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osazsky:
I tire for nowadays children..the op may not even have a steady job...and u want the girl to remain...he should marry her if he is man enough...kids way never do introduction feel say to marry Na beans

Demigod22:
My girlfriend came around last Friday and stayed till Saturday. I went through her phone with her permission, of course. I didn't see anything serious. Out of curiosity I checked her chats with her sister's fiance, I saw some uncomfortable messages he sent to her. He sent messages like WHEN LAST DID YOU KISS? HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE? SEND ME YOUR PICTURES, SEND ME VOICE NOTE, CAN I BE YOUR VAL OR I KILL MYSELF.

This man is in his early 50s and my girlfriend is turning 22 next month. He is even a divorcee, he come to their house and everyone respects him.

From their chats, my girlfriend didn't encourage anything, but the only issue I have with her was when I asked her why didn't she tell me the man was hitting on her? She said she thinks IT'S NOT IMPORTANT. And I asked if she knew what the man is driving at, she said SHE DOESN'T KNOW.

I told her that since she has the power to decide what's important and not, she can handle her affairs, and her elder sister would be very proud of her when she eventually finds the chats. She has been trying to be extra nice and downplay the whole situation but I just told her life no hard. Let's just catch cruise.

This man is telling her that she should be a good girl for him and he will spoil her, when he returns to Nigeria, he will take her out more often. The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

Gracefulman:
My candid advice to ladies, include striping and seeing your partner joystick as a condition to deep commitment in the relationship. Ask him to stripe before you in private for assessment. If he refused, take your decision.

anonimi:
Hi kiddazz, isn't it time you changed your moniker to blissful ignorance

anonimi:
Hi kiddazz, isn't it time you changed your moniker to blissful ignorance

georgeakins:
You cry cry never start.
Come January 2027 after the inglorious defeat of your dumb candidate, you go wail in perpetuity

georgeakins:
What of your SE leaders that have been looting your destiny right from independence? That's why the land is underdeveloped

Shadowpyper:
My girlfriend visited me yesterday and while we were talking she mentioned something that later started bothering me. She said, “I posted my boyfriend’s picture on my status and people were complimenting how cute he is.” At that moment I didn’t say anything about it.

Later that night while I was still working, she was already asleep. What she said earlier came back to my mind, so I decided to check her WhatsApp status from my phone. When I checked, I didn’t see anything. I refreshed it a few times thinking it might be a network issue, but there was still nothing there.

I picked her phone and tried to unlock it so I could see the status myself, but I couldn’t. While I was trying, she woke up and asked what I was doing with her phone. I told her I was checking something, and she immediately collected the phone from me.

The next morning she asked again why I was trying to access her phone the previous night. I told her I was trying to see the picture she said she posted because I couldn’t see it on my own phone. She then showed me the status. It was a picture of herself and an AI-generated image of a man, and she captioned it as her boyfriend.

Personally, I don’t understand why she keeps posting it and making it seem like it’s her boyfriend’s picture. The man in the picture doesn’t even resemble me in any way. I’m dark-skinned, while the image shows a fair-skinned man.

I also asked her why she blocked me from viewing her status. She said it was because I once scolded her about the memes she posts. But honestly, I didn’t scold her. I only asked why she likes posting those kinds of memes. Sometimes she posts things that make it look like she hasn’t eaten for days , and I simply told her I didn’t like that.

I don't know if I'm overreacting by being concerned about it

Samantha125:
Nope, I'm not wise enough... I'm still very childish and immatured

Samantha125:
Unfortunately for you, I don't accept DMs.

What does a man old enough to be my father wants to talk about in private?🤔🤔🤔

You know, I was still a primary School pupil by the time you joined nairaland

SixSeven:
A woman has an unfair advantage over men. That's just how it is. Men need to grind and work hard and protect what they ground. That's how it is. The world will pity women and children first before men. That's unfortunately how the world is and women think it's a lie until they wear men's shoes and see how lonely the other side is. So what they think is entitlement or men's patriarchy or whatever they call it is survival of the fittest in a jungle world.

Men will continue to be seduced by beauty but great men will control their third leg from thinking for them. A man will work so hard to spend money on women.

Young man, the world doesn't care about you. Always work on yourself.

Tekashi89:
so you mean I should go on with single mothers somebody else's left over

Samantha125:
Come stay over so that he or she can keep reminding the lady of how she's not his or her mother whenever she tries to reprimand him or her?

The child will still be entitled to inherit what she'd have built together with you... And it's no secret that some of you guys would be using the children as an excuse to be still sleeping with your baby mamas.

What's so difficult in settling down with a single mother as a single father?🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

Samantha125:
So all of a sudden not all women are the same when they're childless, but get painted with the same brush the moment they become single mothers? Okay...

No childless woman wants to raise her husband's children from his previous relationships, but go ahead and keep consoling yourself...

Malagans:
It's well bro

Samantha125:
Those traditional laws are inadmissible in the court of law, so they'd be useless in this case.

I just don't see why you saw the need to reason with me for stating my preference from a woman's perspective when you didn't seem to be triggered by the op's preferences.

This is not about you, but about your children... Do those young girls that you're consoling yourself with love your children or just using you for their own selfish gain?

Because if we're to be honest, no childless woman wants to raise another woman's child or children from her husband's previous relationships unless if she's infertile and desperate ... We women are selfish in nature.

Samantha125:
You're not answering my question, are these laws that you're talking about written and recognised by your country's constitution?

It's like you're a member of the Single Fathers Association ...😂😂😂

Tenrack:
how can I reach you bro? Got an email?

Tenrack:
lol I am not even trying to get money from them

Tekashi89:
Hey guys, my dating life sulks, I haven't been really lucky with girls ever since my secondary School days. Since I was born I've only dated two girls and that was way back in 2016 and last year in 2025.
I tend to attract more guys, single mothers or older women (very old women tend to like me)
I don't know what's it with me that tends to push away younger girls (note I'm 180cm 60kg) light skin most people say I'm handsome. But I don't know why I can't attract young single girls.
Where ever I go I tend to attract only single mothers and when a young girl even start getting attracted to me I'll later discover that she acts that way to every other guy around so there's nothing special about me.
I'm thinking of going spiritual but I just thought I should post it here first.
So guys I need your advice on this issue pls

Samantha125:
Still, all single parents should get married amongst themselves, whether the father is an absentee or not, he should get married to a single mother as his child or children from his previous relationships will still be eligible to claim part of his assets upon his demise, I've seen this happening many times before.

At bolded, is this law that you're referring to recognised by your country's constitution? Because remember that unwritten laws are deemed as null and void within the court of law.

Samantha125:
He or she will be entitled to inherit an equal share as the rest of the legitimate children... If it was possible, single parents should only be getting married amongst themselves, but unfortunately, we can't control matters of the heart.

Malagans:
If u see us, show us some love 🙏