Any body with the link for Nigeria and Croatia match...
Kindly broadcast. Thanks alot

If you don't feel like advising. It's ok. Obviously you aren't patient enough to read it to the fullest.

The Op is the person involved.

Thanks alot Sir, my blood pressure was on the borderline when i was going through alp this....

Now i can smile.... the child support thing. Is it until i sign birth certificate before my name will be pursued on child support. Or if she just give them my name... i will start paying immediately.

bigfrancis21:


First I sympathize with you on what you are going through.

Second, the good news is that you are eligible to get your green card through VAWA act (violence against women act). The act was originally intended for women experiencing violence in the hands of their US citizen spouses but has since expanded to include both genders as violence can go both ways. Now, both men and women married to US citizen spouses can file on that basis if they experienced violence in the hands of their US citizen spouse, which in your case you clearly did. Be sure to keep ALL evidence of the violence (physical, if any, emotional etc.) you went through. Do not leave any piece of evidence out. Here in the US, threats of murder are taken very seriously and if you have not yet, you need to report that to the police to have solid evidence of that threat to support your VAWA application. Also, if need be, get a restraining order against your spouse which helps to solidify your application when you file. You can file for your green card by yourself if you can understand the USCIS forms and whatnot but if you cannot do get an immigration lawyer to help you file your application with the right supporting evidence. Your green card will take about a year to come out and it will be the permanent green card (the 10-year one, as opposed to the initial conditional 2-year one you would have gotten had your spouse filed), but in the meantime they would give you a work permit to be working with. With the situation of things at this point, you don't need your spouse to file for you. Majority of Americans barely know about this law/path to green card and it is highly certain that your spouse doesn't know of it either. Your only mistake is the child involved between you two = child support payments for 18 years, that is if your spouse puts you on child support.

Hang in there.

https://www.uscis.gov/green-card/green-card-vawa-self-petitioner

http://www.alllaw.com/articles/nolo/us-immigration/proving-abuse-green-card-under-vawa.html

Oh ok

signature2012:
@kevinbabyface1 and ghettochild,kindly modify each others post and remove your phone numbers plz.

I tried reaching you but it didn't connect. I look you up on WhatsApp but no record.

My contact

ghettochild:
My advice is after the court case, move out of that apartment..
I think its best u even do that b4 d court case..
If this bitch kills u.... she will only go to jail for about 15yrs while ur life is wasted...
Think bout this..
My guy relocate ooo..
Forget d pikin
It what she wanted from u.....
U b naija man...
Look back home find a wife..
Or u look for a fellow nigerian like u over there
Can hook u up with a university friend of mine..
She's single sef.
Holla me +27604266943

I did that considering that the issues will be resolve, so i felt there was no need for all my story to be heard on this platform... that was why i had to say haitian lady, texas and disguised that it was my friend.. cos i don't want my friends way back in Nigeria that are registered in Nairaland to mock me.

But since the issue has escalated into a messi type... i had to confess oo...

It's me it happened to... she's a Jamaican lady... I'm Nigeria... And Boston is the City.

That's the real story... it does not require insult bro... I'm just trying to get advice... Insult and bashing at this stage cannot help me..

Kindly advice if you want to.... Thanks Bro

signature2012:


https://www.nairaland.com/4408566/american-girlfriend-want-baby-despite

Seem the OP is a troll.
You posted same sh!t on the 20th of March.You claim it was a friend in Texas and the lady is Haitian.

Today same post but claim is you.You wrote you are in Boston and the lady is Jamaican.

Is your brain paining you or you are suffering from a yet to be known disease?

Now she has received the court hearing mail.

ghettochild:
My advice is after the court case, move out of that apartment..
I think its best u even do that b4 d court case..
If this bitch kills u.... she will only go to jail for about 15yrs while ur life is wasted...
Think bout this..
My guy relocate ooo..
Forget d pikin
It what she wanted from u.....
U b naija man...
Look back home find a wife..
Or u look for a fellow nigerian like u over there
Can hook u up with a university friend of mine..
She's single sef.
Holla me +27604266943

I have done everything for her.... but i really understand her attitude.

The main point is... She used me to achieve her aim... i heard if you belong to the U.S. army and you are married with kids.... You will be entitled to own a personal house of your choice.

I guess her plan is precise.

sereques:
The best way to deal with any woman is to show patience. All those arguments you had are the problem. Drop your ego and apologize for ALL the wrong you did and she did to you. Marriage conflicts is not about winning. Buy flowers and soberly go to your wife and apologize. Regardless of what she might say, continue with humility and treat her right.

Thanks




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Thank GOD you have some evidence with you, please for safety purpose please back up those court evidence in different mails, usb flash, or any place where it's safe please, i hate to see my fellow guys go through shits from some bitter ladies.. [/quote]

My brother.... she dey vex for her ex that's why she's pouring her anger on me... by labelling this epistle wey i write as scam...

otipoju:


So all the text messages,evidences and actual incidents are scam abi?

Thanks alot.... Best advise ever. I will follow through to the very end.

otipoju:


Calm down. Them go give you your green card even without her filing for you.You gat a very strong case of domestic abuse. So keep all your evidences.

Also she can't just place you on child support as long as you are doing what you can for your child and keeping the receipts. Child support is for negligent father's who abandon their responsibilities .

Water wey don pour don pour especially as puking din enter una matter but look before you leap is the best advice ever. Most of these people are psychopath irrespective of the level of education.

When you try to be calm and reasonable, they see it as weakness and increase their agression.

No argue, no fight but continue your case to conclesion and no let am know where you dey live or meet with her alone ooo.

When i make the excessive dollars now... ask you to marry me. Even if i ger 9 child... you go still gree set!!!

DESAN:
Good for u shebi Naija babes r nt gud. u

My brother it's me oo.... Chai! I was carried away bt the beauty of the girl and practically deceived because i concluded she's a churchy girl.

God will see me through.... I swear i will nail her with the court case. Even if it warrant me coming back... i will also make her lose her relevant in the U.S.army by God grace. This stress is too terrible.

divinehand2003:
That guy is in deep soup. A wise man will only marry a foreign woman for the sake of green Card with no intention of ever getting her pregnant. They moment you impregnate her, you become a slave forever in the US knowing fully well that over 70-90% of their marriages end up in divorce.

So my bitter advise to him is to either continue playing the slave to the wife or peacefully return to Nigeria never to return ooooo.

It's not scam... it happened to me... She held me by my neck. I wish you could see the way it played out.

You will pity me. It doesn't have to do with scam...
Others can use scam... but i didn't

However, if you wanna advice play your part. And don't continue generalizing everything babe.

Btw.... your opinion count dear.

khiaa:
This is the new scam they are pulling in the U.S. Call the police and say they were victims of domestic violence, then they can file for an annulment or divorce with papers included and they don't have to wait the usual full time. Usually it's the white girls who are victims of this because black American women were wise to the bullshyt decades ago. At least they got paid for the business deal.

But it's a good idea... maybe after i press charges on this case. Thanks

divinehand2003:



My dear, most African men are wiser now. Most of them will migrate to Canada or other North American countries to start afresh. Child support isn't an easy job especially when the man's ex has become a roaring lion seeking to devour him.

One day she fit lie on top me say i wan kill am o.... After the court case it's better i relocate. Or she go use gun kill me.

She's in the U.S.army brother. I have really bought market. If she's unable to achieve her aim of deporting me...

She could get rid of me o

otipoju:


Calm down. Them go give you your green card even without filing. You gat a very strong case.

Also she can't just place you on child support as long as you are doing what you can for your child and keeping the receipt. Child support is for negligent father's who abandon their responsibilities

She was the one that even suggested marriage Not me... she said since we will get married and her mom is making preparations... condom is not necessary.. i was very surprised... but wasn't too exited, because the fear of the unknown kept telling me she had sinister motives.

Not until the Bombshell.



[Qqquote author=divinehand2003 post=67370029]

Lol
Once bitten, twice shy. It's hard to find lasting relationships overseas. Our African men need not be reminded of this truth. Those who are willing to learn from other people's experiences will survive. They will surely use condoms like their first name next time to prevent stories that touch.[/quote]

Ok boss.... i will proceed to the end... i have suffered. Chai because of beauty... i was carried away.

Yours advice is basically the one i intend to pursue.

Hearing date is May 22nd 2018 11:00 am America time... it will be 4:00 pm Nigeria time.

Muafrika2:
@Op that woman will kill you one day. Don't believe it when she says she has changed after she discoveres the court case. She's a narcissist. Proceed to the end with it. That may make her cautious next time.

I pity the kid that is on the way

I have all the messages she sent to me vowing with her last blood to deport me.

And the part where she called me a sperm donor... and emphasize that she married to me cos of the unborn kid.. that she never loved me.

I just weak

InteriorDecors:
Take that threat seriously and just be careful ... record convos as evidence as well

What is this one saying...

Emilokoiyawon:
Your case is that of a he-goat that continuously humps a tree hoping to seer offsprings. Go and fix your life joor.

My brother please try read am... I need you guys advice

IamPlato:
You Want To Kill Me?

How Do You Expect A Lazy Person Like Me To read All That

Hello guys,

I travelled out of the country to Boston for a course about a year ago. As a smart guy, i discharged all my Naija female packages and ventured into the 'New world' a free man. However, to cut the long story short, i met a lady of Jamaican descent that i fell in love with. It was love at first sight, and we supposedly bonded. She invited me to her church, introduced him to her family, and even suggested they get married weeks after meeting, supposedly to make us to be together without sin. As a Naija guy in a Trump infected society, i gladly agreed. To me, this was too good to be true, and i felt on top of the world. However, like they say, if its too good to be true, it probably isn't. The first signs that something was wrong was when i realised her mother requested for a ring of high value to give her. The ring i brought was, according to the girls mother, not of quality value, and enquired how i got it.Na so the girl just start to de para for me o.. Back to back nagging... i venture into an expensive ring.And this was the first red flag. Next, girl agreed to still go ahead with the marriage, but started using foul language with me o, which i tried to caution her against using on several occasions. Within this period, the girl got pregnant, and since we were gonna get marriage soon, it didn't matter. However, her behaviour became irritating day by day, always trying to dictate to me o and all. Then it happened one day... We had a big argument and she said she was done. This was a day to our engagement, but she said we were gonna end the relationship. After intervention from the mother and grandmother, she changed her mind.

Overtime, the crazy back and forths continued... She's done, pastor and family come between them and she changes her mind. All the while, i had started doubting her mental stability, and was concerned that her unstable nature could just lead to a divorce anytime, which was bad.. Eventually, we had a terrible argument, where she called the corps on me.. thank God I'm legal with my Student visa!!! she promised to make sure i pay for child support even though we are not married. She also promised to make sure she deports me back, and make my life miserable. Mind u, the girl is in the US Navy and studied Law. This argument was the straw that broke the camels back, i just had to end it,especially with later threats of her killing me. Now, I'm concerned about her threats, and the prospect of paying child support till the baby is 18. What do you advise him to do biko?

I asked for advice and was adviced to marry her... Story continues......

We got married, and she practically turned him to a slave...if i paraventure ask her a question...she will just keep insulting me and my family plus my country for no reason... like you deaf, you going bk to your crazy country... you're a sperm donor.. do as i say you asking questions like a bitch... All this is after doing everything im the house and also wake him up in the middle of the night to prepare food for her... which he did without complaining. The one that break the camel back was when i told her all what i have been doing for you... at least i deserve accolades or thank you.. she grabbed me by the neck and she took her hands off. Then i knew it's finished.... i was subjected to sleep on the bare ground that night... and the next day i was looking at resolving what ever grudges she had on me... i was trying to talk to her.... the next thing she did... was to scream at me to leave her...then she called 911 on me. And they took me out of the house. That was super extreme. Then i knew I'm on my own. I slept on the street in the dark in BOSTON. This time i knew i had to fight back. I reported the physical assault incidence... and now i have been informed that the case is going through hearing this month, however, she's not aware of any court case.

AND THE ANNOYING PART IS THAT SHE REFUSED TO FILE FOR ME!!!


I don't know what to do... i have all the messages where she called me a sperm donor and the rest... i even have hospital records that shows I'm emotionally distressed with the traumatic event.

What should i do.... Matured advice please.

Thanks

Hello guys,

I travelled out of the country to Boston for a course about a year ago. As a smart guy, i discharged all my Naija female packages and ventured into the 'New world' a free man. However, to cut the long story short, i met a lady of Jamaican descent that i fell in love with. It was love at first sight, and we supposedly bonded. She invited me to her church, introduced him to her family, and even suggested they get married weeks after meeting, supposedly to make us to be together without sin. As a Naija guy in a Trump infected society, i gladly agreed. To me, this was too good to be true, and i felt on top of the world. However, like they say, if its too good to be true, it probably isn't. The first signs that something was wrong was when i realised her mother requested for a ring of high value to give her. The ring i brought was, according to the girls mother, not of quality value, and enquired how i got it.Na so the girl just start to de para for me o.. Back to back nagging... i venture into an expensive ring.And this was the first red flag. Next, girl agreed to still go ahead with the marriage, but started using foul language with me o, which i tried to caution her against using on several occasions. Within this period, the girl got pregnant, and since we were gonna get marriage soon, it didn't matter. However, her behaviour became irritating day by day, always trying to dictate to me o and all. Then it happened one day... We had a big argument and she said she was done. This was a day to our engagement, but she said we were gonna end the relationship. After intervention from the mother and grandmother, she changed her mind.

Overtime, the crazy back and forths continued... She's done, pastor and family come between them and she changes her mind. All the while, i had started doubting her mental stability, and was concerned that her unstable nature could just lead to a divorce anytime, which was bad.. Eventually, we had a terrible argument, where she called the corps on me.. thank God I'm legal with my Student visa!!! she promised to make sure i pay for child support even though we are not married. She also promised to make sure she deports me back, and make my life miserable. Mind u, the girl is in the US Navy and studied Law. This argument was the straw that broke the camels back, i just had to end it,especially with later threats of her killing me. Now, I'm concerned about her threats, and the prospect of paying child support till the baby is 18. What do you advise him to do biko?

I asked for advice and was adviced to marry her... Story continues......

We got married, and she practically turned him to a slave...if i paraventure ask her a question...she will just keep insulting me and my family plus my country for no reason... like you deaf, you going bk to your crazy country... you're a sperm donor.. do as i say you asking questions like a bitch... All this is after doing everything im the house and also wake him up in the middle of the night to prepare food for her... which he did without complaining. The one that break the camel back was when i told her all what i have been doing for you... at least i deserve accolades or thank you.. she grabbed me by the neck and she took her hands off. Then i knew it's finished.... i was subjected to sleep on the bare ground that night... and the next day i was looking at resolving what ever grudges she had on me... i was trying to talk to her.... the next thing she did... was to scream at me to leave her...then she called 911 on me. And they took me out of the house. That was super extreme. Then i knew I'm on my own. I slept on the street in the dark in BOSTON. This time i knew i had to fight back. I reported the physical assault incidence... and now i have been informed that the case is going through hearing this month, however, she's not aware of any court case.

AND THE ANNOYING PART IS THAT SHE REFUSED TO FILE FOR ME!!!


I don't know what to do... i have all the messages where she called me a sperm donor and the rest... i even have hospital records that shows I'm emotionally distressed with the traumatic event.

What should i do.... Matured advice please.

Hello guys,

I travelled out of the country to Boston for a course about a year ago. As a smart guy, i discharged all my Naija female packages and ventured into the 'New world' a free man. However, to cut the long story short, i met a lady of Jamaican descent that i fell in love with. It was love at first sight, and we supposedly bonded. She invited me to her church, introduced him to her family, and even suggested they get married weeks after meeting, supposedly to make us to be together without sin. As a Naija guy in a Trump infected society, i gladly agreed. To me, this was too good to be true, and i felt on top of the world. However, like they say, if its too good to be true, it probably isn't. The first signs that something was wrong was when i realised her mother requested for a ring of high value to give her. The ring i brought was, according to the girls mother, not of quality value, and enquired how i got it.Na so the girl just start to de para for me o.. Back to back nagging... i venture into an expensive ring.And this was the first red flag. Next, girl agreed to still go ahead with the marriage, but started using foul language with me o, which i tried to caution her against using on several occasions. Within this period, the girl got pregnant, and since we were gonna get marriage soon, it didn't matter. However, her behaviour became irritating day by day, always trying to dictate to me o and all. Then it happened one day... We had a big argument and she said she was done. This was a day to our engagement, but she said we were gonna end the relationship. After intervention from the mother and grandmother, she changed her mind.

Overtime, the crazy back and forths continued... She's done, pastor and family come between them and she changes her mind. All the while, i had started doubting her mental stability, and was concerned that her unstable nature could just lead to a divorce anytime, which was bad.. Eventually, we had a terrible argument, where she called the corps on me.. thank God I'm legal with my Student visa!!! she promised to make sure i pay for child support even though we are not married. She also promised to make sure she deports me back, and make my life miserable. Mind u, the girl is in the US Navy and studied Law. This argument was the straw that broke the camels back, i just had to end it,especially with later threats of her killing me. Now, I'm concerned about her threats, and the prospect of paying child support till the baby is 18. What do you advise him to do biko?

Hello guys,

A friend of mine really needs advice. He traveled out of the country to Texas for a course about a year ago. As a smart guy, he discharged all his Naija female packages and ventured into the 'New world' a free man. However, to cut the long story short, he met a lady of Haitian descent that he fell in love with. It was love at first sight, and they supposedly bonded. She invited him to her church, introduced him to her family, and even suggested they get married weeks after meeting, supposedly to make them be together without sin. To my Naija guy in a Trump infected society, he gladly agreed. To him, this was too good to be true, and he felt on top of the world. However, like they say, if its too good to be true, it probably isn't. The first signs that something was wrong was when he realized her mother requested for a ring of high value to give his girl. The ring he brought was, according to the girl's mother, was not of quality value, and enquired how he got it. She then took him shopping, got another ring and told him to pay for it later. Guy actually got the ring from the girl's pastor, who, out of consideration, gave him a ring he was meant to give his wife. Apparently, the girls mum had recognized the ring and the info filtered to the girl. Na so the girl just start to de para for my guy... Back to back nagging... And this was the first red flag. Next, his girl agreed to still go ahead with the marriage but started using foul language with the guy, which the guy tried to caution her against using on several occasions. Within this period, the girl got pregnant, and since they were having a marriage soon, it didn't matter. However, the girl's behavior became irritating day by day, always trying to dictate to the guy and all. Then it happened one day... They had a big argument and she said she was done. This was a day of their engagement, but she said they were gonna end the relationship. After intervention from the mother and grandmother, she changed her mind. On the engagement day, she went through her guy's phone and saw a message to another girl. Right there again, she said she was calling it off.

Over time, the crazy back and forths continued... She's done, pastor and family come between them and she changes her mind. All the while, the guy had started doubting her mental stability and was concerned that her unstable nature could just lead to a divorce anytime, which was bad. Eventually, they had a terrible argument, where she promised to make sure he pays for child support even though they are not married. He also promised to make sure she deports him back, and make his life miserable. Mind u, the girl is in the US Navy and studied Law. This argument was the straw that broke the camels back, as my friend had to just end it, especially with later threats of her killing him. Now, my friend is concerned about her threats, and the prospect of paying child support till the baby is 18. What do you advise him to do bike?

Hello guys,

A friend of mine really needs advice. He traveled out of the country to Texas for a course about a year ago. As a smart guy, he discharged all his Naija female packages and ventured into the 'New world' a free man. However, to cut the long story short, he met a lady of Haitian descent that he fell in love with. It was love at first sight, and they supposedly bonded. She invited him to her church, introduced him to her family, and even suggested they get married weeks after meeting, supposedly to make them be together without sin. To my Naija guy in a Trump infected society, he gladly agreed. To him, this was too good to be true, and he felt on top of the world. However, like they say, if its too good to be true, it probably isn't. The first signs that something was wrong was when he realized her mother requested for a ring of high value to give his girl. The ring he brought was, according to the girl's mother, was not of quality value, and enquired how he got it. She then took him shopping, got another ring and told him to pay for it later. Guy actually got the ring from the girl's pastor, who, out of consideration, gave him a ring he was meant to give his wife. Apparently, the girls mum had recognized the ring and the info filtered to the girl. Na so the girl just start to de para for my guy... Back to back nagging... And this was the first red flag. Next, his girl agreed to still go ahead with the marriage but started using foul language with the guy, which the guy tried to caution her against using on several occasions. Within this period, the girl got pregnant, and since they were having a marriage soon, it didn't matter. However, the girl's behavior became irritating day by day, always trying to dictate to the guy and all. Then it happened one day... They had a big argument and she said she was done. This was a day of their engagement, but she said they were gonna end the relationship. After intervention from the mother and grandmother, she changed her mind. On the engagement day, she went through her guy's phone and saw a message to another girl. Right there again, she said she was calling it off.

Over time, the crazy back and forths continued... She's done, pastor and family come between them and she changes her mind. All the while, the guy had started doubting her mental stability and was concerned that her unstable nature could just lead to a divorce anytime, which was bad. Eventually, they had a terrible argument, where she promised to make sure he pays for child support even though they are not married. He also promised to make sure she deports him back, and make his life miserable. Mind u, the girl is in the US Navy and studied Law. This argument was the straw that broke the camels back, as my friend had to just end it, especially with later threats of her killing him. Now, my friend is concerned about her threats, and the prospect of paying child support till the baby is 18. What do you advise him to do bike?

First to comment?

Go and reconcile with your brother...Something is indeed missing. Btw nice music

She's still pretty as always...

Wow rest in peace

During my Admission process....i was asked to courier only my Transcript to the school....which I did..... There was no evaluation process whatsoever.....Cheers!