What if your husband is actually innocent?

How will you be able to look at him when the truth vindicates him?

@OP. Please be careful. Don't follow the mob. Use your head. Try to get his side of the story and follow your heart thereafter.

Sirdouglas.
I respect you and hope you find a way outta the mess.

My 2 cents is simple. One of the happiness any man can experience in this life is the GENUINE LOVE of a woman. It is the true foundation for peace and progress. What you seek with social status and intelligence may not be the best for you...I think you are putting what people think over your interests.

1. What do you really want in a marriage?
2. Can she give you? If No, Is she trainable/teachable?

You think you don't love her enough? Well marriage needs more than love to succeed. It's time to bring out that leader in you.

Love is NOT a feeling. LOVE is what you do. LOVE is a verb, an ACTION word.

sirdouglas:


In as much as you are trying to be mean. I understand your point. For the record, I am not a boy. I will appreciate if you address me with more respect.

Marrying her will not be such a bad idea but we may not enjoy the marriage. Especially her. She has said it over time that she knows that I don't love her. In as much as that is not entirely true, it is not far from it. She doesn't fit my profile for a wife and that is why I have been trying to end the relationship.

If this is coming from a woman I will understand but coming from a guy makes me want to ask you how old you are. Sorry but that's so insensitive of you and immature.

I never meant ill for her and I have been as reasonable and honest I can be with the situation. Judging me won't solve the problem.
What about a girl that a guy rejected for good three times and told her that he doesn't like her for marriage and she is still insisting and keep coming back? It's a two way thingb ro and I am expecting you to be more reasonable with your replies.

Bros I just watched the video on YouTube and I am more than impressed with Festus Keyamo.

Infact, I didn't know that APC/Buhari had such feat especially with subsidy and agriculture.

Keyamo's point on privatization rings true with me... How come only NITEL outta of the competition died before the match even started between it, MTN, ECONET & glo?

Nigeria... we need to think!

Actions will save this country not social media branding

ericsmith:




Everyone keeps saying sowumi made points ,, what point exactly ,outline there discussion
Buhari as president vs atiku av former VP 4 8yrs on basis comparism buhari is beta, even google cannt mention one policy ATIKU is known for not to talk of the sowumi guy.
Both as prospective candidate for presidency ,, on basis of achievement @least buhari could mention a few , like TSA, rail commissioned , insurgence decimated , what will atiku be saying asides promising restructuring & perhap marry from the SS to complete equation.
The only time atiku or his team ever talk about corruption is ofcourse when he as to defend his laundering ass ..... how hard can it be for someone to say i wil also fight corruption ..

Hello empron.

I will like a copy as well.
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When a candle lights up another, the room gets brighter.

empron:
i will send it to you very soon.

Please share for IKEDC.

I am motivated to battle my own case to the supreme court. My bill is never less than 10k every month.
Accumulated bill is at 307k. Wetin I do dem?

oyb:
in addition to this, here are the list of ekedp customer care managers

take it step by step so that there is a mail trail

most of the lower cadre of disco workers are 'nepaists' who are unable to leave their old ways behind and are bent on scamming customers

Mods. Please move to FP so that people can see the rebuttal. Thank you

Jodesky:
OP, this is a very erroneous and misleading story.

Oshibajo NEVER worked under Fashola. He was Attorney-General in Lagos under Tinubu as Governor. Fashola was then Chief of Staff to Tinubu.

Oshibajo left government with Tinubu in 2007 when Fashola became Governor.

So, you need to rework this story........

hapi4eva:
Get your facts right please. Osinbajo never work under Fashola. Osinbajo only service as Lagos State AG for 8yrs under Tinubu. So stop misleading people with unverified stories. We appreciate your message regards treating people well on your way up because you might need same people help on your way down. But always support your inspirational messages with verified facts

Thank you for correcting the "uninformed" OP trying to form wisdom

tmanis:
Mercedes benz G63 6X6.

Haba bros
6X6... That's a monster truck.
Besides, I don't wanna die young.

Thanks anyway.

nurey:
The Ridgeline would be good if you don't want people to think you are using a truck. Not too common so will stand out.
Instead of buying the Tacoma, why don't you look at the Nissan Frontier/Navana.
There is also a very luxurious hilux I think GLX badge though the difference will only be noticed inside not outside.

The Nissan Navara looks appealing...But I fear durability and ruggedness for Nissan. Looks like what I could go for.

Thank you

eaglechild:
Are buying new or used?

A top-grade tokunboh sir should the cost of new is beyond budget

vani86:
Tacoma aint bad

Sir/ma, What's your experience with the tacoma? Why would u prefer it to it's contemporaries - especially in the light of the 5 criteria above? Please help me decide. Many thanks

Dear Nairalanderd or should I say Auto-landers?

No forum is more real than this. I need your help.

Please I seek your honest opinion in taking a decision on the best vehicle for me. Put yourselves in my shoe and let me know what choice(s) would you take.

I'm desirous of a one-fits-all vehicle that meets the below key features in the minimum:

1. LOADING: My major issues with cars is the limited space for taking loads. Some cars even when carrying full occupants tends to have their rear so low. I envisage to pick up loads in addition to full passengers every once in a while.

2. APPEAL: I want a vehicle that is appealing to the eyes, one that is more than acceptable, if not respected for social events/outings.

3. COMFORT: This one is so key. Because, I travel long distances frequently, I want a vehicle that will give me a luxurious ride whether as a run around or during long distance haulage.

4. RELIABILITY: Proven reliability, ruggedness and durability.

5. GOOD RESALE VALUE.

Many friends have voted Honda Ridgeline against Toyota Tacoma in a 5 - 4 vote; as the BEST fitting my 5 minimum criterion.

I am however open to suggestions and seeking wider opinions since those I asked are limited by their experiences.

What vehicle would you suggest is BEST for me?
Experienced users are most welcome.

Mods. Please support me. It's my 1st post in car talk because of how dear this opinion poll is to me.
Thank you

DevGuru:
UPDATE!!!

DevGuru. I salute your decision and sincerely wish you goodluck in your marital life. I could relate very well with your story.

But to be blunt, I am pessimistic about your situation because you still don't know the root cause and the motivation. Any mistake done more than once is a decison, the fact that there exist multiple recording files (of different dates and times I believe) proves that already. The disdain these guys have for you and your mum especially is NOT platonic at all. I fear it is deeper than how you are taking it...and it won't just blow away without a jolt. You didn't jolt them enough in my opinion.

Trust me, all the attention and apologies is what Yoruba folks call "Oju aiye". It is mere damage control.

As they say, You can decide whether to step in front of a moving car/train or not but you can't decide the consequence.

It would be foolhardy and most naive of you to believe your marriage will remain the same or your wife won't relate with her family because of this issue.

You squandered your advantage of surprise...
You have just made further plans more discreet or outsourced (in the worst case scenario).
The panicky phone calls and damage control moves suggests plans maybe suspended for now, but should whatever motivation driving this become stronger, be ready for unpleasant bigger surprises.

Also, You need to impress it on your dad to have a manly discussion with her father. It is important.

Lastly, don't ignore the DNA advice. It is for your confidence only.

Honestly... I'm too shocked to comment.
The man is clearly adulterous.

But why won't the ladies leave him alone? My guess, he is excellent in bed. This is not a justification but only a few can control the immense influence an unforgettable sexcapade wields...

The man ought to be more responsible though. He doesn't love his wife as much. I suggest she should get his husband jealous. Cheating men dread the idea of their wife being laid

@DevGuru:
@chachanga:
Where the OP is wasting time, madam will turn a new leaf to make up for her bad behaviour until such a time that the evidence will become useless or key actors can no longer remember the events clearly then she will sting you when you guards are down.
A weak-minded woman like that, it is just a matter of time when she will repeat the same mistake while keeping her tracks very well.
I smell she wants to abscond...making extramarital plans outside OP's knowledge. Well, it is not my life sha.

A mistake repeated more than ONCE is a DECISION.
#fact.

chachanga:
Ahhh, S'angba fo !

Guy, do the needful fast.

Call an impromptu family meeting sharpaly. Play the recording for them all, accuse all the guilty and wak her out of your pad.

Here's the catch. Don't have divorce on your mind instead separation, as in, a break.

Temporary separation often works wonders for couples who've lost sight of why they came together in the first place. You said it yourself, you guys had a long courtship. Not everyone's mindset makes it intact through long courtship period. People unwittingly develop all sorts of quirks in long courtship atimes.

I've had cousins (royal princes) who engaged in long courtship with their espoused fiancees but screwed half the polytechnic just to de-konjilize and catch fun; when they married, they couldn't stop! What about hostel mates, aristo babes, who stashed "life-partner boyfriends" in far away Uni's & some even working class guys BUT they shagged as freely as they needed money, trips and adrenaline down-below! How do you think their marriages would look later without radical rethinks?

Separation will give her the time to sort out things on whether she wants in with you or whether she wants to move on.

Get ready to move on also because the price of your confrontation may mean a repackaging on their part.

God help your soul if she cries and begs and promises heaven and earth while still bearing her mission objectives in mind. Omo, na only ur mama head go save you because she would then be harder to detect.

OP doesn't appreciate the gravity of his situation.
Sincerely, I was pissed at the update.

Well, it is said that our deaths will come from our indulgence, negligence or things we take with levity.

ohzee:
I don't know if you will read this my post but I will write it anyway. I read your update and was very sad at the way you handled this matter. I know you want to save your marriage but you were damn too lenient on your wife. I have been married for a pretty long time so I know what the hell I am talking about. You must punish her severely for her actions. She has to stay away completely from her sisters for a duration not less than 6 months. You have to show your displeasure massively and let her know that you no longer trust her. She has to win your love and trust back. Don't be too much in a hurry to forgive and forget. Tell your dad in confidence what happened.
She knows you love her very much and can easily win you back. You are not even convinced that she is remorseful and that's terrible.

Please treat her like an enemy for now until she shows the remaining true colors she is still hiding. If she is truly remorseful she will survive her time in the wilderness.
Finally she must apologise to you in front of her sisters and their husbands and make sure you humiliate them as well. I am sorry to say this but if they don't stay away from your marriage, consider your marriage over. A leopard doesn't change its spots.

My brother,

OP is naive to me. No matter who you are, you must respect your life. He is very close to his undoing. It's just a matter of time. A fickle-minded scheming wife? That's a tribulation of a lifetime. He ain't seen anything yet.

TheCEO1004:
A foolish cockroach is it that goes into the grave with the fly.
Except this story aint true otherwise RIP base on this ur decision.

Greet FELA for me.

I sincerely pray you do not REGRET this wrong decision of yours.

By your own admission, she didn't feel remorse for the betrayal but rather about the integrity of her elderly ones. I shake my head for you OP. You want to play loving husband where you are supposed to take action. You have isolated yourself for the kill by not not involving anyone at least your dad.

You are not safe with a weak-minded and scheming wife... If she's manipulated to harm you in order to put you in check or conceal the truth who do you think will suffer the impact the most? You think your wife love you more than your parents?? You don't trust the opinion of your parents? You have a bigger consequence coming your way. Trust me. A woman that can act out a script to frame you up, who is content to bring you into disrepute before your and her family?? You think you know your wife...just wait for it. You will know a woman is never to be made insecure.

We are a product of our decisions. I pray God's help for you.

DevGuru:
UPDATE

I sincerely appreciate the fact that almost everyone here regards this matter a very serious one, this alone warms my heart a little. I have read through every single comment on this thread and I appreciate everyone. I couldn't take down the names of those whose comments aligned with my aim of keeping my marriage, but I thank everyone all the same. I realised from a myriad of comments that informing my people will mean a beginning of the end for my marriage. My daughter too is a major consideration. Above all, she's carrying another 6 week pregnancy. I have therefore decided to eliminate (or maybe suspend as the case turns out) informing any of my family members. I decided to play the records to her while I added some words. I started by telling her that my love for her made me decide to talk to her and not to anyone who would possibly fuel separation in my home like her sisters have done. She was shocked because she had never heard any allegation from me towards her elder ones before. She thought I was crazy and I wanted to bring up what was not. Then I played a little while I summarised the wildest words from her sisters which I heard in other discussion. For the FIRST time, my wife couldn't deny ANYTHING as she was convinced beyond doubt that she had been finished. She cried bitterly as I talked further but did not know what to do. But what pained me further was that it was obvious she cried because she saw that I was going to turn to an emperor and ridicule and justifiably disgrace her elderly advisers, NOT really because I was betrayed.

Right there, I was looking for a particular one to play and then even heard what I didn't hear before. Her eldest sister said she had discussed with some other siblings to intensify efforts towards her job search that as soon as she gets a job, she would have to be sending money home for them to create something for her in their town so she could come settle. She cried further as she heard it too. I told her the implications of what she had done to me with her people and then left her in the room because my baby girl was disturbing me. Anytime our voices are not friendly, she interrupts and cries for attention. I took my daughter to the living room and was playing with her.

After about 1 hour, she came to the living room and fell down before me as she cried further, saying "I'm sorry". Then I asked her to state exactly what she was begging me for - her betrayal or her siblings' offence. She knows me very well, she quickly said her betrayal (even though I knew that wasn't the primary cause of her heavy heart). Then I told her I was willing to forgive her in the spirit of upholding my marital vows to her. I explained further that for the sake of our daughter and the unborn one(s), I was willing to forgive her and build a stronger home with her. She felt a little relief knowing that she was getting back into me. I then said "but from this minute, I'm in a ruthless war with anyone, I repeat, ANYONE who is determined to break my home as I now have to guard our togetherness jealously". I stated further that the only thing I would hold against her was if she ever stood in my way. Just as if a thunder just struck and killed someone dear to her, she cried loudly again saying "she had finished her life". She said she would be the one to suffer in the war I just declared and that I should just allow her to call all of them and tell them never to meddle into our affairs again. I refused to fall for that trick and held my stance that my resolve was not going to change and I walked away. Since then till this moment, she has been like a mourning widow. When it was time for food, we ate together as usual and I've been the one trying to talk now. She hasn't spoken with anyone on phone since then, although I don't know about Whatsapp or BBM chat. Now she's waiting for the next available opportunity when she could plead for her sisters again... only God knows for how long the waiting would be. Let me quickly mention that she sent me an SMS from the bedroom a while ago: I CAN SEE THE HANDWORK OF THE DEVIL IN THIS WHOLE MATTER, PLS LET'S TRY TO RESIST THE DEVIL THIS TIME SO HE CAN FLEE FROM OUR HOME. I BEG YOU IN THE NAME OF GOD DEAR".... I simply replied from the living room: "ON THE CONTRARY HONEY, I CAN SEE THE HAND OF GOD. CAN'T YOU SEE IT?"

On another note, I do not want to assume that she will not tell her sisters, although it might take a while because she knew they would rebuke her for delivering them into the hands of their 'enemy' through Call Recorder. But before she informs them, I think I'd follow someone's advice here too that I should reveal it to someone who could keep it away from my mum and sisters, which is surely my Dad - just to put someone in the know, in case I begin to smell rat poison in my food... lol. What do you think?

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Aunty,

I'm a married man. I know exactly what I'm saying. If you don't escalate to the point of no return, be ready for bigger consequences. Death is not far from the OP

glossy6:


shuo! This one pass world war 3!! You don't need to go this far na

Ogbeni.
1. Seize (or steal) the phone and hide it away. You need the original evidence. Make copies of the original.
2. Take a day or two off work.
3. Visit your dad, revisit and review the issue.
4. Play the recording with him. (Do not involve ur mum yet. Mums get too emotional)
5. Ask his opinion.
6. Involve your mum later.
7. Create an avenue/situation that can bring both families together. Ensure by every means available to you, that all those that matter attends.
Let your wife, her siblings and other eminent family members be on the HIGH TABLE. Ensure that. Tell the video man to pay particular attention to high table.
8. Praise your wife and her family members especially the actors in the last issue
9. Then release the incriminating evidence. You can have the file in *.mp3 format and have the DJ play it or have the conversation subtitled and displayed on screen too so everyone doesn't miss a point.
10. Please make a good job to ruin your wife and her siblings reputation. Let it be the highlight of the event.

11. Use the occasion to announce her "suspension" from your house/life.

12. Before step 11, you must have your mum, sister or a trusted person take custody of your daughter.
Also, get another person have her things all ready packed up (not outside the house to avoid neighbours suspicion) while everyone is away.

You must make it an event she will remember for the rest of her life....

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Isn't someone playing the religious card here? Was FFK arrested because of his faith, religious beliefs or because of ONSA funds traced and verified to have been given to him? He is been prosecuted for security funds distributed by his party, the PDP, for election campaigns. It is unfair if not UNGODLY to even try to cite a religious bias here. Thank God right now that Dasuki isn't a christian.

Now that you know the source of your campaign fund to be blood money the least you could do is to refund the ones in your custody like True Christians would do. Christianity is a way of life with Christ as the standard. To FFK and his ilk seeking rule of law to explore the weaknesses of our judiciary to escape judgement, if the government of this world does not catch you remember God's wheel of justice grinds slowly but it grinds completely. After all, we dig our graves with our teeth...

Chairman. Don't waste your time. Diamond is best.
Their internet banking experience will make you think less of others. Simple yet efficiently superior to others.

No spurious charges, do instant transfers like crazy (home and away). My Diamond account is my "hub".

Zenith and GTB are just fair when compared with the mobile/internet banking experience of Diamond Bank. Just my sincere contribution. I operate accts with all 3 banks. By the way, avoid ECOBANK like a plague unless frustration is among the feature you seek.

Udiboy:
Dearies,
I am resident in the US and I want to open a non resident account AKA diaspora account(personal account)
Please which bank is best at online banking in Nigeria?I will use it mainly for online transfers within Nigeria and occasionally ourside Nigeria .
Please guide me, I am tired of my money entering voicemail from relatives.
Thank you

Does he cease to be governor of Rivers state ?
Or what exactly is the status of Rivers Government house now?

Lalasticlala. Oya let us notify Nigerians

A five-man panel of the Appeal Court in Abuja has affirmed the election petitions tribunal judgment nullifying the election of Nyesom Wike as governor of Rivers State.

The Rivers State Governorship Election Tribunal had in October nullified the April 11 election that led to the emergence of Wike as governor of the state.

The tribunal had also ordered the Independent National Electoral Commission to conduct a fresh election within 90 ‎days.

This followed a petition by the All Progressives Congress and its governorship candidate, Dakuku Peterside, alleging that the election was characterised by widespread electoral malpractices.

In nullifying the election, the Justice Suleiman Ambrosa led-tribunal said the evidence provided by Wike and INEC’s witnesses was not credible.

Wike had, however, challenged the decision of the tribunal with the counsel to the PDP, Chris Uche (SAN), questioning the tribunal’s reliance on accreditation by card readers to nullify the election.

The Appeal Court in upholding the decision of the tribunal resolved seven issues raised by Wike in favour of Peterside and the APC.

source: http://www.punchng.com/appeal-court-upholds-tribunals-judgment-nullifying-wikes-election/

Barcanista. You are not sincere.

Your analysis is so shallow and artificial. This is not you; I get a sense of someone trying hard to impress another.

Just remember that TODAY was yesterday's tomorrow. You have started writing your history.

OP. Very interesting and educative topic.

Reminds me of my ABJ-LOS flight aboard Medview sometimes in February this year.
The Oxygen mask actually descended 15mins into the flight - I've always tot of that as the first sign of trouble.
Few seconds later, we were advised to use the mask because Aircraft was battling with pressure.
We steadily descended thereafter...before God intervened and the pressure system restored.
Strangely, through all the events I wasn't so worked up and was even trying to comfort my visibly shaking wife. She could not control her muscles - she was virtually vibrating all over.

My own shaking and vibration began when we finally landed and the import of what could have happened sunk in.

I am yet to recover from the fear of flying. I think trekking is the safest means if you ask me.

mitchyy:
Flew with flyaero last week from Uyo and we experienced some turbulence. That very moment, people felt its the right time to narrate plane crash stories. At first it was funny, but I got really scared.
I think its safer to trek to your destination now

Hahahahahahaha. You got me peeing in my pants.
Actually, I share your sentiments after reading this. Trekking is the safest.

I'm grateful to God for the few safe flights

@ Elijahdre.
I just called you now. I want to let you know I am very eager to have the Lenovo K3 Note.
Got the balance chilling in the account.

So Jona is Progress to you??
#LikeFFK

barcanista:
while I was supporting Buhari, I anticipated for a positive change while looking at his antecedents. Read my post on why I support Buhari. I had been a bit balanced, and I do criticise Jonathan on some areas but I wasn't desperate to see a change of face. I'm moved by progress and not desperation. Anyway, face the topic.

Has PDP kept to terms of their manifestos ??

Let's be objective abeg.