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Thank you very much guys for advices, I would really love to stay with her if she had been upfront with me about her medical condition, she didn't tell me that she had schizophrenia when we met, I asked her why did she tell me that she had mental problem she said if she had told me i would probably not marry her, I feel like this a conspiracy from her family,

Marriage is an institution that has no graduation date. If we had been married and she developed the mental problem i will understand that she wasn't like that when i met her then i would gladly give her all the love and attention in the world if i eventually marry her knowing that she has mental problem. But hiding the truth and tricking me to marry her isn't going to work, She has been to psychiatric hospital about 2 times before we met and she didn't tell me about it, , Right now i feel so pissed off that i regret coming to America, The way i see it is that her parents are tired of her and they want to give her away to some dumb African man because they know that NO AMERICAN man will marry her knowing her condition, But they have got the wrong person, I am a true born Nigerian man and i will show that i am and proud to be a Nigerian.

Maybe you all should put yourselves in my shoes. Make u marry girl wey no tell u about her condition after u marry her finish u con find out say na psycho tell me weather u go still dey marry,

This should be a lesson to you all out there.

Hey Guys,

Your advice is highly needed, I met this lady on the internet 2004 now my wife when i met her she actually told me she had depression which in my thought is not a serious or mental illness; To cut the story short we got married when she came to visit me in 2005 i didn't see any sign of mental disorder on her, She filed for the paper work for me and thank God i am over here in US now ' I just arrived here about a month ago

A week after my arrival i started to notice that there is something about my wife, she wakes up in the middle of the night screaming, talking to herself she doesn't go to sleep she hear voices and see things that no ones else sees, she also claims that God took her soul and returned it which makes her an angel lots of things that she does that i can't start mentioning on here. I and her parents ended up taking to the emergency room where she was diagnosed of schizophrenia; schizophrenia is a high mental illness says the doctor, the doctor further said that she will be on medication for the rest of her life and that while she is on the medication she will not be able to have children if she tries to get pregnant the child will come out paralyzed, i have never heard or seen anything like this before in my entire whole life, She stayed in the psychiatric hospital for 2weeks now she is at home,

The thing about my wife is she act like a little girl she doesn't understand one thing at one time i will have to talk to her like i am talking to a 10yrs old girl before she gets me plus she have mood swings this minute she is happy the next minute she is not happy, Honestly if knew this is what it is i would not risk my life coming over here, sometimes she gets angry unnecessary the doctor also says could be dangerous i mean try to harm herself or people around her; the last thing i want happening is her harming me that is if she stop taking the medicine, Yea i also most forgot she always claim that nothing is wrong her and tries not to take her medicine sometimes i have to sit her down talk and talk before she takes her medicines, It just been a month living with my wife and i am getting tired of things happening around me, this is not what i expected to see.I do not want to tell my mum about it because if i do she might have a heart attack because i am her only son.

There is a lot is things happening that i can't mention on here i also what you guys to understand that i know she brought me over here because she loves me but she should have been upfront with her medical conditions


Please guys your advice is extremely needed and would be appreciated.

Come on man lying is normal procedures in a relationship, dumping her because you found out that she lied about her real age is not worth. We all lie, a man's lie is always bigger and thinker lol. Shey u want tell me say u sef neva lie for her b4 nii abi na becos she neva confront u, Get over it and be a man

Hey Brother,

I seriously advice you to take the advice from people on this forum, you don't marry a girl out of pity where in the nearest future you will start to regret your action plus i suggest you go get yourself tested with other doctors just to make sure that you are negative, Once again do not think about now think about the future when you have children, ,

If i were you at this stage all i can do is support her financially to get her drugs and any other thing she could possibly need. But marrying her in that condition you will be risking your own life and people around you,

Good luck with you

Yea right.

lol I won't

My girlfriend told me she was proud of me last night, I was happy and felt loved. I love her though. Has your girlfriend or boyfriend ever told you he/she is proud of you?

See even the Nigerian pigin English is different ooo.If you wan hear correct make u find correct WARRI person make e teach u pigin becos na warri pgin start from and na there e end

I killed 2pac okay.And this is not the right section for you to post this mumu thread okay? This is romance and it deals with relationships and emotional feelings okay?, I advice if you want to get the right answers to your mumu thread better repost in the right section

If your girl tells you about the guys that toasts her then she loves you and you should appreciate it and thank your stars for having a girlfriend that has nothing to hide ========= OR==========She might be telling you that because she wants you to feel insecure that anytime you Bleep up there are millions of guys waiting to have her.

lol Very funny men like to be toasted as well and i am not excluded it make me feel important

I do believe the precious thing in this life cant be seen with the naked eyes plus love is blind they say, I dont believe in this Jagons as for me i close my eyes sometimes and vice versa depends on how i am feeling

I really dont have a pet name for my girl but she calls me Honey most times and she wants me to give her a pet name but i dont want to use the frequently used names like, sweetie,baby,mylove and stuffs like that.By the time i am done with my research i will give her a beautiful pet name she would love. But really pet name do matters in a relationship it makes one feel loved and cared for.

The Abachas -_-

How is the easiest and the best language one can learn becos Hausa is not only a Nigerian language but a west African language that make it the best and easiest language becos alot of people speak it around the the world , IGBO is the hardest language one can learn with all the chukwu chukwu in it lolz

I doubt it.

If you truly love ur girl you not do anything to hurt her. Put urself in her shoes how would you feel.

Thank your star broda for letting you know the kind of girl she is before you waste your time and money on a worthless girl like her. I advice you to look for someone else and learn not to promise to spend the rest of your life with some girl you barely know in and out.

O boy i will strongly advice u to leave her with immediate effect, Wait if u don fu*k am forget her since she no want realise the love wey u get for her also, Hanging out with lots of guys is wrong for a girl meaning she bleeps around RUN FOR UR LIFE AIDS IS REAL Drop and find another one but if u still like her keep her to be there whenever u fill like having sex but make sure say u wear CONDOM ooo i repeat wear CONDOM if u like hear if u like make u no hear hmm humm

Na wa for u oo bros, u dey this naija lagos for dat matter u no sabi yarn woman see as u just come yeye urself here, Mumu

Hiya

Hello Guys Jamyle is my name i live in Ikeja lagos, I need you guys to pls help me on what to do about my girlfriend, To start with some weeks back i and my girl were in my house she ask me a question she said" Jamyle have you ever fell inlove with a girl at first site?? I said no it happens but not to me" I suspected that question and i was like Jenny u don trip for somebody abi, she said nooo i say okay oo, The following week we were in my room she took my phone flashed a number and deleted it immediately, the number called back and say"u flash me just now, i said noo this is a wrong number the guy hung up so i asked my girl did u flash any number she said yes i asked who was that she told me a friend of hers(i suspected her ever since i felt like this girl is cheating on me i've always had that instings i began to keep a close watch on her, Where i am driving at is that today 4th nov 06 when she came to my house she to me jamil give me some money to call my mum i said ok i gave her 500 naira i followed her to the call center meanwhile i left while i was talking with a friend i suspect that she wasnt talking to her mum as she told me was i rushed to her grab the phone saw the number she was calling i found at that it was the same number that she flashed on my phone i said to her Jenny why?? You have been cheating on me right she no i said to her why u calling this guy this was the same guy that u called with my phone she told me jamil he's just a friend, i said if he's just a friend you shouldnt hide to talk to him in my presence she couldnt talk, She has been doing lots of stuffs like this but i kept getting it over me becos i love her, i've given her the freedom to my house i gave her all she wanted now it seems like i am not good for her anymore when i found out that she was calling another guy with my money i was mad at her i left there with annoyance she called me i shouted at her the last word she said to me was ""jamil i've told u i am dating that guy he's just a friend if that is the reason why u want to leave me then ""*********If u ask me do i still love her i will say yes but i always feel like she is cheating on me , Really i am confused.PLEASE GUYS I AM IN A DILEMA WHAT SHOULD I DO?

(( Guys make una no vex for the wrong wrong grammer wey dey for my story una sabi this thing no our mother tongue na learn we dey learn so we sabi pass ourselves, But really i want make una tell me wetin i go asap)

Hmm that sounds like a very good idea, Please guys let us know if this is still holding so we can get things running before december i will be willing to contribute fianacially plus Seun started this thread and never said anything about it, Seun what's up are you still here, what is ur conclusion we want to know.

May their gentle souls rest in gentle peace,

Na man i sabi say suppose get hair for chest, Which one come be woman own?? Well i no say some igbo women dey get hair for chect even get beards(bear bear) like man, Why is this come in igbo and calabar woman becos i have never seen a yoruba or hausa woman with such hair??,