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Mariangeles:
Why do guys still keep contacts of ladies they've been with?

Is it like a possession thing?

Lol possession ke? I hardly block or delete people. Highest I archive the person but it doesn't mean I want anything with them but this one I had to. Not for her sakes or mine though but you won't understand sha

kpankpangolo:
Call her and ask her why she kept coming back. When she details everything, update this thread. It will be the better option over asking strangers to guess why a human with her own free will performed xyz.

No need for that bro. Haven't talked to her in over 2 years since she blocked my ass on every platform only to recently unblock me cos I suddenly discovered I could see her status posts. I don't know what to say to her anymore cos na she vex bock me for years, I no pursue her, even though I know I fuckedup but she claimed to have forgiven me so why the block and threat with her family even involved. Make I no talk too much cos she might even be seeing this as she used to be here and is most likely viewing anonymously. Make I respect myself but she wound me sha

The post isn't about her btw. It's about women in general, going back to men who left strong imprints in them even while they are with someone else

kpankpangolo:
Do you still have her number?

Yeah

kpankpangolo:
There were three actually:

1. Your “amu.”

2. You always had her time. You accepting her always made her feel chosen even at her lowest points.

3. The other guy likely had break periods. You filled those points, making her never feel lonely.

Why women choose males instead of their peers for the third option is the part I will never understand. There are women everywhere, yet they will pick male friends ten times out of ten.

Lol...I get your points but I never had her time or made her feel special at all it's part of the reasons we got separated in the first place. She would always remind me how very unromantic I am and she knew also there were other girls. One almost fought with her and I had to apply wisdom and she has also seen some other female panties and shoes in my wardrobe. You know some girls like to drop little things when they come visiting. Thinking about it right now, she really took a lot of bs from me sha but na she still be the only girl when do me strong thing wey I never still fit recover from till date

Kobojunkie:
Men do the same; so why would you think women can't do it? Even virgin women do it since the libido does not develop the first time a person has sex. The same way a man can tell whether the sex was good or not, is the same way a woman can tell whether or not the sex was good, and also compare it to previous orgasmic experiences. 🥱🥱

Okay

lovediehatelive:
Here we go, network on allowed me to reach 25 characters needed

Now I know why some say it's cashew cos yours looks like cashew without the nut. See wetin I think say you dey talk about from your first post.
The pic below is the actual bell apple I know but your own picture is actually cashew or something else

monabass:
A lot of people eat cashew nuts but do not know the fruit.
Hope you didn’t stand straight while eating it?

I think you're right to call it cashew cos the native/ bell apple I know is different from the op's picture

lovediehatelive:
Same here o

Some are saying apple but does apple grow in Nigeria

It's a kind of apple not the regular ones. Grows every where

Leepeak:
Paying bride price pays for a marriage contract, not a guaranteed monopoly over a human mind's memories. The irony is, an experienced person who chooses to settle down with you is choosing you out of all their options. An inexperienced person isn't 'uncorrupted'—they just haven't hit their testing phase yet. Marriage isn't an Olympic trial; if you view intimacy as a competition, you've already lost the point of the relationship."

"Would you rather be chosen by someone who knows what’s out there and still wants you, or someone who is only with you because they don't have a baseline?"
"Comparing a lifelong marriage to an 'Olympic event' just tells on yourself. Experience brings maturity; insecurity turns intimacy into a scoreboard. If you're confident in who you are and how you treat your wife, you won't be running races against ghosts from her past."

Lol this is bollocks. You must be feminist in disguise.

kpankpangolo:
You were a Love Machine with money for her. That you kept indulging her meant your self esteem was low.

Which money? Serious owu dey blow me then. It's why I said I couldn't find any reason she was always coming back

pocohantas:
Very true. Na why me sef marry virgin and innocent man. I am really enjoying him and totally recommend.

Lol

lordm:
Yet the average Nigerian doesn't see how blessed our country is

They rather chase magic money and Yahoo+ while overlooking this true wealth opportunity that will span into generations long after they're gone if managed properly

I know their type. Fake lifestyle, God forbid. So many guys in this Lagos not just girls alone. Some have sold their souls to marry girls from wealthy homes and then be forming boss outside or when we're at our hometown on holidays, while swallowing so many insults and bs they normally will never tolerate and forming hot aza men. When I hear people hyping them I just laugh inwardly but never tell... All na hustle sha. And this girl go don pressure some other shallow girls to go do BBL say na wetin dey attract rich man or worse still go meet one false prophet and baba to fortify them 😂

No face no body no character, who wants to spend on a liability without any value sef. Even girls when fine dey feel the heat come be this one 🤣🤣🤣
If I no get wetin I wan use money do I go give my malam friend make him use start goat farm for me. Nonsense, old and wrinkled punna

JovialJune:
Way ray just want to trend, the fact that Nigerian women are mostly the ones filing for divorce, and the court granting their requests should tell you that 99% of faults are men.

Very simple common sense .

How is that even common sense. The one who files for divorce is the one who wants out of the marriage and there's so many reasons a Nigerian woman would want out of a marriage and all doesn't bother on direct intentional faults of the man, there's also issues of extramarital affairs or greed on the part of the partner who files for it. This syndrome of I can do better now which envelops most Nigerian women when they start making some small change or financial upgrade and then feel they can no longer become submissive to the man as he's no longer needed for anything since they were mostly there in the union for what they can get, only to discover the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Your argument holds no water and is very far from common sense, the person who files is merely the petitioner, not the innocent party .

This belief that courts grant Nigerian women divorces because men are always at fault is a myopic misconception.

Most modern legal systems rely primarily on no fault divorce, Irretrievable breakdown, like when the court grants the divorce simply because the marriage is broken beyond repair, no fault required as in neither partner needs to prove the other did something wrong and then mutual separation, like when partners have been living apart for a specific period is often the only proof required.

Akir2025:
Just like your Children own would not Last ..Bitter and Negative Soul

Be careful what you wish little children, even if you have no plans of birthing any don't wish evil on others. The universe has a way of paying back in kind. Why not face the poster than his kids and you call another person negative lol hypocrisy at it's peak 😁🤣

Who is Kam Debbie? I thought she was the old moniker Debbie Makky abi what's her name. That GH girl that year

Lol I done laugh taya 😁😆😆

Ii

lindqvistbergst:
"Yes there's some poor families who see marrying off their daughters as a means to ending their poverty and this isn't a general issue like you love to paint it. You just so happen to fall into one of them or maybe someone you know...So top whining and spamming every thread with your boring tales that doesn't count for nothing."

Thanks me old china. You just admitted its a sale. Most of the population is below the poverty line. And not once did I say all. Except in 1 topic about dating sites in Nigeria. 😁

I know I promised to not engage you again but even if there's poor people "living below poverty line", some still have dignity. Not all poor families are kin on selling off their daughters. You are the most narrow minded individual I have ever come across anywhere on and offline.

lindqvistbergst:
No. You are not. Africans do not behave the same as Nigerians. Even other Africans are fed up with it.

A single mother before marriage is not traditional.
A woman that sold sex is not traditional.
A woman that went from relationship to relationship before marriage is not traditional.
The sexual assault and child molestation epidemic here is not traditional .
Go read the anthropological records. Go to universities in your own country and hear own academics say its not tradition. Even your own government made laws to stop you doing it that you just ignore and one more example. Even the tiv king directly says its not tradition. Even igbo kings directly say its greed from the kinsmen and extended family. Then there is prostration in yoruba. It was never public humiliation! It was done once and the father immediately lifted the man and hugged him there was no pointing and screaming beg harder. It was all a transaction for virginity and lineage guarantee without that all the family was given were half boiled yams and worse.

You do not even know your own history and its strange that a white man has to tell you because you are too lazy to research it and parrot what you were told as kids.
Lie to yourself all want. It just proves no humility and no respect for yourselves or anyone else.

Ahh I see. You unintelligently avoided and refused to acknowledge the exposure of your fake claims and lies about just marry a girl without the consent of her family or has the family suddenly become important in the set-up? Lol I know your type. Throw in bogus claims and deviate from the original argument 🤣🤣🤣
When did I mention those were traditional. You're either slow or just mischievous and deliberately mentioning what I didn't to make the argument senseless and extensive which I don't have the time for. I argue intelligently to reveal and learn also and never to prove an senseless points like you're obviously trying to do here. So save it for your kind as I will not entertain your bs here anymore.
And since you're obviously too ignorant to know that:

A single mother before marriage is obtainable the world over
A woman that sold sex is obtainable the world over
A woman that went from relationship to relationship before marriage is obtainable the world over.
The sexual assault and child molestation is obtainable the world over?

I will gladly decline any further arguments with youas it's now obvious that your intent is to insult and downplay the Nigerian traditional system without a single knowledge of it. Because if you're even arguing that those situations are or are not tradition then something is wrong with your reasoning. As everyone who is fully informed about current ideas, knows that these things are even more prevalent in western cultures than here in Nigeria. So you should learn before coming online to make a mockery of yourself while avoiding the important points and initial arguments instead of trying to create more baseless arguments to extend the thread. You can go back from wherever you came from and never mention me again as it's now obvious you're not okay

lindqvistbergst:
I was not implying it.
I was not being coy about it.
Its exactly what I said and I said it from port Harcourt in your country.

And Nigerian women do not bill us before a first date. When we ask them out they want to make a good impression on the European. And you do buy relationships here. Literally. You even buy marriages from families that legally have no business selling them. Legally speaking you can just take the woman and marry her not even meeting the family thats my entire point . Families have NO LEGAL RIGHTS OVER ADULTS. You can vote and shag before marriage so why on earth do you believe that suddenly at marriage time that its a legal requirement to buy permission from a family. The only people that have rights are 2 in the relationship. You have successfully monetised entire relationships in every form.
Walk into any city or town or village and you constantly hear the local men offering cash for some gash.

Women billing men isn't restricted to Nigeria alone except you love to lie to yourself and it's not a general thing as there are crooked women so are there crooked men, this depends on who you meet and who's asking or initiating the date or whatever you want to call it.
Same way you have simps the world over and unwise men who buy relationships too.

As for the bold we Africans a deeply rooted in culture and traditions and we value these respectfully unlike where you come from where you can just marry a girl without the consent of her family or even having the dignity to know the family you're marrying into. And apart from Africa other countries and cultures do that too, except of course yours (wherever that is) you can just marry her anywhere anytime and start raising kids and starting a family together without the parents or her family being aware. It must be something. You probably also don't respect family ties and are definitely not closely knit according to your submission. Animals in the wild even recognize family talk more a superior human being, supposedly higher than wild animals. And again monetization of relationships isn't akin to Nigerians or Africans alone you are either living in self deceit or you must be on some cave. It's everywhere all over social media, entertainment, news and what not from women who make divorce big businesses to those who onydate men that can bankroll their lifestyle.

Yes there's some poor families who see marrying off their daughters as a means to ending their poverty and this isn't a general issue like you love to paint it. You just so happen to fall into one of them or maybe someone you know...So top whining and spamming every thread with your boring tales that doesn't count for nothing.

Diamond098454:
You are very funny

And correct right

Diamond098454:
Hahaha hahaha hahaha
I'm talking about Ex oooooo not the other side

Hmmmmm... Diamond! I know you must have eaten the forbidden fruit already. So if you don't have an ex it means he's your current one. It's alright

Diamond098454:
Kiddas
Yes oooooo
Can you what? Kiddas..........

Wow, For real? I just want to confirm it nothing else

Diamond098454:
I don't have an EX .

As in you have never had? Can I

When men ask for virgins, this is why, no matter how good you're as a man, some women will always compare you at every angle with another man, now Imagine if her body counts is over 20, you are competing in an Olympic every time you morgrimor your own wife you paid bride price for

I used to have an ex back then. It was an off an on relationship. And every time she would find a way to come back to me even after claiming I never treated her like she wanted but according to her it was the sex and every time she had it with her current boyfriend, she would subconsciously compare and then start craving what she once had, which led her straight back to me. I honestly thought it was all lies from her just to be with me for wtv reasons but I couldn't think of any other and I still think it's bs though but this here and some from other people's confessions

Joyfulgal:
He who hides nothing, has nothing to fear. Trust is important

And she who goes about finding evidence, will eventually get hurt

Many people won't understand the message from this OP until em finally sup. Hmm

Afrobasic:
Nigeria lost $200 billion dollars abi na my eye dey pain me?

Yes na your eyes dey pain you make you buy glasses put

Haa God... Na wah for that woman