I know women gossip alot! I know women can get chatty with their girlfriends and sometimes get carried away and talk about some personal details about thier life. I also understand that girls need to confide in their girlfriends sometimes to empower each and so. What I can't understand is why do most women find it so hard to keep some personal details about their relationship private? I believe there are somethings that should stay private between couples and not between gf and gf, gf and family, gf and coworker and more.

I have broken up with someone because of this before and she begged and begged. I warned her about this several times. NL Am I crazy to expect some parts of my life to remain sacred with my gf or wife? Is this asking for too much?

They like comparing who has the best bf in their cliq...

So you just wana tell us your A hot cake

Na wa o

Linqsz:
They like comparing who has the best bf in their cliq...

Lol! To see who has the most problems.

No op! you're not asking for much. i personally think it's wrong talking about relationship with friends, i mean a little brag could do, but the juicy details, i keep that to myself

iceberylin, be nice

Nneka123:
No op! you're not asking for much. i personally think it's wrong talking about relationship with friends, i mean a little brag could do, but the juicy details, i keep that to myself

Then I am afraid to say! IF you are telling the truth then you must be the last of your kind.

justmag:


Then I am afraid to say! IF you are telling the truth then you must be the last of your kind.

is that a compliment?

Same also apply to guys, but mostly ladies, mst of em end up losin thr bf to their to frnd wen they don't knw to zip. Thr mouth

malonephills:
Same also apply to guys, but mostly ladies, mst of em end up losin thr bf to their to frnd wen they don't knw to zip. Thr mouth

Ohhhh I can testify to that. I kno Three cases where a gf lost her bf to her friend! And it had a lot to do with what she said.

Nneka123:
is that a compliment?

justmag:


Ohhhh I can testify to that. I kno Three cases where a gf lost her bf to her friend! And it had a lot to do with what she said.

I know many will gain from this thread

Gossip alert!!!

@OP, some things are best kept private, including the juicy part of ones relationship. Disclosing it to friends should be a NO NO. A lot of people have ruined their relationships/marriage through this. I don't know why some ladies/women still refuse to learn from others experiences. But a person who has a loose tongue, has got it, you know.

only kiddies does that.

prettyjo:
only kiddies does that.

I have seen older women do this. The worse part is most women don't even know they are doing this until it's too late.

Babe2sure:

@OP, some things are best kept private, including the juicy part of ones relationship. Disclosing it to friends should be a NO NO. A lot of people have ruined their relationships/marriage through this. I don't know why some ladies/women still refuse to learn from others experiences. But a person who has a loose tongue, has got it, you know.

its the private and sensitive issues I can't seem to understand. What do they expect t to gain from sharing that? Envy from friends? Respect?

justmag:


I have seen older women do this. The worse part is most women don't even know they are doing this until it's too late.

its true shaa

justmag:


its the private and sensitive issues I can't seem to understand. What do they expect t to gain from sharing that? Envy from friends? Respect?

Envy from friends
Respect
Yes, they are part of the reasons.

I must say, i have also gotten my fingures burnt in the past bcoz of not closing my mouth. Especially when there is war in the union. I wud b telling my friends or sisters, shouting and fighting, and they wud assist by also getting angry, but nw bcoz wen u r angry, u only badmouth the other person and dnt say yo own bad side, ppl end up hating the poor guy and they see u as a saint bcoz dey dnt know da whole story, den wen the war is over n we r all lovey dovey, ppl wudnt understand y we r happy again, n dey wud react negatively n be nasty n judgemental and all. Sometimes dey wud even use the things u tell dem abt u n yo man against u, so i later learned dat whether its good or bad, i keep my business to myself n dnt be sharing with folks around me. It was a lesson worth learning. So i agree with the op 100 percent, dat we shud always learn to keep stuff to our selves.wat goes on btwn u n yo boo, stays between only the 2 of u.otherwise, u will suffer the consequences

AfricanApple:
iceberylin, be nice

Sorry love

Monicasque:
I must say, i have also gotten my fingures burnt in the past bcoz of not closing my mouth. Especially when there is war in the union. I wud b telling my friends or sisters, shouting and fighting, and they wud assist by also getting angry, but nw bcoz wen u r angry, u only badmouth the other person and dnt say yo own bad side, ppl end up hating the poor guy and they see u as a saint bcoz dey dnt know da whole story, den wen the war is over n we r all lovey dovey, ppl wudnt understand y we r happy again, n dey wud react negatively n be nasty n judgemental and all. Sometimes dey wud even use the things u tell dem abt u n yo man against u, so i later learned dat whether its good or bad, i keep my business to myself n dnt be sharing with folks around me. It was a lesson worth learning. So i agree with the op 100 percent, dat we shud always learn to keep stuff to our selves.wat goes on btwn u n yo boo, stays between only the 2 of u.otherwise, u will suffer the consequences

You completely read my mind. This is exactly what happened to a friend of mine. When things go bad in the relationship don't be too quick to tell everything to your friends. No matter how angry you are!! I understand when things go bad you may need a shoulder to lie on. The more you talk the more you paint a picture of your bf in their heads that they may find attractive or hate.
I think private relationships will always be the best!! I have soo many friends like that and they have been together for years.

Babe2sure:



Envy from friends
Respect
Yes, they are part of the reasons.

No woman should seek that, it just comes naturally! Except you are some attention seeker.

justmag:


No woman should seek that, it just comes naturally! Except you are some attention seeker.

Of course, we are not the same. Some people are attention seeker, so it is natural to them. Though, sometimes we may need shoulders to lean on when challenges in relationship comes, but then DISCRETION is what is needed to deal with it. Whatever you say about your partner will be deeply etched in the mind of the people you talked about him/her to and bad advices could result from there. 'Loose lips ruins relationship'

Well said. Friends never forget discussions about each other bf. The more you talk about him the more you arm them with weapons they could use in the future. It's sooo true. Loose lips destroys relationships.

I remember 2007, she lost me to her cousin.

You said "I know women gossip a lot" and that's just it.

53cur3m0d3:
I remember 2007, she lost me to her cousin.

Ohhh no! Because she talked about u?? Lol! Same ish happened to me. She kept talking about things I had and things i was going thru then her friend started asking if they could come over and such!

eyeon:
You said "I know women gossip a lot" and that's just it.

Yeah! But some things should just be sacred and private. Like when a girl gets drunk off her asss with her friends. Be very afraid!! She can spill everything about your relationship to her friends.

Some ladies cnt keep their mouths shut, and they complain of friends snitching and snatching their man. You brought it upon yourself

yemicoal:
Some ladies cnt keep their mouths shut, and they complain of friends snitching and snatching their man. You brought it upon yourself

Lmaoo