Niaja with ignorance,there is noway some can use your ATM card without the Card number not the Pin.
The card number is what really tracks your transaction ,once someone get that number with the security code numeber which is part of the number but I won't say it because there are some fraudulent dude who have nothing else to do but steal from their fellow humans and say God has blessed them.Anyway if anyone get hold of that number you are done without the number the card is useless there is nothing anyone can do with you pin number alone even if the person has a camera as long as the camera did not capture the card number it's of no use.The issue with yahoo boys using credit card is similar because once they have the credit card number you are srewed it does not require a pin.
My fellow brodas and sis be very careful with how you handly your personal belongings.Niaja is indeed a scary place I was considering opening an account there but I am scared with all this news.
May God help us.
Naija go better one day in Jesus name (Amen !).

This trend is intresting.
One thing you foreign ladies fall to realize that marriage is not a thing to gamble with if you are not ready for it just don't get involve in it.The lady who brought up this trend sound a little stran ge because if you just want to marry him for the child you in for a shocker because if he does not love you anymore don't push it,just move on and take care of your child and believe for the best.

Well it sucks to be d victim but d realization dat one is a victim is a good way to start by dat u have learnt a life long lesson.You see when we try to alert dis people of d dangers of long distance relationship especially with Nigerians is not really a good idea knowing that you have not met this person before like for instance there is this friend of mine he has this naija girl whom he has not met but they've been talking for awhile .This dude is crazy about this lady but the way he has been spending money on this young lady is just not it things like this is a hint if the person you claim is in love with your person or your gains e.g you send money to your lover on a regular bases,you buy him stuff(it's uncommon for women to buy men gifts in Nigeria),the lady is always requesting for gifts and money.they are so many signs which could give one a hint but still they are some honest and trust worthy Nigerians out there.Just be careful and if you become a victim lesson learnt (life is a gamble).
Goodluck

Europegirl don't take the negative comment as ppl antagonising yur love 4 yur fiancee it's just dat things happen and we all know what we ar talking about u can search thru previous trends and see d experiences ppl hav had with their long distance naija lover especially if they've never met b4 in person.Lady some of those men ar heartless but on the other side if u guys hav met and u believe strongly in his love 4 u it's all good.
I met my wife in niaja once(less than 24hrs),we exchanged emails,she left for the states but when she got here she kept communicating with me for five years until I came to the states on DV lottry.Today I am a US citizen and we both have 3 wonderful kids together.So I wish you luck and always keep an open mind.They ar not been negative , infact they ar only trying not to see u go thru d the same trouble most ladies in the past hav gone thru.
Happy love life.

Trends like this is so controversial in the sense that there is nothing you say to someone who is in love or infatuation.You are more like a sounding trumpet but anyway the bottom line is how would you think that because you have access to the internet you can just go to Harmony to get a man and to top it all a Niaja men wey alarm dey blow(Excuse my language to those of you who don't understand niaja English)to be honset with you the only reason why a Nigerian would go to a dating site is because he or she wants to escape from poverty it's just the plane fact it does not matter if you agree or disagree those of us who have spent some years down there know the way things are done.
If you have met the Nigerian(he/she) at-least once then you can judge the person on a one on one level.The internet is a great invention of our time but all these foreign nationals forget one thing that Nigerians will do anything to escape poverty.Now it's not about brandishing Niaja bad but simply saying the truth.I hate the fact that foreign men and women always have bad experiences with their niaja lover it's not a good thing.There are some good men and women in Nigeria but trust me they are not the ones who go to dating sites to get a foreign lover for someone who is not from Nigeria you May find this hard to believe but time will tell.I have read so many blog of women who met they men online travelled to naija only to regret years later that their assume lover only want to come to America.
Now don't get me wrong their is nothing wrong in comming to the America but when you have to prey on peoples naivety it is now a bad thing that's why the government is hard on this issue because this is just stupid and disgracing.
I know some guilty smart Ass will have something negative to say, but ladies and gents just know what you are getting yourself involved in when you travel to naija to get married to that naija that online lover of yours.Even with all the comment so far some dumbo will still go ahead and then come back here to say negative things about Nigeria.

I must apologise sis, if my post did offend you in any manner I was just   making  my opinion known, and like I said it's just an advise and not a statement of command.Thank  God The other people who posted their blog know what I am talking about.I leave it at that.
I wish you and your hubby the best of married life.
By the way I really don't need to know  you  for you to make a point.
Just in case FYI someone post a blog which you really don't like don't  start to tell people about yourself.
Love you as a fellow African

American women will not stop to suprise me.
I am happy for you all for finding someone you love and who love you inturn but I just want to drop a piece of advise here although you don't have to take it to heart it's just a piece of advise.
It is such a shame when this foreign women go to online dating site or just met someone on a trip for the first time knowing that they are both of different race,nationality,background and financial.Men I do hope so many of you don't regret you actions later on.Because we've seen this allot on this site when this woman will come asking for advise on how to bring their man here and 6 months to 1year later the are divorced or the experience is different.
The bottom line is why will you want to marry someone who you know little about his culture,tradition and customs because when this people come here they know nothing about cross cultural and inter racial marriages they find it difficult to make it work.Don't get me wrong I am not saying everyone is bad but you know your hubby better than anyone else just make sure you count the cost and be prepared just in-case things go the other way round.
Wishing you the best.

Poster!
Dat sucker is not married He is just one of those hustlers,he is not representing a true Nigerian Man Figure.
I won't blame you because u probably taught u were in Love like most ladies it happen all the time.Don't pay any attention to those cock suckers blaming you for your action,if he does not want a child he shouldn't have busted a nut in u in the first place.he took advantage of your situation as a lady who is independent,smart and has thins going on good but the problem I have is from the content of yur post u sound like u have some feelings for him which is not bad but know that the future of yur baby rest in yur hands it does not matter if he accepts the fact dat the child came from him or not or u trying to make d baby know his roots they ar so many ppl in our society who don't know who their parent are but today they are doing well,they may not be popular or famous but they ar responsible ppl in the society.Just accept yur faith and take care of the little sweet pea.He or she will become a better person than the Dad.
This is a new era where women should learn to stand up tall and be who they want to be not what the society want them to be like this dude who just used you for what he can get.
Move on with your life when yur baby become an adult he or she will take care of that at the right time.
Good luck to U.

Gees,
Naija guys won't change from what they've been known for.
I hate to say this but these guys blabbing their horns on this trend is just hiding from the truth.Naija ladies born in western countries don't have a problem but I think it's the guys because how in the world can Tamedu or chinedu come over to US or UK and Expect Mojisola or Ada who was born and raised in the west to act like a village girl.It's never going to happen.They are both different although they have the same roots(African) but their orientation to life and back ground is diffrent and also these guys just come here to hustle make money and go back to someone they can slave,beat,slap and cheat on.I have seen it too many times.
This girls here won't take that from you.You try it yur ass is going to jail.
I am one person who Shawn the way our men behave because it's barbaric and should be discourage because we are in a new age where everyone she be treated with respect and dignity no matter their nationality or background because this ppl we are talking about may have Nigerian parents but technically they are not because they know little or nothing about the culture.
Food for taught.

It's really a shame to see Nigerians acting out like Americans and the most annoying part of it is that it's those who actually travel out of the country to hustle like they say that loose their pride in their culture and heritage no matter how hungry one can be,culture,tradition and moral believes is one thing that should not be traded. Like some of you said these Nigerian music videos don't even get the attention they deserver from the Westerners apart from Nigerian communities.All those crap Keke and D1 show back on T.V back in Niaja is bull crap.Here in the states Apart from BET which is little bit relaxed on their TV sensorship when it comes to music videos all other station rarely show those nude music videos that why you either watch it on BET or go to you tube or go watch their shows .For us Nigerians who are concerned for the future of our young generation we need to do what we think is best.
Keeping our mouth shut and ignoring the situation will only make the situation worse. that is if we want to see our children and grand children make us proud .

Don't be deceived New York Times is just trying to sell their paper.It must be rumors because we have not had anything about this .I am talking from the point view of an insider who is in the system but,if it does happen I hope some naijas do take advantage of it and act as soon as their can but as of now their is no such thing going on in the US Army.If you join you are on your own and you must have a Green Card to join the military and also you will have to take ASVAB it does not matter the branch you want to join which means study your ASVAB guide and be ready to use the computer.

You must be fucking kidding me.
You have posted this blog so many times,I guess you just want an affirmation in order to kill you guilt.Trust me you are doing more harm to yourself than good.You are a young lady with so much future ahead of you why distroy it all in the name of love. You may be young accept but you are not dumb and retarded. Thank God they are people on this trend who are honest to tell you the truth.All those who have posted their blog before me have been honest with you and you should sit down and think twice.A word is enough for the wise.

Hey! Mr.Outlaws or outlaw I really don't know if I am wrong or the lexicon is wrong but dude you can't come here and be cursing out sisters.Men that is so unmanly and rude.trust me even in westside of portland,oregun which I know allot of ppl here don't give a Bleep about don't appreciate brothers disrespecting sister no matter their color or nationality just make your point plain and stop calling those ppl names especially the ladies.Because that just show how immature you  are and I can tell you are new in the states on a student visa that's why you are going all crazy about what is going on around you.Time will tell.
Grow up and learn to express your opinion without cursing.

Niajas and their big mouth
I don't understand why it's so much a big deal to marry a lady who has one or two kids either from a previous marriage or out of wed luck.I think it has to do with one's level of understanding it's just suprising that this same men are the ones stuck with Big fat shaniqua who has five kids all because they want papers but they would rather be little their own sister because she is single with a child.
I have been married for years now to my soulmate.She had a son as a young naive girl.Her baby daddy bluntly rejected the child.Today the boy is a smart,intelligent young man.We have our own kids and they are all getting along well.
If you can't handle that level of maturity there is nothing wrong with that.It just that I hate to read what all this our so called niaja brothers post here and the honest truth is that their life is nothing to write about.
What a shame.
Like I said there is nothing we can't handle as humans it's just learning to deal with it and become better ppl.

Zahara,
U must b fucking kidding me!
Yur black ass was dating a guy whom u know is married to someone for paper. believe u do have some element of wisdom in yur brains.If he is willing to go that far to get papers how sure ar u that he really love u.U can get layed by anybody that is not love but stupidity.I believe you hav a hidden agenda becos it is so obvious that you are not in a relationship but a fantasy and manhunt for some greener pastures.
PPL like u give niaja girls bad name.
U should be ashamed of yurself.

Hauwa I am sorry if my post did scare you,that was not my intention and neither do I want to destroy peoples relationship.Trust me if your guy is genuine you would know because he is your guy but if he is one of those suckers you will definitely know too.My point is in as much as relationship is a thing of the heart and soul,one should also be prepared to spend some time alone by yourself because he will have lots of official assignment which may take him to far away land for awhile before you guys can be together again.It's all about trust,sacrifice and commitment.

Kubrat that's exactly what I am talking about.ladies should know what they are about to commit theirself into if they are prepared for it or not.Military men are like any other profession but with the slight difference,the military demand so much from their personnel than the civilian does and for that guy who thinks he is so good at his game just wait till you have someone fire an AK over your head.I bet with you,you would consider if you really enjoy what you are doing or not.In today's warfare it's not just the combat arms that fight but everyone figth as a team regardless of your MOS.At-least it works that way in the US.Just be supportive of your guy or girl and pray for them if they are deployed or not.
Bros Roca carry on.
POG!

Hey rocka dude,you sound so aggrieved men there is nothing to take personal.Who give a Bleep if you are getting married but I must apologise for the mix-up.One more thing there is nothing wrong in been a pog in the Army.
Wow! I can't imagine a gay like you who have been in the Army for eight years and never deployed I know those little boys will be all over you.I feel for you. Do admit that people like you are called pogs!
;Dsorry Oh!

SadLily,there is nothing wrong with hoping for the best but one thing I will tell you is if you want to come to the states to work with a foreign degree your chances are a little bit slim because it's a different ball game in the states.Americans believe they are better than anyone else and you will be shocked at some of the experiences you will have because you are from another country.Allot of Niajas won't tell you the truth but if you want to stay here be ready to put up with it and make the best of the opportunities here.Church and Nigerian communities are out of the question.reason why this people practise religion differently from us.
But if you are hoping to come here when you win the DV lottry just be ready to rough it out and suck it up.There are no two ways to it even when you have relatives you will shocked that it does not change anything.

I came to the states through a DV lottry and did not know anyone apart from my wife whom I was dating as of then.Things was rough for her which means I had to go through some hard times.I mean hard times.But if you have some change on you it will help you out by staying in a hotel for awhile until you understand this place a little more and decide what to do from there.
I wish you the best.

Naija ladies dating dis Military guys let me give u an advise.
It's just an advise u don't have to take it.When dis guys tell u they love you, just take it with an open mind because those mother fuckers really don't like black folks particularly if you have an accent from Naija.Mind u they are some who are sincere and honest but most of them really don't care that much it's just for the fun and trills.But you ladies do have fun and if anything happens all the best but single Military guys and females are not poeple you really want to trust that much.I know because I have seen it too many times happen.I really don't care if it happens to white chicks who give a Bleep but Naija girls should always hold their heads high.

I believe u Jazz Freak.
Who told you told you Rocka that the ladies are intrested in you because you are in the Army you must really be naive bro.An average American lady will do anything to for a Military personnel just to get that stable income comming but trust me it's just lazy people who think that way.You can make more money outside the military although don't get me wrong it is a good start for someone particularly if you are young and full of strength and vitality.
Rocka you also said something about it's not everyone who get to deploy I pity you.If you are in the military your Ass should be ready because you will be going to Afghanistan soon except if you are one of those pogs in the Navy or Airforce but I guarantee you before your military career is over you will be somewhere doing something be on on the Sea,on Land or in the Air.
I know what I am talking about about because I have done my time and I am proud of it.
You ladies who want to marry men in Uniform you better be prepared for some lonely times because that is just the reality of it.I am married and my wife is just freaking out.Most women don't understand what they are about to go into until they come to realise that the Military demands allot from service men and women which in turn take a toll on the family.These has result into a high divorce rate in the Military system .I am not trying to scare you ladies but just know that the first priority on the mind of that service men is duty first then you follow but I do wish you the best.

Nijas u guys are so funny
U guys don't know much about what the US is doing in Iraq.We have done the best we can and trust me the US will be willing to do the same for any other country apart from Iraq.Religion has nothing to do with it.It's just that ppl are not ready to accept the fact that terrorist does not know if you are anAmericn,a Brith or which ever nationality .

I am not referring to you Shinatu,it is the lady who want an American Baby.They will come here to ask for advise but when you give it out they start to act like they know too much,then I begin to wonder why come here in the first place ?
I am not against you having your baby here like I care about you and the baby.Oops !.Just do whatever you like.
Do have a wonderful holiday Nairalanders .

Thanks Ajileko,
Let her believe whatever she want to believe.I really don't give a heck about you or your problem.I will only say what I know it does not matter if you agree with me or not I reside in the states and I work for the federal government.I am not ready to go into details of how my bill was 20K you have all year round to figure that out.it's all on you but know that this is America and not England.You need to have an insurance to pay and it will cost you allot as a foreigner that is the bottom line nobody is saying you are going to use someone else identity you should have read through the lines if you don't use glasses the only reason why i said that is becos alot of Nigerians come here and don't tell ppl the truth but you will find out when you come here and probably you may have the nerves to tell the baby the truth someday.

Good luck

idocare,
I am sorry for the misunderstanding.
Hey,I am just flowing along with you what your bloged. probably if your writing structure would have been a little bit straight forward i guess i won't have gotten the wrong notion and misunderstood you altogether that does not include your personal life because I really don't care what you do with your life.I fight against people who use other people to get what they want,that's why i have been reading along since you started your blog and not for me to label you what you are not or come intrude in your personal life.
You are right with the way people do go around to commit evil and still think they can get away with it.It's just a matter of time before they reap their reward but here and wherever their soul will be going.I know allot about the laws of the states because I am a US Citizen and I am also pursuing my law degree so all those explanation is unnecessary.For other people going through this kind of trend I do hope they do the rigth thing and move on with their life just like you did.
Good job and have a good one.

I hope the lady listen to you Hauwa but if she refuse to listen it's all on her and I hope she will have the nerves to tell her baby someday that she has to cheat the government by using someone else identity to pay for the baby's medical bill.It is much better for you to give birth in the UK where you are legal than come here and find out the hard way.medical bills in America is a big issue but alot of naijas won't tell you the truth but whatever you want to do it's all on you.

Poor lady I pity you,You are indeed naive.
Did you know that so many Nigerians who do come here and give birth to citizens don't stay here becos they don't want to be caugth by the law well they will not arrest you but guess what they will garnish your check to get dat money which means if you don't pay the hospital will get their money but the government will come after you by taking the money out of your taxes and if you don't pay tax you will go to jail.On the other hand if you don't reside here they will not let you in this country again.You told you that the government here cannot deny you entry because you are a British citizen all they need to do is to put your info on the DHS data base and all over the country you are marked.
Now the latinos who came here and some naija what they do is to use some else identity to claim benefit.For you you will be billed thousands of dollars my wife gave birth last July my bill wa $20,000 I am a lawful citizen what paid off my bill is because I work for the government.For you whatever way you go.Think twice all those niaja who think they are smart watch out the government is cooking up something.You guys will see it soon.
A word is enough for the wise.

Mam,
To be honest with you I really can't feel your pain but I do understand because my wife went through a similar experience.You just have to get yourself together if not for yourself do it for your son.You don't want this to get take control of your life you know the way it works if your health is unstable your son will be taken away from you,trust me you don't want that to happen .I know whenever you look at your son you see the father which is normal but when the time comes you son will make you proud and he will be different from his father.I have seen it happen so many time.I have three kids which I am grateful to God for given them to me.One of them his Dad was just like your ex-husband but I took him just like my son.I am the only Father he has ever know and I don't regret taking care of him he is dead now according to stories I heard but I really don't care the little boy has a bright future ahead of him and that is the way you should see your son too,He will grow up to become a responsible man but that all depends on you.You can either make him different or make him just like his Dad.
Did you not wonder why I did not say they are two sides to a story before fussing our my anger against this
It's because I have seen this type of situation right from when I was in Africa and even now that I am in the state it is still the same thing.Don't allow someone else to determine your joy it does not matter if you are a Christian or not because I am not one of those church preaching Nigerians but you can make your life experience a story to encourage someone.let go of the pain and concentrate on making your life worth while go to school to get more degree or start a business when your son is old enough so on trips with him to different destination,You know what i mean just get yourself engaged so that you can take this out of your mind.You are busy sobbing over him while he is somewhere else messing around with someone else who knows it may be a girl from naija or somewhere else but who care who are here because you want to get your life together then do what is right .
I do pray God give you the strength to become yourself back .

Nigerian are cowards!
How can a person who call himself a man see an Innocent lady and take advantage of her.My wife was a victim to this too but thank God she moved on with her life.
You need to let this go and just move on,take care of your son ans yourself and I guarantee you when he come to his full senses he will reap what he sows.
I know allot of morons would be wondering how I got my paper,well for all you busy body .I did not come to the states on a student ,fiancee or tourist visa.God made a way for me to come here legit and I am a US citizen.I earned it by defending this country freedom in Iraq.You all can say shit if you want I really don't care.I am one of those Nigerians who will not encourage evil in the name of poverty or greener pasture.
It is bad to take advantage of some else in order for one to get to where one want to be.With time the law of karma will pay him back.His people who support and took part with him will reap in their own way. Don't think Nigerian are bad people but be careful because allot of Nigerians who kill a dead corps just to come to the states.
God will help you and your son.
let your creator deal with him and all those people who want to make you feel bad for falling in love with a Nigerian ignore their comments and bogs that's the way retard humans act which unfortunately allot of them are like that.I don't care the response I receive from this but I will always call a spade a spade

Well,
Poster all I can say is do what is right.You know what is rigth don't allow people to give advise based on sentiments or because they have been through something similar.We all react to situation differently and moreover Nigerians are not that good when it come to issues like this because alot of them do the same thing.I will say if you can't take it anymore why lie to yourself or wait for someone to tell you what to do.Let him go and you go take care of your kids or if you want him to have them let him take the kids.It he did not change after all the episodes you guys went through then he won't.Nigerians tend to play with God's name alot God has nothing to do with these he is the one to change not God.I am a married man who know what I am talking about.Some Nigerians Will still say something stupid about my blog anyway which I really don't care.You seem like a good and smart person take control of your life ,take care of your kids if you want to get married again in the future it's up to you but wise up this time around .It hurts me to seeNigerian men act so cruel to women all in the name of papers,money of wealth it is so inhumane.I wish you luck on what soever you decide.Just be true to yourself and do what you think is the right thing to do.