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plenitude:
then get ready for your own discipline when you get home

And that I'd like very much

Dfinex:
thought I was the only one with such phobia for hospitals. ....funny enough I really have had no reason to be admitted in the hospital (all thanks to God )

whenever I'm compelled to visit someone, l'm always in a hurry to leave....such an unconducive place for me.

Exactly! Same here. I have spent a night in hospital though because I was scheduled for a surgery early the next morning. It was horrible. For starters, there was a "crazy" guy that they brought in. He was either high or coming off something because he was hallucinating all over the place & had broken his hand. His mom said he punched a wall, while fighting off the things he was hallucinating about. To make matters worse, he was put in the same room with me & had to be tied down on the bed because he kept trying to run away. So there was that & him saying scary stuff. I couldn't keep my eyes off him, I was really scared of him. On top of that, there's the roaming killer thing I keep associating with hospitals. It was hell because they switch the lights off at night & only leave them on in the hallways. So you keep seeing shadows underneath the door. Every time I heard a screeching sound I became convinced the killer was scraping his hook against the wall...coming. I became so scared that I asked one of the nurses if I could come sit with them at the nurses' station because I just couldn't function with the crazy guy in the same room & all the other unseen noise that could be from a nutcase on a mission to kill. Thank God they agreed. From that day until today, hospitals are a no-no for me. There's just too much there to make you imagine all sorts of things.

I'd discipline him like every other employee. I'm running a business, so he better leave his feelings at the door.

#Bawse

Lol @ his claims.

Take him away boys!

Hospitals are very creepy to me. Even the smell is a turn off. How some people can get aroused in a hospital is a mystery to me. When I think hospital, I think killer with an arm hook wandering the halls at night, for some reason. Hence I pray to never be admitted at a hospital because I would never sleep. I also think about crazy people & death. So no, it wouldn't do for me.

And she just had to thicken the plot by adding that the mother doesn't like her. Sounds like a b.s. story to me. What are the chances that she has his mother's number in her phone? Tosh!

Lol, it reminds me of the song Pony by Ginuwine

profhezekiah:
Guilty conscience

About what?

Ighoga898:
Below is an extraction from OP post.

'''Although, i believe all women are beautiful in one way or the other; actually, I have come to observe that the Gorgeous ones give me more attention and literally open up to me than the not so gorgeous ones '''
now tell me who's getting it wrong.

I don't care.

Good for her.

Ighoga898:
on a second thought u re d one dat got the post wrong. so I was right the first time.
just go through the write up again.
As for u asking me to explain, the reverse is d case 4 me means dat opposites don't attract me. if I am handsome I will only b attracted to beautiful girls as well.

I didn't get the post wrong, you're simply trying to be right. Even if I did get it wrong, which I didn't, I don't think it's your place to correct me if the OP thought I got it right. So get over yourself, fast.

OK on the last part of your post. Different strokes for different folks.

Grace87:
I nearly fell asleep with ths long story of yours.... Bye!

I'm not surprised at all. Keep sleeping & keep being a dummy to try keep a man.

Ighoga898:
sorry for being d one dat didn't read it properly. On law of attraction, the reverse is the case for me.

Please explain.

Ighoga898:
He said gorgeous girls always give him attention not otherwise.

You're the one missing the point here. He asked what could be the reason for their attraction to him as an average looking guy & my answer was, opposites attract. In fact they attract so much that an average guy like Jay Z ended up with Beyoncé. Beyoncé wouldn't be with Jay Z if it weren't for attraction, regardless of who came on to who. Do you now get what I was saying or should I use hand puppets to make it easier?

Ighoga898:
did u even read the post?

Yes. Did you?

digitite:
You are smart ....

...

My dad never, ever laid a hand on me.

My mom is the one with a slap that felt like a sting from an angry swarm of African bees.

digitite:
So, it's not a feeling anymore but based on Reason ?

I believe it should be both. They say follow your heart but take your brain with you

digitite:
You seem to know me more than I know myself ... I like your assessment.... In fact, sometimes I dress and look very classic and other times I can look rugged being focused on my work and other things......

I would like to learn from you on how to make concrete decision and who to choose...

Lol, can't help you with that. I'm of the belief that there're some things you just know in life e.g. choosing who to love, etc.

digitite:
very funny indeed

That's you? You're OK imo. I'm sure you can even pass off as handsome on some days.

Opposites attract

Grace87:
For citizenship purposes...Excuse me, I made a mistake I wanted to say for his sake. and incase he wants to bring the wife to come reside in SA.

This is simple, we get married,(We don't have to be in a relationship) just for the papers... he applies for citizenship after 5years...then he will be able to bring the wife on a spousal visa.

But why?

OK, let me be direct with you because I think you're either desperate, gullible or brainwashed. I'm a South African woman just like you & TBH, I think people like you should have their ID books revoked. You're a threat to the security of the country. How could you wanna assist someone into breaking the laws of your country? I was reading another post of yours where you called SA men lazy. It sounded just like a sellout statement from someone looking for...what's the word? Acceptance? I can't think of a better word right now. But anyway, reading that kinda made me feel sorry for you because I imagined the conversations you must be having with this guy, putting down your own people for a man. If you could do it here, I'm sure you also do it with him. That to me is a weakness of the highest order. Sort of like you lost your identity & morphed into his in order to gain acceptance in his eyes. No man respects a woman with no identity, pride or dignity. Identity is not only about who you are but also where you come from. I'd fight & defend SA until I'm black & blue. No amount of tender feelings for another will ever make me betray her the way some of you do all in the name of "helping out". Help out for what? How are they your responsibility? Girl, you need to wake up & salvage whatever you've lost trying to fit in or be loved. Because it seems like you've lost yourself in the process of loving him & he is going to take advantage of that if you let him. I repeat, both of them are not your responsibility! SA have enough issues dealing with fake marriages as it is, don't add to that out of your selfish desires. Because I do not believe for one second that you'd be marrying him to help out as you claim, you'd be doing it out of your own self interested, foolish ways, thinking it'll gain you love or whatever it is that you're after with this man.

Grace87:
Will wait and see what his motives are...Its a good thing, im getting all of this advices...it will help me be strong on my ground, not to be fooled by him. Im able to control my feelings/emotions...So im sorted. But should he ask me nicely to help him get citizenship (by marrying him) I might consider...because he is a good guy and from what I've heard about his wife, She's pretty God fearing, a darling they say. For her sake I can do it...

The Bible says: Ask and it shall be given to you.

What do you mean by you'd do it for her sake?

Lionessza:
Lol ouch didn't know that was illegal here .sure

Xenophobia lite It's only a day ban though, nothing hectic.

Lionessza:
Hahaha sure thing .

Sendibabone kudala uba zi vultures zakudala ndibhalelwe ngabanye ababini otsotsi bempundu apha uba mandibeke I photo they love osisi basemzantsi lol mxm with their usual weak lines zocinga we are desperate for marriage is wonder bayithathaphi lol

Lol, I just got banned for writing in Xhosa. Take note. Had to dig out this old account.

Lol, so shouting "choooi" is an indicator of someone's sexual preference? Good to know.

You'll be surprised at the number of black men that are on the down low (secretly gay in layman's terms). Study showed that black men, more than any other race, are more likely to stay in the closet & pretend to be straight than come out. So all those manly "choooi" you hear, are probably masking a high pitch gay squeal Your other friends that you think are straight, may be secretly into boys (could even be crushing on you ) but put up a macho front to avoid detection or hoping that by doing so, those "unnatural" attractions to the same gender will go away or whatever.

joseph1832:
Saved who? I suppose a man can wear what she turned the shirt into right? And is she willing to wear it outside the comfort of her home? And who will buy it? Cos if I know my naija peeps well, rather than buy it, they will decipher how she made it and make it themselves and outsmart her in her own game.

Saved YOU Did I stutter ?

I don't believe she's selling but setting trends, using your house dress Who wouldn't want a lady that's quick on her feet? Even if others copy it, surely there's more ideas where that one came from, because she's inventive like that yo Anyway, in vintage Joseph fashion, you're just refusing to see the point & would rather do what you're doing right now, argue a moot point. Aint nobody have time for that on the 14th

joseph1832:
LOL. Girl just how many monikers do you have in this forum?

Reading between the lines have nothing to do with the matter at hand. Just because she's resourceful in turning a shirt upside down, doesn't mean she'll be resourceful and crafty when it comes to finance.

Duh! She just saved you a couple of bucks by turning your ugly shirt into a cute dress If that's not cutting corners then I don't know what qualifies as such to you.
If she can do that to a shirt, I bet she can also make a feast fit for a pharoah out of two potatoes, an onion & a bird She's a poor man's Martha Stewart. You see da full pinshure now?

Caught out there by Kelis
L-l-l-lies by Diana King

joseph1832:
So just because she wears a shirt like this, she can turn millions to billions?

Bloody marvelous.

Thought you could read between the lines & see the bigger picture, Josephine

It just means she's resourceful & crafty. No need to spend on a new dress when she can turn your rags into something useful