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filani:
@ topic

We need more clarity! Is this a first date or third date or what? Depending on the level of interaction between them this question will have two different answers.

As for me, I am willing to let it slide if such occur after a first date but if a girl did call me after the first date to ask after me , she would score very highly in my approval ratings
However if a girl didn't bother to call after the third date, that will be a major thumbs down for her!

My personal rule is that the girl should initiate and pay for the third date. Any girl who has an issue with that is just hanging with you for trips and a free meal.
Making it clear that you expect her to initiate and pay for date number 3 is a good way to quickly weed out broke @ss chop and clean mouth girls.

Use this tactic my brothers and thank me later

My thinking is simple. A girl should atleast do a courtesy call to see if you got home safe if you have to do the entire driving for the duration of the date while Considering the bad drivers, bad roads and all the bad things that can happen on nigerian roads. Think of a place like lagos! I don't think it should matter if it's the first or second date!

In nigeria With these parasites (girls) in circulation?? Good luck trying to get a girl to pay for a date. I have had a girl pay for a date but not under those conditions.

sexyseun:
Agbaya, you don't have an atom of pity inside of you

hahahah! I live nairaland for comments like this. Too funny.

Purplehisbiscus:


Just when u thought u have seen enough,another one pops out...and some thirsty guys are gonna start guessing or sending Pms... ....
SMH....

lmaooo! It's like u read my mind. Thirsty?? Noooo! They are On some hunger games shit! These dudes stay hungry and desperate.

Beamborla:
Maybe
Love coma

May the devil not lead us into some love Coma!

rubey:
It is bad o. What If you start hanging out serial killer?

As for online daters

if we play the "WHAT IF" game...we would be talking forever. Sooo many WHAT IFs!!! You have to take a chance while being careful..you never know these days .

As for me.

I agree with you. there is no way I would be caught doing that. Hanging out with a stranger. People are crazy these days.

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kachnov:
Busted...I knew it was you .Don't be pained ,guess she doesn't want to come across as being needy abi na rushy(if there's any word like that)

its the principle tho! After all that crazy driving in a place like lagos or abuja for example. A simple text to ensure u got home safe wont hurt! Being polite is different from being needy.

jacksparrow1207:
Even when a dude sends em PM they ignore and start playing 'hard to get' thinking its all about asking em to dat u. Not all dudes who sends pm are really interested in dating. Some just wanna have convo

I agree!! Some just think you could be cool and that's it. But girls just judge way too quick.

Beamborla:
It's not her fault you were just too awesome(amazing) she couldn't help it

hahahah. This girl is a joker. Sooo am so awesome that she ended up in a coma?

rubey:
No joor!
I must be very familiar with Anybody I want to hangout with

Hmm! I agree with u but Ya ex and friends were once strangers. Soo heey!! Hanging out with strangers can't be dat bad. I wouldn't do it tho. Just defending people who do. Lol.

kachnov:
OP why didn't she call you back??
Don't give us that "my friend told me that " B.S

OK on a more serious note,a million things could have happened,maybe she got waylaid,robbed,flat ba3,police ,tripped on a toad and the phone fell into the lagoon,etc hey am juz saying..

I am dead serious. It just came out of a.conversation with a bunch of friends. The girls i date always call back because I aim to please.


yeah! All dat happened but yet she sends a text msg d next day saying "hey, hope you got home safe YESTERDAY?"

Maamin:
If She Doesn't Msg Or Call You After A Date In Nigeria!

Just delete her number and break the sim

Delete her number? Yes!
Breck the Sim? Heck no!! I'll prolly have other girls i could call.

rubey:
No! You can't expect me to start hanging out with a random guy I met online

That's what people do nowadays. You never know. It could be a wonderful story for your kids. Lol!

rubey:
I wish all girls see it this way

Lol! I wish the same.

rubey:
How?

Easy! Go out with him and prove your not hard to get. It's d only way.

bolliejay:
i dont agree!

dont let all your investment go down the drain like dat

lmaoo if a man spends on a girl! He will say he lost investment and if a girl sleeps with someone she will feel she lost capital.

rubey:
Sometimes it is not their fault, some girls don't want to look cheap or too forward

I can understand not trying to look cheap or too forward but calling or texting in this case is more of a polite or nice thing to do.

Tallesty1:
Smh, nah ur type dey give 35 excuses in 10 seconds just to cover up a lie

hahhaha hahah this is too funny.35 excuses in 10 seconds.

Same reason guys in nigeria are intimidated by women with their own money!!

rubey:
That is what you get from Naija girls playing hard to get

and that's how they would miss out on a good dude real quick. Like that! Snap of a finger speed!

olexjay:
Dats naija girls for u, they gonna still expect u to call and tnx them for heading out on a date with u after u spend ur money and ur time.


#GirlsBeGrateful

show some interest or something on your path. That's all I am saying. My friend did that to some girl. He went all out on a girl. I am talking dinner, bowling, bought her something she said she liked while on a date and sooo much more. And this girl didn't call or text the same day. She sent a msg the next day at nite. Can you believe that?

she was like

"Hey! Hope u made it home okay yesterday?"

Do you know how dumdummby that sounds?

Beamborla:
What if she was still basking in the euphoria of the outing and being with you that she didn't remember to snap out of it to give you a call?

She better snap out of it and recognise she just had an amazing date.

EroticAngelina:
wetin dis one dy talk?
u give her credit?

so if u had a mind blowing date with someone. And I do all da crazy driving in the suicidal roads of nigeria. You telling me I don't deserve a phone call or text to ser if I got home? EroticAngelina! I kno u kno better!

My friend told me this! And I think I agree

this is more serious in a place like Nigeria

If you go out on a date with a girl and she doesn't message you that SAME DAY to see if you made it home okay, Especially when you did all the driving around and everything. I believe you should leave her alone and she is not interested. Do you agree?

You know what is funny. This same shit just happened to four of my friends who jumped in the date scene and now they are full of regret. Girls have change the game completely and have their eyes on your pocket lately. Its really crazy to say the least!. My apologies to all you good girls but these parasites are messing your chances of finding a good man for you. Just saying!!! These h**s ain't loyal

Girls like 3cycle make the world go round. Too bad I have never messaged anyone online before. I don't believe in that e-issssh except we live in the same state and I can see you in person. That's me keeping it 100.

yemicoal:
Some ladies cnt keep their mouths shut, and they complain of friends snitching and snatching their man. You brought it upon yourself

Lmaoo...fact

yemicoal:
Some ladies cnt keep their mouths shut, and they complain of friends snitching and snatching their man. You brought it upon yourself

Lmaoo

Maaaa Niggaaa!! (Denzel Washington voice! )

eyeon:
You said "I know women gossip a lot" and that's just it.

Yeah! But some things should just be sacred and private. Like when a girl gets drunk off her asss with her friends. Be very afraid!! She can spill everything about your relationship to her friends.

53cur3m0d3:
I remember 2007, she lost me to her cousin.

Ohhh no! Because she talked about u?? Lol! Same ish happened to me. She kept talking about things I had and things i was going thru then her friend started asking if they could come over and such!

No means No! He didn't get that. That's why

Well said. Friends never forget discussions about each other bf. The more you talk about him the more you arm them with weapons they could use in the future. It's sooo true. Loose lips destroys relationships.