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Pukkalolo:
Nobody wants you to succeed. They all want you to fail!

Ooch! That hurts... right?

But that's one bitter truth.

Those your close relative may smiles at you, but on a low-key they want you to fail in flying colors.

This is not entirely true. It is largely based on an individual experience bases, especially if you are surrounded by true friends, and have built honest relationships. Don't also forget that sometimes, you reap what you sow. You don't for example, always want to flount your achievements in peaples face with the intent to oppress or feel better and then expect such people to wish you well, especially when such persons for the moment are still struggling or yet to achieve what their peers at that time ar already achieving, whether education status, wealth, marital status, etc.

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IconicR:
Nairalanders please is it fair for a mother to suspend her own daughter for fighting her staff?

1. Your friend's mistake was attempting to correct the perceived wrongs she noticed by doing it herself. She should have privately informed the mother of this back stage and the mother should be left with the decision on how best to handle things based on the information available to her. You said it yourself that she was an intern, so she is not in the position to give directions. What she was doing is even puting herself in danger. Never underestimate the length people can go. Especially when it comes to money. Even in the government ministries and agencies, I have heard stories of colleagues ganging up against one of their own who was trying to 'block their way' or 'put sand in their garry'.

2. What your friend's mother did is like parents who discipline their children in front of strangers. It is not good at all in developing a child's confidence especially in front of such a stranger who may even be worse in character than the child in question. Like your friend, the mother should have handled what she did to her daughter back stage.

3A. However, this incidence may even be a symptom of something bigger. That there are issues in the mother child relationship between your friend and her mother that has been reflected/ played out by virtue of this incidence. Trust issues, Over Familiarity etc. I would ordinarily expect a mother to take her child's warning seriously especially when it has to do with her being cheated by her employees because that should ordinarily come from a position of concern and not just employer employee relationship alone. Because, let's face it, almost always, nobody can ever love you like your family.

3B. The other symptom of something much bigger here is that the working environment of the company involved may be a toxic one where somebody has to be careful of the staff and watch ones back.

4. Wether your friend continues to work there or not in light of what has happened should largely depend on addressing the concerns in paragraphs 3A above. But wether she likes it or not, directly or indirectly, she will always be a part of that establishment.

5. The above is predicated on the assumptions that there was in deed and in fact infractions on the part of the employees designed to steal defraud their boss. It would have helped if we understood what those infractions were though.

Bottom line remains that it will not be in the place of an intern to direct or make corrections over wrongs within that establishment. Best will be simply to report to the mother. The mother also should have handled the issue with your friend back stage. Family and business I understand can have it's own issues but if and when properly managed, such dynamics can be very valuable.

IconicR:
Kos you are a ghost

Pls explain, because I thought that issue of me being a ghost/unknown had long been settled via the last mail exchanges, or is there something I am missing?

IconicR:
See my fans all gathered here having fun.
Don't worry I'm about deactivating again kikikikiki
Something serious is coming up.
Yeye people

Dont forget You need to address outstanding issues before deactivating this time again oh! . And by the way, why the ghosting?

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Samantha124:
Do you consider yourself an African simply because you're black and of an African origin, or there are certain virtues or cultural practices that distinguish you from the others?

Since Nigeria has got more than 200 tribes, I'd like to know..

So I'd like to know about you Nigerians..

Interesting post. I won't answer the question directly. Rather, I will say what makes one an African is his/her connection (ancestral) to one of many of the ethnic nationalities in Africa as well as both the willingness to be identified as such and commitment to upholds the positive cultural values, upliftment and well being of the people of that ethnic nationality and of other African ethnic nationalities both home and
abroad, provided they too are of same perspective as earlier on enumerated.

Let me also add, as I have always strongly believed and will continue to advocate for, deploying all assets, political and otherwise, as time, chance, providence and hard work will make possible that: The need to redraw Africa's borders to reflect its indigenous ethnic nationality realities is one way to address the challenges we face ( whether Nigeria, Sudan, Ethiopia, Kenya etc) and that will lead the way for a more prosperous and stable future.

IconicR:
I understand you but I can also tell you that marriage will break if the man's wife gets to find out and it will cause enmity in the family which is what I'm trying to prevent. Don't you also think it was God that made me see that message for a purpose? I can smell danger ahead and for the fact that I'm feeling so uneasy about it means God wants me to do something, I always know when God is talking to me.

So, can you do something without revealing your level of awareness and involvement in the matter. And this should be done carefully. Again, To conceal your level of awareness by all means. Say for example, you tell your Aunt and the the man's wife together that you heard some people talking with surgestive comments about a relationship between your Aunt the this woman's husband, but before you could come around to see who they were, they were gone, and then advise that your Aunt put a transfer out of the husbands office to stop these 'unfounded rumours'.

You are the only one that can come up with a perfect scenerio for this kind of approach because you know them well. In my opinion, it has to be communicated to the both of them and possibly same time so the wife can be on her toes and the Aunt to take more decisive steps. But pls remember, it it critical that you consider all the possible questions that may arise from your narrative so as to conceal your level of knowledge and awareness.

NEVER EVER mentione the message you saw and what you did with it. If after this the relationship still continues and the wife is not wise and smart enough to her responsibility, you hands off.

By the way, I thought you mentioned that they were all in the same organization. You mean that rumours or body language haven't given the wife a hint all these while?.

IconicR:
Keeping the secret is eating me up, I always feel I should do something to stop all these rubbish

Before you make any decision, pls consider/answer the following questions/facts:

1. It must be stated clearly that regardless of your motives, you have violated your Aunt's privacy. It would have been fine if you mistakenly read the message, but the extra mile you took, and even intend to take when you mentioned somewhere, (if I am not mistaking) that you intend to stylishly check her phone again, is completely wrong. This must be stated clearly and you should not proceed further on this.

2. You said he is a womanizer. What makes you think the wife is not aware of this fact about here husband. As a mater of fact, what makes you think the wife is not even aware of the situation right now. Don't say is not possible. Because even what you have just found out, you would have argued and probably State it as an impossibility. You said it yourself that you were shocked when you found out. You may be shocked further. Everything is not always as it seems. When it comes to marriage, you would be shocked to know what happens behind doors.

3. What do you think would come out of the revelation. That the man will change or what?.

4. What makes you feel obliged or compelled to 'do something' or not to mind your business?. Don't you think the wife who chose to marry whatever she chose to marry should be allowed to carry her cross. Consider this together with paragraph 2 above.

4. Is it possible that with your revelation, people will be more compelled to dwell on your indiscretion than even on the evil you are trying to address? An ability to keep things to yourself sometimes is maturity. Remember these are not intending couples, these are all matured adults who know right from wrong and know what they want and don't want.

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IconicR:
Check very well you may be there's some mix-up

You know very well as much as I do that there is no mix-up here. Any time I try to get your attention on ways moving forward from where we are, you always deflect.Okey, you know what, I conceed that there is a mix-up . Okey!!?, Done.

Now, that settled, I would like to get to know you, IconicR beyond this platform, so can you pls respond to the DM I sent you so we can take the conversation from there?

IconicR:
🤔 are you sure you chatting with the right person?

;DHahahaha! YES, I do. That's because the value I see in you, I can always detect even with the Pandora of changes, except I do not come across conversations involving you. Just got to know of this new ID, and imediately recognized some distinct characteristics especially on some moral values/stands which in the first place, had got my attention and interest in your person all these while till now.

But on a serious note, I think what needs to be done is taking too long ( I wasn't even asking for much). Any way, why not respond to the DM I have just sent to you and tell me how very wrong I am. I am very much interested to know. We can even discuss further how wrong I am/was on WhatsApp. Is that a deal?.

IconicR:
🤔

Did you even read the last mail at all? Because meaningful surgestions was made there, especially the WhatsApp option at least for a start.

IconicR:
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Common, just tell me what needs to be done. You know by now this is not some joke right?

IconicR

Long Time. Still waiting for responses. Any ideas how long that will take?

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TemplarLandry:
I think I'm interested. Hope you're not fake.

Very legit. Feel free to proceed.

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