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Jewessgratitude:
you can keep your wailings please and don't mention me again.
Stop over flooding an issue that is already hours past.

I know your type, 'wanna be Wrong&Strong TYPICAL!

Nonsense and Buratai.

Jewessgratitude:
Which girl head strong? Abi the.husband she was cheating on is strong.

Not good that she was killed but the way Yoruba women cheat recklessly even under their husband ehn?
I really thank God for the Igbo culture. You dare not cheat under your husband in fact, people will know cos your hubby will immediately start falling sick and it will be revealed that the wife is sleeping around. And the woman will confess and face the consequences.
Well, its because they dont have a culture that is why they do anyhow....

May her soul rest in peace.

You don't gerrit, do you?

@bolded,

This is why I referred to you as insensitive coz it's inappropriate to bring a tribal sentiment/tone into the dastardly act commited by those murderers.

First of all, a defenceless WOMAN has been murdered here so bear that in mind. If I were to tackle you, I will bring up stories of cheating Igbo women as well, so you can keep your apology please.

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Jewessgratitude:
Which girl head strong? Abi the.husband she was cheating on is strong.

Not good that she was killed but the way Yoruba women cheat recklessly even under their husband ehn?
I really thank God for the Igbo culture. You dare not cheat under your husband in fact, people will know cos your hubby will immediately start falling sick and it will be revealed that the wife is sleeping around. And the woman will confess and face the consequences.
Well, its because they dont have a culture that is why they do anyhow....

May her soul rest in peace.

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Your opinion doesn't count and your comment shows how insensitive you are.

Tunbolity:
Your comment struck me so hard. I was 9 in 1998 when dad stopped visiting us (mum, my sis and I) and by 2000, he stopped reaching out to us. Mum saw us through school with her meagre income, and to the glory of God today, my sibling and I are university graduates. Though my sis still talks to him, I am just too pained to reconcile with him knowing the hardship we went through and bitter experience of my mum in raising us. Though still struggling to find my feet in my profession and relatives have constantly pressured me to call him and check on him, I just can't find a space to forgive him in my heart. But your comment got me thinking that could my rigid stance on not forgiving and reaching out to him be responsible for my slow career progress even when I'm clearly not at fault? I find it hard to reconcile your point of view with the fact that God does not pay the good with evil, I never wronged him, he wronged me, he left me in the cold, he tormented me emotionally and psychologically by abandoning me, he made my family suffer, he killed my self esteem and why do I have to agree that it is only when I make peace with him that I can achieve desired progress? Anyways, I'd give it a thought and see if I would need to get his number and say hello

First of all, that's your father!

Guy, things can only get better so go for it and make peace with your dad.

Be a success story just like the Op... good luck.

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Duggedised12:
the reason i quoted you is you calling ladycewhy toxic, of which she was among the few who were interested in getting to the root of the matter and put the pieces together while you were busy giving your baby daddy friends a high five ,gloating in your testosterone and shutting people who dont support dead beat dads up. She was busy asking salient questions that is what i wanted to point out. so next time before to you call people names ,do a back track on your own path, shalom!.

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Now you're beginning to make a mess of a bad situation. If you haven't forgotten, you quoted me that I'm the toxic one coz I have been supporting runaway dads and I asked you to point out where I have shown to be doing so - you're yet to fish out a comment where I demonstrated such.

You shot yasef in the foot by bringing one ladycewhy into the discourse as if she's making any sense whatsoever. Try and comb through ladycewhy's comments and point out where she supports the reconcilation effort btw Op & his dad. The only thing/word being used is deadbeat deadbeat and deadbeat as if that's all there is.

Well, you can side with ladycewhy and cherry pick whatever comments you desire but it doesn't change anything.

I understand you people's pain but it doesn't change the fact that children(when they're of age) continue to seek&know the truth as they go in search of their loving fathers.

Only if men can begin to voice out like y'all do...

Nonsense!

Duggedised12:
but it has been proven that even the so called peace of mind the op was seeking was all a misguided statement . The real gist is his mum and other siblings have already made up with his dad,infact his mum and dad even live together . The op is the only who hasn't patched things up with his dad. Its all there on page 11 .

That's after the fact - do u gerrit? It doesn't change the narrative or some people's positions with regards to what's in the child's best interest.

I hope you also read some nasty comments about excluding the said runaway dad from the child's life by stealth.

C'mmon!

Ladycewhy:
its not about control, these boys here were already calling their baby daddy friends on nairaland to come and gloat ,lol. Anyway , i am glad i didnt tho it was tempting to join in the dart throwing sections with the boys

New eyelashes called lies...can see you have a pair on.

Duggedised12:
first you seem to have a problem with the word "deadbeat" .

The in your reply to some you said "It's natural for people to do right or wrong and it's not out of the ordinary but our intelligence can help to leverage.".

So in oder words men abandoning their kids is natural .

Let's not forget you have attacked virtually everyone who is not in support of deadbeat dads even guys too. Lol.

Now you're beginning to twist my words.

I'm not saying there ain't runaway dads but to use a disparaging and vicious word such as 'dead' in the combination of descriptive words connotes the depth of the bitterness which lingers. Here in Sambisa, we call them 'Runaway Dads'.

Secondly, people often behave badly and also do the right thing - these are what humans do & I hope we both agree on that. So how to leverage in such situations is what we all have intelligence to do in order not to make a bad situation worse.

Lastly, it would be wrong or inappropriate to use the word 'attack' in the context which it's used in your last paragraph. This is because I have only tried my possible best to put people back in line that we have a choice either to 'make better' or 'make worse'.

In this case, the Op chose the former and now he has peace of mind. He has done well for himself.

Duggedised12:
trash. I have followed this thread ,you are the toxic one.seems you have a special spot for dead beat dads. Supporting toxic behavior,irresponsibility and people not being accountable for their actions .

Abeg point out where I have shown support for deadbeat dads... I'm waiting?

Let's start from there please...

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Ladycewhy:
lol,i knew about it through you na, stop it jor,because i have been keeping it a secret? This boy sef

Guidance? says a boy who co-signed on the "maternal slavery" comment. Lol you and your goons have issues with women for whatever reason and will lead even your own sisters astray just to maintain your "bro code". So shut up your mouth. And be more focused on healing from your so called maternal slavery y'all have been through.

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All I know is that you are not allowed to give advice as per this sensitive matter. You're toxic to this wonderful thread.

You opinion doesn't count... period!

Ladycewhy:
nah, the stench is from your leaking anus pile man .


You cant give advice but you can be bothered about other people giving advice sotey you nearly get high bp begging her not to listen to me.

Guy go wear adult pamper for your leaking anus so the smell you are perceiving will go

Maybe your bf/husband is struggling with pile presently, the reason you know about pill-insertion through the anus... hahahaha

Secondly @bolded, I won't allow you mislead DaphneBr coz someone who's yet to find their bearing in life shouldn't be allowed to give advice in such matters.

You need guidance as well coz u don miss road sotey u com dey fart for thread...lol

Ladycewhy:
ode, you better go and insert that tablet into your asshole,pile man .

And by the way i am still waiting for you to drop your wonderful advice for her

Lol you're very funny! I don't poke my nose into people's stuff like you, I don't.

Be like say u don chop fowl yansh sef coz I smell your stench from afar.

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Ladycewhy:
says the one who has pile because i have been keeping your dirty little secret?

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Lol sense is far from you walahi, I wonder how your family and friends cope.

Ladycewhy:
sharap , she didnt call any particular person or your head is turningonimown . You either drop your advice for her or gerrarahia

Lol so you just barged into her mention uninvited giving her cow dung you call advice... hahahaha

Stop farting around and dress up for our night out.

Ladycewhy:
yen yen yen, i have not seen a single advice from you to her ,lets hear your own advice na ,all this running around my comments like a headless chicken,you must be exhausted

She's yet to ask me for an advice and as manners demand, I don't poke my nose into people's stuff.

So be quiet and dress up for our night out.

DRPAIT123:
my comment was nothing close to a criticism, it is out of a borne intention to laud everyone that contributed to the topic
Including you

Thanks

DaphneBr:
He travelled out of the country this year,and the sisters keep making excuses for him whenever i tell them about their brother's actions towards his daughter,they keep saying that he's struggling for money and thats why he doesn't call. (he's 33 yrs old)

Stop listening to the likes of ladycewhy coz they will lead you there and leave you there to fight on your own.

My 2kobo

Ladycewhy:
i think what you should do is to try and take her to see him, its better kids see their fathers reject them so they don't think you manipulated them. Like my uncle did, that one will insult them and their mother when they go and ask him for school fees,its the kids that used their sense to stay away from him .

Chai... You're a devil ! So in your obnoxious half sense, the sole purpose of taking the child to her dad is to go and test him, not necessarily to bond - You are a scheming fox!

And about your uncle, you have only shown how insensitive you are as it's all about the money (school fees) isn't it?

Your uncle must see this walahi - WTF!!!

DaphneBr please don't follow this advice o! You will only create more cracks, if you know what I mean.

My 2kobo

Ladycewhy:
True, but the baby daddy commitee where already gyrating and foaming in the mouth one even called it "freeing ones self from maternal slavery" lol what does that even mean? Geez sick dudes with bones to pick with their mothers.

We're in perfect harmony with our mums coz they're not manipulative and bitter mothers.

We Sweet Boys Association just want to make the world a better place for all, including the bitter souls moaning&climaxing on this wonderful thread.

DaphneBr:
Kindly need advise please

My child's father is not present in her life,his family helps in raising her,my problem now is that he neither calls nor ask about his child,even when i was pregnant. I've forgiven him for my own peace of mind and i'm also trying to move on. His sisters are now demanding that i keep mentioning him to my child,i told them that whenever the dad wants a part in his daughters life that i won't hold him back.

Ladycewhy & BRATISLAVA must not see this o...

Ladycewhy:
you are so thirsty. Lol OK you have been noticed. Have a great day.

Lol

Ladycewhy:
lol, you think i will play into you stupid games? You want to know my relationship status, boy you aint that sleek. Go learn more tricks.boy. Actually with way you have been jyrating on this thread one would think you and the other attention seeker shouting in capital letters have mummy issues ,lol freeing themselves from maternal slavery. so you see you are the one with the problems ,whatever bones you have to pick with the women in your life, leave me out of it.

Loool you're a handful seriously. Also, it's kinda easy to hide the fact one has no confidence in their relationship let alone their other half...

We Sweet Boys Association are proud of ours and we flaunt it...no sweat!

If you smell it and want a bite, please jump on it.

DRPAIT123:
This thread is by far the most emotional one I have read on this platform, so much hope, despair, sentiments,bitterness all envelope in one hell of a post, although I have a lot on my mind, I choose not too yet.

This was the intention , the beauty is in the diverse emotions and reactions.

Don't you appreciate the complexity of humans?