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Samantha124:
Some women are also chronic cheaters... Will we then say women are also polyandrous

They are not. Those women made a choice. My argument above also applies to women.

DaddyCoool:
Why u calling lala that's no longer a mod and no longer participates in the forum (see below).
As to the topic history has consistently shown that if they could, men would have variety in women

Noted.

Indeed, men should always acknowledge it is a choice they make, not a natural obligation.

Whenever news filters in online/offline about a man either alleged or proved to have cheated on his wife, abundant outbursts follow. Often, "Men are polygamous in nature" is argued. It is believed recognizing this reality by the man's wife and other women (single/married) prepares them to accept cheating, ridding the matter of seriousness critics give. I disagree. Men are neither polygamous (nor monogamous) in nature.

First, a man's polygamous tendencies are from nurture, not nature. This habit of justifying marital unfaithfulness, in the Christian context, by citing African culture is misplaced. Here, African men in the remote past chose to be with or marry more than one woman for social and economic reasons. To highlight their affluence to society and have more hands to help in their farming/subsistent agriculture venture. A husband who cheats on his wife makes a choice to succumb to temptation. If polygamy is actually natural to men, then we would have no cases of monogamous men.

Second, every man contains reason and instincts according to neurology and biology. Reason is a human being's edge over lower animals like dogs, goats, sheep, lions and so on, although we share trait of instincts with them. Someone may argue our bodily instincts, a biological feature passed from parents to offspring, push us toward pleasure and preservation of the human specie. This can extend to being with more than one woman, hence men are polygamous. This view is myopic. True, our instincts can suggest such but our reason can say no when we've intentionally developed it to morally serve us that way. Thus, a man chooses to be polygamous when he develops his reason to serve him accordingly. Humans, men are not the at the mercy of their instincts, as promoters of "Men are polygamous in nature" opine. A man can choose to obey or disobey his instincts courtesy of his reason.

Clearly, idea of "Men are polygamous in nature" is used by men who have a women weakness, refuse to take personal responsibility and work on it. They hide under culture and science unintelligently to secure tolerance of their bad behaviour (in Christian view) by women and society.


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efficiencie:
The first step towards attaining self awareness is defining what self is. What are you? Answer that first. If you say you are human then what is a human. If you say you are a man then what is a man. In order to answer this question you need to answer the question; what is my origin story? If you are an evolutionist stop here because your life is a sheer accident the result of a series of undirected accidents that led to you and hence your life has no meaning or purpose assigned outside of you. You can define purpose for yourself and define yourself however you like and your definitions are not binding on anyone else because they are your subjective reality. However if you are not an evolutionist and you believe an intelligent creator built you into the propagative process of life then in order to answer the second question you need get an answer to the third question. Who is the intelligent designer of the universe and why did He create the propagative process that ultimately led to me?

Any attempt to seek self awareness will result in you realizing you lead a meaningless or purposeless life or result in you foraying into the supernatural.

Interesting perspective.

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And Richard Cypher struggled to digest the revelation from Zeddicus; he is the seeker, a warrior to spearhead rescue of his oppressed people from the ruthless Darken Rahl. He had hitherto been leading a regular life, staying with his parents in their remote village. This scene from the hit series "Legend of the Seeker" mirrors where many (probably you, too) are now. A life on automatic mode wherein you are feet-deep in family, societal conventions and expectations.

Have you ever earmarked enough time to ask yourself: "Why am I here?" "Could I be more than I've observed and been told?" "What makes my life different from others?" "What's the ultimate use of my education, skill or experience?" "How many years do I have left before death calls?" These are weighty questions. They make your limitations graphic to you, often stirring dread. Calm down. More than the fright, the questions underscore need for you to personalize your life's journey. Corresponding answers provide your life with structure, same way your skeleton within guides formation of your flesh without.

In fact, self-awareness is literally the foundation of your existence. A house built without a foundation can collapse amidst strong winds or cave in with time. The foundation determines whether a house would be a bungalow, one-storey building or skyscraper. How can you proceed to build a four-storey house on an unknown or shallow foundation? Start interrogating yourself now.



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