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Cyberbullying, according to Wikipedia, is the use of Information Technology to harm or harass other people in a deliberate, repeated and hostile manner. In layman terms, Cyberbullying is when you hide under being Anonymous on a blog site, or a forum and spew hate and abuses at people. Celebrities get hit the hardest because they put themselves out there more, but normal people too get cyber-bullied. There has been cases of normal people who committed suicide because they were bullied on the Internet. Bullying is nothing knew in the world, but it just got worse with the introduction of the Internet, and the frequent use of social media by people of all ages. The world being a global village, makes it easier for people to reach more people than they could have ever reached before now. And it also makes it easier for people to reach people that they could never have met in their lives, if there was no social media.




A friend of mine from University days wanted to fit into the social class by all means, and so did a lot of silly and laughable things. People started making jokes about him, and bullying him with words. I tried my best to always defend him, but there was little I could do cos he kept doing those things that made people make jokes about him. And around the time we were to graduate (he had an extra year), all the bullying of the past years took a toll on him, and he became mentally unstable. I feel guilty anytime I think of this, but to be honest, i barely saved myself from some of my own self esteem issues too, so there really was little I could have done for him.




I say that to say this, it is not everyone that has a tough skin and can take abuses, and look-downs from people. The easy accessibility of the Internet in recent times, and the huge amount of people that access it daily, makes the case of cyberbullying a very serious one to consider. Just the other day, Nigerian actress turned singer, Tonto Dikeh broke down on twitter, speaking on how depressed she had gotten reading all the negative comments about her on social media sites. And she confessed that she had contemplated suicide many times. A lot of people don't know how powerful words are, they just open their mouths and spew dirt at people they have not even met, just because they feel they can. I think maybe it makes them feel better about their own lives. And the irony of it all might be that their lives might be worse off than the people they are bullying, but they do what they do to make themselves feel better about their sorry ass lives.





You have people on Nairaland.com (the most visited forum in Nigeria) and lindaikejisblog.com (the most visited blog in Nigeria), tearing down people with their comments at every chance they get. 90% of their comments are always negative. As for Nairaland, it is worse on there...you can't even enquire about a solution to a problem without people making fun of you. The people that comment on there always find the worst in every news, and they don't waste time in wishing the worst on people. That is what the power of being 'Anonymous' can cause...if this people were in the same room with the people they are talking bad about, they would never utter the words they spew out freely (without weighing the consequences) on the Internet.






I remember an interview of Tiwa Savage from back in 2012 where she said she would be sad for days from reading negative comments about her on blogs/websites. She said she would then go for shows, and see tens of thousands of people cheering her on stage. And she wondered where those cyberbullies were. Then her Mom advised her to stop reading comment sections of blogs and websites. The thing people forget is that Celebrities are human beings like me and you. And to add to that, they can be affected worse from cyber-bullying than we can, because they put themselves out there more than the normal citizen. Like when Drake's mom was undergoing surgery, and he came on twitter and wished she made it through, and someone replied his tweet with- 'I wish your mom would die.' He said this was one of the situations that made him reduce his use of social media to barest minimum.







I just remembered the story of one of the regular followers of Linda Ikeji's bog who goes by the user-name, ONYX. In the past, he wouldn't think twice before tearing down a celebrity. Then, in December of 2013, Linda decided to reward some of her users with N100k cash and N20k cash for Christmas, depending on some criteria. The Onyx guy was picked as one of the winners of N100k cash prize cos he has been a regular user/contributor on the blog. So, Linda met with most of them, and a picture of the meeting was taken. The next day, Linda put the picture up on the blog, and now, Mr. Onyx was on the other side of the divide. That whole day, other users of the blog rained abuses on him, calling him a beggar, and also making funny jokes about his looks. I noticed he was quiet for some days. And on the day he finally came around, he pleaded with some users to go easy on a celebrity they were bashing, confessing that he had suicidal thoughts when He was being Cyber-bullied the other day. Now, that's a lesson for everyone.


http://outoftheordinary101..com.ng/2014/01/cyberbullying-is-at-all-time-high-right.html

OK. I guess it is the season of ordinary extraordinary people.

OK

Well, what do you expect from her enemies...They are jubilating right now. I do agree that Linda is letting her success get to her head a bit too much, but anyone could have unknowingly bought a fake designer bag. People need to chill on this matter.

RichYoungNigger:
Not impressed.
It looks like south Africa at Night and Ajegunle in the morning

Lol!

Nice dress. He has skinny legs tho.

Hmm! From 5k to 300 Naira?

radiokilla:
work on your seo and you could try out fb advertising. it is possible and you could make much more than that mate.

Okay, thanks. I will work on SEO as you said, and also on Facebook ads. This is my second acct...I got banned a few minutes ago for dropping my number on another section...I totally forgot my number has been forever banned on Nairaland from a crime committed in 2014.

WPBandit:
As someone who rates music, I am very familiar of Nas and his career. What made Nas great is his ability to inspire, and not be influenced by what people are doing in the hip hop game. This is why Kendrick Lamar respects him so much, and has seen some success following that same method. In the same sense, he does have some radio friendly and club hits on his resume, but anything he's done, he's always done it his way.

True...very true.

I’m sure everyone reading this has an idea of what hypnosis is. You have watched movies where people have been hypnotized and made to do what they wouldn't normally do. I even remember watching an episode of SuperTed back when I was like nine years old, and seeing Spotty-man hypnotized by a man, who dangled a clock in front of spotty till he lost consciousness. Over the years, Hollywood has taken hypnosis to another level, and made it seem spooky and all. But the fact is that Hypnosis is so natural that you and I routinely enter and exit hypnotic trances several times a day without knowing it; Such times as while watching a movie, reading, listening to someone of authority (like a Pastor, Imam, or a Doctor), or while driving.



Basically, when you let your guard down, and let information/suggestion flow directly to your subconscious mind, you are in a hypnotic trance. I combed the Internet for a very subtle definition of the word, but most of what I came up with were very complex. If I was to define it, I would say Hypnosis is when your conscious mind is put to sleep, and suggestions are given to your subconscious mind, which it immediately believes and acts accordingly, whether or not the suggestions are true.



I don’t know if that was a simple enough definition. To buttress my explanation, I think I should quickly speak a little on the human mind. The human mind (mind can be used interchangeably with brain here) has two parts; there is the conscious mind, and you have the subconscious mind. The conscious mind deals with logical reasoning and is the gate-keeper to what gets to the subconscious, while the subconscious mind, which is beneath the surface, deals with automatic actions like driving or brushing of teeth; Actions you have done over and over, till they have become automatic, or have become your character. The subconscious mind also houses your beliefs (thoughts you have thought over and over). The subconscious mind doesn't deal with reasoning, but believes and acts accordingly on anything that is successfully passed to it from the conscious mind or the outer world; it is the bedrock of who you really are, because it houses your beliefs. Since all human beings act based on beliefs, and anything that gets to the subconscious mind (where your beliefs resides) is automatically taken as truth, then Hypnosis can truly be a powerful tool in carving the kind of life you really want. Or can be a detriment to your progress.




Since the conscious mind is the gate-keeper for the subconscious mind, it wont let any idea or suggestion go through to the subconscious, unless it checks with what you already believe to be true. That is why Hypnotists always put the Conscious mind to sleep before they proceed to passing a suggestion to your subconscious mind. I think I should step back and let DR. Robert Anthony take center-stage from here on. Below is an excerpt from the chapter titled Dehypnotizing Yourself, from his bestselling book- The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence.




‘Every person has been hypnotized to some degree either by ideas he has accepted from others or ideas he has convinced himself are true. These ideas have exactly the same effect upon his behaviour as those implanted into the mind of a hypnotic subject by a hypnotists. Over the years I have hypnotized hundreds of people to demonstrate the power of suggestion and imagination. To best illustrate my point, let me explain what happens when a person is hypnotized.’





‘Under hypnosis, I tell a normal, healthy woman that she cannot lift a pencil that I have placed on a table. And surprisingly, she finds herself unable to perform this simple act. It is not a question of her not trying to lift the pencil. She will struggle and strain, much to the audience’s amusement, but she simply cannot lift the pencil. On the one hand, she is trying to perform the action through voluntary effort and the use of her body muscles. But on the other hand, the suggestion that ‘you cannot lift the pencil’ causes her mind to believe that it is impossible. Here we find a physical force being neutralized by a mental force. It is a case of will power versus imagination. When this happens, imagination always wins out...’


‘Once a person believes that something is true (whether it is true or not), he then acts as if it were. He will instinctively seek to collect facts to support the belief no matter how false they may be. No one will be able to convince him otherwise unless, through personal experience or study, he is ready to change. Hence it is easy to see that, if one accepts something that is not true, all subsequent actions and reactions will be based upon a false belief.’

A lot of the limits in your life right now might have been self-imposed, or imposed upon you by a figure-head you respect like your Mom, Dad, a witch-doctor in your village, a respected person in your family, or a religious leader. They might have meant no harm when passing it to you, but it might be a belief which is, right now limiting you in some areas of your life. The suggestions might even have come from watching too much African Magic. As I said, your conscious mind is down when you are watching TV, and it allows every message/suggestion from the movie you are watching to stream right to your subconscious mind. And since your subconscious mind takes everything that gets to it as truth, you start to take everything portrayed in the movies as truth (like witches being behind your lack of progress, or that you can only be a success if you join a cult). Watch what you’re watching...don’t let it control your life. Watch the people you constantly are around and listen to, for they have the power to hypnotize you.




All these explains why what you believe (in your subconscious mind) is what you get in your life, and not necessarily what you want. And other people that don’t share your beliefs will get a life that resonates around their own beliefs also. In closing, this article should let you know that not all you take as truth today might be true...you might have been hypnotized without knowing it. So when next you meet someone that doesn't share your beliefs, think twice before you label the person ignorant...you might be the ignorant one.


http://outoftheordinary101..com.ng/2013/11/who-killed-dele-giwa-part-1.html

I heard my first Nas song on radio 20 years ago, and the name of the song is "If I Ruled the World." And for three decades, this man has dazzled in the hip hop world, and till today, he is considered one of the greatest rappers of all time. He isn't too flashy and not the richest, but he is respected all over. If you don't know or like him, then he is probably your favorite rapper's favorite rapper.



Yup! He has inspired rappers like Eminem, Fabolous, Kanye West, Drake, Kendrick Lamar, J Cole, and a host of other rappers. He even had 2 scholars (Michael Eric Dyson and Sohail Daulatzai) come together to write a book about his rap skills titled "Born to Use Mics." He dropped out of high school, yet the prestigious Harvard University awarded him the W.E.B Du Bois Medal...the first and only rapper to get that honor. He was given this award for his contribution to culture, human rights, and the arts central to the African and African-American community.



I am not a rapper, but I am also into the arts. I am a romance novelist, and I would one day want to be a legend like this man. So, I ask, what does it take to be a legend like Nas is?

Olamide's Shakiti Bobo is at 6.7 million views. I guess the streets don't have time for Youtube.


Wizkid and L.A.X's Caro is at 15.4 million views...Why isn't it on this list? Ojoro list.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VF47kno4Dro

kamatofeelz:
So mikel was his junior hmm now his senior I guess #u can never predict life

Yea.

ionsman:
Heart attack causing news.

I swear to God. lol! On a Monday morning again. Bad week for the wailers.

Topestbilly:
Cool.


At times we don't earn our living with the career we start-up with..

Ori lo mo ise ase la...

Yea, I guess so. The koko is to keep the hustle on till you attain success.

This is a picture of Nigerian Chelsea player, Mikel Obi and superstar musician, Peter of P Square at Stamford Bridge stadium (in London) yesterday, after the Chelsea vs.Manchester United football match. Peter shared this picture on his Instagram some hours ago, but what got my attention is what he wrote as the caption of the picture. Read it below.



"And you know it's can never be complete without my brother @john_mikel_obi who was my junior 20yrs ago at Pepsi Football Academy in Jos Plateau State. Proud of you homie"

-Peter of P Square

http://www.pikore.com/m/1180307133913809135_188019783



Hmm! I didn't know P Square were also into soccer back in 1996. And to think Mikel was Peter's junior at the Pepsi Academy in Jos back then. Interesting.
http://nigeriancelebritypictures..com.ng/2016/02/pic-mikel-obi-and-peter-of-p-square-at.html

Caption this picture of President Buhari and the crown prince of UAE, Sheikh Mohammed Bin Al Nah Yan. Why does the prince have his hands rolled up in a fist? And why is Buhari smiling? Someone help me out. This picture was taken yesterday in UAE, as Buhari witnessed the signing of bilateral agreements by Ministers of Trade, Finance and Justice in Abu Dhabi.

Looking at this picture, I am trying to figure out who has a bigger head...Tuface or Basketmouth.

shizzy7:
DISGUSTING!!!

If those green veins can show like that in pictures, it will be an eyesore in reality...

Hmm! How many girls have fine boobs in this Nigeria sef? Most just hide it with fine dress, once it is revealed, it is something else. We guys are really trying o! We deal with stretch marks boobies, water boobies, slippers boobies, vein infested boobies, hard rock boobies...etc

Jolllyjoy:
if i have such,i could go any length to cut them off.

lol! I guess everything is good in moderation...I feel you.

Jolllyjoy:
See load.

Well, you sef take style carry load.

I am sure this is definitely bigger than double D's. Actress/singer, Cossy Orjiakor shared these pics online a few hours ago, where she had her big boobs on display.

pyyxxaro:
A man amongst Women

Yea...ladies have always been attracted to writers.

Checkout this picture of Wole Soyinka and his wife (Folake Doherty-Soyinka), with Mo Abudu (TV show host), at Genesis Deluxe Cinemas, The Palms, Lekki (Lagos). This was from the premiere of the new Nollywood movie, Fifty, yesterday. Hmm! This man is still looking good for an 81 year old man. Don't you think? By the way, Mo Abudu is the one in black.


http://www.pikore.com/m/1143415029472407896_367185747

Well, don't blame me, she said it her self. Toke Makinwa shared the picture you are seeing below on Instagram a few hours ago, with the caption- "Flat chest swag!!!!! Full outfit look coming up#Outtonight #XmasinLagos."


http://www.pikore.com/m/1142956761990199709_37540925

More pics of Cossy...

People never get tired of seeing actress/singer, Cossy Ojiakor's goodies, so put together a couple sexy pics of her in this post. Check them out below.


http://nigeriancelebritypictures..com.ng/2015/12/pics-sexy-photos-of-cossy.html