This topic is apt. I love the guy that wrote a physics text in igbo. Granted that teaching a child native grrounds the child in your culture. However, i feel it takes out the energy you would have used to teach him skills, languages, science that would impact on his life. We need to use our native language to create value. We are trying that through our music. However, to make it have more impact we need to teach science and maths in our native language

phemray:



Generally people sees things differently and complains is normal until one understands what on ground. For me, in all ramifications, Tinubu Senior them whether by culture ( age and otherwise) or official as a president. Also, I see that it was never planned, he just introduced them out of protocol so hand shake with the president was not planned as part of security. Now, how do one salute a president in this regards? Wike Is a lawyer and he knows what take a bow is.

did you watch the video yes or no?

oldguyman:
Feel like crying right now.

the ronus are coming to gaslight you

IamAtAnger:
So what's the big deal?... dem no dey bow to kings and obas not to talk of the number citizen be you Oba or king you're behind him

go and bow now. The white guys didnt bow or did wike bow or ribadu. Oh bowing belongs to the level 17 officers slaves. Lol.

phemray:


So what is the meaning of taking a bow before an authority? If you enter any assembly, u must now before leaving. It's greetings or acknowledgement of an authority. Nothing bad.

an informal bow. Did you even watch the video? Commanding level 17 officers like kids, he even wanted to embarrass them further they had to mute the mic, thats when the white guys started laughing at them. Anyway you guys have normalized slavery and hardship. Udo

Tareq1105:


What's the big thing to bow before someone that made you to get even beyond the peak of your career?

Do you know what it means to be appointed a Perm Sec?

That's salary for life if you don't know and it has never happened before in the history of FCT.

Age wise, Tinubu senior them. Position wise, Tinubu senior them. What's left?

I'm very sure you've bow for a small girl bcoz you want to do before.

I know e dey pain you bcoz if na you wey become Perm Sec you go bow well well.

If they were summoned by the Senate, wouldn't they bow for senators?

no go and bow to show your appreciation. Afterall thats what you guys are slaves. I dont think you watched the video to see how he demeaned those guys. Thats wikes stock and trade to present himself as one special guy to tinubu. Tinubu is more respectful than wike, look at how he treats his guests. I know were you are coming from, you feel calling out wikes bullshit is an attack on tinubu. This shows how small and little you reason. Leaders are not perfect, when they err you call them out. If you dont you embolden them to act rash. Even in the video he started talking rubbish that they even had to mute his mic.

GeneralPula:

Op is just been unfortunate..

there is video on channels

jamesversion:
I didn't read where Wike ordered anyone to bow.

the video is there. He asked them to bow

Chivisee:
this is one of the numerous lies peter gbajue tells his ipob.s dunces to spread about their oppressor wike'. they dont know who they are dealing with.

the video is there. He told them to come out and bow before tinubu

helinues:
Video proofs or this na as usual bunkum

the video is there on channels

Chrisrare:
lol.. obidients going gaga after obi promising them the impossible

fool. Is obi the president

9?

Rapmoney:
I mean, the price of this bread is half the salary of some Nigerian workers. So can you purchase this bread in this present Nigerian economy? E be like say the bread dey cure cancer

this bread is imported. We even waste it here. It costs nothing. It is made from italian recipe

Tellmeastory:


The world values us more than we value ourselves!

is the same thing everywhere. An english man is always moaning

Ashirioluwa:
Tell her to confront our leaders for the crime they have committed against the citizens of Nigeria

why dont you that. Na woman dey rep the oppressed for nd.

ednut1:
When will she confont those militants bursting pipe or doing kpo fire 😏

shatap. Una go hide for keyboard they troll woman.

SultanOfPuna:
Tell the MUMU girl to come to Nigeria

And shout at Tompolo, Asari Dokubo, Militants and traditional rulers

Nonesense.....

you are a fool

blowjohn:
The 3 goals were scored in such a manner that even his team players thought they were dreaming and so ended up celebrating late each time the ball went in.
In fact his 3rd goal was so stunning that his teammates in the box 18 just stood still for a second in awe

dont you think they were jealous

Orinechi:
Where is the father?

he was there

forgiveness:
Way to go. You sabotage the economy, loose your money.

una mumu too much

tomi4life:


I just looked at her phone this night, both whatapp, sms and instagram there is nothing suspicious.
What i noticed she does is to drown herself with activities.

reading from your previous story. Your wife has fallen out of love. Your work takes you away most of the times. I think you guys priortized money because your wife earns well too. So your choice.

Kyng1:
Good evening nairalanders, I'm sorry but this is going to be quite an episode.

I got married barely two months ago, February precisely. I'm In my late thirties, 28 years precisely and my wife Is 24 years old, during the buildup and period of my marriage there was lot's of problems and confusion.

It started when my wife. (then girlfriend) got pregnant (September precisely) immediately after we found out things seems to be going smoothly until November last year when she popped the question "when are we getting married" I told her that I'm not yet ready for marriage but I'm willing to do introduction, that night was hell for me.

Note, it wasn't hell and shocking to me because of what happened that night, it was shocking to me because it was the very first time she asked me such a question, and her reaction was shocking to me. If she has previously asked me this particular question severally and I'm not telling her what she wanted to hear I'd have understood why she reacted In such a way and manner, but it was the very first time she was throwing that question on me.

Back to what happened that night. Immediately I told her that I wasn't ready for marriage she started crying and laying curses on me, that I'm wicked, after suffering with me etc, then I responded that she never suffered with me that this should be the very last time that she should utter such word, I said so because she has been uttering it frequently on any slight quarrel, but on that faithful night, I couldn't take it any longer I told her that you suffered with me and I have two A.C on both parlor and room before I met you, that you suffered with me and I have a 75 inch TV, freezer, inverter, luxury center table, dstv etc. You suffered with me because of what, that I'm living in a self contain, or don't have my own house or car. This is someone that I'm feeding on a daily basis back then that I'm still a tenant and yet to have my own house, we went to eatery to eat almost on a weekly basis, to the extend that she refused to go to her parents house for months.

Back to the topic, she fought me that night from 10pm to 3am, after that night she kept popping up the question almost on a daily basis and it always leads to quarrel, arguments and fights, it came to a point that she began threatening me with suicide, holding knife that she's going to stab herself, using rope to tie her neck with all her strength which normally ends with her having reddish eye's, coughing, etc until I intervene, there was a day she drank tiles wash liquid, and hypo, that night I gave her oil, and nothing happened to her, that was the deal breaker, I finally agreed to proceed with the marriage, because I was scared that If anything should happen to her then I'd go to prison for the rest of my life and my life Is over.

Note I have 4.3 million naira on my account as at then, and I intend using the money to start up a business, as I wasn't doing anything. It is also worthy to note that after lots of pressure it came to a point that I no longer tells her that I'm not ready for marriage but started telling her that I don't have money, but her response was always, "na lie, na lie, na lie" you get money. She has seen my debit alert and saw my balance. So after she drank the hypo and chemical used for tiles wash, I agreed to proceed with the marriage.

By December, I began making marriage preparations, the adrenaline rush was something else. I went to the village to inform my father people, so they can come to perform the traditional rights, as my father was no more.

On the day of the traditional marriage, her mother called me early in the morning that I need to carry some drinks to my "girlfriend, now wife" father house that she'll support me with one wine, that she's doing it because I'm complaining that I don't have money, I took two carton of Heineken, two carton of maltina one wine + the wine she supported me with and two Gordon gin. "I have no idea that I was being brain washed, they're the one's that's supposed to present those and I'd have to double it during the traditional rights, she deceived me.

Before the traditional marriage began, my father's people that's supposed to perform the traditional rights didn't arrive on time due to the distance they're coming from, her mom was already angry, few minutes later my father's people eventually arrived, immediately after their arrival "my girlfriend, now wife" elder brother made a statement which provoked me, he said "if una nor one marry make una dey go, I go pay una all the money when una dun spend, rubbish"

Immediately I heard that, I took off my agbada remaining my inner senator shirt and trouser that I'm not doing again, her mom starter ranting and raining all sorts of insults on me, she made a statement that I should never near or come close to her ever again. After some few minutes my mom calmed me down and I put on my agbada again.

Few minutes later the traditional rites began, I was inside when my younger brother came to inform me that my wife half brother's have opened and drank some of the gins I brought for the traditional rites, I Immediately told him to count and look for somewhere to buy and have them replaced, he did and before he came back they have taken more. He had to go back and have the gins replaced a second time. Immediately after the end of the traditional marriage her mom handed me a nylon with 100 notes not up to 3,000 naira and she handed my wife another that's filled to the brim, that the one she gave to me was what they sprayed me and the one for her was what they sprayed her, I was in rage and I gave the nylon to her that how can she share money spared between husband and wife, she gladly collected the money. Shortly after that, I heard her elder sister, the one my wife is following directly by birth, saying "that her sister (my wife) don't know what she has gotten herself into, I Immediately cut her short that what kind of statement is that and what next she did? She started raining all sorts of insults on me " Daniel you dey craze, Daniel your head nor correct, Daniel na God go punish you, Daniel you be bastard, we go tie you flog we go lock you up" she repeated these words continously, she pulled her slippers and wanted to come and fight me, In which they held her off. This is someone that isn't up to the age of my younger brother, I felt really embarrassed because all my friends, brother's, sisters and my mom was there. Note that I single handedly carried every single expenses of the marriage, the only expense my wife family all agreed and contributed to was making "jotters notes" for the guests that sprayed us money, which they didn't do, until date I didn't saw any jotter, not even one.

Another thing that really got me angry was few weeks before the marriage my wife mom was assuring me that there's no need to cook, that we only have to cook for reception only, which I fully agreed. But at same time I send my mom some money to prepare something just in case things didn't went as planned and because of my father's people that's coming from distance.

Two day's to the traditional marriage I sent her 490,000 naira for chicken and ingredients. Note, I have already bought two bags of rice and 2 gallons of groundnut Oil for cooking at the reception whereas I gave my mom half bag of rice as back up and three cartons of chicken for the reception refreshment. But to my surprise I saw that she, my wife mother cooked jollof rice at the traditional marriage day and while sharing she was talking continously, that I'm supposed to give her money to cook but I didn't gave her any money that she cooked the rice with her own money. I was in rage because firstly I sent her 490,000 to cook for the reception, in which she used my chicken, groundnut Oil, and ingredients to cook the jollof rice she cooked at the traditional marriage day, she only used her two basket of rice which they already have at home. And because of that two basket of rice she was downgrading me in front of my father's people, my mother's people, my brothers, sisters, friends. If she had told me that she wanted to cook rice at the traditional marriage I'd have gladly sent her the money, If I can send 490,000 for just chicken and ingredients, what's 14,000 that I can't send for two baskets of rice, this was someone that told me we aren't cooking anything on the traditional marriage day but only for the reception.

Also, before the marriage my wife mother has already arranged for us doing court weeding, which I wasn't comfortable with but since my wife was pregnant and she insist that she must wear a white weeding gown, our both churches refused to Wed us with her wearing a white wedding gown with pregnancy. So I had no choice than to settle for the court weeding that her mother proposed, but 3 weeks to the weeding my elder sister talked to her pastor and he agreed to wed us with her wearing a white weeding gown and with her pregnancy, I informed my wife and she was angry, It lead to lots of quarrels but I stood on my ground that I'm no longer proceeding with the court weeding. 4 days later I saw a chat with my wife and her elder sister, she was telling my wife that I refused to do court weeding because of the rubbish that I'm thinking that their mother said she isn't going to attend and she her self won't attend. I snapped the chat and pretended like I didn't noticed but waiting to see how everything unfolds, on the day of the weeding, her mom didn't appear in church, neither her 3 sisters. But they all came to the reception ground, at the reception when they were spraying they focused on her only, my wife mom and her sisters, none of them sprayed me, not even 50 naira, but I sprayed my wife mom. I'm not saying this because I'm expecting the money, I'm saying this because as their sister husband they're supposed to spray us both, it felt embarrassing when they were dancing and spraying only her and I was just there like I'm nothing.

Less I forget, on the morning of the reception which was the day after our traditional marriage, I called the MC and explained everything that transpired on the traditional marriage. "her mom, sharing money that was sprayed between us" and gave him names to announce as those that'd pick any money that was sprayed, I didn't included any of her sisters neither mine. My wife was angry and asked me severally to include one of her sister which I plainly disagree, she became cold, and on the reception day refused to dance. When the marriage was over we counted the money and it was 233,100 naira. For a marriage I spent 4 million plus. After everything my wife started mocking me that they've stolen my money that I think I'm wise by not allowing her sister to be among those picking money, she mocked me endlessly and started using her hands on her eye's to tell me "onwonyi" I told her that I'm not doing again that I'm returning her bride price and she called me by my name daring me to return it. I was in rage and started remembering when she was pleading with me to marry her and remove shame from her eye's, in my mind this was someone that was begging me to marry her few weeks ago, threatening to commit suicide, now daring me to return her bride price and now mocking me. I slapped her that night on our hotel room, and she fought with me for hours, and the next day she reported me to my younger brother and her best friend, the one that did chief bridesmaid for her, that I beat her on our weeding night.

Days passed, weeks passed, two months has started passed since the day of our weeding and I'm now living from hand to mouth, this same woman that was telling me back then that we'd live as a couple that even if it's Garri that we've we'll soak it and no one will know or hear about it, is now the one crying for food whenever she's hungry, she doesn't eat rice without eggs or meat, nor does she eats Eba talk more of Garri. Right now I felt deceived, manipulated into a marriage that I wasn't actually ready for, I'd have invested my 4 million into something tangible and reaping the fruit by now, right now there's no money to eat properly or go out on Sundays to have some bottles of achohol.

We're querrelling almost on a daily basis, there's no peace, sometimes I do sleep at my brother's place to have that few hours of peace than to go home to her, but it's been since a month I last did that. Recently I have been informing her that I'll return her bring price and I'm not marrying again, that marriage isn't by force that I wasn't even ready to get married if not for her suicide manipulation, that I'm just waiting for her to give birth and after 6 months I'd return her bride price, but she think I'm joking. I'm sure going to surprise her. After all I'm not sexually attracted to her, she's short, not fat and not slim either, and fair. And I I'm sexually attracted to extremely fat, dark or chocolate skinned ladies. I find myself getting extremely aroused by just staring at the pictures of fat ladies on Instagram or anywhere I come across them, on the internet, bike, etc. But my wife totally naked and close to me doesn't in anyway arouse me, not even slightly. Until date I can't get over the 4 million naira plus that I spent marrying her, it hurts me a lot till this very moment.

And for what her mom did by deceiving me to be the one to bring drinks, wines, and gin and also the one that have them replaced, by lying to me and insulting me in front of my family that I didn't gave her any money to cook because of two basket of rice she cooked, by sharing money for I and my wife etc, since the day of our marriage until date I haven't visited her, and since then also my wife also refused to visit my mom or my family because I refused to visit her mom. My mom has pleaded with me on several occasions to visit her and apologize, but I don't know why I should apologize to someone who tricked and insulted me. Right now I really wished to know if I did the right thing by not going to see her until date or just overreacting. Please I need your honest answers on this.

i think both of you must make the effort to make it work. There is no guarantee she would visit your mum if you do. Right now nurse her so that she can give safe birth.

longyemi:
Your moniker defines how much you reason!

Thanks anyways

you pay when you see the goods thats how it is done and not the other way round.

Lukmanraji:


That fateful day, my dad called me as usual and asked of my gf. Then I told him that she's fine but we're not cool at the moment. So I explained how I hurt her and he told me he's going to call her by himself.

I think every parent will intervene in such situation when their child is having an issue in their home.

let me tell you what will happen. Your babe would only come back to you if this current man leaves her. Even if you marry your babe now, she would not be 100 percent in.

Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.

the greatest way to know a cheater is when she accuses you of cheating. You are lucky you know now if not na wedding cards you for see. End it now, block her and start again. To be frank 7 years is too long to date someone.

Zonefree:

It doesn't matter. A woman that can sleep with random men as a single lady can also sleep with random men as a married woman.

A prostitute is a prostitute, regardless of her marital status.

no. If she did it before marriage there is no ground for divorce. However the thought that another has greased your brother's wife is driving him mad.

officialwdhtv:
Moment lady insists on taking her kids with her as she splits up with her husband.

Take a listen!!!

#wetindeyhappentv


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UzWGZjtl6s0

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C62xaFlr0b-/?igsh=MWtqbTE1YmlrdGxobw==

carry this skit comot here

Reginaoyah:
He pays all of that, yes. I am angry that he doesn't support me. I feel like I married my enemy.

this is entitlement my dear. You can leave him.

Reginaoyah:
1. Did you expect me to reject the proposal when it came?
2. I had reported him to his mother. His brother,and my brother who all happen to be family at different intervals.
3. He only supported the business when I opened it. This business is more than 6yrs. So you give your wife 100k to add to a small business 6yrs ago and expect her to turn it to billions with kids she feeds and same shop you collect small things like toothpaste from? You are just judgemental, no solution.

he opened a biz and not charity. You only feed from the profits and not the goods or the capital. I believe he is the one paying fees and rent.

Reginaoyah:
I decided to create this account to stay anonymous. I have been married for 11yrs. My marriage is blessed with 2kids. A boy and a girl ( 10 and 6yrs olds). I will try and make this brief. I was 28yrs old when I married. An orphan who grew up with her older brother's wife. I accepted to marry because all my life, I had known hard labour. My brother's wife used me to raise her kids and work if you understand what I mean. When marriage came, I saw it as an escape route from that lifestyle. Unknown to me that I will be feeling the way that I do now. Few days ago, I thought of killing myself because of what my life has become. My husband was nice before, now I don't know what to tag him . I have prayed and I am tired . He just does not care about me but I know he is not cheating. He gives me no support in the small provision business I do but for like 3yrs now I notice that he has change. The only time that he gave me money to add to my business was when I first started it. Some times as a mother and wife, I take things from the store that we use at home. So whenever this shop runs down, he never gives me money, I am always taking loans to fund, then when I finish repayment, I take again. Never buys my clothes or give me money for my hair. When I ask he says he opened shop for me. I have been taking loans to fund the shop because I don't have a helper but my husband looks the other way. We live in a student environment, a student came to buy pure water and stole my phone, my husband didn't bother or think of buying a new one. He's a plumber, whenever he comes back from work and it's like there's a bill, he tells me he doesn't have money. He hides his phone from me so that I don't see alerts. I wear clothes, ppl see me then praise him assuming that he's responsible for them but this man has not given me money for clothes in years. Not even for pants or pads.

I have reported him to ppl but he comes back even worse. He gives me money for food on Saturdays. So I cook a pot of soup and stew which the money will carry...imagine my kids taking rice and stew to school Monday to Friday because they have to eat eba as dinner. This is where I sometimes secretly take them to the shop to change meals. I complained and he said that they have to eat what he has as they are even lucky to see food.

I asked him if he was ready for marriage and he said YES. He married me well. Did everything. But I hate that I married him.

Please, I don't know what to do. I am overthinking because I am already in a 190k debt I don't know how to pay or when. His brother abroad reads my messages then ignore. My brother is old I can't ask him for anything. I feel I married a wicked man. Now we hardly even talk without quarreling.

but come to think of it. If he invested a lot in your business, he is probably expecting that you should have grown it big by now. I believe he doesnt ask you of money, meaning all the money you make from your biz are yours. You need to restrategize, if you pay up your debt see how you grow this biz or look for employment in addition to this biz.

alphonsojaybaz:
Lady who secretly welcomed baby with ex dumps husband after sponsoring her UK master’s

A Nigerian guy told a heartbreaking tale about a woman who, after making amends and having a child with her ex-boyfriend, left her marriage to the man who had funded her master’s degree in the UK.

The lengthy and depressing tale was shared by popular Twitter user @OurFavOnlineDoc, who said that a buddy had recounted it to him. Eyes Of Lagos reports,
lady husband ex-boyfriend uk master's
Couple.

In the detailed narration, an account was given about a man who met a lady who had recently gone through a break up; married her, only for his marriage to turn into a bitter pill to swallow.

@OurFavOnlineDoc wrote …

“So earlier today I was talking to a friend who narrated a very saddening story that sends shivers down my spine every time I think about it- even now as I write this.

I was talking to my friend – who is a lady- and we were just talking about how marriage can make or mar a person and she shared this true life story with me.

So there’s a man, in his early 40s, let’s call him Chijioke, for the sake of this writeup. Chijioke is an uneducated man who is into “container” business, import, export and many legitimate business enterprises. He inherited a huge business empire from his father and he successfully even took it to far greater heights.

Chijioke met a young fine fairskinned gorgeous lady and got romantically attracted to her. Let’s call the lady Amaka, for the sake of this writeup.

Amaka is a well educated, classy, beautiful lady who has just recently finished from university when she met Chijioke. She had just gone through a rough breakup with her ex-boyfriend, a few weeks before meeting Chijioke.

For the sake of the story, let’s call her ex boyfriend Nnamdi. Amaka considered her ex-boyfriend Nnamdi the true love of her life. However as the relationship failed, she moved on with her life- or so it seemed. And then came along Chijioke.

Within a few weeks of expensive dates, luxury shopping and quality time together; Amaka and Chijioke started dating. Chijioke is what you will call an “Agba Baller”, an “Odogwu”, a true rich money-spending big boy in every meaning of the term.

In no time, she got pregnant – and they decided to formalise the relationship. They had a traditional marriage and within a year, they had a pretty baby girl child. Let’s call the child Ijeoma.

After about 3years, Amaka told Chijioke her husband that she would like to go for masters in the uk. Chijioke fully paid for her masters (about £15,000), he paid 11 months rent (about £13,000), and he set aside £5,000 monthly which he sent to her for her upkeep. He bought her a car as soon as she landed in uk and all she had to do was take the uk driver’s license exams and she started driving.

So while other students were hustling for 20hours work in warehouses and shopping malls, Amaka was living a super comfortable life. All Chijioke wanted was for his wife to focus on her masters and not be distracted or bothered by any stress. Amaka and Chijioke also agreed that Ijeoma will stay with Chijioke in Lagos while Amaka was doing masters and once the masters was over, Amaka will be back home in Lagos.

As the masters was rounding up, and with the situation and state of Nigeria getting worse, Amaka explained to Chijioke that she feels it would be better if they all relocate to uk as a family.

Chijioke was fine with this but he felt it may be difficult for him to fully relocate as all his business is completely domiciled in Nigeria. So they reached a compromise- Amaka and Ijeoma will relocate to UK first fully, then Chijioke will be visiting from time to time while trying to figure out if there’s a way for him to also fully join them. This sounded like a good plan.

Amaka started sending Chijioke some paperwork for him to sign regarding “consent for school” for Ijeoma when Ijeoma comes to uk. She also sent him some more paperwork and documents – many which were voluminous- but he mostly signed a lot of them without reading much details.

I mean why would your wife of four years (currently in uk studying masters sponsored by you), why would she send you documents to sign regarding your child and you will be suspicious? Right?

Well, wrong. How very wrong.
This will turn out to be the biggest mistake of his life….

So everything was sorted and the only thing left was for Chijioke to come to uk with Ijeoma to meet Amaka- for them to start the planning of their new lives together as a family going forward.

Eventually Chijioke came with Ijeoma and handed her over to her mom. Everything was fine until about 2weeks after, and then Ijeoma with tears in her eyes said “Chijioke I have something to tell you which is eating me up and killing me inside”. He asked her what it was and then she dropped the bombshell on him.

“I never loved you. I tried to love you but I could never love you. I have never gotten over my ex, Nnamdi. I’m sorry it took me so long to say this”.

He was totally dumbfounded.
There was no response to this sort of bombshell.

Amaka went ahead and said “I also need to tell you that the paperwork and documents you signed for Ijeoma was the formal transfer of full parental responsibility of Ijeoma to Nnamdi who has now officially adopted her and will henceforth be her father. I am really sorry”.

At this point, Chijioke wished for the ground to open up and swallow him alive. He felt he was in a movie at this point and hoped the director will simply scream “cut” to end this horror he is in. But alas, this is real. This is his life being shattered right before his eyes.

Chijioke stood up, carried his box, called his friend on phone who lived in a nearby city and in tears begged him to let him just come over to clear his head. Let’s call Chijiokes friend Chibuzor for the sake of this story.

After a few days, Amaka was able to locate where he went and she came to see him. Chibuzor confronted her and she confirmed in tears to him that it’s all true.

She said “I never loved Chijioke but now my guilt is eating me up so I had to open up to him and say the truth. I wish Chijioke well because he has never hurt me and he didn’t deserve any of this. I never got over my ex and unfortunately I’m going back to Nnamdi as he’s the only one who truly gives me joy”.

Amaka confirms as her uk student visa was expiring in 2023, she has already secured a work visa and it does not have Chijioke on it as dependant, because she feels she needs to move on with her life and she hopes he will do the same.

“Did Chijioke beat you?”
“Did Chijioke assault you?”
“Did Chijioke treat you badly?”
“Did Chijioke cheat on you?”
Chibuzor asked Amaka out of a total confusion as to why she acted this way.

Amaka said Chijioke never beat her, never cheated on her and never treated her badly. “Chijioke is a good man but I’m just not the one for him” she said in tears. She says she feels suicidal continuing in the marriage as the guilt will make her kill herself if Chijioke doesn’t let her go. Amaka stated her mental health is in severe jeopardy if she doesn’t walk away from Chijioke.

Chijioke was sad, lost and confused at all of this. None of it made any sense. He’s lost his wife, he’s lost his child, he’s lost his marriage, he’s lost everything.

He asked her:
“Am I the father of Ijeoma?” “Does the child belong to me or to Nnamdi?”

Amaka looked at him, thought about the question, said nothing and walked out. That was the last time he ever heard from her.

Amaka is back with Nnamdi and with Ijeoma also living with them.

Today Chijioke is back to Lagos. He went back sometime last month trying to pick up the shattered pieces left of his life.

This is a true life story that just happened. Till now, I honestly remain in a total awe when I think about this entire story..

Apparently Chijioke is very rich but unfortunately very uneducated. Being uneducated is not a crime. But being uneducated and trusting the wrong person is a mistake that can ruin and will ruin anyone.

Chijioke signed multiple documents from his wife who he trusted, not knowing he was signing away his marriage and signing the transfer of parental responsibility of a child (he believed to be his) to another man. He spoke to many uk lawyers who are trying to see if there’s anyway to reverse the adoption granted to Nnamdi- but he’s being told the chances of a successful reversal is very slim. This is someone he spent so much and gave so much to.

To love someone is never a mistake, but to attempt to buy love with money is a deadly mistake that can clearly destroy a person if and when things go really wrong,

Never take as priority someone who takes you as an option. And never attempt to buy love with money- because love is either given or not given.

If you think you have to pay for love, then you are actually paying for something that is not love. And with time, you will probably learn the hard way.

In my own view-
This is my personal view-
It looks to me that Amaka was in touch with Nnamdi all along even while she was married and had a child with Chijioke.

I also feel quite strongly that the whole trip to the uk for masters was just a smokescreen and an excuse to reunite with Nnamdi who was also now in uk. I believe the child Ijeoma actually belongs to Nnamdi and she told him this during that masters program.

I also believe it was during the time of her masters that she finalised the plans to relocate the child to uk and reunite the child with the actual biological father. And obviously with the child reunited with the actual biological father, with her going back to Nnamdi and with Amaka now having a uk masters and a uk job; she had no need anymore for Chijioke who she probably detested and only exploited because he was rich enough to fund her fantasies and finance her lifestyle.

This story still continues to turn my head inside out as I fail to understand how a human being could be so cold, so brutal, so calculating and so vicious.

To go as far as marry a man only to use him purely as a means to get back with your ex is something I find totally unthinkable.

I hope the Chijioke man finds strength and picks himself up after this sort of ordeal.”

https://eyesoflagos.com/2024/05/06/lady-who-secretly-welcomed-baby-with-ex-dumps-husband-after-sponsoring-her-uk-masters/

cc: Mynd44

tales by moonlight

Light78:
I have been asking myself that question. Students writing examinations might utilize either one of the two. In that case, attending classes is a waste of time.

What are your thoughts about that?

that you use chat doesnt mean you know or have learned anything. School designs learning activity taking note of industry, policy and so many other factors like learning theories. Examination under strict conditions ensures learning objectives have been met. Using chatgpt would not help you to meet the demands of the industry or the requirements of someone at your level is expected to know.