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1. Wedding Anniversary: As a man we are often distracted by work activities and we tend to neglect some important areas of life, and leave them unattended. Most men even forget their wedding dates and ultimately their wedding anniversaries. Many men are reminded of their wedding anniversary only when their wives asks, "Darling what do you think we should do on our wedding anniversary", left to men this isn't important enough to create a room for in our brain. Women are disappointed when they find out that their partner forgets their wedding anniversary, they expect men to also participate in all wedding anniversaries, as a matter of fact you will win your wife's heart again every time you bring up the wedding anniversary topic. It's so special to women and not something you should forget.



2. Sex: Finances, sex and marriage go hand in hand, they are like triplet, born together to achieve same purpose(happiness). When it comes to sex a lot of men fail in that area of marriage, apart from not satisfying your partner, men also forget to sacrifice more time and hunger in asking their wives when they need sex and how they want it. An average married man is sexually selfish, only engages in sex when he wants it. Women need sex to feel loved, appreciated and to promote their self esteem, asking your wife when she's needs sex isn't unwelcomed in married or doesn't make you less of a man.



3. Image Absence: Financial security is what almost every women would want to have if not all, but then men have neglected their wives in pursue of money to satisfies their families desire. Creating less self availability is something no woman wants, though she may appreciate a little bit of privacy but not total absence that would require you missing for months and years. Each night that comes the darkness and the cold bed promotes woman's libido, also after working from 9-5, fixing dinner and helping kids do homework then prepare them for bed, p a woman need relaxation with her man every night. Lots of men have left their wives alone with the kids forgetting their physical, emotional, sexual availability is highly needed in the course of marriage.



4. Love Channel: It becomes boring when we're tuned to one channel, you may consider doing morning news, afternoon drama and even some action and then before sleeping some news or documentary. Women get bored tuned to one channel for the rest of their lives. As a man you shouldn't leave your wife with the belief that after wedding the honeymoon phase is over . Women need constant reminder and various activities to prove your love for them. This could be discovered and created by knowing their love language from 5 love languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. Constantly refresh your wive's love channel with different goodies to stay tuned.



5. Fun: Who on earth does not enjoy a funtime? It could be playing with your spouse, the kids, visiting places, seeing movies, reading books e.t.c, most married men forget that another thing that reduces issues in marriage is the amount of fun you have together. Fun promotes a certain level of closeness, it builds trust and creates room for more fun and romance. Women crave and can't do without fun, fun is used to jumpstart every boring marriage. It's may be yet unknown to you that you are among the selfish married men but if you have more fun alone then you are building a self marriage and putting your vow with your partner at risk.



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Stumble on this somewhere on linkedin, and thot of sharing to fellow Nairalander.
Enjoy

Before considering dating, you should consider what should I go into that relationship with and what should I drop as a habit, so I am going to tell you 7 things to take into a new relationship.

1. Always establish the objective of any relationship entered into: it is important to know the reason you are getting into a relationship, relationships are like contracts, you read the rules and then decide if it's worth it, this way you reduce your expectations and know how to deal with disappointments.

2. Always set boundaries in a new relationship: it is important to be firm when starting a relationship because we find that the way a relationship begins helps to understand certain things that crops up in the course of the relationship.

3. Learn to communicate, be open-minded: this point has been over-emphasized. Communication is key in every relationship whether between parents-children, spouses, pet-human and even God-man. Your doctor can't prescribe a drug without being told what the problem is, so also your partner can't know what you feel if you don't express it. Make your partner your friend and confidant, it's the surest way to have a lasting relationship.

4. Let honesty be your watchword: when entering into a new relationship, lay your cards on the table and be honest with your partner, like the saying goes "honesty is the best policy", let them know your past and it will determine if the relationship has a future or not.

5. Drop your previous relationships baggage: this is really important when starting a new relationship, when you find yourself constantly comparing your new partner with your previous ones, you are a ticking time bomb waiting to explode.

6. Always give the other person a benefit of doubt: because you have heard or seen it happen to people severally doesn't mean it is the same thing that is going to happen. Always keep an open mind and make excuses for your partner,that way you avoid arguments and problems in your relationship.

7. Love yourself first before seeking love from another: relationships are not made to help improve your self esteem or fill a void you have inside or for the society. Fix yourself or whatever problems you have first before getting into a relationship, nobody can love you more than you love yourself, so learn to love yourself.


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CUM4WHAT:
Nobody

You sure

I am moved to write this piece after reading an article in the VANGUARD of Thursday, August 6, 2015 by Is’haq ModibboKawu titled, “ Bukola Saraki in Maiduguri: Tentative first steps for 2019 Presidency”. It is evident that the article reeks of hate and seems aimed at either getting President Buhari to regard Saraki his enemy, or fortifying whatever grievances might exist, if that is the case.

That is sad, because in no way does that motive contribute to nation-building, and in no way does it help Buhari whom history will ultimately hold responsible for what becomes of Nigeria from May 29, 2015. It is true we are in a democracy and people should have freedom of communication, but I believe we should exercise some self-control in the enjoyment of the freedom. I do not know the author in person or even by reputation, but I bet he seems to have some personal ‘agro’ against Saraki.

I met Saraki sometime in 2011 after he became Chairman of the Senate Committee on the Environment. I as well as others in the civil society engaged with environmental issues in Nigeria were pleasantly surprised to be invited by that Committee for interaction.

Saraki sat through the meetings with a note book in which he took copious notes as people made contributions. He also enriched the conversations by asking poignant questions. He was very civilized and we had the impression that he is educated in the real sense.

It was this very positive impression that Saraki made upon my colleagues and I that encouraged my organization and others to take a closer look at the state he had just left as governor. About that time, some international organizations asked us to advise on states towards which they could direct their interest in development activities. From our analysis, Kwara was highly recommended. The points that counted for Kwara included accessibility by air from Lagos/Ibadan and Abuja, having minimal security challenges, and a very positive civil service and receptive government.

I am not sure how much of these were put in place by the governments before Saraki became governor of Kwara State. We subsequently took specific projects into rural communities in the state. Before doing that we approached his office in the Senate, and were introduced to an officer who took responsibility to lead us into Kwara. The government of that state received us in a very professional manner. Kwara was one of six states in which we unveiled the National Adaptation Strategy on Climate Change. During this period, Saraki’s name resonated so much in urban as well as rural areas of the state.

With respect to the article I read which I consider unfair, there are some specific observations to make and I itemize few out of the lot of them as they appear in that article.



The first is the title of the article: “Bukola Saraki in Maiduguri: Tentative first steps for 2019 Presidency”. My reaction would be that if truly Saraki’s Maiduguri trip is part of his seed planting towards the 2019 presidency of Nigeria, then it is commendable. Nigeria can ill-afford a reluctant President in 2019, or whatever other year for that matter. We’d rather an aspirant that has his sleeves rolled up and is tirelessly working towards actualizing his dream than one that suddenly wakes up one morning in 2019 to tell us that he is running for presidency in response to pressures from his people. Better to have presidential aspirants with hunger in their bellies and fire in their eyes which are fixed on a faraway goal than have 2019 overnight microwave presidential aspirants that treat the race to our much-cherished Aso Rock Presidential Villa like an after-thought.

The author had complained about the fact that “…most newspapers carried a syndicated picture of the ‘august visitor’ waving to the IDPs.” To that I ask, is that strange? Isn’t that what you see in governments including more mature democracies? What is wrong with this, one dares ask?
The author further inveighed that Saraki’s ultimate goal “remains presidency and he can’t even wait for 2019 before beginning to show his hands”. To this I say only a fool interested in 2019 presidency will wait till 2019 to start showing his hands. Is the office of the President of Nigeria not serious enough to warrant long-term thought and work? President Buhari provides a good and recent example of a long-distance runner in the presidency race and if, as the writer of that article tried to portray, Saraki’s Maiduguri trip was indeed his first step in a four-year marathon, then it should be a plus, not a minus as the writer inveighed. People with political ambitions should be encouraged to show their hands early. That way, the society gets them to act with a greater sense of responsibility than might have otherwise been the case.

Another difficult assertion to accept is to the effect that the distinguished senator “is fighting a battle against public perception because in many quarters in Nigeria, he has not been able to live down the feeling that he betrayed his party”. To this I say perhaps “many quarters” but certainly not majority of Nigerians share this sentiment. I believe majority of Nigerians prefer inclusive broad-based governance that reflects the country’s diversity, rather than governments that are highly skewed and based on an ideology of exclusion of sections of the country.

The writer’s anger was revealed the more when he stated that Saraki “remains defiant and continues to ignore the APC and PMB’s openly expressed preference that APC senators bow to party supremacy; he fills positions with members of his own group, daring the party and PMB to do the worst!” I see this as simply meant to incite. Sensible Nigerians remember President Buhari’s statement after the election of the Senate President and Speaker House of Representatives on June 9, 2015. Our much respected President took the view that a constitutional process occurred. He accepted those elected, and said that he did not have any preferred candidates for the Senate and the House of Representatives leadership, and that he was willing to work with whomever the lawmakers elected.

The Presidency is a serious office and cannot issue public statements that are meant for nothing. It is an honourable office and Nigerians want to believe it ended with that. If the President goes on after that date and that statement to antagonize Saraki, that is a minus for Buhari among honourable people. I refuse to believe the hidden insinuation of that writer that our President who is noted point above is another vexatious one which stated that Buhari publicly ignored the Senate President at the Abuja Eid praying ground. To this I wail, the Nigerian President publicly ignoring the Nigerian Senate President elected within the laws of Nigeria as acknowledged by the Nigerian President! Who loses? Who becomes a smaller man by that, if that was really the case? Anyway, I doubt that it’s fact.

He further asserted that Saraki missed the photo-op with President Barack Obama by not accompanying Buhari to the United States. This can’t be serious. How many times have we seen Senate Presidents going on foreign trips with a country’s President?
That “…Bukola Saraki, unable to secure an audience with PMB, was corralling the Emir of Ilorin to service to find every opportunity for him to get to see the President.” This is commendable. He who seeks peace means well.

That “…he nevertheless continues to defy the same President and party in respect of the extant problems arising from his demarche on June 9.” Shaking my head in disbelief, I ask: But where is the proof of defiance to the President? Has Buhari asked Saraki to resign as Senate President? Or is this suggestive of a possibility that the statement issued after the election of Saraki as Senate President was not with the knowledge of the President? Is there a crack in the Presidency?

The apparently angry writer complained that OlisaMetuh of the PDP had asserted that they were working for Saraki’s return to the PDP. Now, I wonder what is strange about that. I would expect PDP to work for the return of not only their former members, but other senior APC members as well. Recall that APC lured them away from PDP. What is wrong with PDP doing the same?
The writer also accused Saraki of “… embarking on the next chapter of his own personal agenda for presidency…” But who, among the big names in Nigerian politics, does not have a personal agenda? Is it Buhari, Tinubu, Atiku, or who? What is peculiar with Saraki having a personal agenda?

The following comment in the article is perplexing: “…instead of working to further enhance the North-Southwest alliance, these shortsighted and opportunistic Northern politicians who bought into Bukola Saraki’s anti-Tinubupropaganda endanger PMB’s CHANGE Agenda and willy-nilly, have become as disruptive as Bukola Saraki and are working for his personal agenda NOT the interest of Northern Nigeria or those of our country, in the long run.” This, to say the least, is scandalous. Is Mr Kawu by any means implying that the whole essence of Buhari’s government is to exclude two of Nigeria’s six geopolitical zones? Federal Character and inclusiveness are products of Nigeria’s political history, and Constitution which the President swore to uphold. Is he stating that Buhari is implementing a policy of exclusion? That frightful comment forces one to compare what PDP did for geopolitical zones in which they did not do well in presidential elections with what the author appears to certify the APC as doing now. Is it possible that a trend has emerged with two contending visions/ideologies – those who want an inclusive Nigeria (PDP and APC elements like Saraki and Dogara), versus the APC apostles of exclusion?

The writer had asserted that, in his own words, “By getting Ike Ekweremadu into the loop as Deputy Senate President, and contrary to the norms of Senate in respect of ranking, also making Godswill Akpabio Minority leader, BukolaSaraki will claim his political IOU in 2019”, Not done yet, he added that Saraki will “posture as having given the South-East and the South-South recognition and platforms of relevance, when they ordinarily would have lost out in 2015, for voting against the APC and PMB.” This line of writing and, particularly, the reasoning that produced it are as unfair as they are scary. If that writer represents the view of the anti-Saraki APC, then it is saddening to note that APC still has not appreciated that the votes secured by former President Goodluck Jonathan in South-East and South-South could have been higher if it were not for the hardwork and determination of APC leaders and members in those zones. Now these valiant men and women who fought for their convictions appear to have been made to lose their voices by the emerging scenario in their otherwise beloved APC. People are asking what Ogbonnaya Onu, Rochas Okorocha, Chris Ngige, Rotimi Amechi, and others who were very vocal in asking the South-East and South-South to come along with the APC have to offer as explanation for what is happening. What sin has the South-East, the South-South and Saraki committed? If the elements of the Change Agenda of the current government is good for all Nigeria, why the fear of persons from the South-East and South-South being around even in minor positions?

A curious accusation against Saraki in the writing is that he “… has been appointing legislative aides from different parts of the North and beyond…” If that is the case, then he is a new generation Nigerian leader indeed. A multi-ethnic, multi-everything country such as Nigeria can no longer afford political office appointments that are skewed in clear favor of one group to the exclusion of others.

The writer’s vituperation to the effect that Saraki’s trip to Maiduguri was presented as a humanitarian trip to give succor to people displaced as a result of the Boko Haram insurgency was curiously meant to reduce the person of Saraki. To the contrary, it has ended up improving the person and persona. A politician must be known for something. Buhari brand appeal is in his anti-corruption posture. If Saraki’s is humanitarianism, then that is desirable in the hard times Nigerians all over the country are in.


The simple conclusion to this is encapsulated in the question we employed as the title of this piece: Who is afraid of Bukola Saraki? It has to be fear of the man that is generating the level of antagonism contained in that article. Once again, that has no place in national development.


- See more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2015/08/who-is-afraid-of-bukola-saraki/#sthash.o4cZkTN8.dpuf

Chief Babatunde Olorogun-Etti and 28 former leaders of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) in Lagos State on Tuesday identified fair-mindedness, critical trust building, and good gatekeeping as virtues possessed by the former governor of Lagos State and All Progressives Congress (APC) National Leader, Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu.

They also praised him for respecting the needs of Lagos people, demonstrating democratic efficacy, finding peaceful resolutions to conflicts and enhancing the legitimacy of democratic institutions in Nigeria.

At a well-attended ceremony in Lagos Island, Olorogun-Etti, Hon Muiz Aregbe-Obanikoro(Not Musiliu Obanikoro) and others described the former governor as the best politician in the country.

They also praised him for making the south-west part of mainstream politics in Nigeria

“In a lot of ways, he’s a very good politician. He has a fine political mind and a real commitment to public service. He is a man of real talent and real principle.” they said.

Placing a high premium on loyalty, the new APC members promised to deliver the party’s message faithfully and sincerely and to toe the party line.

Attributing their defection to leadership greed and selfishness, they urged other Lagosians in PDP to quit the party.

“The leaders do not have the interest of members at heart” they said.

Among those who defected were Chief Ibrahim Babatunde Olorogun-Etti, Hon Muiz Aregbe-Obanikoro, Alhaji Yakub Yusuf, Mr. Sunday Ayinde, Mr. Wale Ramous, Alhaja Kuburat Salami, Alhaji Lateef Lamidi and Mrs. Adijat Jaji.





http://dailytimes.com.ng/olorogun-etti-obanikoro-27-lagos-pdp-leaders-praise-tinubu/

An unidentified Helicopter just crashed into the ocean of Third Mainland bridge at the back of Oworoshoki Police station. Eye witness stated that the Helicopter made a loud noise before nosediving into the ocean
Details later


- See more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2015/08/breaking-unidentified-helicopter-crashes-into-third-mainland-bridge/#sthash.szaiFolJ.dpuf

Power of science

Bros you try,


have you fall victim before

Not new,

so many offices use it.


have same in my office reception

Hehehehehehehehe

chocolateme:
The gathering of the vultures.. Charley MAN how far?
Una Don desert this guy for long now refusing to help or carry him along, now wey his story don dey change, all of una come start to crawl out. It is well.
Majek Fashek always has this swaggs even teeth finish for his mouth..
His story will be that of DRY bones that ROSE again.

Damsel,

ok

AbdulAdam56:
The distance from Daura Emirate in Katsina State to Ogoniland in
Rivers State is well over 4,700 kilometres.
Daura is in South-West geopolitical zone while Ogoniland is in
South-South geopolitical zone. One must traverse through North-
Central and South-East geopolitical zones before one can get to
South-South geopolitical zone. It will take an aeroplane close to
three hours before one can get to Port Harcourt airport from
Katsina airport.

at the bolded op, North west, not south west,


i know it a mistake



Thanks to sai Baba.

better to move slowly and surely.


than to rush dey russia

We hope so Sir

Serve them right

How do we confirm this





In 6month times, if we see the influx of new investors to build and operate in our new obodo nigeria, then i will believe this news


Sia BABA.

talk2yommex2000:
REALY?

yep early this year.


but with this present Dollar fluctuation, as dollar dey come down self, people no go gree reduce money, as u knw we nigeria, anytin that goes up, goes up forever

Seun:
Why so cheap?

it not cheap, used sharon 700k is too much, it shld not be more than 600k self,


Toks 1st grade cost arnd 800k - 900k. at Apapa (berger side) where MTN office is located.

nairalady:
So must it be Lagos?
Why not calabar ?

so calabar is no more part of SS.

Pidggin:
What's so funny about this?

Are you guilty

Can any serious lady trust you as well,



Beside what happen to all the ladies you get down with, and ate their kitty cat,

they are no longer to be trusted abi,

you are on a long thing

Good

Result of taking diff drugs to eliminate the pregnancy,

ePUNK:
i'm from the Niger Delta and seriously when our people stop threatening investors with "shut-down" this or that then maybe we might start attracting serious minded people down here. Do you ever here of such youth restiveness in Lagos? Lagos is always business friendly and as far as i'm concerned Lagos can successfully seceded from this union called Nigeria.

NLNG is even too big - look @ Port Harcourt for instance we do not have malls like shoprite and prestigious hotels like 4points. Even I fully understands the risk anyone will take when setting up a business here - especially when one of the criteria is imposition of labour by host communities regardless of whether they are skilled or not.

NLNG is free to set-up where-ever they choose.

SIMPLE

10 crates of origin for you, my guy

The SS youth are doing one thing, in every situation why do they restore to threat, if any thing happen, the next thing you heard from them is to shut down oil facilities,

am sure NLNG will have done their visibility study very well and assess it as well, with the threat from Tompolo, Asari and the likes, if they build and you guys shut down the facility and hinder them from operating,
someone is running at loss,

hence the need to build and operate in a safer environment, yet you guys still go there to threating them again.



you guys should think twice before doing all this things, it not helping this nation at all.



and aside that, on a neutral level, you don't expect a profit making company to put all their egg in one basket,

all their operating companies cant be in one location, God forbid bad thing,
what if something happen tomorrow, that is all the operating company that make up NLNG will go down in one day.

hence the need to spread

Feranmicharles:
I guess your mind skipped the picture

on the pic

ypu have 3 tweet, one talk abt the 1920 report, with no link to read the report.


the other two tweets talk abt chad and BH boiz

where is the report,

@op na wa for you, you just open thread, without any link to the report.


most of us were not born then, and am sure most pple like me, were hearing about this report for the first time.

hence the need to go thru the report.

either good or bad.

If you see a nigerian man open a car door for a lady,


it either the car is new or the lady is new

President Muhammadu Buhari has approved the appointment of the[b] Executive Vice Chairman of ExxonMobil Africa, Emmanuel Ibe Kachikwu,[/b] to head Nigeria National Petroleum Corporation (NNPC). Kachiku is expected to take over from from Joseph Darwa at the NNPC headquarters in Abuja around 3:00 PM Nigerian time.

Kachikwu, trained lawyer, was born and raised in Onicha Ugbo in Aniocha North local government area of Delta State.



http://saharareporters.com/2015/08/04/president-buhari-appoints-exxonmobil-vice-chair-head-nigerias-petroleum-corporation

That guy get mind ooooooooo

Confirm