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His name is Lula

Next time, time not to take insults from someone just because they employed you.

Also, try to always have more than one job so you can easily quit.

I find it interesting that she went through exactly what some men go through with younger women and she can't believe it.

The way women move while they are old is interesting.

How many of us can our father give N250,000?



This is why as a lapo baby, you should not look up to nepo babies for motivation.

You do not live in thesame reality as they do.

KushLyon:
Na capybara you dey call rat? If this one na rat, then beaver and guinea pig na rats too something wey dey weigh up to 50kg, some dey big like goat

Oakenshield:
That picture was taken from America.
That food will cost less than $250

A plate of food costing $250 in America is a lot.

It's too much.

This is generational wealth in a way. It's easy for him to be one because his dad paved way for him.

All I need to break this record is to add 1meter to this.

Some jeans are not even this expensive in america.

Onegai:
Separation doesn't work most times because it should be done as a controlled experiment: Separation of no longer than 6 months, during that time both spouses work on themselves, either get counselling from marriage counsellors/prayer groups/sensible elders (avoiding both MiLs) and most importantly, NOT DATING ANYONE ELSE.

Reality however means that once the couple separates, the man starts to get bad advice like is usually dished here on NL from his fellow men and promptly moves another woman into his house (Error no. 1). Instead of him to reflect inwardly, he uses pride and ego to justify his actions. Then guilt and shame makes him stop communicating with his kids, which then causes more shame inwardly. To stop feeling all that pain, guilt, shame, he turns to pride and anger.

Reality means the woman is hurt and everyone is blaming her for everything, causing her to feel pride and self-pity, whilst having to shoulder the emotional burden of being a single mum. Then she sees her husband with a new woman. It breaks her heart and everyone tells her "move on with your life". And she does so. Instead of healing, she's too busy trying to survive (Error no.2).

And the kids go from grief and pain to accepting their new reality. Yes, it will have long term consequences on them.

Eventually the dust settles.

The husband has calmed down, he's finally no longer an emotional basket and beginning to feel like his old self.
He realises he's in a relationship with another woman whom on a good day, he would have nothing to do with or he may have even married her (the Other Woman will always be a mistake). But he can't admit it because sensible people in his life warned him yet he refused to listen.
He now starts to be a good father again. His pride is still there so he can't tell his wife he screwed up, he can't face his in-laws and the world. So he hopes his wife will humble herself, so he can "magnanimously forgive" and reconcile (saving face).

The men who have learned their lesson will drop that nonsense and go and humbly beg.

His wife would have built her walls around her. She's learned she can survive without him. The scars may be very deep and she would have been encouraged to enter a new relationship with another man.

And let me be clear: it is easy for a man to date a woman and return to his wife but hard for a woman to date a man and go back to her husband, in Nigeria.

So she sees her ex coming back and she's sad, not because she doesn't love him but because too much has happened and there's no space left in her life for him anymore. And even if she takes him back, everyone is telling her "he's no longer the man you married, he's a beast now, so don't love him anymore". So she lives with him but her heart is locked firmly away (Error no. 3).

And the devil wipes his hands, satisfied with his handwork and moves onto the next couple.

The women who submit to God will drop their walls and humble accept their husbands back.
Because Marriage is 2 imperfect people walking together, hand-in-hand, towards God's final destination.

I don't know whether this is from your personal experience but it's interesting how you made it into a man bad, woman good thing.

But it's alright.

If siting down to talk things out works, a lot of marriages would have been saved.

Siting down and trashing issues only works in theory. A lot of couples need to separate and miss each other.

Christianity isn't against separation, you can be married but not stay with your spouse.

And others need to divorce. Divorce is not a sin.

You could easily see her age in her hands.

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Nazgul:
I said this some months ago that I'm yet to see an indeginous company in Nigeria that pays their staff up to 1m, and I received a trailer load of mentions. Suddenly everybody knew tonns of people who earn more than a million.

Even during my 9am - 5pm days it would take you about a decade's worth of experience before your basic salary crosses the 500k benchmark, let alone 1m.That's just the sad reality.

If everyone is earning that much, why do people complain each day about hardship?

If you apply for a job in Lagos today. The highest rate any company can start with you is 300k. Most would even tell you 150-200k. This is because they spend more trying to sustain their business. No thanks to our unstable economy.

If you carry out a random research on people between the ages of 25-35 on nairaland who do 9am to 5pm jobs, I can assure you that less than 10% of them earn above 500k.

A vast majority of people between the ages of 25-35 who earn a million and above every month are mostly freelancers who earn in dollars. It's almost impossible for an indigenous company to pay you such an amount. Most especially if their customer base are Nigerians as well.


Cc GloriousGbola, pocohantas, Karleb, folake4u...

It's okay to say you don't know.

When I was interning at GO54, a contract staff that was hired to help out the senior backend developer earned 300k.

The same engineering department had other members like the CTO, this senior backend guy and others.

Seplat pays USD2k to graduate trainees.

When I was doing access bank graduate trainee test, we were told the pay was close to 300k, I think 267k or something and they also give a car after a year or so.

How much do you those who have been climbing the career ladder would earn?

You know you hate yourself when you take soft drinks twice daily.

No matter your tribe, if you marry into a poor family or a family with too many children, you will inherit their problems.

No matter how you love someone, you cannot stop them from cheating. In this case, the man is the loser. It's why it's important to have things going for yourself. It is also why I dislike it when new couples call each other bestfriends. Your spouse is not your bestfriend, s/he is your spouse. Marriage should not stop you from having or making friends who have your best interests at heart.

Your spouse should not be at the center of your life, they should just fill their role as your spouse. Marriage is very delicate, filled with infidelity, betrayal, divorce etc. It will be very foolish to think you will not be betrayed just because. Men and women who had everything have been betrayed despite giving their all to their spouses.

The interesting thing now is that the woman might end up moving in with the man she cheated on.

In case of betrayal like this, mourn your loss, divorce, seek for comfort from friends, family, colleagues, heal and move on with your life.

Some of these banks need to be banked.

Why are you lying?
Why are you lying?
Why are you lying?
Why are you lying?

Women in men dominated field.

BafanaBafana:
No be only Nollywood e dey happen?

pocohantas:
I have never seen or heard of a doctor asking the husband who to save. Where do they even find time for such conversation?

So twitter people have been lying to us.

The question we have never asked is why medical professionals ask husband of the woman who to save between the child and the mom.

Should it not be implied that the woman's life is more important?