₦airaland Forum

TonyeBarcanista:
Our exclusion from pre-election activities by INEC combined with its timetable has literally put us at disadvantage position. We are being realistic! We don't intend to be a briefcase party for political actors who just want to appear on the ballot.

What I mean is that the party can take advantage of the opportunity now created by the two court judgements not withstanding that it was short out from the concluded primaries time table by INEC

Suit No. FHC/ABJ/CS/517/2026, Youth Party v. INEC, delivered on May 20, 2026, the court questioned some timelines contained in the Commission’s timetable and schedule of activities for the 2027 general election. Suit No. FHC/ABJ/CS/720/2026, Social Democratic Party (SDP) v. INEC, the court affirmed the Commission’s authority to issue an electoral timetable but nullified certain timelines relating to the nomination and substitution.

INEC is appealing both decisions and untill they are set aside, political parties still have time to conduct primaries.

I am not even saying the party MUST produce a Presidential candidate for this election circle, but at least, at state level and even National Assembly positions the party can still fill in candidates. Even if it's going to be in just one state. I would really like to discuss more with you on a strategy to focus on even if it's just one state, fill in candidates for various offices to contest in this very election circle.

Thank you.

TonyeBarcanista:
Why the Shovel?

I have read a number of comments asking why the newly affirmed political party, the Citizens Democratic Alliance (CDA), adopted a shovel as its official symbol.

The answer is simple: Nigeria will not be rebuilt by rhetoric alone. It will be rebuilt through work.

The official symbol of the Citizens Democratic Alliance consists of a brown circular emblem bearing the inscription "CITIZENS DEMOCRATIC ALLIANCE" in white. Within the circle is a black shovel with a white highlight, while the Party's acronym, CDA, appears below the emblem.

The shovel symbolizes productive labour, nation-building, progress, and development. It reflects our belief that the future of Nigeria depends on hard work, innovation, enterprise, and the dignity of labour. It is a reminder that every great nation is built by citizens who are willing to work, create, produce, and contribute to the common good.

The circular design represents unity, inclusion, continuity, and our vision of a peaceful, prosperous, and united Nigeria.

The colours of the logo also carry deep meaning:

Brown symbolizes Nigeria's rich heritage, fertile land, productivity, and economic potential.

White symbolizes peace, unity, justice, transparency, and national harmony.

Black symbolizes the strength, resilience, dignity, and collective power of the Nigerian people.

At CDA, we believe that the path to national renewal lies not in empty promises but in productive effort, responsible leadership, and active citizenship.

That is why our symbol is a tool of work.

Because nations are not built by wishes. They are built by citizens willing to work together for a better future.

Let's Work To Make Nigeria Work.

Citizen Tamunotonye Samuel Solomon Inioribo
National Chairman
Citizens Democratic Alliance

I am really impressed and wish you the best. But

1. Would you people be filling in candidates in the various political offices in the 2027 General Elections? Remember a Federal High Court had made pronouncements on the INEC time table which by necessary implications would mean that political parties yet to conduct primaries may still do so.

2. I hope your Interest and Nomination Forms are not expensive? I think it should even be free. Set an example that participation in politics does not always have to be about money, but about bold ideas and give ordinary citizens with such ideas a fighting chance in the political space.

Thank you.

uchkochi:
PAIN MOST TIMES ENDOWS YOU WITH GRACE FASTER THAN PRAYERS.

In life what you will be bouyant of, you will first be bankrupt of. That financial challenge is because in no time you will be wealthy. That delay in marriage is because you are going to have a good home. That sickness in your body is because the healing power of Jesus is about to flow through you. That delay in child birth is because you are not going to give birth to just any child.

Jesus on earth was not born into the house of a lawyer, a doctor but a carpenter. Why? Because He was going to die by the cross redeeming man so he needed to get used to WOOD, the cross. Moses was born and kept in the water because he was going to confront the Red Sea.

Your challenges are pointers to your destiny. There are some levels in life you can only get to through pains. Your pain will not be in vain in the name of Jesus. Your time has come.

OMEGA GOSPEL NETWORK.(CYBER/MOBILE CHURCH)

Powerful words of wisdom here. Thank you for this meaningful and impactful contribution to the forum.

Chilipepper:
This foodstuffs or 1million naira? Choose wisely

Apart from the Eggs, Pineapple, Plantain and I think Apples ( that is if they are organically locally grown here and not imported from far away countries having been injected with one or two chemically substances), every other thing there is junk foods and should, even regardless of this proposition, be totally rejected. So even if they were worth 2Million, it still wouldn't have made any difference. I will take the one million and leave those junks. If I have my way as a political leader, these things should be band totally and completely. Say ' NO' to junk foods.

Manofhappiness:
You can also go to janguza market Thursdays or Sundays. Go early so as to buy directly from merchant.

Thank you. I appreciate.

Hullcity:
yankura market but u will have to go as early as possible in order for you to buy directly from the poultry merchant . .

Thanks.

Hullcity:
This was in port harcourt oh. It made me to stat contemplating going to kano state to buy those local chicken in large numbers and coming bak to sell them at good prices in ph. Becos i have lived in kano state before and knw where chicken merchants nomally come to sell their birds to retailers at very cheap prices.

Pls can you kindly give like two places in Kano there where chicken merchants nomally come to sell their birds to retailers at very cheap prices as stated by you above?. Thank you.

pandoragirigory:
use my profile name @ Gmail to mail me

@pandoragirigory

Lovely Day to you and hope you are doing great. Still waiting for your feedbacks. Kindly respond to email messages sent to you. It takes two to tangle and you and I know where I stand, but it is not all up to me alone and I believe that is a fact that ought to be clear to you by now.

I Would really want us to have Final Closure on the issue once and for all and would appreciate your candid position on the ' GIVING OURSELVES A CHANCE' project.

Thank you.

TheGreatIyaebe:
All these rubbish ideologies from Nollywood movies.

Nigerian Men deserve to be cheated on, and I can never be faithful to one man

Mtcheeeew!

Where is this kind of thinking or mindset coming from?. This is a radical departure from a set of principles and values you have always claimed to believe or uphold. I hope all is well with your soul?

pandoragirigory:
use my profile

@pandoragirigory.

What is happening on your end on the 'GIVING OURSELVES A CHANCE' project?. Have you gone silent again, paying no attention to the mail correspondence in order not to reply the the issues raised?

pandoragirigory:
use my profile name @ Gmail to mail me

Pls check your email and respond, but more importantly, let's take the rest of the conversation via WhatsApp. Thank you.

@pandoragirigory

You don't seem to respond the mail messages. In any case, it is even very inconvenient for the kind of communication required. Why not simply use the WhatsApp mode of communication?.

@pandoragirigory

Pls confirm if you have seen the message sent to your email?

pandoragirigory:
yes , but I am not in Nigeria.

Further studies or temporal vacation? Which ever the case, we can still connect via WhatsApp. Pls reach out via my mail and do the needful.

pandoragirigory:
what I don't understand what you are talking about, kindly throw some light

Our journey began as far back as 2021 on a Thread Topic by one T*R*U*V*E*L on Nairaland here.

Ever since then, via several mails ( by virtue of your continuous changes in "Appearance", am sure you know what I mean hear), I have communicated to you my clear offer which you fully understand but have all the while shied away from (can you Imagine?!, since 2021, and this is 2025).


WHAT SAY YOU ON MY OFFER?.

Confirm you have seen this message so I can modifie.

juri:
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@pandoragirigory.

Would you be comfortable we discretely discuss here and address unfinished businesses regarding the Long Standing Offer that has been made to you not withstanding your continuous change of 'addresses'?

Dzzzz:
If your rent is not due then you will not leave the house..If any one tries rubbish just get a lawyer and sue for better money..Your rent must expire before you leave the house..No Dey fear oo,just get a better lawyer and not all lawyers are stubborn so you look for a stubborn lawyer..I hope you never chop the money?

You were giving notice since April 24, did you write back or inform the Landlord or the new owner that you are not accepting the offer?, No you did not. Besides, you also kept the money giving you, so that show concent. Ordinarily, the new owner should be biund by the existing tenancy, meaning that he ought to let you finish your tenancy before doing anything with the flat, whether to rent back to you or demolish or do whatever, he can not just kick you out.

However, in light of your conduct earlier mentioned, i.e refusing to take any steps like writing to convey your disagreement with the offer on one hand, and keeping the money offered you in the other hand, I think you should just pack out since you have been refunded already. No to mention the timing you are now bringing the issue up, just when the notice given you is about to expire. Pks look fo another accomodation fast to avoid stories. Thank you.

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

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I just saw this right now and I hope my advice is not coming too late. First thing first was for you to take the initiative and report to the Police or even NAPTIP. Penetration or not, it's still sexuall molestation. By now, having taking her shower ever since the incidence, your best evidence will be her cloths which should be tested for semen. Pls this has to be done by the Police/NABTIP as the case may be, and not by you, at a government licenced/recognized Lab/Hospital. The result would be tested with the semen of the man in question and this would be one serious evidence to be used in court.

Other corroborative evidence can now start coming in like for example may be the man had called her ten minutes before the attack to meet in the car. Cell phone records will show this. Are there CCTV footage in the area? etc. But first thing first is that semen test from her cloths which establishes that there was direct contact with the man.

Next is to get social media influencers to blow up tha case. But this might not be an option if she would want the matter to be as discreet as it can be. But sometimes, these social media influencers may be of help especially in the case where the authority in question might want to engage in a cover up. Or may be you get some of these NGOs involved in matters of these nature instead of social media influencers. They too can be of help especially if she does not want publicity as such but done degree of supervision so that the matter is not silenced.

Silence is not golden in these circumstances because the man will likely do same to someone else (assuming what she is saying is true oh!). But something you said sounded a little bit off. That she met the man on acount of helping you secure a job. Did you ever tell her you were looking for a job? Or was there ever a time it could be said that you getting a job was to be her responsibility?, an 18 year old?. Let it not be the case that she knew what she was getting involved in and may be the money expected was not given or that she latter felt ashamed of what she did and she is now saying it's rape or whatever. I am just saying you too need to look at the facts objectively and not emotionally.

But like I said before, the earliest you take action, the better. Because at the end of the day, in court, it's not what is true that matters, it is all about what you can proof. That's why I am very particular of that semen test that could by now still be harvested from the cloths she wore that day.

By the way, did the incidence took place in Abuja or where exactly?

pandoragirigory:
You mean embittered Ameachi and bittter grievingory Obi and distorted aregbosola

But seriously, I think You need to attend to some more pressing issues than embittered Ameachi and bittter grievingory Obi and distorted aregbosola. You know what I mean?

uchkochi:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16o6BLFUhk/

These are very powerful truths you have just shared and earnestly, these are the kind of intelligent and thought provoking discussions and information we should be seeing more of on Nairaland.

I just took a few minutes to look up and see your other topics on Nairaland. All I can say is keep the good work. And I hope you intend turning these wisdom nuggets into a book or something, because they truly deserve the attention of a wider audience than just Nairaland.

[quote author]Let's go deep.

Cheating is a discipline problem disguised as a desire problem. At it's core, cheating is rarely about sex, it is about impulse control and a lack of internal restraint. Discipline means doing what is right when no one's watching and many WOMEN haven't built that muscle especially if they spent a lifetime being told that their desires are natural, urgent and ungovernable.

Deep truth - cheating isn't merely a symptom of attraction, it is a sign of a weak code - a WOMAN whose personal standards collapse under pressure or temptation.

Internal voice: "I deserve this, HE WILL never know. It doesn't mean anything." All those are rationalisations built to avoid self- confrontation.

Ego feeds on novelty and not intimacy. Most WOMEN THAT CHEAT, cheat not because they are unhappy but because novelty feeds their fragile ego in a way that consistency does not. Intimacy is vulnerable, it reveals you, it demands growth, but novelty? That offers performance without depth - a chance to feel powerful, sexy, wanted without ever being known. The WOMAN isn't seeking love, he is seeking validation without responsibility.

Pscho-analytic Truth

A lot of WOMEN use MEN like a mirror, the more MEN desire them, the more they feel like a WOMAN. Once that mirror reflects stability instead of fire they go searching for a new reflection.

1. Addiction to External Affirmation: Many WOMEN never developed an internal sense of worth. Instead they rely on external reinforcement to feel valuable and attention from MEN is their drug of choice. Cheating becomes a coping mechanism. It temporarily relieves them from the anxiety of feeling average, unseen or aging. The hit of attention makes them feel alive but it's short-lived so they chase it again and again. This isn't passion, it is a self worth dependency circle rooted in emotional immaturity.

2. Lack of Moral Framework (Not Religious but Internal Code): WOMEN THAT CHEAT, cheat when they don't have a personal moral structure that anchors them when temptations hits. You can't rely on how you feel when everything is good. You have to have a non-negotiable code that holds even when your ego is hungry, but many WOMEN weren't raised with one. They were raised with either

i. Entitlement. "You are a WOMAN, take what you want." or

ii. Fear of getting caught not fear of betraying their own word.

So when the opportunity presents itself, it's not even a question,their compass doesn't point north, it point inward towards self interest.

3. Childhood Conditioning: Chaos feels like home. This one's deep. If a WOMAN grew up in an unstable or emotionally chaotic environment, stability becomes boring. Love that's calm, faithful and mutual can seem foreign and even numbing. So SHE self sabotages, not because SHE doesn't love you but because love when it's real makes HER uncomfortable. Cheating becomes a way to inject chaos to feel something familiar. The uncertainty, the chase, the danger similar to what SHE grew up in. "I don't feel alive unless something is at risk."

5. Unhealed Wounds; Emotional Cowardice: Many WOMEN are emotionally under-developed. They don't know how to regulate needs and securities. So they act out instead of speaking up. Rather than owing up to their emotions, they go and validate themselves through betrayal then justify it later.

7. Lack of Accountability Culture: Most WOMEN aren't afraid of consequences. They are afraid of being caught and there is a difference -.


Final Breakdown

Cheating isn't complicated. It's selfishness, emotional laziness and spiritual weakness wearing the mask of lust. The WOMAN who cheats is telling you something, not just about how SHE feels about you but about how SHE sees HERSELF and it usually goes like this, "I don't respect myself enough to honour love when I have it. So I run, ruin and repeat, hoping one day it will feel different."



It never does.[/quote]

Mistral:
Let's go deep.

Cheating is a discipline problem disguised as a desire problem. At it's core, cheating is rarely about sex, it is about impulse control and a lack of internal restraint. Discipline means doing what is right when no one's watching and many men haven't built that muscle especially if they spent a lifetime being told that their desires are natural, urgent and ungovernable.

Deep truth - cheating isn't merely a symptom of attraction, it is a sign of a weak code - a man whose personal standards collapse under pressure or temptation.

Internal voice: "I deserve this, she'll never know. It doesn't mean anything." All those are rationalisations built to avoid self- confrontation.

Ego feeds on novelty and not intimacy. Most men cheat not because they are unhappy but because novelty feeds their fragile ego in a way that consistency does not. Intimacy is vulnerable, it reveals you, it demands growth, but novelty? That offers performance without depth - a chance to feel powerful, sexy, wanted without ever being known. The man isn't seeking love, he is seeking validation without responsibility.

Pscho-analytic Truth

A lot of men use women like a mirror, the more women desire them, the more they feel like a man. Once that mirror reflects stability instead of fire they go searching for a new reflection.

1. Addiction to External Affirmation: Many men never developed an internal sense of worth. Instead they rely on external reinforcement to feel valuable and attention from women is their drug of choice. Cheating becomes a coping mechanism. It temporarily relieves them from the anxiety of feeling average, unseen or aging. The hit of attention makes them feel alive but it's short-lived so they chase it again and again. This isn't passion, it is a self worth dependency circle rooted in emotional immaturity.

2. Lack of Moral Framework (Not Religious but Internal Code): Men cheat when they don't have a personal moral structure that anchors them when temptations hits. You can't rely on how you feel when everything is good. You have to have a non-negotiable code that holds even when your ego is hungry, but many men weren't raised with one. They were raised with either

i. Entitlement. "You are the man, take what you want." or

ii. Fear of getting caught not fear of betraying their own word.

So when the opportunity presents itself, it's not even a question,their compass doesn't point north, it point inward towards self interest.

3. Childhood Conditioning: Chaos feels like home. This one's deep. If a man grew up in an unstable or emotionally chaotic environment, stability becomes boring. Love that's calm, faithful and mutual can seem foreign and even numbing. So he self sabotages, not because he doesn't love you but because love when it's real makes him uncomfortable. Cheating becomes a way to inject chaos to feel something familiar. The uncertainty, the chase, the danger similar to what he grew up in. "I don't feel alive unless something is at risk."

4. Objectification Culture Plus Male Bonding Around Disrespect: Let's be real. A lot of male culture still rewards conquest and mocks devotion. Lock room talk, music, friend groups... They often frame loyalty as weakness and sexual freedom as power. So some men cheat not because they want to but because they think being loyal makes them less of a man in their circle. It's pack mentality, not personal choice. That's how hollow their manhood identity is. It's shaped by external approval, not internal truth.

5. Unhealed Wounds; Emotional Cowardice: Many men are emotionally under-developed. They don't know how to regulate needs and securities. So they act out instead of speaking up. Rather than owing up to their emotions, they go and validate themselves through betrayal then justify it later.

6. Power and Control: Cheating gives some men a sense of control. In relationships where they feel beneath the woman - she being more successful, more evolved, more mature, cheating becomes a way to level the playing field, to remind themselves that they still have power. "She might be smarter, but I can still pull this off. I am not under her thumb." It is a dominance move disguised as desire.

7. Lack of Accountability Culture: Most men aren't afraid of consequences. They are afraid of being caught and there is a difference - that's because society often forgives or excuses male infidelity. Other men don't hold each other accountable, they gas each other up. Some women internalize the blame and take them back without requiring transformation. No accountability = repeated betrayal until someone, a partner, a friend or life itself forces a reckoning.


Final Breakdown

Cheating isn't complicated. It's selfishness, emotional laziness and spiritual weakness wearing the mask of lust. The man who cheats is telling you something, not just about how he feels about you but about how he sees himself and it usually goes like this, "I don't respect myself enough to honour love when I have it. So I run, ruin and repeat, hoping one day it will feel different."



It never does.

This again is one of the very few intelligent write up on Nairaland that I have seen. I wonder why it doesn't seem to be getting the level of engagement and discussion such an important topic should ordinarily have.

However, I must say that almost all you have written directly applies to women as well. In fact, one could go through your post and simply insert the word 'Women' in place of the word 'Men' and the write up will still remain as true as it is right now. The only exceptions will be:

YOUR NUMBER; '4, Objectification Culture Plus Male Bonding Around Disrespect: Let's be real. A lot of male culture still rewards conquest and mocks devotion. Lock room talk, music, friend groups... They often frame loyalty as weakness and sexual freedom as power. So some men cheat not because they want to but because they think being loyal makes them less of a man in their circle. It's pack mentality, not personal choice. That's how hollow their manhood identity is. It's shaped by external approval, not internal truth'.

YOUR NUMBER; '6. Power and Control: Cheating gives some men a sense of control. In relationships where they feel beneath the woman - she being more successful, more evolved, more mature, cheating becomes a way to level the playing field, to remind themselves that they still have power. "She might be smarter, but I can still pull this off. I am not under her thumb." It is a dominance move disguised as desire'.

AND

YOUR NUMBER; '7. Lack of Accountability Culture: Most men aren't afraid of consequences. They are afraid of being caught and there is a difference - that's because society often forgives or excuses male infidelity. Other men don't hold each other accountable, they gas each other up. Some women internalize the blame and take them back without requiring transformation. No accountability = repeated betrayal until someone, a partner, a friend or life itself forces a reckoning'.

Even your number 7 above, still applies directly to women except to the extent that you mentioned that society often forgives or excuses male infidelity, that I agree.

Every other thing els you said about men in the topic, like I said applies directly to women as well. In fact, I can simply reproduce your write up ( without those I have just mentioned above) and insert 'women' in place of ' men' and it will just remain as true as it was. Not withstanding, your topic was educative and insightful.

Thank you.

2special:
I know a man that eats bread almost everyday and die at the age of 91years.

Pls let's be well guided. There is this thinking that because a Mr. A eats something and nothing bad happens to him, Mr. B can do sam.

Let's say this 91 year old man that eats bread every day as you said, also endulges in more vegetables, eats more wholesome foods and not packaged foods like indomie etc, and does lots of exercise, especially indirectly as in primitive farming activities etc. Yes, he may still live up to 91 years, but that still does not mean the bread is okay. His life style may have been countering some of the negative effects of the bread eating and may have experienced e en better health without the bread.

Now somebody for example who eats indomie everyday, Soft drinks, etc and was raised in an environment where you drive or transports to school or work every day will now say ' that man eats bread every day and lived up to 90 years'. The difference in life styles means the degree or the effect or consequences of eating bread may be different but it still does not mean that the bread is a healthy food.

In both instances, both the health of the man of up to 90 years who eats bread every day, and the other person already predisposed to unhealthy foods and life styles, will both be better served in avoiding bread.

I consider the article below very informative on bread, especially for those who think bread is okay. It's as bad , if not worse than Sodas or so called Soft Drinks or eating terrible foods like Pizza all of which are wrecking havoc on our health. Unfortunately, I could not get the source of the material. Pls read as presented below and be well guided:

THE UNPOPULAR FACT ABOUT EATING BREAD

We grew up thinking bread was a gift, something for the elite and special. In my town, it is in your subconscious that you buy bread while travelling.

Bread came with warmth, laughter around breakfast tables, and quick dinners on tired nights.

But no one told us that the same bread we trusted could become a slow poison stitched into our very bloodstream.

Bread today is not the bread of our ancestors.
It is a chemistry experiment, refined starch, stripped fiber, added sugars, hydrogenated oils, emulsifiers, bleaching agents, bromates, each ingredient hijacking our biology in ways our tongues can't taste, but our cells can't ignore.

At the molecular level, that soft, fluffy slice explodes into glucose almost instantly.
Your blood sugar surges like a river breaking its banks.

Insulin pours out to contain the flood, but the damage has begun:
fat lodges into the liver, mitochondria sputter under oxidative stress, your gut barrier cracks open, and inflammation becomes a permanent resident in your body.

Bread is not just food anymore. It is instruction, a dangerous message telling your cells to store fat, to inflame, to age, to decay.

The evidence is no longer hidden. As far back as 1916, Dr. J.R. Lowery, writing in the Texas Medical Journal, showed that bread was no innocent staple. He traced pellagra, a disease of dementia, diarrhea, and death, to poor-quality bread.

Today, leading scholars like Professor Robert Lufkin show how bread fuels the global epidemics of type 2 diabetes, fatty liver, heart disease, cognitive decline, and autoimmune breakdown.

Still, every morning in Nigeria and across Africa, the rituals continue.
Bread with Akamu.
Bread with noodles.
Bread with sugary tea.
Bread stuffed with beans.
Bread as the cheap filler when hunger knocks and patience is thin.

But while our mouths are satisfied, our bodies are paying debts we cannot see.
The pancreas exhausted.
The liver suffocating under fat.
The gut inflamed and leaking toxins into the bloodstream.
The brain clouded by silent inflammation.

You think it’s normal to feel tired by noon.
You think it’s normal to forget names, to wake up with back pain, to feel your skin dull and your moods crash without warning.
But it is not normal.
It is metabolic deregulation.
It is the price of silent addiction.

Bread is engineered to addict you.
Not by taste alone, but by chemistry, through rapid glucose spikes and dopamine floods that hijack the reward circuits of your brain.
You crave not because you are weak, but because the food was designed to make you need more.

When you remove bread, you do not just lose weight.
You reclaim energy.
You reclaim focus.
You reclaim clarity, skin vibrancy, digestive peace, metabolic dignity.

Diseases the world accepts as normal, ulcers, gastritis, high cholesterol, type 2 diabetes, arthritis, fatty liver, begin to retreat when the bread trap is broken.

This is not guesswork. It is clinical reality.
It is biophysics.
It is the quiet cry of your mitochondria for mercy.

Our ancestors did not survive on bleached flour and processed oils.
They ate foods that spoke the language of the body: roots, tubers, fresh grains, leafy greens, real proteins, slow-burning energy.
Their bodies moved with the seasons, not against them.
Their health was not perfect, but it was coherent, not this metabolic chaos normalized today.

You have a choice.

Every bite is a signal.
Every meal is a decision.
Either you build health, or you build dysfunction.

I no longer eat bread.
Not because of fear, but because of love, for my cells, for my future, for the silent miracles happening inside me every second I choose rightly.

You owe yourself that love too.

Bread is the comfort that costs too much.
Choose life. Choose lightness. Choose clarity.

And if you must eat bread, let it be rare, sacred, and made from ingredients your great-grandmother would recognize, not compounds your liver struggles to pronounce.

Break free.
Your body already knows what freedom feels like.
It’s only waiting for you to remember.

Thank you for the patience demonstrated in the reading.

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Samantha125:
The money is for the best interest of the children.

This is not about her, but about the children.

And you being emotional and raining insults at me already says a lot about your level of reasoning... An empty barrel always resorts to insults whenever it has nothing valuable to add to the table... So continue with your insults, I won't be bothered...😃😃😃😃

Yes, the children should not/can not be punished on account of their mother's alleged action or bad behaviour. That is very bad. That is why I advised he should not even mention that when he gets there on Tuesday. It's ethically very wrong.

Bobodee09:
They did church and traditional marriage in 2011.
The kids are 12yrs,9yrs,5yrs.

The wife was the one who asked for separation in 2022 and she made it clear the marriage was over despite alot of pleading from my family and hers.

Your uncle and the wife may have to have a formally drawn legal agreement as relates to custody of the children.

But like I advised, your uncle should not make the mistake of repeating what you said was the reason he stoped paying school fees pls. That will be bad for him especially if he ever wants the chance of having custody or access to his children.

Bobodee09:
My uncle received a text and call yesterday from lagos state women affairs department. He is being summon for interrogation on Tuesday regarding a petition from his wife.

I strongly advise you and your uncle not to go there and say because the wife refused him to see his children, that was why he refused paying their school fees. Apart from the fact that it was ethically speaking, very wrong to hold his children responsible for his wife's misconduct, such action may affect him if may be he wants to claim custody of the children tomorrow. He should rathere inform the people for example that he demanded for an account of the children's welfare which the wife refused to give and that he wanted to take sometime to sought out whether the money he was sending was even getting to his children when he got the invitation.

That she works for the Lagos state govt. is not an issue. After all, if custody issue arises, the man is also gainfully employed/self employed with financial capacity to take care of the children, this is a major factor for consideration.

What they would inquire from your uncle is whether it is true that he has stoped their school fees and emotionally apsent. That is why I said he should not be saying he stoped paying school fess because of what their mother did. That will not help him at all both for the long and short term.

By the way, are they actually divorced or just seperated? Would your uncle want custody of the children?, how old are the children even?.