," "I really don't think it's that big of a deal," and "I'll get it right next time," I saw his face gradually take on an expression that I'd seen on him a lot in recent years. It was a combination of resignation and demoralization. He looked eerily like our son does when he gets chastised. That's when it hit me. "Why am I doing this? I'm not his mom."

I suddenly felt terrible. And embarrassed for myself. He was right. It really wasn't anything to get bent out of shape over. And there I was doing just that. Over a silly package of hamburger meat that he dutifully picked up from the grocery store just like I asked. If I had specific requirements, I should have been clearer. I didn't know how to gracefully extract myself from the conversation without coming across like I have some kind of split personality, so I just mumbled something like, "Yeah. I guess we'll make do with this. I'm going to start dinner."

He seemed relieved it was over and he left the kitchen.

And then I sat there and thought long and hard about what I'd just done. And what I'd been doing to him for years, probably. The "hamburger meat moment," as I've come to call it, certainly wasn't the first time I scolded him for not doing something the way I thought it should be done. He was always putting something away in the wrong place. Or leaving something out. Or neglecting to do something altogether. And I was always right there to point it out to him.

Why do I do that? How does it benefit me to constantly belittle my husband? The man that I've taken as my partner in life. The father of my children. The guy I want to have by my side as I grow old. Why do I do what women are so often accused of, and try to change the way he does every little thing? Do I feel like I'm accomplishing something? Clearly not if I feel I have to keep doing it. Why do I think it's reasonable to expect him to remember everything I want and do it just that way? The instances in which he does something differently, does it mean he's wrong? When did "my way" become "the only way?" When did it become okay to constantly correct him and lecture him and point out every little thing I didn't like as if he were making some kind of mistake?

And how does it benefit him? Does it make him think, "Wow! I'm sure glad she was there to set me straight?" I highly doubt it. He probably feels like I'm harping on him for no reason whatsoever. And it I'm pretty sure it makes him think his best approach in regards to me is to either stop doing things around the house, or avoid me altogether.

Two cases in point. #1. I recently found a shard of glass on the kitchen floor. I asked him what happened. He said he broke a glass the night before. When I asked why he didn't tell me, he said, "I just cleaned it up and threw it away because I didn't want you to have a conniption fit over it." #2. I was taking out the trash and found a pair of blue tube socks in the bin outside. I asked him what happened and why he'd thrown them away. He said, "They accidentally got in the wash with my jeans. Every time I put in laundry, you feel the need to remind me not to mix colors and whites. I didn't want you to see them and reinforce your obvious belief that I don't know how to wash clothes after 35 years."

So it got to the point where he felt it was a better idea — or just plain easier — to cover things up than admit he made a human error. What kind of environment have I created where he feels he's not allowed to make mistakes?

And let's look at these "offenses": A broken glass. A pair of blue tube socks. Both common mistakes that anyone could have made. But he was right. Regarding the glass, I not only pointed out his clumsiness for breaking it, but also due to the shard I found, his sad attempt at cleaning it up. As for the socks, even though he'd clearly stated it was an accident, I gave him a verbal lesson about making sure he pays more attention when he's sorting clothes. Whenever any issues like this arise, he'll sit there and take it for a little bit, but always responds in the end with something like, "I guess it just doesn't matter that much to me."

I know now that what he means is, "this thing that has you so upset is a small detail, or a matter of opinion, or a preference, and I don't see why you're making it such a big deal." But from my end I came to interpret it over time that he didn't care about my happiness or trying to do things the way I think they should be done. I came to view it like "this guy just doesn't get it." I am clearly the brains of this operation.

I started thinking about what I'd observed with my friends' relationships, and things my girlfriends would complain about regarding their husbands, and I realized that I wasn't alone. Somehow, too many women have fallen into the belief that Wife Always Knows Best. There's even a phrase to reinforce it: "Happy wife, happy life." That doesn't leave a lot of room for his opinions, does it?

It's an easy stereotype to buy into. Look at the media. Movies, TV, advertisements - they're all filled with images of hapless husbands and clever wives. He can't cook. He can't take care of the kids. If you send him out to get three things, he'll come back with two — and they'll both be wrong. We see it again and again.

What this constant nagging and harping does is send a message to our husbands that says "we don't respect you. We don't think you're smart enough to do things right. We expect you to mess up. And when you do, you'll be called out on it swiftly and without reservation." Given this kind of negative reinforcement over time, he feels like nothing he can do is right (in your eyes). If he's confident with himself and who he is, he'll come to resent you. If he's at all unsure about himself, he'll start to believe you, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Neither one is a desirable, beneficial outcome to you, him or the marriage.

Did my husband do the same to me? Just as I'm sure there are untold numbers of women who don't ever do this kind of thing to their husbands, I'm sure there are men who do it to their wives too. But I don't think of it as a typical male characteristic. As I sat and thought about it, I realized my husband didn't display the same behavior toward me. I even thought about some of the times I really did make mistakes. The time I backed into the gate and scratched the car? He never said a word about it. The time I was making dinner, got distracted by a call from my mom, and burned it to cinders? He just said, "We can just order a pizza." The time I tried to put the new patio furniture together and left his good tools out in the rain? "Accidents happen," was his only response.

I shuddered to think what I would have said had the shoe been on the other foot and he'd made those mistakes.

So is he just a better person than me? Why doesn't he bite my head off when I don't do things the way he likes? I'd be a fool to think it doesn't happen. And yet I don't remember him ever calling me out on it. It doesn't seem he's as intent as changing the way I do things. But why?

Maybe I should take what's he always said at face value. The fact that these little things "really don't matter that much to him" is not a sign that he's lazy, or that he's incapable of learning, or that he just doesn't give a damn about what I want. Maybe to him, the small details are not that important in his mind — and justifiably so. They're not the kinds of things to start fights over. They're not the kinds of things he needs to change about me. It certainly doesn't make him dumb or inept. He's just not as concerned with some of the minutia as I am. And it's why he doesn't freak out when he's on the other side of the fence.

The bottom line in all this is that I chose this man as my partner. He's not my servant. He's not my employee. He's not my child. I didn't think he was stupid when I married him - otherwise I wouldn't have. He doesn't need to be reprimanded by me because I don't like the way he does some things.

When I got to that point mentally, it then made me start thinking about all the good things about him. He's intelligent. He's a good person. He's devoted. He's awesome with the kids. And he does always help around the house. (Just not always to my liking!) Even more, not only does he refrain from giving me grief when I make mistakes or do things differently than him, he's always been very agreeable to my way of doing things. And for the most part, if he notices I prefer to do something a certain way, he tries to remember it in the future. Instead of focusing on those wonderful things, I just harped on the negative. And again, I know I'm not alone in this.

If we keep attempting to make our husbands feel small, or foolish, or inept because they occasionally mess up (and I use that term to also mean "do things differently than us", then eventually they're going to stop trying to do things. Or worse yet, they'll actually come to believe those labels are true.

In my case it's my husband of 12+ years I'm talking about. The same man who thanklessly changed my car tire in the rain. The guy who taught our kids to ride bikes. The person who stayed with me at the hospital all night when my mom was sick. The man who has always worked hard to make a decent living and support his family.

He knows how to change the oil in the car. He can re-install my computer's operating system. He lifts things for me that are too heavy and opens stuck jar lids. He shovels the sidewalk. He can put up a ceiling fan. He fixes the toilet when it won't stop running. I can't (or don't) do any of those things. And yet I give him grief about a dish out of place. He's a good man who does a lot for me, and doesn't deserve to be harassed over little things that really don't matter in the grand scheme of things.

Since my revelation, I try to catch myself when I start to nag. I'm not always 100% consistent, but I know I've gotten a lot better. And I've seen that one little change make a big improvement in our relationship. Things seem more relaxed. We seem to be getting along better. It think we're both starting to see each other more as trusted partners, not adversarial opponents at odds with each other in our day-to-day existence. I've even come to accept that sometimes his way of doing things may be better!

It takes two to make a partnership. No one is always right and no one is always wrong. And you're not always going to see eye-to-eye on every little thing. It doesn't make you smarter, or superior, or more right to point out every little thing he does that's not to your liking. Ladies, remember, it's just hamburger meat.

This post originally appeared on Reddit.