₦airaland Forum

TheWinterBird:
Re. Her serving you food without cloth to wash your hands:

So... she serves you food, along with water to wash your hands, but no cloth [or towel] to dry your hands and it's the last part you're complaining about? Na wa oooooo. Why can't you get up to dry your hands yourself or is that too much for you to do? That will not reduce your being man; get up and go dry your hands. It's possible she forgets amidst trying to get everything done (going by your post, you probably don't help this woman at all with any chores in the home!!!), so you could get up to do that yourself. It's your type that will not want to lift a plate in the home to wash because your wife is a maid that will do everything. Na wa oooooo.

Another option is to be reminding her and doing it gently and respectfully: "Darling, can you please get me a cloth to dry my hands?" or "Darling, please get me a cloth to dry my hands". If you're doing that and speaking to her like sweetly, she will be remembering gradually.


Re. Her taking the baby out without informing you:

If you're not home and she needs to go somewhere important, is she supposed to call to ask for your permission before going, or leave her baby alone at home because you might not want her taking the child along? Oga, reason am na. This is a 1-year old, so it wouldn't even be a good idea to leave him/her with anyone else (other than you), hence it's best for the child to be with her mother when they need to go out and you're not around. I don't live in Nigeria and see a lot of new moms and their spouses here taking their babies (not even up to 1-year olds) out and about in strollers. They're usually in strollers that keep them protected away from the sun. I hope your wife has a good stroller like that, but if not, get her one! You obviously don't help this woman do anything at home and definitely not outside either, so I believe she's doing the best she can.


Re. the insufficient salt in food

Mr. Man, get a salt shaker (a little bottle/container where you put salt in and meant to be kept at the table where you eat in order to add it to food, if needed). A meal having little salt isn't a bad thing and is better than it being loaded with too much salt! It having little to no salt means you can always add salt when eating. Secondly, we all have different thresholds when it comes to tasting things like salt. It's possible she's one of those people who tastes food with little salt and can enjoy the meal like that. You've to inquire from her to determine if this is the case and if it is, stay with her in the kitchen (hopefully being in the kitchen would not induce any anger in you since you cannot get up to dry your own hands because you're too big of a man to do that) to show her how much salt you'll like her to be adding. That doesn't mean telling her to dump a gallon of salt in the pot and being inconsiderate of her own taste but coming to a compromise on how much salt would be cool for both of you. In the meantime, get a salt shaker like I suggested above and if you show her and you find the food is still lacking the amount of salt you like, then continuing using the salt shaker and add your own salt when eating.


As for your temperamental issue, get help. I don't know what she was thinking marrying someone "very temperamental" and seemingly sexist. You're close to turning her into a punching bag (I hope you're not already doing that) because of these small issues, therefore seek help before it gets to that stage.

my dad was also like this while growing up, though my Mom never complained but it made me my other siblings feel wronged n vowed never to marry such men even if they have billions of Dollars. Though Momsy left him the moment....I clocked 19yrs . Though she never remarried nor date anyone since then.. even with her extreme beauty.

Modupeola17:
Omoooo, sometimes I just sit and wonder what is the essence of being alive sometimes, my and husband both lost our jobs coupled with the fact that we have a one year old daughter , everyone we tried to confide in makes it a subject of mockery, no one to confide it, just tired of everything

online airdrop mining is really helping my family and I presently. If you wish to know more dm me

Kobojunkie:
Yes! lots of people have other hobbies and even volunteer work to get to after they are done with their regular jobs. It is part of living an enriched existence!

Then you should have reserved your advice for whoever is looking for that on this platform huh

Kobojunkie:
I didn't say anything about you being jobless either.

you actually asked me to indirectly by saying I should get out and volunteer in a school or hospital. Or do you also do the things you mentioned after closing from work?

@ojotobiloba , I have done that sir. Thanks will be expecting her message please. I was actually restricted from making a comment on my post. I don't know why though. These admins...

@Kobojunkie , did I mention being jobless in my post?

It's extremely annoying

Something must be really wrong with the admins here. I made a post few days ago, but have not been allowed to reply any messages there since then. There was not offensive about my post

Angelfrost:
The woman's lover should arrest and charge the idiot and weak simp to court.

He should be made to pay for damages.

If you catch your wife or husband with another, your grouse should never ever be with the other man or woman...

Take out your annoyance on the one that swore to stay faithful to you. Leave out the other person.

Learn to master your emotions... Una nor want hear word.

Judge won't show you mercy based on the fact that you were cheated upon... Last time I checked, adultery is not an offense worthy of imprisonment or death. It's not even a criminal offense.

true

eboniest:
Am experiencing the same thing but I stay in akure

sending you hugs 🥺sis.... It's not easy oo

Is there any married female introvert(extreme )like me in Osogbo living within Osogbo that wishes to hangout for for few hours? Send me a dm n I will reply you pls. Am so bored.... also want to experience hanging out with friends too

Since government banned circumcision of females, what do you really expect from those generations of ladies. That's y white people have sex anywhere anyhow at any moment. Most ladies that were not circumcised go through hell.... even some eventually find a way to get circumcised as an adult after going through this willingly as an adult...to avoid such senerios.. just ask any you might know if they will be sincere about it.... have seen cases of such ladies often using any available objects to scratch the hell out of their clitoris because they always complain of its sensitivity when in contact with their panties. While some jump on any available guy that can relieve them of effects. Those of you that have dated or wife a lady that was circumcised/ a lady that wasn't circumcised you must have noticed how different and often each initiate sex or get aroused easily in your relationships if you pay attention to it.

Balablue64:
I never said the wife should provide, but she must contribute.
As a person i believe in equality, equality in marriage, Equality in mind and everything except for physical strength.
She must be able to contribute to some extent, while growing up my mom was very industrious she takes care of mostly feeding. While my dad pays the utility bills and buys bulk gari and rice.
Only an unwise man will marry a girl that he will be sharing his salary for feeding and providing for her as if she's a handicap, children sef never come oh, abeg leave nonsense

very well said.....
But hope men too will learn to wash their clothes since they aren't handicap too

DAramis:
how can this be done for mtn?
And is it possible to do it on mtn website online? Trying to sort myself out on this

you can't link it on your App but you can use code *994# first generate your VNIN before linking your Nin to your sim. N20 each

Irreplaceable01:
It was not a long distance relationship, I was always visiting her aunty she stayed with. I do call her sister we do gist. I even bought food stuff for the family this past December for Christmas. We were together in my house fews days to this introduction. We even chatted the morning of that introduction and we arranged to meet that very day 11th of February which was a Sunday.

It was just a strong urge within me, like am intuition that pushed me to go visit the family that very day. There was no single reason to have suspected such a thing was going on.

cases like these shouldn't be hidden if all you said is true

Irreplaceable01:
Let me continue the story; many persons seems to be getting the narrative wrong. Although I'm not a story teller, so try to read slowly, comprehend before replying.


To continue...I was now speaking with the uncle she stays with (He was the first person I went to visit with drink and declared my intention to marry her last two yrs) I asked what was going on, I need clarification as I don't understand. He replied that he was shocked to have seen me that he thought me and her were no longer together. Saying that he told her to tell me that family did not accept me because of my ethnicity (I'm Edo). This girl didn't tell me anything, totally kept me in the dark and none of her family members told me anything like that. I became furious and the Uncle reacted aggressively, telling me to leave his house.

The next day 12th February, I matched back to the house with my soldier friend to ask her about the welfare of the unborn child,this girl replied that she thought she was pregnant but she's not. Omoh, how can someone be thinking she's pregnant for 7months? I spent money to Register her for antenatal, do send money for provisions,buy fruits and all that. It was obvious she had aborted the pregnancy.

I wanted to take it up with her but family advise I let go of everything and move on. People can be wicked sha. Her reason for all these was that family did not want their daughter to marry from Edo

after everything.... she go still dey wish for happiness
in her marriage . I really pity her husband to be

Zonefree:
You were not invited prior to the event is enough reason for you to leave immediately.

But, as a hungry man, they offered you seat, food and drink, you accepted not knowing it's your beloved pregnant babe's introduction.

You're a disgrace to humanity. It's more noble to have a bandit as a son than to have you as a son. Tueh!

na wa for you oo....diz yah sense of reasoning dey baffle pesin fa.....lemme jas assume u sha open yah mouth to vomit wetin come out

bukatyne:
In which culture did women start working immediately after birth? Igbos have the omugwo system, Yorubas have the MIL/Mother/female relative come in. I don't know about the Hausa but I believe in a Polygamous set-up, there are enough wives to run the home such that the new mother is not burdened.

Our fathers in the 15th century, where did women give birth and jump into chores?

@OP: I don't blame the husband. If the wife has shown herself capable, who are we to say she isn't? Ideally, we can't love her more than she loves herself.

Hausa women go to their parents's home to stay after child birth

Your location?

Nomerci:
They are always proud and arrogant with zero account balance. I met one of their students,a law student in January,when sapa wan finish me. I had this samsung a21s I got in 2020 for 79k.used the phone,after I forgot the phone inside my drivers window pocket after visiting a car wash,not knowing rhe idiot car wash did not drain out the water,naso I place the phone inside the pocket.it toasted my screen and it became black.after replacing the screen,I put it up on jiji for 80k.one lead City student came and started pricing the phone for 65k and was doing Shakira.next thing he started swearing at me,charging at me.saying I stole the phone.me wey hold purchase receipt with box.i walked out on him still the idiot was swearing at me. I shook my head.because u hold iphone 11,u felt u could intimidate me.who is a student, compared to me that owns a company. They should burn her with tyres.living above their means and trying to be like the Rihanna.ole

the burning part bad oo... she should be jailed instead and when released on probation with compulsory community service for a year

Babangidapikin:
Okay I suspect the server might have been overwhelmed..

Good morning sir, have been able to register successfully. Thanks a lot.

Babangidapikin:
It's showing, but I don't know what you mean by not going through.

maybe their server is down...I tried to register but it is showing error page

Babangidapikin:
https://jobportal.osunstate.gov.ng/register?emp_type=tescom
From Google

thanks a lot. But the website is not going through

Please 🙏 I need the link for registration for the ongoing 2023 teaching/teachers recruitment in Osun State.

It seems you don't understand the op's explanation: he said after a woman stop giving birth... that is she is done with child bearing. To my understanding..... when got to that stage in life I was also like that but things changed for good after my hubby started paying more attention to me almost like during our courtship days. But what you need to understand is that if your woman truly loves you, you will realize she has always been seeking for your attention even while she was still bearing children but she might still be carried away with pregnancy symptoms, delivery own, and nursing of the newborn baby and other kids on ground . But after child bearing, the feeling of being a young woman will be back fully within her because she now have more time to think and fantasize about herself and the man in her life if she still love you..... give her attention now and she will make you feel like a young boy again oo....no more transfer of aggression from the daily stress of life... the new vibes you have for each other will help you overcome all obstacles.

sketching:
SOURCE: Daily Post

login to your MTN App to confirm if your nin has been successfully linked...
If not.... you have to first generate your virtual nin (VNIN) to be able to register your Nin....in which N20 will be deducted from the sim twice( for generating VNIN and submission of NIN).

MissJ0:
I don't know. I've linked mine twice, yet I got this again this morning after linking it last week for the second time.

did you get a notification text message that your nin has been successfully linked to your sim card after the registration?

I sincerely believe you. During my secondary school days,my mom told us how she met a guy she knew in her home town in a street in Lagos 2days b4 travelling to her home town without knowing he has been dead for some time until she went back home b4 hearing the news of his death.

danietohbadt:
Yes, the update is out with that of Immigration

Check here https://cdcfib.career/

thanks

Did anybody get shortlisted here?

Please,is there any news about this recruitment?

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