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Before Trump ends his tenure, he may be at $2Trillion.

Correct guy!

All those years when Bill Gate and Jeff Bezos were the richest person, he just kept grinding.

Safe to say many of us won't peak financially until our 50s.

SpencerForbes:
If multiple people are saying the same thing about your behavior, the common denominator is you. They say where there is smoke, there is fire. If it’s just one person, it might be a grudge; but once it’s a group, you need to check yourself . It’s time for some honest self-reflection. Even the Good Book acknowledges the weight of multiple witnesses.

You’ve already ruled out the "they hate me because I’m hardworking" excuse by mentioning your character yourself.

To get a clear picture of the situation, you need to tell us the specific traits they find problematic. Without the full details, it’s impossible to judge whether they are being unfair or if you truly need a personality overhaul. Until you open up on the "why," we’re just scratching the surface.

Boss, there are also many cases where everyone can be wrong and you are right.

We don't talk about it enough but it's more common than we think.

A clear example is Nigeria's presidential political choices in the last decade.

Maybe you should try and introspect to see what you can change about your life.

Times like that are usually a wake up call as everyone cannot really hate you at the same time. Its either they are all bad or you are just a horrible person. More often than not, it is the former but there are also cases where everyone but you can be wrong, against the popular belief. It has happened throughout history and I have also experience it.

Try to see your job as just a job, its not your life especially for a job that your colleagues don't like you. If faking it will give you a little bit of grace from others then play the game but make sure you don't lose yourself in the process because there are too many yes men in workplaces.

Ego does not pay the bills.

One thing I learnt from whites is that, you can still have a ceremonious wedding even after having kids.

You can also have a ceremonious second or third wedding.

I think its a cool thing.

Ignore them

You guys say all these rubbish just to turn and stab, kill and terrorize because others don't follow your way of life.

pansophist:
If you must help someone, make sure you don’t help them beyond their capability. I will narrate an experience I learnt bitterly from.

So I had this extended family I grew up with, like a brother to me. His parents were poor, but as kids, social status wasn’t a barrier in our relationship.

He always struggled with money, and have mostly being doing menial job that can’t even sustain him to the next month.

So I helped him leveled up. I devised a plan that will elevate him to the next stage, and give him a healthy head start.

I paired him up with someone to rent a 2 bedroom flat together and paid his part, bought a car from a friend and gave to him to run uber, giving him a healthy head start so he can sort his life out.

All he has to do is just work and save, and from next year when the rent end, renews it and live responsibly. This was in 2019. He has no expense except fuel the car, and normal car expenses.

But this guy suddenly felt like he has arrived, and all he did with the car was carry girls up and down, work only when he feels like and was flexing. Sometimes the car will break down due to his recklessness, and I’ll help him repair it.

Until a year later when it was time to renew his rent, and he doesn’t have any money. He wasted the opportunity he had, and was expecting me to renew the rent for him.

I was furious. I didn’t renew the rent, he was chased out of the house, but I left the car for him. Few months later, he sold the car and went back square one being poor and doing menial jobs.

Then I learnt a lesson that you can’t elevate a person more than their ability. You can believe a chicken can fly, but if you lift it up and leave it, it will fly back to the ground.


So if you choose to help someone, don’t help more than their capabilities or in such a way that it leads to a break down of relationships, because you assume everyone can exploit opportunities when they find one.

Giving him urgent 2k would have been better, and at least we would still be in good terms. But my idea to level him up made me lost money, a brother, a learnt a bitter lesson.

It makes me understood clearly the biblical “parable of the talents” in Mathew 25:14-30. Where the master gave talents to three of his servants, and the last one came with excuses while he couldn’t doubled his talent like the rest.

We are all humans and created in the image of God, but thinking we are all equal in capabilities is nonsense.

You can't love someone more than they love themself.

The average nigerian guy has no business with marriage until 35.

So, I dey live inside state of emergency like this like this?

There are two types of Nigerian:

1. The ones doing the billing
2. The ones being billed

If you are not no 1, then you are automatically no 2.

airsaylongcome:
NL as e dey like this, will remain top of the forum food chain in Naija for a very long time. I get a lot of the “agitation” for new features o. The real question is what revenue increase will those new features bring? A lot of tech folks just think about technical without evaluating the cost-benefit.

What value does direct messaging bring for example? It will increase cost. How much revenue will it bring?

Anyone wey wan run e forum make dem run am with all their fancy features. Body go tell them.

Seun, that doesn’t mean you won’t add features o. For example, the block feature, I don’t understand the three week limit. Allow me block monikers until I unblock them. Also FP posts authored by monikers I block should not be visible on FP when I’m logged in. Some of the monikers here are toxic and need to be blocked for a life time+99 years

You will have to wait 10 years for that.

airsaylongcome:
To both of una above, if e easy, open your forum and do all the changes you want to see. Nobi cho cho cho like all Nairalanders and typical Nigerians. Domain name is cheap, VPS hosting is cheap. Run your forum with all your great ideas and designs make we see

People talk a lot but there has been no forum that has half of the functionalities NL has. Even tech bros for some reasons are not interested in building forums, even as side projects.

Any time someone comes up with something, its usually a clone of NL or something with less feature and unusable.

NL don master some of us wey don tey here.

One feature per decade. We dont complain. Infact, I think seun is doing too much sef recently.

My prediction on this tax is that it's going to be one of the policies APC government will rescind before December 2026.


But for now, just pay up.

SultanOfPuna:
If you want to enjoy and live long in Africa
You must become a Hypocrite.

Nigeria is like a Masked Party
The losers are those who attended the party with their real face. You must wear mask to survive.

Nigeria is a place where a woman who has done 6 abortions will be claiming virgin and preaching No SEX before marriage.

Rev. Father's knacking up and down
Everybody doing opposite of what they preach
Everybody is wearing a mask.
Na the honest ones dey suffer. The real ones. The ones that quickly show their emotion.

Hypocrisy is the code of our existence in Africa. Know this and know peace

He's telling the truth.

Funny how this post is only directed at men

Them APC prof.

This will make the work easy for politicians.

The reason that woman did all that was because he asked for his money back.

He should have let go of the money menh. It's not worth all these.

Too bad!

No be life we dey live for this country.

pansophist:
Over 100 slaps this year and you’re still there? Wow.

One retaliation at the early stage of the violence could have saved him a lot of troubles and probably saved his marriage but he chose to be subservient.

If he had died, it would have been a clear case of natural selection.

He has little will to live.

I think the only thing that would make a woman or anyone go straight to physical violence with you every time there's an issue is if they know that they you can do absolutely nothing about it.

You should not be anyone's footmat in the name of love.

So sorry man!

This one eyes don open.

We know.

35.

Rich peopla and peak fooling.

We are really a terrorist country.

The truth is even if it was China that wanted to deal with us, there's nothing US can do.

AfahaAbia:
Nonsense talk. I have slept with my wife over 1000 times. So I pass you

See the issue. With your wife, your body count is still 1 even if you have slept with her a million time.

There was a time around when Biden was US president when they interview women and ask their body count, they tell you 100, 200, 300

Those white girls mehn.

Now this is a porn star, who forkks for a living caping it at 500.

Women can lie! Maybe they multplied every body with every time they slept with the body.

Most people who are not prostitutes won't have more than 20 - 30 bodies.

folake4u:
Toh.

Why drink garri when you can just whip out hot eba and soup.

I don't just understand that niggar. Who forms about garri? Lol.

It's hard for some people to hear others don't enjoy a staple food.

I for one hate amala although I am Yoruba.

I still feel majority of Yorubas pretend to love it.

I also hate ewedu and omi obe.

Just fry the stew. 😒😒

budaatum:
Please open your eyes and look well at me.

Funny how a man is never too much for a woman.

I just find that interesting.