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Been having issues with my gf earlier this year.though we have settled it but it nearly ended the relationship .we tend to quarell most times on phone then..I was complaining about her sudden non Chalant attitude in the relationship. .things I don't know her for ..if I complained she would say she did not do anything wrong. .that' I was just taking it too serious. .but deep down I was not happy...so out of anger I would say hurtful things to her. .threatened her I would quit the relationship if she does not sit up..after my anger have melted down I would later call back and apologise to her. .but she would tell me she's sacred that all this threatening that she fears I would eventually leave her one day..but I told her no..that she should sit up and prevent things that would spark my anger at her..we would settle ..fight again..all this on phone though. ..settle again...so later on i found out a particular guy she met on fb has been asking her out...when she came back to Lagos. .when I asked her she said they were just friends nothing else..I said ok...but the signs of just friends where not there. .because the way the guy would be calling her and chatting her up even when she was with me got me suspicious. .it lead to a confrontation between us both. ..which I slapped her out of anger. .something I have never done for the past 3 years of the relationship. ..she cried. ..and i felt bad and later apologised. ..but that was not the end..when she got back. Home..the guy knowing she was no longer in my place. .used the opportunity to get her ...capitalising on the fact she was having relationship issues ..then became Angel to her that moment. .and guys know the best time to get a girl is when is going through relationship issues because they know girls become vulnerable and weak that period..so he started asking her out. ...getting closer to her..all this happened during the April lockdown..which I later found out through some ways...I was sad and unhappy...she later apologised and begged me she was sorry,.that she was confused that the whole relationship issues was too much for her ,,,She was scared I would leave her..that I kept on threatening her with break up all the time..coupled with the slap..that she did not knwo what' she was doing again...and that's when the guy came in StarTed telling her things...but I told her even if we had issues just like every other relationship. .I know I say stuffs to u..most times out of anger. .but I never left u..I still called..as usual...did every other thing as a bf. ..why would u seek refuge else where. .she did said she was sorry about ..that she was just scared. .so we fix the whole issues up..and she promised she would be better and not do things that would get me angry again...I also apologised for the whole drama and slap...but now she later told me that the guy is now saying they should be friends. .since she's has settled thIngs in her relationship life. ..that's let them just be friends. ..she promised she won't hide anything from me...that she has nothing to do with him..and for the fact there was a time he gave her money which she told me about. ..though I know he gave her that money not because of friendship but because he wanted to use that as a means to get to her....I told her to block and delete the guy on her fb..now is it right for me to tell her this or let me give her a benefit of a doubt. ...
Sorry for the long story

Wow..kaffi..saw her b4 the lockdown when she came around ..she is a close friend to my friend in lagos..very humble girl..you wouldn't believe she's in the military..her ride no be hear..very young girl ..but money plenty..owo po..With That her killer smile...Jokes aside some ladies are Humble..when my friend told me he's a close friend to him I did not believe it..I was like who dash you..oh boy when i.saw her that day..I believe..I respect my guy that day

Blakjewelry:
In as much as I don't like the guy have you considered he did the travel because he really wanted to see real impact on the Power sector? The system is not working not just because our leaders are corrupt but because the average Nigerian has the tendency to be corrupt and the only time they are complaining is when they are not the one committing the crime

am not discriminating him for the travel..he was simply carrying out the instructions of his Boss..but let's be Honest with ourselves..if he had been told he would go with all expenses on him.would he have sacrifice his personal earnings for it.would he had deem it necessary...It just a simple prove to assume Nigerian politicians..dont do it for us..they do it for themselves

No disrespect to Late Mallam ABBA KYARI and the PMB..but come to think of it..Bubu set the man up..and baba self Enjoying the Powers of been the PRESIDENT BEST MAN in The MARRIAGE of NIGERIA..That trip to GERMANY..M.A.K would have simply stayed in Nigeria and allowed other Delegations in the Ministry of Power to embark on such Meeting....but no ..baba wanted to go..well I don't blame him though.. he was only carrying out the instructions of his PRINCIPAL in PMB..and for the Fact that ..M.A.K knew "na free flight" "free hotel accommodation" "free feeding" "even travelling allowance "..as long as I wont spend a dime out of my pocket..why not..am in....Since BUBU gave him a lot of Power which he Welded to himself..If someone had Told him MAK if u embarked on this Journey let other people do it...or else it would be the last time you would Board a Plane..he would arrest that PERSON ...Bubu right now would be thinking..."if to say I know i for no send this My Guy go this Place oo"
Damn I don CAST..
Take it to the Bank...M.A.K ought not to have had no business going to Germany in the first place..
But The Chance of Heading A Delegation...The Toxic Effect of Power
RIGHT now..Buhari one way or the other is filled with Regret...#my2cents

In the beginning God created heaven and earth and also created bruno fernandes in his own image..but I still wonder in whose image was lingard created

princejck:
BWL = Business Administration

TestAS = https://www.testas.de/

ok thanks bro

princejck:
I think you should search first if you can get masters studies with your result, try BWL or similar courses but if you re still having difficulties then you can apply for another Bachelors...ur age is still ok for Bsc but try to see if you can achieve it this year. Also write TestAS score 100 and above to improve ur chances of admission and appointment date.

Apply for Bsc and masters parallel to save time.

ok thanks for the advice..what's BWL plz..and TestAS

justine94:
Please am new to this thread and I need serious suggestions and help..I graduated 2015 with 2.67 cgpa in Accounting..though my parents had financial constraints when I got admission which affected my academic performance due to fact I had to no hostel accommodation money for handout..most cases I missed many of exams during my first year and second year due to this constraints..it was in my 3yr I started picking up the pieces but I could not strengthen my cgpa again because u strengthen your cgpa as early in yr1 and yr2..but that's by the way..I served late 2016 to 2017 at an audit firm..started work with an automobile company as a service engineer on July 2018 due to inability to get good placed interview with firms that are inclined with my field of study..due to my 2.2 result..because most firms ask for 2.1..which really pains me till now ..have been working there since then ..and I have actually learnt alot from the job in terms of engineering and machinery dynamics..which I feel is not a waste .but I still want to further more with what I studied in the university. Am currently still doing my ICAN exams..so am planning on applying for an msc in germany in economics or any business and finance related course..but my cgpa after been coverted to german scale is 2.74..which is above the the 2.5 scale..and this is giving me huge concerns and fear...should I reapply for another bachelors degree in perhaps economics I clocked 26 last week..I dont know what to do now..I need help on what I should do ..thanks

please guys I need your suggestions and opinions on this

justine94:
Please am new to this thread and I need serious suggestions and help..I graduated 2015 with 2.67 cgpa in Accounting..though my parents had financial constraints when I got admission which affected my academic performance due to fact I had to no hostel accommodation money for handout..most cases I missed many of exams during my first year and second year due to this constraints..it was in my 3yr I started picking up the pieces but I could not strengthen my cgpa again because u strengthen your cgpa as early in yr1 and yr2..but that's by the way..I served late 2016 to 2017 at an audit firm..started work with an automobile company as a service engineer on July 2018 due to inability to get good placed interview with firms that are inclined with my field of study..due to my 2.2 result..because most firms ask for 2.1..which really pains me till now ..have been working there since then ..and I have actually learnt alot from the job in terms of engineering and machinery dynamics..which I feel is not a waste .but I still want to further more with what I studied in the university. Am currently still doing my ICAN exams..so am planning on applying for an msc in germany in economics or any business and finance related course..but my cgpa after been coverted to german scale is 2.74..which is above the the 2.5 scale..and this is giving me huge concerns and fear...should I reapply for another bachelors degree in perhaps economics I clocked 26 last week..I dont know what to do now..I need help on what I should do ..thanks

please guys help me with this...I would appreciate any suggestions

Please am new to this thread and I need serious suggestions and help..I graduated 2015 with 2.67 cgpa in Accounting..though my parents had financial constraints when I got admission which affected my academic performance due to fact I had to no hostel accommodation money for handout..most cases I missed many of exams during my first year and second year due to this constraints..it was in my 3yr I started picking up the pieces but I could not strengthen my cgpa again because u strengthen your cgpa as early in yr1 and yr2..but that's by the way..I served late 2016 to 2017 at an audit firm..started work with an automobile company as a service engineer on July 2018 due to inability to get good placed interview with firms that are inclined with my field of study..due to my 2.2 result..because most firms ask for 2.1..which really pains me till now ..have been working there since then ..and I have actually learnt alot from the job in terms of engineering and machinery dynamics..which I feel is not a waste .but I still want to further more with what I studied in the university. Am currently still doing my ICAN exams..so am planning on applying for an msc in germany in economics or any business and finance related course..but my cgpa after been coverted to german scale is 2.74..which is above the the 2.5 scale..and this is giving me huge concerns and fear...should I reapply for another bachelors degree in perhaps economics I clocked 26 last week..I dont know what to do now..I need help on what I should do ..thanks

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Please am new to this thread and I need serious suggestions and help..I graduated 2015 with 2.67 cgpa in Accounting..though my parents had financial constraints when I got admission which affected my academic performance due to fact I had to no hostel accommodation money for handout..most cases I missed many of exams during my first year and second year due to this constraints..it was in my 3yr I started picking up the pieces but I could not strengthen my cgpa again because u strengthen your cgpa as early in yr1 and yr2..but that's by the way..I served late 2016 to 2017 at an audit firm..started work with an automobile company as a service engineer on July 2018 due to inability to get good placed interview with firms that are inclined with my field of study..due to my 2.2 result..because most firms ask for 2.1..which really pains me till now ..have been working there since then ..and I have actually learnt alot from the job in terms of engineering and machinery dynamics..which I feel is not a waste .but I still want to further more with what I studied in the university. Am currently still doing my ICAN exams..so am planning on applying for an msc in germany in economics or any business and finance related course..but my cgpa after been coverted to german scale is 2.74..which is above the the 2.5 scale..and this is giving me huge concerns and fear...should I reapply for another bachelors degree in perhaps economics I clocked 26 last week..I dont know what to do now..I need help on what I should do ..thanks

ThePansophist:
If you will like the island, i can refer you to someone you can stay for a month. Nice environment and apartment

..ok can you WhatsApp me on 09076012975

Please I need a short stay apartment for a period of one month within lagos preferably the mainland...cost budget of 15-20k...

Pls is the cost of s6 edge plus screen

U hav a point though..i will hv to amplify mmy efforts den...we hv settled back..she swore and i seriously cautioned her dt after ds one...its quit

rosy1992:
Now I see why she couldn't forget her ex because he was the one that deflowered her, to be sincere with you it is going to be a hard pill to swallow, she can't easily forget him. you have a lot of work to do. if you love her ,make her see reasons to let go of him. That's why I tell ladies not to be sexually involved with a guy unless they get married to him, because such memories stay for a lifetime.

I love ur suggestion bro..i wd key into it...u hv reali opened my eyes on this matter..i hv told her i wd gv her a benefit of a doubt on the broda admsn process..i hope he does gain admsn..then after dat i wd kn wat to do...i have aws hd a plan b.c.d wt all my dates den..but i wd see to it

DaySpringer:
PH and Owerri.

That was how my ex-girlfriend's own ex came from Owerri to see her and she hid it from me.
During the relationship he started calling her, she told me about it and I trusted her that nothing will happen.

Until the day that she went to attend a conference in Owerri, I told her that the ex will be there and she denied it.
I later confirmed from the ex facebook status that he indeed was going to be there.
While there, she confirmed that she indeed saw the ex while he was there, I accused her of sleeping with him, she denied it.
Denied it vehemently.

Until three months later the ex called me and told me that they actually had sex at that conference four days before she came to see me in Benin.

Listen Bro, in a relationship, when things like this come up don't forget that sometimes you must have to value self-preservation above anything else. Her relationship with her ex is endangering your peace of mind and your mental health. I don't care about the details of the why she is talking to him, if she cannot admit that she has a soft spot for him then she is a liar or not someone that is honest with herself. If she is not honest with herself, how can she be honest with you?

She is valuing her family over your relationship with her, why won't you value your peace of mind and mental health over her?

Why does your three years with her appear more valuable to you than her three years with you be more valuable than her three years with you to her?

I hope you understood that question?

A three year relationship is important no doubt and the Logical thing to do will be to patient and watch her carefully.
When she mentions that the ex calls her, don't say anything.
Just listen, don't let her know what you are thinking about the matter. Lull her into a false sense of security so that she thinks that you are not really bothered about it. Then you check her chats surreptitiously, even put whatsapp web on her phone.

The three greatest weapons against a woman are SILENCE, PATIENCE & PRETENCE

Get the evidence you need and then bail out.
It will be on record that you gave her a chance.

However, those three weapons I mentioned above are very hard to employ, very hard especially when you love her.

if you want to discuss more with me, then PM me.

But now dats she is begging for me to stay back dat she has notin for the ex again...this girl is not just any random girl we hav bin togeda for more dan 3 years..i cant read minds..but i know she is into this relationship wit me..she has commited alot into...i want to give her a one week break..let me see wat she wud do about it..if she wd run bk to her ex for succour or still try all her possible best to win me back...which i knw she is going to do ..even though i blocked her from my 3 lines..let me see how far she can handle it...perhaps from den i wd decide on wat to do about this her ex tin...i hope am doing the right tin

swear bro ph and owerri no far oo...na my fear be dat oo...wat if he comes to owerri to see her himself..can she stand her ground and sayNo to him

J4JUVENTUS:
Trust nobody... Now trying connecting your exes ,rub it on her face and see how she will react.. That ex will bang her one day ,even when you marry her.. That her ex has done more than you are doing now,you need to step up.. Bro be wise.. Go put on the traits of Alfa male,she will stop those those bullshit s,and won't wanna loose you.. If she is really a good woman as you claimed,she will respect you bro. Talking to an ex is totally unacceptable in any relationship,it brings about cheating.. Conclusively ...The ex na lecturer wen dey help the younger bro for admission? Must the helper be her ex? Can't you look for someone else to help in the admissions process.. The admission stuff is to divert you attention ,so that you believe nothing is happening between them. Remember Owerri no too far from PH like that o....
Be wise man!

I swear bro ph and owerri no far oo...na my fear be dat oo...wat if he comes to owerri to see her himself..can she stand her ground and sayNo to him

J4JUVENTUS:
Trust nobody... Now trying connecting your exes ,rub it on her face and see how she will react.. That ex will bang her one day ,even when you marry her.. That her ex has done more than you are doing now,you need to step up.. Bro be wise.. Go put on the traits of Alfa male,she will stop those those bullshit s,and won't wanna loose you.. If she is really a good woman as you claimed,she will respect you bro. Talking to an ex is totally unacceptable in any relationship,it brings about cheating.. Conclusively ...The ex na lecturer wen dey help the younger bro for admission? Must the helper be her ex? Can't you look for someone else to help in the admissions process.. The admission stuff is to divert you attention ,so that you believe nothing is happening between them. Remember Owerri no too far from PH like that o....
Be wise man!

I have blocked her from all my phone lines for now..just need time to clear my head .i know she wd keep on tryin to call me one way or d other..am planning on givin her ds week off..let me see how far she can go ..then i wd kn if she truly truly values the relationship..shes trying to set us both up to see.i hv a stuff of hers..shes told me earlier she needs it back dat i sud bring it for her .whch i knew it was trick for us to meet..i told her i wd gv it to her broda to give her..she said no...dt she wants me to bring it myself..wch i declined knowin fully well.once she sees me and start her crying or she start makin her love advances towards me i wd accept her back..which i want to avoid for now

Dave0116:
after how many rounds of sex exactly?

I have blocked her from all my phone lines for now..just need time to clear my head .i know she wd keep on tryin to call me one way or d other..am planning on givin her ds week off..let me see how far she can go ..then i wd kn if she truly truly values the relationship

Dave0116:
after how many rounds of sex exactly?

Thats wat i dnt av against her ..she tells me shes not seeing him in any way..but wat if he comes looking for her can she stand her ground..thats the tin..i dondt want to loose her just lk dat..she has promised not to pick his calls again...i give ladies freedom alot..dats why she do pick his call knwin fully well if she tells me abt it i wont complain abt her ex callin her..since it most times abt her broda admsn..but i jst feel the guy is using it a meduim to play mind games with her..since he once dated her..he still knows how to talk to her..i feel its high time i put a stop to dat..she has even caled my mom and sis to beg me..because dey both knw her as my gf..but i dont want to be a fool and pretend lk its perfect.

mauricej99:
My ex still calls me and always chat me up when I'm online, she is married. If it is ordinary calls, there is no problem with that but if they are seeing each other.... My brother find your way out of the relationship.

My head is filled up right now..she has been begging me all day..saying she has bin over her ex for a long time..even.dat d only tin mkin dem comm is d bro admsn. With all truth....she has paid her dues in terms of wat to expect from a reasonable lady in any relationship..be it time..dedication etc..i can say to an extent the guy has not bin sleeping with her..because he stays far away in Ph she lives here in lagos and so do i..but she schools in owerri,final year to be precise .am not saying i trust her completely..but i kn wats she capable of doing..and shes not good with lying..and like i said anytime the ex calls her..she often tell me abt..my judgement is not clouded here..am just saying she has given me many reasons not to give up on her...aside the ex tin..we hardly have issues of infidelity.jst normal light relationship quarrels we settle again..this is the only one we do have once in a while especially wen the ex calls her..and start telling her tins

Thats wat i plan doing...waiting for the whole admission tin to end

frozen70:
Am ex remains an ex, you don't know the level of the closeness before they separated

She might be close to him, which might lead to intimacy or not

If she loves you as you claim, she will respect your relationship


They are communicating because of her brothers admission and I think you need to give her time

If after he gains admission and they are still glued to each other, then let her know that you guys need a break so that she can tell the other guy that she wants to focus in her relationship

But is she the one you want to marry or just dating

I don't want you to put her in a tight corner

She says she has done dat..dt she has no attachment for him..but i dont blv dat completely

Adarrel:
And the bolded should be the most important thing to you because at the end of the day you have to look out for yourself and your sanity as there appears to be a kind of triangulation going on. It might be innocent from your girl's end but her inability to have a complete emotional detachment from her ex is not a very good sign.

You could give time to see if she's able to detach emotionally. And I'm wondering is the ex still single?

I have not seen any chats between them on whatsapp b4...am not sure dey do...

AarewaMafia:
Do me one favour.Try goin through her chats with her ex on whatsapp or any social platform.You'll get your answer there.