Salewa97: Tinubu is absolutely right! Home is where the heart is, and there's no place like Nigeria for growth and opportunity. Those abroad should remember the immense potential we have here. Let's unite and build a better Nigeria together, regardless of where we are!
sIfioksq: True talk! Home is where the heart is, and Tinubu is reminding us of the importance of our roots. No matter where we go, Nigeria will always be our foundation. Let's rally together and build the Nigeria we all dream of!
Selfkontrol: thanks bro.. but honestly I got things figured out early in life.. I started making money at 26/27 and didn’t even think of women or party or spending recklessly.. that was when I even bought my first property and kept buying at every little money I made them.. situation just changed after my marriage and I lost my daughter. That was the beginning of my endless selling of properties in a desperate bid to make the money I lost but kept loosing..I was too confident in my skills to recover every money I lost but things didn’t just go as planned./
I’m learning cloud computing pivoting towards cloud Engineering since it requires little programming skills and I love the concept of cloud computing since I can combine it with cybersecurity in the future.
yea i know. You were not in the right state of mind to continue to trade. I believe thats when you should have come for advise. I would advised you to just sell a property to get money to feed till you get back on your feet and if you are doing something without success is better you cut your loss and move on. Cloud computing is okay but is very matured and you would need a lot of certification. But if you want to stand out learn AI thats the latest now.
Some people advised I stay and some insisted I travel (i wished I started making plans to travel then).The country wasn’t that bad as naira was around 700-800/$ and inflation wasn’t this bad.. And also, I was in a better financial standing with properties worth atleast 70m as of then,
Walk with me.
I have been a crypto trader for 7 years and literally made 90% of my money from crypto which set me up. I bought properties worth millions , my car, one for my mom and settled a few persons and finally got married to my longtime GF. I felt untouchable and didn’t for once think things would take a different turn in my life. However, my life took a drastic turn when I lost my daughter shortly after birth. This devastating event sent me into a downward spiral, affecting my mental health and trading decisions that cost me thousands of dollars including my trading capital. After I lost my trading capital, I was broke with a grieving wife and put my first property for sale.
Sold the property for 16m by then dollar was already 850 and rapidly growing, I removed some money for house upkeep for months and converted the rest to dollar to continue on my crypto trading since that was my only source of income and my area of specialty. I was grieving and trading (don’t know if it was my coping mechanism). Traded recklessly at the same time having issues in my family cos my mom made serious issues after we lost our baby, all this while I never knew she hated my wife and her family.. she initially told me not to get married to the girl and her family siting so many spiritual reasons but all fell on a deaf ear because I couldn’t imagine my mom making decisions for me or telling me who I should marry or not.. tension grew in the family and at the same time I was fighting for my finances together with dealing with a wife that just lost a child.. terrible period for me.. I was in between the devil and the deep blue Sea.. things didn’t go as planned with my trading and I ended up blowing up that money., and it downed on me that things are getting really serious and I need to face these challenges squarely.
I got broke again and since I’m a family man, I must always provide for my family so I always have to do something.. I contemplated selling my second property worth 30m for weeks before I finally concluded on selling it since I need money for investment or something to plan the money with. That was when I created that thread debating on traveling or staying back in Nigeria.. investing that money in Nigeria was not feasible and making sense to me considering the inflation as naira was almost hitting 900-100/$. I didn’t know what business to do that won’t make me throw away my money or waste my time. Crypto was still the only business I was good in so I decided to diverse another means so I won’t loose money. I realized over trading was the problem because I was basically looking for a new project to invest in which most of them turned out to be scam.. so I made research on good projects to invest that money on
I found good projects I was confident on. I had everything already figured out. The plan was to invest that money and not trade till the end of 2024/2025 since I sold the property July 2023. I also remember vividly how my wife told me to use part of that money to buy other landed properties but I was adamant and felt I got things figured out already.. so I did exactly as I planed and also moved from that house we were living in to a different place and also started to learn tech. Along the line I got discouraged learning tech and felt I was wasting my time instead of looking for ways to make money. I realized it’s quite difficult for some people that have seen millions of naira to start learning a new skill or going to school.. it’s actually one of the hardest things to do. it takes a different kind of motivation and drive to push urself.
I don’t know how it happened but I found myself going back to trading again, I keep dipping my hands in my long term cryoto investments each time I needed capital to trade since it was taking forever for the coin to grow.. (if I had left what i invested, it would’ve been worth $300k by now with the 25m from my property I sold )
It was really a humbling situation for me. I went from having my life figured out to fighting again for my life… All these period my wife was already pregnant again after she got a miscarriage after loosing our first child. So now I’m not just fighting for myself and wife but a child is in the picture now.. things got worse in the new house we moved to as I kept loosing money on money.. I never had any profitable month in the new house.. I usually have eye for good projects to invest in but I began loosing my confidence and ended my selling so many good projects I invested in before they breakthrough.. I’ve had a case of missing out on a project that would’ve giving me $600k just because I sold it too early. Several other projects too. It was a repetition of circles. It seems I was going round in an unending circles.
I ended up selling another property in my new house worth 20m and also my car worth 11m, it happened like magic and.. I can’t really explained how these things happened but it happened too fast like some kind of evil manipulation or some gambling addiction on crypto.. I wasn’t a careless person, I don’t smoke and don’t drink, don’t womanise either.. so many thoughts ran through my mind even about my mom telling me not to marry my wife because she have had so many bad dreams about the girl and her family, she believes my problems started since I married the girl and she warned me.. God also blessed me with a child as my wife put to birth successfully
I asked my self could it be spiritual or physical? I also come from a relatively poor family that im the only grandchild doing well in the whole family from A-z.. my father died years ago.. my wife’s family is a progressive family that her cousins and direct siblings are in America and Canada so how could what my mom is saying be true. Well I never believed in any of those things right from the beginning but seeing the trajectory of my life in a space of 2 years make me begin to wonder
I already believe it to be my recklessness and probably gambling on crypto hoping to hit it big but on the other hand I’m not a newbie in this biz,, I have been grinding in this for atleast 7 years and got experience in this biz, its seems my years of hard work got wiped in a space of a year +
Now I’ve a property left valued at 18m that’s like a lifeline and already decided I won’t invest in crypto but use that money to travel out,, I’m back to learning the tech skill I have been avoiding for years and pushing myself hard everyday. The aim is to use the rest of the year to improve my skill to a significant level and be good at it by next year
This feels like a learning process and at same time a humbling experience for me, I have been without a vehicle for the past 4 months now.. I’ve made so much in life and almost lost everything even at a young age.. life can be very funny, when I had all the money I lost my child, when God finally blessed me with a child, I’m now fighting for my finances with my rent almost due and waiting for my property to be sold before I balance my rent.
I know i probably would’ve started a physical business in the past but looking at the current situation of Nigeria and inflation hitting ath I doubt my business could’ve survived but still this is a lesson of me putting all my eggs in one basket and still thinking Nigeria has any future. If I probably had travelled years ago when things weren’t this bad in Nigeria and I still had lots of resources, I doubt I would be in this situation..
Selling that land feels right now like I’d be starting life afresh with no property to my name… it hurts me so bad I’m even ashamed to explain this to anyone. Only my wife understands the level of damage that has happened in our lives the past 2 years. I can’t even tell my mom details of all of these.
I’m writing this out there so people can learn one or two from it,, I’d be 32 in few months time and I’m picking up myself by learning a tech skill and relocate from the country. I also plan relocating to Abuja first so I can be close to the embassy as regards to visa interviews runs etc I want to dedicate the next 1 year in traveling runs and perfecting a tech skill I can bank on when I travel. My story is quite deeper than this but I’m not a long writer so I just touched the most important part.
I will probably come back here in a year time or 2 years to write my progress in life . Thanks for reading
i think you lack a mentor. I think you would have come for advise before this free fall. If you are a learning a tech skill let it be AI especially generative AI
Memory problem in Neural network will be fixed in the next generation AI. China and Us are pushing billions in AI while the EU is behind. UK who is a leader in tech is behind.
no lstm handled that. I am asking whether ufldl went further.
UFLDL and LSTM contribute to the advancement of machine intelligence by enhancing the capability of models to learn complex patterns and relationships from data, enabling applications in various domains such as natural language processing, computer vision, and autonomous systems.
Iamblessed85: If i hear that phrase “secure the children’s future” one more time, i may throw up. I will number my points as i donot have the patience to arrange my paragraphs sequentially.
1. This only becomes a thing when the wife is less successful and have chances of becoming the breadwinner abroad e.g doctors and nurses. The husbands sheepishly throws it all away to start from scratch. I have never seen a wife resign from a blue collar job to become a carton picker abroad. What is wrong with men? God forbid
2. There’s no evidence that kids born abroad are more successful.
3. A public university in Nigeria is better than an unknown university abroad. Afterall, it’s our own educational system that empowered the parents to be able to consider japa and land jobs abroad.
4. Kids born abroad are less likely to attend ivy league schools due to the cost. The high paying jobs would be taken by alumnis of ivy league schools and smart immigrants before abroad born kids that attended average unis.
5. The level of civilization abroad would become the baseline for the kids and they would take it for granted. Imagine if Shakespear were to somehow appear in this century. He would marvel at what the world has become. Here we are, we don’t even acknowledge some of the mind blowing inventions we have currently because it’s our baseline. It would be same for kids born abroad.
6. No evidence exists that you can’t get a high flyer job as a Nigerian schooled. For example, an ex PwC in Nigeria can also get a PwC or big 4 job abroad. I know someone who just got a job with Mckinsey in canada and he spend all his years schooling in Nigeria.
7. A dull kid in Nigeria would also be dull abroad. A kid with grace in Nigeria would also operate with same level of grace abroad
8. Japa to secure the future of the kids would place an unfair burden on the children in future. You would definitely hear some parents saying “ After all I sacrificed to bring you here” They will resent you for it and probably distance themselves from you.
9. If you are successfull, there’s high likelihood for your children to be regardless of their location. Afterall, they carry what you carry except you dilute their genes by choosing the wrong woman
10. 65% or more probability that your kids will undergoe a sex change or be initiated into homosexuality at school. Remember, it is legal for them to do this without your consent and you can get imprisoned if you try to interfere. The society will hail them as “brave”
God go punish una small small. The small naija wey we dey manage your president has totally messed it up. There is no future for our kids in this contraption at the moment.
Rapmoney: There is this local restaurant I used to eat any time I visit Warri. Omo, na so I enter Mama Teguolo restaurant say make I chop. The food I bought (based on low budget) cost N1500. This is the same food I used to buy by this time last year for N400. The inflation rate in Nigeria is really terrible.
For those people who like screaming, 'Plant your own food, plant your own food', I guess we should also rear our own cattle, goats, sheep, ram, chickens, etc and also refine our own crude oil, manufacture our own cars all in our backyard. We should also look for ways to generate our own electricity individually because the electricity that is given to us is costly.
It is shameful that there are Nigerian youths who still give excuses on behalf of the government. Sometimes, I wonder the essence of education to the Nigerian youth when they make cases for people whose corrupt practices have destroyed the economy and social life of the citizens.
even kenyan youths showed great resilience just recently. Truly I am ashamed of them.
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Silentgroper: how long does it take to make a toast ..
Op is even lenient .. I would have ask her to pound yam that night and she dares not do it ..
no is not right. Fathers day he left his family and came back by 10pm to ask his wife to make a toast. Make una dey respect women na, they are human beings too.
Thank you my brother. If I am in charge, I go very low, I no send anybody because nobody feeds me.
Yes, she makes fresh juice every morning for their lunch in school. The kids got tired of the fresh juice that they ignore it and return with it sometimes. Now she buys other drnks like yoghurt, chocolate and milkshake. Said she will be alternating them so they still drink the fresh juice when she gives them.
She complains i am too strict, and sometimes go for cheap things at the expense of quality. Always blackmailing me with the kids' health. That was why I withdrew a bit, before I'll be blamed if my kids fall sick. But, no be naija we dey? They still fall sick once in a while. It was in that regards she stopped them from drinking any other water but Eva.
I know some of these are not neccessary, but I just look away sometimes in order not to be 'too' strict'.
For comparison of standard, it's a NO. She knows nobody dares that in my house. Na she just set the standard, which if allowed, i will definitely lower it. Once in a while we dey clash, but you know how e dey be.
ScotHarvath: Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.
I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.
Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.
Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.
If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.
Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.
If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me
for this one i support you. Check her phone and see whether she is cheating? Your wife is a narc she likes manipulation and drama. You would not win by argument. You need to break her manipulation and take control. Learn to be more independent, rent office away from home.
ScotHarvath: I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.
We have two kids.
Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.
I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.
I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.
Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?
Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.
I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.
I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.
is called see finish. If you work from home please rent office. Respect is reciprocal,how can you come back by 10pm and tell her to make toast? Fathers day you should have been at home?
This topic is apt. I love the guy that wrote a physics text in igbo. Granted that teaching a child native grrounds the child in your culture. However, i feel it takes out the energy you would have used to teach him skills, languages, science that would impact on his life. We need to use our native language to create value. We are trying that through our music. However, to make it have more impact we need to teach science and maths in our native language
Generally people sees things differently and complains is normal until one understands what on ground. For me, in all ramifications, Tinubu Senior them whether by culture ( age and otherwise) or official as a president. Also, I see that it was never planned, he just introduced them out of protocol so hand shake with the president was not planned as part of security. Now, how do one salute a president in this regards? Wike Is a lawyer and he knows what take a bow is.
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