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Odingo1:
Igbos Ekiti are in Ekiti so you know, Yoruba don’t leave SW and start to appear in Delta Igbo, olukimis are tiny migrants labourers from Owo in Ondo state, they have been Igbonized in Anioma for centuries.

U go explain tire.

Thewrath:
Who is Okowa to decide for anioma people

Who are you to decide for Anioma people?

Yorubas (the Olukumis / Aniochas) are inside Anioma o.

Just in case some of una no know o.

TheEnforcer:
5000?What's that?

Liars full everywhere bro.

essentialone:
You just described a whole demographic that nobody wants to talk about because it makes everyone uncomfortable.

*“Involuntary single ladies”* — fine, educated, stable, ready… but still single. Not by choice. By market failure.

And you’re right: they’re everywhere. Hospitals, banks, law firms, tech companies, church choir, weddings. The complete package with an empty ring finger. And it’s not because “men are intimidated” or “their standards too high”. That’s lazy gist.

*Why it’s happening — the ugly truth about the dating market now*

1. *Too many options, zero filters*
Dating apps + Instagram + LinkedIn = everyone is accessible. So men keep “shopping”. Why commit to 1 great woman when 10 “maybes” are in his DM? He promises today, disappears tomorrow because tomorrow brought a new option. Women do it too, but men drive the ghosting stats.

2. *Serious men marry early, unserious men stay in circulation*
The guys ready for marriage at 28-32 lock down fast. Who’s left in the pool at 33+? Mostly: players, wounded men, perpetual “I’m not ready”, and broke men looking for a sponsor. So these solid women keep dating from a pool that’s already filtered for non-commitment.

3. *Timeline mismatch*
She’s 29-35, educated, stable. She wants kids + marriage in 2-3 years. She dates intentionally. The guy she meets is 35, “still finding himself”, “not under pressure”, wants to “see where it goes”. He can waste 2 years because his biological clock isn’t ticking. Hers is.

4. *She adjusted expectations, but the bar is on the floor*
These women already lowered standards: “Just be God-fearing, have work, and want family”. That’s bare minimum. Yet they still meet men who lie, cheat, can’t communicate, or want her to be mummy + girlfriend + ATM. So “adjusting” doesn’t help when the market is broken.

5. *Strong women get punished, not rewarded*
A doctor/nurse who paid her own bills, has her car, no drama, gets called “too independent” or “masculine”. Meanwhile, the high-maintenance, jobless babe gets chased because she “needs saving”. Some men don’t want a partner. They want a project. So the stable woman gets ignored.

6. *Women don’t approach, men don’t propose*
Culturally, she still can’t say “I like you, let’s date seriously”. She has to wait to be chosen. But the men choosing are unserious. So she’s stuck hoping the right one finds her in traffic.

*What happens to these women?*

You listed it:
*Some settle* – Marry the barely-available guy because “better than nothing”. Resentment later.
*Some give up* – “God when” turns to “God abeg”. Career, travel, cats, God.
*Some still hopeful but tired* – They’re dating but numb. Every new guy feels like another interview that will end in “we’ll see”.

And the worst part? *It’s not their fault.* They did everything “right”. School, career, character, prayer. But the market rewards vibes, not value.

*What the market isn’t saying out loud*

1. *Men are scared of responsibility, not strong women*
Marriage, kids, bills, in-laws — many men in Nigeria are running from that. So they date the stable woman, enjoy her peace, then run when she asks “what are we?” Because she represents adulthood.

2. *Attention is cheaper than commitment*
It costs a man ₦0 to say “you’re wife material” in DM. Costs ₦5M+ to actually marry her. So he distributes free compliments to 20 women and commits to none.

3. *Many women are involuntary single, many men are involuntary unserious*
He’s 38, still in situationships, telling people “good women don finish”. No, bro. You met 4 good women. You wasted 6 months each because you can’t choose.

*So what’s the way forward for these ladies?*

Because “just pray” isn’t a strategy.

1. *Stop dating in the general pool* – If every guy in your DM is 33+ and “not sure”, your pool is contaminated. Meet men through married friends, professional networks, places where commitment is pre-screened. Farmers market vs Night club.

2. *Time-box ruthlessly* – “I’m dating intentionally. In 3 months we should know if this is heading to marriage. If we don’t, I exit.” Say it early. Unserious men will flee. That’s the point.

3. *Stop adjusting, start requiring* – “God-fearing + has job” is not enough. Add: “Can plan a date, communicates daily, introduces me to friends in 2 months, talks about future without sweating”. If he can’t, next.

4. *Date younger if values align* – Many 28-32 year old men are more ready than 38 year olds. Age isn’t maturity. Stop capping yourself at “must be older”.

5. *Consider location arbitrage* – Harsh but true: Nigeria dating market is brutal. Some women find serious men when they relocate to other locations in Nigeria, or even to abroad. Different pond, different fish.

6. *Build life without waiting* – Buy the land, freeze eggs, travel, start business. So you choose marriage from abundance, not desperation. Men can smell desperation and they run.

*What men need to hear too*

If you’re a serious guy reading this: These women are not scarce. They’re just tired of auditioning for clowns. If you meet one and you’re ready:
1. *Say it early* – “I’m looking for a wife, not a vibe.”
2. *Move with clarity* – No “let’s see how it goes” for 1 year.
3. *Match her effort* – She’s stable. Don’t come with chaos.

Because right now, the best women are going single while the worst men stay in rotation. That’s how a society collapses.

*Bottom line:* The dating market don change, yes. Less clarity, less commitment, more options. But options without character = poverty.

These women aren’t “unlucky”. They’re in a rigged game. Solution isn’t “try harder”. Solution is “change the game or change the players”.

mtcheeew

joseph1832:
Most women find it very difficult to help their gender. They see themselves for who they really are.

They know themselves well.

After insulting men online, they come to us to beg.

cr7lomo:
I dont blame men that do so....women can be very wicked ....women dont appreciate good favours... e no de hard dem say " what did u do 4 me" ....

God bless u. Them go be like "but I didnt force u".

So its better to act like this guy in question. When the girl remembers the hot session, them no born am well to remember that phraase " what did u do 4 me"?

ntyce:
Lol, let's wait and see
Shey na prayer US and Israel dey use abi

Keep deceiving the gullibles

Prayers don't work.

erai30:
Tell the president to step down just as you told Goodluck Jonathan to step down. Insecurity is having its toll on the country and the president is a failure.

Where did he ever tell Jonathan to step down?

Una don start with propaganda again.

JuanDeDios:
Spot on.

Thanks boss

Hezmatosky210:
I don't think the cry is about the woman. Give him a billion dollar to have the woman again he'll probably say God forbid. The cry signify the pains he's passing through for trusting the untrustworthy. The time he wasted, shame for not hecking to friends and family, and most of all, the deceit from the girl

It's still the same thing: set awon "my wife / babe is different".

Lessons learned for upcoming okokos. No pity.

2mch:
Who be this Mayowa sef abi shey na another person? Lmao. The girl no fine at all to be causing all this chaos. Abi something else de? The girl reach abroad see say love no go make am. She gats find paper. Maybe na the hustle she de hustle all these years.

So chaos na by who fine. Una dey muzz person for this internet

orikoku:
Millions of broken marriage already because of hardship, including mine

I swear

“I employ over 1,300 Nigerians across my businesses. Employing over 1,300 people is no small thing. That’s 1,300 families with income, with stability. That’s real impact, and it speaks louder than any MOPOL convoy or paparazzi moment ever could.”

That you employ 1,300 families does not mean you are above laser-like scrutiny.

In advanced countries, safety is non-negotiable. In fact, the bigger the company, the more the scrutiny, not less.

You are doing no one a favour by employing 1,300 families. You want to grow, that's why you employ. If you dont want your business to grow, then fold it up na.

You are doing no one a favour, mr man.

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I don't mean to talk down on employers but you should know safety is a big concern. Health is paramount. When customers or inspectors raise concerns of fear, business etiquette should let you know you should welcome and allay it, not boast about the number of employees you have. In fact, that is a big red flag.

sweetkev:
What will you tell the politicians who scam you everyday. They also have wives and children.

Hmmn Lai mohammed's grandson asked his father why they call him "Liar Mohammed"

Winterhaven:
The last time chelsea scored in the premier league, arsenal were still trying to win the quadruple...

1 stones killing 2 birds

Goddyrichie:
how did Nigeria politician look at they’re children face when they embezzle millions and billions meant for d masses?

It's okay. I don leave the country for una.

sweetkev:
What will you tell the politicians who scam you everyday. They also have wives and children.

Im tired of u nigerians

We4all:
What a naive question! What is the difference between 'yahoo' and 'fraud', and how many Nigerians are innocent of fraud?
From our politicians, to our pastors, almost everyone in Nigeria is involved in fraudulent activities.

You that is talking may even be short changing your employer, but still have the audacity to criticise these international fraudsters.

That they are called 'yahoo boys' is just a phrase used to classify the type of fraud they are involved in. If you are making extra money in your place of work that is not officially approved by your boss, then there is no difference between you and these 'yahoo boys'.

Guilty conscience no go wound u ke?

Yahoo men / not boys?

How do men in their 40's and 50's feel doing yahoo, while watching their wives and children's faces?

It feels somehow o. Even men in 30's sef... how una dey do am?

Shame no dey shame una? What do u tell ur kids is ur source of income? As for una wife sha, that one na bolo. That was likely what drew her in, in the first place, so una be birds of the same feather. She sef no get shame like u

AdolfHitlerxXx:
They will come here to deny in fear.

HF don domesticate them wella.

They fear them pass Satan

Meaning of HF please?

Still waiting for Yorubas to be blamed.

See them. See how they are updating scoreline. Nothing professional at all.

Dgift:
To live a meaningful live
You earnestly need Jesus the saviour

How did our ancestors live meaningful lives without encountering Jesus?

Axis313:
Only God knows how many lives have gone to the great beyond through his hands.
Sincerely,I don't know what people are benefiting from cultism.
I don't know,and I don't want to know.

Connection to politics, gangs, control of neighbourhood, connection, power and money.

obonujoker:
The way of the ancestors is damnation. All the ancestors died with their false worship of false gods, and may the Lord have mercy on their souls.

Jesus is the only way to enlightenment. Jesus is the only way to God, our Creator and Father

U go explain tire!

Dalung is a fulani man masquerading as a Plateau xtian indigene.

PulaPower:
An anonymous Iranian woman has bravely stepped forward on the international stage to describe what's really happening on the ground in Tehran as President Donald Trump's two-week ceasefire with Iran tentatively began Tuesday.
Anonymous indeed

Cheap Jews propaganda..

After Iran don show dem shege, nah media propaganda remain..

Pisslamists in pain! 🤣🤣

Thank God for Isra-el!!! Somebody shout power!! 💪🏻