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My dreadlocks, my tattooes, and my..bum.

Get out, and take the kids with you. Are you not scared that she will hurt your kids as well? ( If she has not already done that.. ) How will you feel, going to the emergency room, with a 4year-old bashed by his own mother?
Dont just think about yourself her, take them with you, please.

Dont tell her anything before consulting a lawyer. The doctors probably have journals from these things, right? Get copies, bring to the lawyer. Tell him you wish to divorce, and you wish to have the kids with you. Get ALL papers done before showing her anything.
Also ask the lawyer for help on getting a police-order on her to stay away from you.

Some women and some men are like this, and they will never change, unless they want it them self. And this woman just seem to get worse and worse..I am sorry for you, this is bad.

nchewi: CS? Ah! That's a different ball game entirely o!! Most people wouldn't want 2 see the blade incision and all that! Ur Hussy has to be brave then!!

Most of the time, they put up a blanket between the mothers face and the belly, so if he stands next to her head, he wont see it

Old-Hag:
Unfortunately as long as we have social networking going on, marriage/relationships are no longer solid and many cant be bothered to make it work. Forget about your reasonable tips, they aint listening to ya, not even if you used a mega phone to put your message across.

And not to mention; more and more women are not depending on financials through their husband to survive.
Many women would earlier stay in abusive and loveless marriages because they depended on their spouse. Not anymore.

It is a good and a bad thing. The social life of today makes people always want something bigger, better, newer, stronger..if something doesnt work, you can always get a new one.
People dont fight fr their marriage like they used to do. You know you can always find a new one. People see the movies, and think that love is always on cloud nine, that you should never fight an compromise, and that if it doesnt work, you can just move on.

In my views; the western culture can learn much from african culture when it comes to both marriage and raising kids. In my culture, north in Norway, many things regarding morals and ethics is much like the african culture I have gotten to know. Down south in Norway, its a whooole other story..

My husband actually said that that was one of two fears with having a child. The other one was to loose the baby under birth.

BUt my..that pain will stay forever. Everytime you look at the baby, you will know the mother died for the baby. I can not imagine that pain of loosing you spouse..I truly wish I die lying in bed with my husband at a old, old age.

nikkyshyne: ^^^^
Eeya, how romantic @JallowBah

Yes, I want him to be there, holding my hands and wiping my sweaty face
Afterall, he put me in that condition, let him deal with it!

I think it'll bring us closer.

Romantic? Naaaaw. Very touching? Absolutely

I think many men do not expect to feel so..hopeless. They see their wife, the woman they love, go through so much pain, and there is actually NOTHING they can do. But for me, it was enough to have him there. Even though I yelled a few times, and said it was all his fault..

I do believe it got us closer. It is one of the biggest experiences you can share.

My husband was there through it all, exept for when he went home to get clothes and things for me and the baby wich we forgot in the hurry to go to the hospital..
He wanted to be there, and the only thing he did NOT want, was to cut the cord. In my culture, most men do exactly that.

He is a muslim, so for him it was important to whisper the welcome and praying in the ears of our daughter. He was holding my hand the whole time, and under the pushing, he told me he could see the head coming, and told me to stay strong.

I will never forget his face when he saw his girl for the first time, and the happiness he felt when they told us she was perfectly healthy

( This makes me want another one..lol. )

I googled "beautiful fulani women", little bit bored at work.

Started reading, and wrote down the adress to go in and read more home..and here I am.