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PrinceOfLagos:
Southerners

Acies:
Confidence is like an elixir, it nourishes your soul, mind, and body. People who are confident take great strides in life and make strong connections with others. When they walk into a room, they command attention and exude authority.
Are you looking for tips to help build your confidence? Then, this timely article is for you. Herein are tips that will help you build your confidence and make you as confident as Hercules.
Hope this will work for me

First, let’s examine the things that cause a lack of confidence:


• Body imperfections: people who are intimidated by their flaws tend to recoil into their shells and refuse to do mingle with others for fear of being bullied and becoming the centre of negative attention. Focus on your positives instead; embrace your flaws and love your body and you are on a journey to building your confidence. You are NOT limited by your imperfections.

• Comparison: is a bad habit that prevents you from building your confidence. It blinds you to the greatness in you while being infatuated by those who appear to be doing better than you. Comparison is an enemy of your confidence and must be stopped.

• Inferiority complex: happens when you constantly feel you are not adequate or competent enough. It starts in the mind and influences your behaviour and interaction with others. When you are neck-deep in inferiority complex, it negatively impacts your social life and abilities.

• Negative affirmations: saying negative things to yourself when things do not go your way can go on to have a lasting impact on your psyche if you don’t stop. Saying words like, ‘I am so stupid’, ‘I am such a mess’, ‘I always ruin things’, ‘I suck at this!’, etc. will not help you build your confidence, rather, it will diminish it.

Here are 5 tips to build your confidence:

• Be kind to yourself: you are your greatest critic and tend to downplay your efforts and abilities while focusing on others who are not doing as much as you. Cut yourself some slack. Being kind to yourself just like you are to others will help you build your confidence.

• Positive affirmations: write a list of positive affirmations that can help you build your confidence and make it a daily habit to read them aloud. With time, your mind believes everything you confess, and you build your confidence gradually.

• Speak to confident people: another tip to help you build your confidence is by speaking to people who are confident, especially those you admire. Schedule a meeting engagement with them and learn from the best.

• Leverage online resources: there are online resources that can help you build your confidence like eBooks, podcasts, YouTube videos, movies, music, and articles like this one. Carefully select the online materials that are tailored to your needs and exhaust them.

• Try new hobbies: you could register at a gym, join a dance, learn how to play a musical instrument you fancy, read books, learn to swim, etc. These hobbies will help build your confidence and take your mind off negative thoughts and inferiority complex.

Building formidable confidence is possible when you are determined to do so and by applying the tips shared in this article. With confidence, you can achieve much more and live a healthy life. Samuel Johnson, the late English writer, aptly sums it up with this powerful quote: self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.

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Marvyx:
I blame you big time OP. Guys would be complaining about ladies but they are also the cause of the nonsense that's happening. Someone told you that she's engaged and yet you agreed to date her and you're even making out with her.

Girls no dy finish so why you dy put hand for another nigga investment? If dem do you like that nko?? Guys make una get small integrity to back off when necessary.

Blaming a lady for being confused is like blaming Buhari for leading this country to the present state. I mean what did you expect from a man who didn't know his VP's name during campaign? Abeg it's too early.

Ginaz:
You’re such a fool , deranged and I spit on you. What the hell is wrong with men of these days? You are married ! You are fuvking married for God’s sake ! What on earth do you want? Is your wife not giving you pusssy? Doesn’t she kiss you? Doesn’t she moan and suck your useless dick enough?

You are a full grown adult and a grown man , ain’t you supposed to put your emotions in order? You want to whoreeee around with a jezebel in a disguise of “attraction and stupid feelings

Ask yourself and please put yourself in your wife’s shoe , if she was the one doing all this with an old flame , would you be happy? Why do you want to make This woman go through emotional trauma? Why did you marry her if you knew you couldn’t get control of yourself or won’t behaved like a grown married man?

Will you die if you delete that jezebel’s number ? Will your useless dick stop functioning if you do away with her? I spit vehemently on your soul and see let me tell you, you will get your karma soon if you don’t leave that bitchhh alone who wants to ruin your marriage and cause emotional trauma for your wife.

That bitch will burn in the hottest part of hell, alongside you. Spit!

orohbiro:
Good day my fellow nairalanders, my sister and this guy has been dating for 4 years now he use to work in a company but lost his job 2yrs ago since then he had been a parasite to my sister coming to our house to eat our food two times a day.

There is this new guy who asked my sister out. He is gentle and he has a good job, he is a Christian he has his own house, we all like him. I have been begging my sister to give him a try because he is ready for marriage unlike the other guy who has no hope of taking good care of my sister rather sucking my sister dry.

My sister seems to love the broke guy more but that guy is not a serious person for 2 good years he can't look for a job not even a menial job. If my sister mistakenly marries the broke guy she will suffer in the marriage because all the responsibility will be on her head. Gidforbid!

Please how do I convince my sister to focus on this other guy that is comfortable? I want the best for my sister.

falcon01:
People die everyday, what's special about hers? May her soul RIP.

Adakintroy:
Weak man.