daddytime:
Judging from your narrative, it is safe to say the young girl is a 'beauty without brains' whatever that means, and I'm sure her beauty was what got you hooked before you tasted the pie and subsequently realized she wasn't so smart.

Bro, I'm going to be straight up with you like I always do man...Selfish and self-centered is what you are (in bold).

You never hear say meat wey person no dey chop say him no suppose use teeth share am?

Oh because she was pretty, undemanding and mgbekeish, you decided to hold on to her, leading her on, and only started being honest to her about your plans when you had started making your travel plans and thus realized she'd be too local for your new status?

My bro, if that girl were my sister, and you had the effrontery to come to my house to spill what you just did here, you wouldn't have been able to use that visa of yours, and I'd have personally aborted the pregnancy with my bare hands. What insult.

If she's not good enough for you to wife, she shouldn't have been good enough for you to dickk and of course mother your baby(s).

This is even worse than a baby mama thingy, this is a baby factory one.

All the story about you making it clear to her that you won't be marrying her are just some cunning silly afterthoughts of a chronic user who had a game plan from the get-go.

There's something I'll tell you now if you like take am if you no like leave am.

I just hope and pray you won't come back looking for and begging this lady in the future and by what time it'd have been late already because you'd pay for your bid to selfishly destroy this young girl's life and dump her. For whom I ask after one o'clock?

Look around you and you'd find examples of cases like this where the man would come begging after years when his recompense would have been served steamy hot.

You no see GEJ and PEJ? How you see dem upon say PEJ dey break bottle with English?

You had better retraced your step, my friend, learn to love that babe, marry her and start a family with her or else you go regret am o.

Forget all these your later later excuses abeg

sirdouglas:


In as much as you are trying to be mean. I understand your point. For the record, I am not a boy. I will appreciate if you address me with more respect.

Marrying her will not be such a bad idea but we may not enjoy the marriage. Especially her. She has said it over time that she knows that I don't love her. In as much as that is not entirely true, it is not far from it. She doesn't fit my profile for a wife and that is why I have been trying to end the relationship.

If this is coming from a woman I will understand but coming from a guy makes me want to ask you how old you are. Sorry but that's so insensitive of you and immature.

I never meant ill for her and I have been as reasonable and honest I can be with the situation. Judging me won't solve the problem.
What about a girl that a guy rejected for good three times and told her that he doesn't like her for marriage and she is still insisting and keep coming back? It's a two way thingb ro and I am expecting you to be more reasonable with your replies.

deltateam:


Op to be honest with you, you are very funny. You said you don't want to marry from her place but you went ahead to be sleeping with her without condoms knowing fully well you wont marry her.

You said you don't want to be promiscuous but that's exactly what you are or can you explain how you contacted staphylococcus?

She came with gonnorphoea, you came with staph. They fought and gonnorrphoea won.

For advice I will say you provide money for delivery and upkeep. When the twins are born, go for paternity test.

If the kids are yours, you will be providing money to take care of them until they are of age but if they are not yours, you can pay her off, rent a 2 years selfcon for her and advice to open a business. You will do this because of old times sake. Remember that why you are not pregnant is because you are a man so you can't judge her because e dey your blood too.

Joebie:
some are advising him to marry against his wish just because he made a mistake. It doesn't work like that. There is no guarantee that marrying her will fix the problem. It will most likely make the situation worse. I will tell you why because the girl in question will be affected psychologically knowing he married her out of pity and he doesn't truly love her. He himself can hardly find happiness.
Both of them can move on to find someone else that will make their lives more pleasurable. But they must remain friends for the sake of the kids.

If I were her father I wouldn't want such a marriage. I will give her all my support and not stop loving my daughter, advising her to learn her lessons. Some people make painful mistakes in their later in their lives. But this girl if she learned from this can become a stronger person.

Modified
And may I add, he too has a lot to learn from this.

sirdouglas:


What if I had given her money to do abortion or helped her with it and travel then few years down the line she couldn't conceive or complications from tje abortion claims her life later. Will it be better?? With the kind of condenmination that I am getting from my fellow guys, now I understand why others always choose the easy way out. I hope you know accepting this pregnancy has cost me a great deal? Financially, emotionally, socially and every f*cking part of my being?

Why I don't want to marry from Anambra? I have some personal reasons for that. I didn't just wake up one morning and made that decision.

Keep your mouth lashing to youself. I know your life is perfect but allow me to sort mine in peace. I am not begging for money remember. And don't for a minute that you are more civilized than me. Sh*t do happen and you are suppose to understand that.

If you can't. Mpa nyem efe dia.

NkemChukwudi:


You cannot do anything madam, just hope and pray you and any of your daughters do not find yourself in this position. Wetin you go do? Madam, nothing!
You never jam mad man.

And tell your girls that Nigeria is overpopulated please. Say no to overpopulation!

sirdouglas:


In as much as you are trying to be mean. I understand your point. For the record, I am not a boy. I will appreciate if you address me with more respect.

Marrying her will not be such a bad idea but we may not enjoy the marriage. Especially her. She has said it over time that she knows that I don't love her. In as much as that is not entirely true, it is not far from it. She doesn't fit my profile for a wife and that is why I have been trying to end the relationship.

If this is coming from a woman I will understand but coming from a guy makes me want to ask you how old you are. Sorry but that's so insensitive of you and immature.

I never meant ill for her and I have been as reasonable and honest I can be with the situation. Judging me won't solve the problem.
What about a girl that a guy rejected for good three times and told her that he doesn't like her for marriage and she is still insisting and keep coming back? It's a two way thingb ro and I am expecting you to be more reasonable with your replies.

sirdouglas:


In as much as you are trying to be mean. I understand your point. For the record, I am not a boy. I will appreciate if you address me with more respect.

Marrying her will not be such a bad idea but we may not enjoy the marriage. Especially her. She has said it over time that she knows that I don't love her. In as much as that is not entirely true, it is not far from it. She doesn't fit my profile for a wife and that is why I have been trying to end the relationship.

If this is coming from a woman I will understand but coming from a guy makes me want to ask you how old you are. Sorry but that's so insensitive of you and immature.

I never meant ill for her and I have been as reasonable and honest I can be with the situation. Judging me won't solve the problem.
What about a girl that a guy rejected for good three times and told her that he doesn't like her for marriage and she is still insisting and keep coming back? It's a two way thingb ro and I am expecting you to be more reasonable with your replies.

NkemChukwudi:


You cannot do anything madam, just hope and pray you and any of your daughters do not find yourself in this position. Wetin you go do? Madam, nothing!
You never jam mad man.

And tell your girls that Nigeria is overpopulated please. Say no to overpopulation!

sirdouglas:


Thanks bro. Sleeping with her without condom was my fault but I trusted her. They can't force me because they know I could have chosen the easy way out and endanger the life of their daughter in the process if I wanted to. I am doing everything I think is the right thing though I am not sure of the paternity yet. I felt that she giving birth to twins means something but now you have said it. I will still go for paternity test to remove any form of doubt. I am not coming back any time soon so I wouldn't say I don'twant the kids. After delivery, wouldn't it be late to lay claim on the children??

sirdouglas:


You said she was carried away, maybe it's true and that's why I am still taking care of, her. You must have read where I told someone here that I am waiting for her to deliver and have her break so I can help her start a life. With a reasonable amount and a shop at main market because she that's where we met and she knows about phone business. Help her start it so she can take care of herself with the kids so long as they are mine.

If it's a lady like you, shey dey claim jagaban?. I will leave you to your fate and start a family here or elsewhere. I wouldn't give a shit if you married a billionaire tomorrow or if the kids becomes president of Nigeria. Any day they want they will still come back to their fathers house. That's a must. Except he is not a man or not from igbo land. I wouldn't care. So you see, no matter how you look at it you will be at the receiving end. And with two kids to cater for without help. You can't do much. So think before opening your gutter next time.

madampresident:
You accepted the pregnancy because this might be your only chance to father a child. Forgive me if I'm wrong.

About the poo you are in, every man's path of life is different. Some follow path A-B, some B-C, or C-D or even A-D.

On the issue on ground, things might not have gone the way you wanted but when life throws you lemons, my dear make lemonade.

This is the most intelligent answer I have read. Especially that part that says, if she isn't educated, take her to a civilized region and love-vendor her up.

My honest opinion, marry her, if you say she isn't intelligent, take her with you to civilization, get her some education. Fix her up and build a family.

happney65:
"I ended the relationship when it was clear to me that I can't live with her. I am an ambitious young man and I am not there yet. I want a woman who will be more than a sex mate. I want someone who can confidently handle my business and manage my home when I am not there. She is to naive to my liking. I am tired trying to build her into the kind of woman I want"

For this alone,DO NOT MARRY HER..Marriage is more than sex o..and you need a smart and intelligent woman who can turn 100naira into 1000 and not waiting till you give her 1million before she can do something..You need a sensible woman..

NkemChukwudi:


Wetin you go do? Wetin you fit do? You never jam mad man like me.......nonsense!

sirdouglas:


Oga she is really not a beauty if that is what you are implying. And while I was in Nigeria, I was doing really good for myself. I could afford girls for more beautiful than her. I met few, if you read through my post you will see that I said in the first few lines that I date at that time for the sole purpose of marriage. I WANTED TO MARRY HER BRO!!! .....why are you people so mean and heartless?? Even before I met her I know I will be traveling. And I told her as soon as the time is right. I told her almost a year before I travelled and you saying all this is very bad of you and tell more the kind of person you are.

If it happens to be your sister and you decides to do away with the pregnancy I wouldn't object to it. The blood will be on your head. Those kids are not a mistake despite the situation. You are telling me in other words that I should have aborted the twins?? Really?
Well, I leave you to your conscience. Like I said from the beginning. Getting married to her is not completely out of the table but I wish I could find an alternative to save the day.

I wouldn't descend to your level to trade words with you but I know that I am not a bad person and I never for once wish evil for that girl or planned anything that would hurt her.