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Biggers82:
I. just wasted my time reading the trash you just wrote
pls how old are you ?
because you are a disgrace to men you just wrote a baseless and brainless write ups u need to be crucified by your Mother in law and your wife Ewu

chioma134:
I'm struggling to see the wrong the mother-in-law and daughter did. Op, you being petty is an understatement. Grow up.

But people that understood are responding appropriately. But I believe I have let so many things go, I have forgiven everything that needs to be forgiven, why can't they respect me for that, rather they see it as weakness. On a good day, there should be no problem at all when my MIL visits my parents. I said she has been avoiding my for over a year now, because she was caught red-handed in trying to use her pastor to manipulate me, she actually told her pastor to tell me it does not matter, but the PASTOR simply told her issues of infidelity must not be swept under the carpet. The man was so angry and told me to be careful this was after the man tried to arrange a meeting between all of us. From that same time my MIL, STOPPED attending that church and has been avoiding me. Thank God the man stood his ground.
Also, the reason for going without telling me amounts to undermining. She said she did not tell me because I will not allow her... This is where the problem lies. why do it when you know I will not allow it.

heendrix:
forget about taking a decisive action bro your lost man and any decision to be strong n "Like" a man now would just make you look foolish to yourself coz where do you wana start from? #peace o

hmmmmm

udemzy101:
That one is not the real koko, read his post again.

God bless you my bother

Heebah:
Exactly my thoughts. Op,why r u angry about her action?

Thanks for your response, but if you read the story again you will see where the problem lies, if we lost someone, I should be the one she should start with, not jumping to see my mum without commiserating with me.And kindly see the part where I said she has been avoiding contact with me because of her trying to manipulate me through her pastor.

Gloriagee:
Dude, ko ye mi. Why on earth does ur MIL need to tell u she's going to see ur mum for? Can't ur mum give u that update? So someone must announce a good deed before doing that.

You are making a good deed seem like a disfavor. You guys were bereaved n she went to commiserate with ur mum, u dey vex. What's her crime?

Thanks for your response, but if you read the story again you will see where the problem lies, if we lost someone, I should be the one she should start with, not jumping to see my mum without commiserating with me.And kindly see the part where I said she has been avoiding contact with me because of her trying to manipulate me through her pastor.

NwaAmaikpe:



No comments.
But he is obviously smiling because he got to give the lady mouth-to-mouth respiration.

are you normal

Zionista:
Funny country. Leading economies are searching for cranial endowments embedded in between the ears of its citizens while these analog leaders are still digging for this soon-to-be obsolete resource.

...for cranial endowments embedded in between the ears of its citizen... good expression

LadySarah:
when will ppl learn.Now pls call them to come and save your marriage.


You are not divorcing anythingoo if a child is involved.I'm telling you now

Lokking back now, I know I was wrong, i could have been more decisive in my decisions. It is not as easy as you think, If you do not forgive, they will call you a sinner who needs redemption, they will point it out to you that as Christians you must learn to forgive no matter what, but now i can see that everybody was just after their interest

MetroBaba1:
I Dislike Weak Men

My brother not as you think

thorpido:
Your wife is who you really need to deal with here.I don't think you should be bothered about your MIL.As long as she does not live with you,wherever she chooses to go without telling you should not bother you as long as she's not going to put you or your family in distress.

Deal with the 'nasty things' your wife did and resolve the issue once and for all.Forgive her if you need to and move on.I hope she's sorry for it and has amended her ways.
The issue of flaring up whenever you raise issues has to be dealt with.Perhaps you need to find a way to improve communication.If you are shouting and she's shouting,you will not be able to address issues.
You dated her I believe before marriage so you knew the kind of woman you were marrying.Find a way to manage her.

My brother, you are right, thank you very much, truth is that, she has all these characters during our dating, but you know all these pastors with their forgive, forgive and forgive. I even called off the marriage twice,but elders in Church intervened, but the whole matter don get k leg now

femolacqua:
Its because you have always acted as a gentle man, that's why they don't respect you. Sometimes you got to stand your ground and show who is boss.

you are right, I have forgiven so many things in the past, and they are all hunting me now. I think they see me as weak. But I will through a surprise soon

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I wish you could say the nasty things your wife did; that way my advice will be well-informed.

But the problem here is a strong bond between your wife and her mother.
Your mom has an unfathomable influence over your wife.
It's so strong that she will confide in her mom and plan with her without your knowledge. This could be detrimental to you and your position as head of the family.

But there's a solution.
Seduce your mother in-law, make her fall in love with you. Ravish her, make her feel like the only woman in the world, make her yearn for you.
Most importantly, try and bed her.

Consider this a dirty task you must do to recover your manhood.
That way her loyalty will change, she will see her daughter as a competitor and not an ally.

She will also know she has an unsavoury secret with you and will be more om your side than against you.

That way she would have lost complete influence over your wife.
Good luck with this. But I believe I have let so many things go, I have forgiven everything that needs to be forgiven, why can't they respect me for that, rather they see it as weakness. On a good day, there should be no problem at all when my MIL visits my parents. I said she has been avoiding my for over a year now, because she was caught red-handed in trying to use her pastor to manipulate me, she actually told her pastor to tell me it does not matter, but the PASTOR simply told her issues of infidelity must not be swept under the carpet. The man was so angry and told me to be careful this was after the man tried to arrange a meeting between all of us. From that same time my MIL, STOPPED attending that church and has been avoiding me. Thank God the man stood his ground.
Also, the reason for going without telling me amounts to undermining. She said she did not tell me because I will not allow her... This is where the problem lies. why do it when you know I will not allow it.

Hello all

I am not new to nairaland, this is just a new account.
I am more than fed up with my mother in law and my wife, I think they are undermining me. Recently my mother in law went to visit my mum who was in another state with my eldest brother because we lost someone in the family, she spent a night there, she never told me before going, even while there, she never told me she was there, she came back almost 4 days now, she still did not tell me. Although my brother told me the day she came.

She also told my wife- her daughter about the journey, but this was only when she arrived. My wife told me about the journey, and I asked my wife why did her mother do that, she said her mother was of the opinion that if she tells any of us, we may not allow her to go. I try to tell my wife that it even makes it worse, she flared up and started getting angry and saying different things. I was not surprised because she always quarrels anytime I try to express my feelings over issues like that.

Now the big story is that before now, in the past 18 months my mother in law has been avoiding my calls, reason being that my wife did some nasty things, she heard of it, she was not sure of the action I would take, she told her pastor to call me, I got talking with the pastor, the pastor was trying his best to resolve the issue, at a time my mother in law wanted to manipulate the pastor against me, the man stood his ground- God bless him. My mother-in-law so scared the pastor will tell me about the manipulation she wanted to carry out started avoiding me and the pastor till now. we only spoke on those three occasions because they were Easter, Christmas and New year. I am already thinking of telling my wife to go and marry her mum because they are the same thing.

I am seriously thinking of making a huge trouble out of this to drive home the point that I am not as weak as both of them think. Especially for a woman that keeps threatening me with divorce and insults me at will, and a crafty mother in law who is only interested in herself and her daughter...

PLEASE I NEED YOUR KIND RESPONSES