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A lot of people, many Nairalanders inclusive, are coasting through life without direction, yielding to almost every suggestion of their impulses. The post is a wake-up call.

CC: RoyalRoy, Mynd44, Seun. A front page material to address the trending Davido-pregnancy impasse.

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Samantha124:
Some women are also chronic cheaters... Will we then say women are also polyandrous

They are not. Those women made a choice. My argument above also applies to women.

DaddyCoool:


Why u calling lala that's no longer a mod and no longer participates in the forum (see below).
As to the topic history has consistently shown that if they could, men would have variety in women

Noted.

Indeed, men should always acknowledge it is a choice they make, not a natural obligation.

Whenever news filters in online/offline about a man either alleged or proved to have cheated on his wife, abundant outbursts follow. Often, "Men are polygamous in nature" is argued. It is believed recognizing this reality by the man's wife and other women (single/married) prepares them to accept cheating, ridding the matter of seriousness critics give. I disagree. Men are neither polygamous (nor monogamous) in nature.

First, a man's polygamous tendencies are from nurture, not nature. This habit of justifying marital unfaithfulness, in the Christian context, by citing African culture is misplaced. Here, African men in the remote past chose to be with or marry more than one woman for social and economic reasons. To highlight their affluence to society and have more hands to help in their farming/subsistent agriculture venture. A husband who cheats on his wife makes a choice to succumb to temptation. If polygamy is actually natural to men, then we would have no cases of monogamous men.

Second, every man contains reason and instincts according to neurology and biology. Reason is a human being's edge over lower animals like dogs, goats, sheep, lions and so on, although we share trait of instincts with them. Someone may argue our bodily instincts, a biological feature passed from parents to offspring, push us toward pleasure and preservation of the human specie. This can extend to being with more than one woman, hence men are polygamous. This view is myopic. True, our instincts can suggest such but our reason can say no when we've intentionally developed it to morally serve us that way. Thus, a man chooses to be polygamous when he develops his reason to serve him accordingly. Humans, men are not the at the mercy of their instincts, as promoters of "Men are polygamous in nature" opine. A man can choose to obey or disobey his instincts courtesy of his reason.

Clearly, idea of "Men are polygamous in nature" is used by men who have a women weakness, refuse to take personal responsibility and work on it. They hide under culture and science unintelligently to secure tolerance of their bad behaviour (in Christian view) by women and society.


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