Edelbriggs:
You don’t have to blame me bro, she was a good girl till this last Christmas. I’m not holding brief for her, I’m just seeking other people’s opinions thats why I put this up here.

Bro, let her go. You’ll heal over time .

meobizy:

Is the average policeman educated talk less of recognizing and following rules?
We all know laws mean nothing to both politicians and the people meant to enforce them.

It’s just a pity, we need to demand more accountability from people we assign these duties to. At least they are being paid with our monies.

Didi2d:
Whatever his offences are, does it mean that the Nigerian police cannot contact his family members?
That's how I was locked up in a police cell for days living my family looking for.
Not until my family went on a search, heading to the last place I told them I was going to, they went around that area asking questions, not until someone told my elder brother he looks like someone that was arrested some days ago by the police, that's how they decided to check the police station.
I can't forget the look on my Dads face when he saw me inside the cell holding those iron

Hmm, what were you arrested for , how was it resolved? Were you innocent ? And were you charged to court ?

meobizy:
I don’t know why the Nigerian police do this.
That was how they detained my best friend for a week.
We had already written him off as dead before our pastor went around police stations in a last minute exercise of hope.

If you arrest somebody at least allow him call a family member.
If you want to punish him small then give him the chance after two days.
A full week without contact is unnecessary torture.

Sir, you are not allowed to keep a suspect more than 24 hours without giving bail or charging the person to court, unless in armed robbery/ murder cases. Also the suspect has a right to maintain silence and/or contact his lawyer after being arrested. This is just plain lawlessness.

If you already feel horrible about this, then know what you are about to do is horrible, but I promise you this, you will always find fault with that your man until you clear your eyes with this new guy,

nothing we say here will even matter to you until you cheat on him, he’ll notice the change in you and will later discover your treachery. Your new guy will be fed up of you and will go on to other catches or to his own steady babe. Then you’ll finally blame yourself for wasting ten years of your life in just a couple of months.

Cloud007:
baba....why are you spreading lies. Money rituals works. People don't do it cos of the inherent consequences. People that does it are set to face the call for vengeance by the blood they had spilled.

Fine.... rituals is a terrible thing and the consequence is death. But please don't say it doesn't work.

Bros, please give just one, I mean just 1 empirical evidence that someone did ritual money and got rich..

NaijaRoyalty:


You just spewed yet again another thrash .

Ok, thank you.

NaijaRoyalty:


What has being a graduate got to do with my comment

Is Buhari a graduate ?

Meaning your so called education has not impacted your thinking and way of life. So thousands/ millions like you are a problem to the advancement of this country.

Babe, to be honest it’s complex. Speaking from experience here, but my own is even heavier than your own issue. I forgave but can never trust her again.

Gbenga might still love you, but he can not trust you again. I won’t advise you to stay or to leave. But you lost him immediately he knew you cheated on him.

Who you have now in Gbenga is not the person that came to ask you out, that part of him is dead and can’t be resurrected again, he might go ahead to marry you, but he is already damaged.

Lesson: Trust is much more important than love in a relationship/ marriage.

And how were they found? With whom were they found? Any leads to where the maid is? Who are the accomplices ?

So many questions left to be answered

Have you been diagnosed of any illness?

People look up to me and see a happy and comfortable guy with a young family. But deep down am far from happy it’s all a smokescreen.I am hurt and sad but need to keep up the pretense for other people to be happy.

Dunno if I will slip into depression soon or later. I hope not though.

electronicguy:
Jjjjj

What’s d model

Buthupogon:
Farm produce still available!

Why not post pictures and your location and your average prices

Why did you complicate the write up with the village people addendum?

Did you factor in many factory faults for new cars or devices? Did you also factor in many recalls from manufacturers that discovered that there are mistakes in designing?

Did you forget the issue of Samsung note 7 that catches fire anyhow?

So a brand new car might have a hidden factory fault that can trigger a fire anytime. The manufacturers are also not perfect.

Leave village people out of this, they are not as powerful as the way we ascribe all unexplainable issues to them.

Cheating is the worst thing that can happen to a marriage. Even though have forgiven her, I can’t forget, and I pray I heal sooner or later. Please never cheat on your spouse.

Wow, thank you guys, so much mature responses here, I really appreciate them all. I will update you guys when the time is right. I did not divulge many info here cos I don’t want her to suspect I know yet without concrete evidence,that’s y my story is vague and not detailed.

Anyways thank you guys, you are all d best.

Oyindidi:
Stop it before its too late. My brother, help her out of it. She may not really know what she's doing is wrong. If possible talk her this evening.

Maybe by weekend though. I’ll see what I can do

Oyindidi:
Talk to her now, don't wait till the deed is done. Maybe she is yet to do the main thing

Hmm, the maybe part is what I don’t have evidence of. But am sure there’s an emotional relationship going on with evidence.

Oyindidi:
Talk to her now, don't wait till the deed is done. Maybe she is yet to do the main thing

Hmm, the maybe part is not I don’t have evidence of. But am sure there’s an emotional relationship going on.

CptBule:


LOL

You are scared of crashing a marriage with an adulterous wife?
You never carry disease. Or perhaps you are comfortable sleeping side-by-side with a betrayer.

It’s d love I have for her and the kid that’s affecting my judgment. I know I should just throw her out, but I think my heart is just too soft towards her.

Oyindidi:
Then handle it like a man. Though its painful

Am just scared. Cos when I start I know we are done for.

Oyindidi:
Are you a Christian? If yes, tell God to give a large heart. You doing well so far, tell her you know about what she did. And see how she'll react. Hope you're not only suspecting her?

I know she did, not just suspecting. She’s smart and I want to gather enough b4 we sit down to talk or throw everything down d drain

CptBule:


Don't take him yet for a DNA test to confirm your paternity over the child. Not until you have fully established the fact she is cheating; with a hardware evidence not "i saw you with my eyes" something.

Acting without evidence may destroy your family even worse than adultery. Lay low and obtain a solid evidence. Before you test your child's paternity, your wife freedom from diseases, and invitation of your in-laws while grasping unto your evidence before their presence.

I have evidence , but with a good lawyer and emotional blackmail it could be turned around. Still waiting to see if I can get something more concrete. But it’s killing me though .

CptBule:


It should be a good proof, but there is no point sending her packing when the deed is repeated by her because your in-laws may doubt the truth in the story. it is therefore even wiser to give them a call, to convene a meeting of her relatives, far and near, then you pay a visit, and with your evidence, express your disappointment in their daughter and the trainings she received, it is now left for them to call home their daughter and sleep with her for at least a week, putting into her a new orientation and reminding her of the family's integrity which she is set to destroy if she continues on her fool's path.

Thank you, but am scared of crashing d marriage. If our families know then d marriage is a goner.

Oyindidi:
Talk to her about it

Trying to, but don’t want it to be based on emotions or anger.

Still fighting between the love and the pain. Can I forgive after I confront her. Deep in thoughts.

WhichKindWahala:
do you have kids ?
If yes,you’re in trouble

Just 1

Olalan:
If you have undeniable evidence it's better you confront her now about it, but how can you be comfortable living with a cheating wife cause ladies who do such are capable of murder.

Still waiting to get undeniable facts. Don’t wanna act on emotions. It’s taking a lot of effort and restraint to keep it under wraps.

CptBule:


If you don't have evidence, it is therefore not advisable to discuss with her over it, because she will turn the table around to acuse you of distrust towards your own wife and end up using emotional blackmail to win her argument.

If you have proofs, pictures or messages already sent to your own phone, sit her down and talk to her over it, let it be made clear that was the last you would tolerate, otherwise the marriage will be dissolved, after that you take her to clinic to test for sexually transmitted diseases, this is so that you know on time if she had contracted any disease while having extra-marital affair, it is important you do this, otherwise you would contract it too.

Thank you, I have proofs though but not hard enough. Will still wait and see how things go.

My wife is having an affair, but she hasnt known that I know that this is going on. Discovered about it not long ago. Still thinking d best course of action.

It was first d feeling of pain, but that phase has passed now. Right now I need to strategize on what next to do.

Still painful though, cos I never knew she could do such.

Just typing this to let off the steam.