“Me and my four siblings did a DNA test. Only the last born belongs to our father; two are from different fathers, and the other two are also from different fathers. My father is 65 and my mother is 62. If we tell our father, it will destroy him, and we don’t know what to do.”
Obavoh: I did not know all this was happening while I was at work.
When I came back I greeted my Mother-In-Law but she hissed at me like I was her enemy. She started singing some wicked songs about useless husbands in our native dialect.
I called my Wife aside and asked her what was going on and when she told me, it took the grace of God not to slap her.
My Wife is the type of person that would be very hungry but she would say she is okay so that you would not get worried. I have given my Wife money several times to buy clothes and ladycare for herself but she would end up buying things for our children instead.
I asked my Mother-In-Law how much she bought the new set of pants and she said each 1 cost ₦5000 and she bought 5 pieces. Total of ₦25,000.
I immediately counted the money from my savings and gave it to her. Even though I did not believe that was the price she got them for.
I have to post pictures of the pants. Do they really cost ₦5,000?
You've even brought your wife's panties to nairaland
Come on act like a man bro, there are a lot of things you just have to ignore even as you adjust your thinking to make sure it doesn't happen again
youdontknoe: Getting back to writing again. But hopefully I can stay anonymous while I pour out my heart.
Life is hard. And I am going through a situation that I don’t know if I can share with anyone in my physical world yet. But I need to share till the heaviness is gone.
Who am I? Someone who wished she could undo many things, especially the decision to get married.
I have googled divorce reasons more than 10 times today alone. I don’t even know if I am ok. No, I am not been physically or emotionally abused. I am not been cheated on. At least not that I know. I am just disconnected, tired and no one would really understand why I want to walk away from a 2 year marriage. Or maybe someone here will.
Let’s just say that there is no reason to rush marriage. But once you hit age 30, somehow the bells keep ringing everywhere around you and the pressure heightens. I wanted it. I wanted to marry for love, companionship and I wanted to choose. But, time was flying and someone came that felt right at the time and I genuinely was a good person. The person was overly in love with me. Or maybe it was the idea of me. A successful independent woman living life on her own terms. Somehow we started dating and in 9 months, we were married. And we were happy at the time. Or I was. Until we started living together.
We had counseling. So it wasn’t a matter of ignorance. But the foolish butterflies didn’t make me see road.
I guess from the very beginning I just settled. Settled for a quiet hush hush wedding. For someone who had always wanted a glam wedding, I didn’t have one. The other person just couldn’t be bothered and concluded that paying bride price was the only thing that signified marriage. We were not in the Nigeria so that happened in our absence. He wasn’t buoyant but I was understanding. I gathered money together. We had only 3 other people at the civil wedding. The plan was that we were going to go back home to throw the big party later. Never did and I’ve heard many times that it won’t be happening.
I thought marriage will complete me. No. It just drained me so much.
The man is so set in his ways and he lacks empathy. If he checks your phone but you can't check his, he knows about all your finances but you know nothing about his, sex is all about him, to note a few incongruities... having to cope with that kind of relationship would depress anybody
The fertility issue is maybe the universe trying to tell you something because even if you had kids with this kind of person you might eventually end up raising them alone
Lovelink1991: A woman who lost her husband has cried out over the disturb her late husband's junior brother and mother-in-law to give him the junior brother children who has be childless for 17 years.
She said she need help because they have be threatening her
Macphenson: What is this madness with Tinubu? A Refinery you have wasted billions in TAM, yet nothing came out of it, now you are embarking on this madness again.
Tinubu is just here to wreck this country.
He and his friends ate 2.5 billion dollars just like that, nobody even batted an eyelid....that scam was so sweet they're back for a reprise already
mgamelia: If you’ve kept chameleons long enough, you know they rarely show obvious distress. That’s what makes this topic difficult—and important.
I’ve seen cases where a chameleon looked “fine” one week, then declined fast the next. No dramatic symptoms. Just small, easy-to-miss changes.
So let’s talk honestly about what happens before a chameleon dies, focusing on subtle behavior patterns and advanced warning signs most guides don’t cover.
This isn’t basic care advice. It’s the deeper layer—the things you notice only after experience.
Featured Snippet: Key Signs Before a Chameleon Dies
Before a chameleon dies, it often shows subtle but critical behavior changes such as reduced grip strength, unusual daytime sleeping, dull or dark coloration, loss of tongue accuracy, decreased hydration response, and a shift toward ground-level hiding. These signs typically appear gradually and indicate internal stress, organ decline, or severe dehydration.
1. Grip Strength Quietly Declines First
This is one of the earliest and most overlooked signs.
A healthy chameleon grips branches like it’s locked in place. But when something is wrong, the grip changes—not dramatically, but noticeably.
You might see:
Slight slipping when climbing Hesitation before stepping Tail not fully coiling
I’ve tested this a few times with different setups, and honestly, this is where the first real warning showed up.
It’s not weakness you’d call “serious” at first. But it’s not normal either.
This often points to:
Calcium imbalance Neuromuscular fatigue Early metabolic decline
Most people miss it because the chameleon is still moving.
2. Daytime Stillness Becomes “Different”
Chameleons do rest during the day. That’s normal.
But here’s the difference: Healthy rest looks alert. Declining rest looks disconnected.
Watch closely:
Eyes partially closed during the day Long periods without scanning surroundings No reaction to movement nearby
This isn’t laziness. It’s withdrawal.
I once saw a chameleon sit in the same exact spot for hours, not even adjusting posture when misted. That’s when I knew something was off.
3. Color Changes Lose Their Meaning
Everyone talks about color changes. But most advice is too basic.
Here’s the deeper insight:
Before a chameleon dies, color changes stop being reactive and become static.
Instead of shifting with mood or temperature, you’ll notice:
Persistent dark tones Washed-out, dusty colors Uneven patches that don’t resolve
This often reflects internal stress, not external triggers.
In one case, a chameleon stayed a dull gray-green for days—even under proper lighting and heat. That wasn’t stress. It was decline.
4. The “Missed Tongue Shot” Pattern
This one is subtle but powerful.
A healthy chameleon rarely misses prey. Their tongue projection is precise.
At first, it looks like a feeding issue. It’s not.
This points to:
Muscle fatigue Dehydration Electrolyte imbalance
I’ve seen owners increase feeding, thinking the chameleon is hungry. But the real issue is function, not appetite.
5. Hydration Behavior Changes Before Physical Signs
Most people wait for visible dehydration: sunken eyes, wrinkled skin.
That’s too late.
The earlier signal is behavioral:
Less interest in dripping water Ignoring misting sessions Drinking less frequently
This shift happens before the body shows clear symptoms.
And here’s the tricky part: The chameleon may still look hydrated.
I’ve seen this pattern multiple times. The drinking behavior changes first. The physical signs follow days later.
6. Movement Becomes “Purpose-Less”
A healthy chameleon moves with intention.
Before decline, movement changes in a very specific way:
Wandering without clear direction Climbing down instead of up Repeating the same path
One of the biggest red flags is when a chameleon spends time near the bottom of the enclosure.
That’s not curiosity. That’s a sign of discomfort or weakness.
In nature, being low means vulnerability. So when they choose it, something is wrong.
7. Eye Tracking Slows Down
This is one of the most advanced signs—and very easy to miss.
Watch how the eyes move:
Slower scanning Reduced independence between eyes Delayed focus on prey or movement
Healthy chameleons have sharp, independent eye control.
When that starts fading, it often indicates neurological stress or systemic fatigue.
I’ve noticed this especially in the late stages. The eyes don’t look “sharp” anymore.
8. Appetite Doesn’t Always Drop Immediately
This surprises a lot of people.
We expect dying animals to stop eating right away. But chameleons don’t always follow that pattern.
Sometimes:
Appetite stays normal while other signs worsen Feeding becomes inconsistent rather than absent
That’s why relying only on appetite is misleading.
I’ve seen chameleons eat one day and decline sharply the next.
So if everything else feels off, don’t let normal eating fool you.
9. Subtle Breathing Changes
This is rarely discussed, but important.
Before visible respiratory distress, you might notice:
Slightly heavier chest movement Longer pauses between breaths Occasional open-mouth rest (not basking-related)
It’s not dramatic. You have to look closely.
This can signal:
Internal stress Early respiratory issues Systemic decline 10. The “Last Shift” in Behavior
This is where everything comes together.
In the final stage, behavior changes become more obvious:
Staying in one spot for long periods Closing eyes during the day Loss of balance
But here’s the key insight:
By the time you see these clearly, the process has already been happening for days—or even weeks.
That’s why understanding what happens before a chameleon dies is so important. The early signs are quiet. The late signs are just confirmation.
Real Example: A Pattern Most Owners Recognize Too Late
A common scenario goes like this:
Week 1: The chameleon misses a couple of shots while feeding. Nothing alarming.
Week 2: It starts sitting lower in the enclosure. Still eating.
Week 3: Color becomes dull. Less movement.
Week 4: Eyes close during the day. Weak grip.
At this point, owners realize something is wrong—but the early clues were already there.
I’ve seen this pattern repeat again and again.
What You Should Do When You Notice These Signs
Let’s keep this practical.
If you notice multiple changes at once, act quickly:
Recheck hydration levels and misting efficiency Evaluate UVB exposure quality, not just presence Observe behavior over hours, not minutes Reduce stress in the enclosure
But here’s my honest opinion:
If advanced signs are already present, recovery becomes difficult.
That’s why early observation matters more than reaction.
A Simple Way to Think About It
Instead of asking, “Is my chameleon dying?” Ask this:
“Is my chameleon behaving differently than usual in small ways?”
Because that’s where the real answer is.
Final Thoughts
Understanding what happens before a chameleon dies isn’t about memorizing symptoms. It’s about noticing patterns.
Small changes. Quiet shifts. Subtle behaviors.
I’ve learned this the hard way—by missing those early signs myself.
If you pay attention to grip strength, movement intent, hydration behavior, and eye activity, you’ll catch problems earlier than most owners ever do.
And that can make all the difference.
Put that thing back in the forest and apply yourself to useful endeavors
Despite the fact you're comfily ensconced within an APC sinecure you guys need to be more productive with your daily hustle, you owe it to your conscience
This thing you've posted here is not just pointless but also senseless
ysg4real: Also many people forget the fact that SanwoOlu was a solid banker prior to joining the government as commissioner and eventually governor.
Obviously he's planning to go back to NGX next year....it's a boss move essentially, he's making it plain to everybody that he isn't a 'career politician'
MatrixReloaded: It will be a thing of shame for Nigerians home and abroad to note that no sitting president of any country have visited Nigeria for any diplomatic relations. As a time like this in our country where we need more engagement of foreign sitting presidents. It's a shame that we let an Agbero from Mushin to take up the helm of affairs of our daring nation. History will not repeat itself.
All were inauguration and after that everyone japada.
Wetin dem wan come do, of course they know the caliber of people running Nigeria's government so why bother?
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