₦airaland Forum

PigTormentor:
Just imagine the level madness with these fake chosen people
Genocidal terrorist state of Israel is the problem of the world.

One of the greatest lies ever sold to humanity

Validated:
If so, some ladies would have no male guests at their wedding.

Lol na community project be that

Sheuns:
Why should you still be in communication with an ex in the first place?

Exactly. They will come here soon with funny English to explain why

Tenses:
We'll not forget. They chose to stand with the oppressor of the people but when power eventually returns to the people we shall remind them.

Strong

SpaceX:
her colleagues are always asking for funds she should do something about it if she truly cares about them.

Oga rest abeg. Everyone is fighting thier own demons. She owes no one nothing except her immediate family or anyone else she feels like. Why impose anything of such on her. Why can't you help them since you're so moved. This kind entitlement mentality needs to stop

Dpsychologist:
First, the claim that “modern men on Nairaland are redpilled olosho customers trained byb Andrew Tate ” is very weak and pathetic.

Nairaland is not Nigeria. It is not a census. It is a loud, anonymous subset where extreme views rise because outrage gets attention.

If we judged women by the loudest voices on Twitter or TikTok, the conclusions would be just as absurd.

You started your reply that when i say "We" i am turning personal experiences into universal laws

Yet you quickly rushed to do thesame thing you accused me by generalizing on Nairaland men while building your entire argument on internet caricatures.


Yes, change is inevitable. But change does not mean moral confusion. Progress does not mean exemption from accountability. Every healthy social shift in history worked because responsibility was demanded from everyone, not because one side declared permanent innocence.


I am someone who deals with facts so i had to check the Nairaland thread about the vasectomy and “drugging” story you cited. That narrative was over exaggerated by you . You made it look like he was secretly drugging his wife when she was actually taking it with her consent. What he admitted was failure on his part for not getting a vasectomy. The real issue in that post is migration stress, job loss, financial pressure, and a serious reproductive disagreement. That is a struggling marriage, not proof of male oppression or insecurity.

This is different from case where a man secretly drugs his wife and that is criminal abuse, not masculinity. Using an extreme or criminal case to define a whole gender is intellectually lazy.

By that logic, men could define women by stories of baby trapping or paternity fraud. Reasonable adults know monsters exist in every group. Atrocities are not arguments. They are outliers.


The quote “tired of being oppressed by small minded men” is an emotional statement, not a logical one. Oppression is systemic. Disagreement, incompatibility, insecurity, or bad relationships are not oppression. Calling every negative male experience oppression drains the word of meaning and disrespects people who lived under real structural oppression.



Finally, your own statement that “some men are just Gods” quietly collapses your argument. The moment you say “some men,” you admit men are not a monolith. That is the entire point.

No one here is denying that insecure men exist. Or abusive men. Or men threatened by successful women. What is being rejected is the habit of turning personal pain into ideology and anecdotes into universal laws.

If we are serious about progress, we must stop replacing old stereotypes with new ones. Accountability, maturity, and character are individual traits, not gender traits. I refuse to demonize men the same way I refuse to pedestalize them. Adults deserve nuance, not narratives.

A sound mind

I hope she's not someone's wife sha make something no do you

So according to op no wife is satisfied with their husbands after sometime (giving birth)

Going by your theory of she them meets a new exciting partner and leaves you... After a while it's only natural for her to cheat on the new partner who becomes old and expired like you, seek new adventures and thrills and the smae goes on and on till she herself becomes a waste.

You see how flawed and baseless this is? Learn to satisfy your woman. If your own pole no dey satisfy her again look for other ways to compensate for it pre-intimacy, finger, tongue as the case may be. You can even introduce toys and role play. Don't be lazy.. live healthy so the JT will be answering anytime action is needed. No be to pull clothes lay her down like who dey do special prayer for cele, climb straight kpobing no play at all, you're not even concerned about her feelings or anything but just knacking.


Romance and do those things you used to do that made her fall in the first place, go out have fun together, take a break from the normal routine every now and then, steal her away once once to beautiful places, surprise her with gifts too, talk dirty, text naughty, flirt with her while she's away from home so when she's coming she knows what's about to hit her. Beat the cat sometimes like you're stealing OPP, knack her like a pro sometimes, don't be the predictable gentle man all the time that when you touch her she knows exactly all you will do before you enter. Try dey shock am a lot make she dey wonder "what next" instead of knowing your every move on her body. Do things spontaneously. Don't be boring .. Not all women are insatiable. Some just need the dead fire rekindled. Most require your attention and love, care emotional connection is very important and it seems you're is long dead. Make them feel great. It all starts in the mind. I know guys we grew up together with gigantic poles, and long money whose wives still cheated on them. So you really need to know the woman you wifed before coming here to generalize.

True, sex with same partner might be boring but then spicing it up by doing things differently helps. And it's also true women feel like us too wanting to test something different once in a while but if she's grounded and so into you emotionally I doubt she would entertain other men to that level of spreading for them. Get past being physical and connect with her on other levels intimately. Once in a while we crave new things when we get bored with what we have. Maybe she just doesn't love you no more and is past redemption. Make it work. Talk about it but if it's too late then let her go and take her as a lesson for the next. No normal woman can be jumping from pole to pole in a quest to satisfy her desires na lie be that. Except na loose you marry and you nor know

Samantha125:
If my husband was of the same height as him, I don't think I'd have taken him seriously even during heated arguments ...

Anyways, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and the man does look quite handsome.

That's funny

Ketamine9000mg:
Some questions get as them be?
What is special or difficult in buying pad for your woman?

That was how I saw a video online, showing men wearing underwear for their wives that just put to bed and people were praising them like they did something extraordinary.

I tire for this world.

I swear me sef tire for the question

Been crushing on her since I was a kid till tomorrow... Lucky guy

autoez:
Focus on the topic so you don't miss my point. Peace

So what? Everyone of them lie over and over and even you are a big liar too... All the lies our serving president told before becoming number one even to the point of telling people not to vote him in 2nd term should he fail to deliver on his promises, have you said anything about it? has he resigned yet? Make una mind una business and leave the man to enjoy his private life in peace. AI or not wetin concern you

autoez:
Oshiomole should just resign immediately abeg. This is disgraceful. Shame on all the people of Edo North senatorial district.

What exactly is disgraceful about two consenting adults having a good time?

DoctorAyukebot:
So what if it is an actual video. He has a right to a private life of his own...Cho cho cho everywhere...This man sef and fine babes na 5 and 6. I have a feeling this is my life he is living.. 😂

21 years on Nairaland and I made first to comment. I dedicate this to all the cho cho people who are never minding their business. As you cho cho cho on others, so will others cho cho cho on you ten folds

Back in the days as a governor, the talk around some certain circles was the man has the sexual prowess of a beast. So those fine babes no just dey enjoy money for free, dem dey collect wetin no good from baba

Until they start arresting the herbalists who deceive these ignorant boys and sentence them to life in prison or death this matter will not slow down at all. How can you just stop with them ? The herbalist will go on to deceive another gullible fellow. The right thing to do is arrest both the culprit and the one who sent him and that way the menace will be curbed. But the society as usual isn't ready for that because so many of them are involved in one evil traditional fetish or another.

Bahamas95:
Ya, if you see any wealthy person with good character check the person's background. Most of them came from wealthy families. They regard most things as nothing.


But you see those ones from poverty stricken families who later became rich, avoid them.

Lol this is soo correct

Nothing beats a successful woman who still loves, cherishes, adores and respects her man but they are very few.

A lot of women, once they attain a certain level of success will begin to assume they're greater than the man. I had a girl one time who was struggling to get by but when things began to change it was the same me who always encouraged her and even gave her some work ideas that could increase her remunerations, always encouraged her to increase output but when we had a small issue she escalated it, cut me off and even threatened to use the law on me... Lol she constantly threw in the fact that she has more spending power than me. What she didn't know was she came in while I was going through a downward spiral financially and why she felt I was doing okay I was actually drowning but she felt she's known me while in reality what she earns a month i normally rake it in a week. It's women like that who make men generalize that all financially successful/ independent women are a no go. But the truth is a successful woman who knows herself will do a man a lot of good than the opposite. She will complement you in so many ways.

Any woman who uses her success as a weapon against her partner is suffering from poverty and lack mentality of the mind and same goes for men too. I know some friends way back who had privileged positions and offices when I was still working in Abuja. These are people I used to help before but they used my eyes see shege... Today they're not how they used to be. Some say success exposes the true nature of people

Truth is money is Power and power tends to corrupt as absolute power corrupts absolutely.

So in this context the real issue isn't in the success of the woman but the woman herself. There's nothing to be afraid in the success of your woman but everything to celebrate

The worst thing to happen to any parent

Diamond098454:
Hahaha hahaha
Hiiii don't mind me joor
How was your day?

Great and yours?

Diamond098454:
Everyone wants Diamond's attention
Well, been beautiful,sweet and elegant come with a lot of challenges
Both online and offline

Anyways, I really like the attention am getting
Smile smile smile
Diamond

Hehehehe...the entire globe wants your attention. Smile smile smile

Why will I even build a house for a mother in-law to begin with? If the resources are too much I rather be building houses for rent in my children's names. Which nonsense mother in-law? I dey forbid real estate money The man is very s10w

Real OG... That's how you do it

Felimax:
...but good enough for that fellow. Helloooo!
"Ones meat is another one's poison" HELLOOOOO!


What is your definition of good?

You know what? I take it back. You are absolutely correct.
As for your question... I would say my definition of good might not be the next man's It's why I operate on live and let's live. So long as whomever settles with her is truly happy then she's good

The bold sums it all up

Happiness is a state of mind.
Money is material
Lack of money limits you in so many ways
Having enough money empowers you too in so many ways
Abundance of it can make you happy too in so many ways.
While lack of it can also make you sad in some ways sometimes
Point is, with or without money you can still be happy.
It all depends on how you perceive life and what you want out of it,
Your mind state
The choice is yours
To be, or not to be

Let tools be tools... Life will become clearer and more beautiful guys. Stop trying to change a public property to a private one. If she wants wtv let her have it. Just know what you want for yourself and get it. Everyone got to be free to live this life. I don't judge anymore. When it's all said and done everything and everyone will be in their level with their kind. Stop creating such topics cos they won't ever change because of this here. Let them celebrate the tools of their trade

When you really understand how the world works, you bother less. Just play your part and leave

Kanwulia:
I tried.
The tin tooooo sweeeeeeeeeeet abegggi.
I did not plan it o.
Till I went to see this dude in his hotel room just for a 'brief visit' at 11PM at night when hormones were raging.

I never knew I could be turned on like crazzzy till I allowed this man to press my 'frontal areas'!
When he put his fingers inside my dross. . . I knew I had entered 'one chance'.
Then we come drink BIG STOUT join. . . .I was seeing stars for sure.
Felt sooooooo goooood!!! No regrets!

Just thinking about it is making me soooooooo. . . .

This guy was hot!!!!! My first time of meeting him in person.

Chaiii! I knew you wouldn't be able to... So long as it makes you feel good... But going to his hotel room at that hour of the day abi night tells me you wanted to do it too and he must have had you mind4kd for a while so everything was already in motion. Enjoy the sweetness responsibly

Kanwulia:
It was verrrrrrrrrrrrrry sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet oooooooooooooooooooh!
Especially if you are bored in your marriage.
I do online dating about every 10 years to spice my stale marriage up!

The best one was last November 2025.
OMO! The dude had 'magical fingers'!

I don't understand this fetish with 'UK guys'!

Lol this woman still active on here... Btw I thought you said you have stopped with the escapades some years ago

Felimax:
I beg make una leave women alone!
It's enough already I beg. Everyday women this, women that!

Everybody is now becoming a relationship counselor now. If you cannot get a good woman check yourself and your choices. The woman that is not good to you will have her fingers ringed by another man.

Almost all my exes got married before me.
Bottom line is a lot of people don't even know what they want.

That she was married by someone doesn't make her good.

Wealthyonos:
The girl will likely suffer. Look at the guy's face and you will know that evil plans are running through his mind

I swear no good plan dey that guy mind