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emperor4love:
another confused specimen, should Virginity qualify a good entity with morals, ur sister relative, how many are virgins plus u yourself, people change u liv with that, girls most of u guys disvirgin nd dump who gone marry them,you should hv not hv sin since u an adult who has knw right nd wrong, cos as we are humans we experience nd amend nd evolve that's what set aside in animal kingdom, this are mistakes, most were deceive by follow guys at end regret there out of loosing there virginity, how about guys who ain't a virgin and you as well are you a virgin? We should stop judging people base on there past which is not fair to do stop, even decide to marry ur 7 virgin or whatever is left fr u nd is ur opinion, than forcing people, people change nd so be it ,we let go as long the are new beings, be it virgin or not, the most important is having who love you and bring peace to you

You are a big 400001 because he already cleared all that and you came asking same question on repeat. Were you there when those girls were deceived? Or you are now the kpekus recorder?

Men shouldn't judge women by their past but every woman should judge men by their future abi

Sounds like a fake story though but any family that the father is not respected for any reason guy no enter cos your bride has been trained by that woman to see and treat men that way. Your own go worse. What you see in the mother is always in the daughter, there's no escaping it.

You go dey lick community plate, wetin you expect. No virgin no chopping. And she must first soak herself for special bath water. Those days are gone when we dey risk nonsense for these useless, scheming, pole hunting people

Firefire:
Excellent thought. Hopefully we get it right this time.

Hope of the hopeless in a situation where hopelessness is consistent

spiceadole:
Well he accepted the arrangement,married me within 8 months and didn't marry the somebody.


Also,congratulations to him ,his somebody and his side chicks.

The best relationship remains where there is no sex and no spending

But greed and lust won't allow people practise it.

Ladies allow themselves to be messed up because of their greed for material things while guys spend their fortune to satisfy their lustful desires.
Good for them.

As for me,I am a proud boring wife with 3 children.

I'm not even arguing about that. It's the sad situation of no celebrating your husband once in a while with little gifts while he does it for you on occasions. It's just so sad.

It's not a matter of being a wife with kids , it's a matter of being selfishly self-centred. Start listening to his own complaints at least. Stop being rigid, you will not die if you gift him things once in a while. Try to care about his own happiness too .

And you the best relationship is loving someone who loves you back without inhibitors and conditions as you do them.

Deciding to not spend on eachother and not get sexual are choices you both can agree on but nothing beats mutual love and respect... These are obviously lacking in your marriage according to your contributions here. No wonder most men die before their time. The man even dey complain but you no send.

muyico:
Husband and wife it involved equal right
But spiritual realms no equal right

Read what you typed if it makes sense to you. There's no equality between a man and his wife. Erase that Western bs out of your mind. The spiritual controls the physical. Spiritual, cosmic, or higher-plane laws correspond to physical, earthly, or lower-plane realities. This means that everything is interconnected and balanced.

spiceadole:
When I was single, I guided my money so much that I would tell myself "Instead of a man to eat my money, let me rot in jail". ..and I don't collect money or gifts from men.Its never free.



I remember when I was dating my now husband, on my birthday, he called and texted me. no money , no gifts...as he had only agreed on my "no sex before marriage" principle on the condition that he wouldn't spend on me which I agreed .I was working and earning fairly okay .
I wasn't greedy or living above my means.


Few months later, it was his birthday.. I had a good amount of money in my savings. So I went to a boutique and started shopping for him.
Along the line, my sense returned.
I dropped the items I was buying for him.. and instead shopped for my siblings. Afterall, it was few days to Christmas.

On his birthday, I also called and texted him.
We got married 3 months later..
He started gifting me after we got married because he had started sleeping with me but I still find it impossible to give him anything which he low-key complains about it.

I don't acknowledge his birthday, valentine's Day or our anniversary with any gifts.

Somebody else is doing for him what you're not willing to. He can't be that steeewwpd to accept such arrangements. You will be expecting gifts from me without reciprocating? You go chop wall
And you sound like a really boring wife. No doubt he must have a side chick or two else he won't last long

Christian36:
My brother, I really need help I will be 41 this coming December. This pattern started since I was 35

Maybe you're trying too hard. Shebi they give you their contacts willingly. So it means they're also attracted to you too.

Change the pattern you're using as follow up. Don't be too hard on yourself or expect much from them as it can feel like you're putting them under pressure so they bail.

I'm just saying you should forget about your age and, stop being desperate to marry, learn to appreciate the ones who show interest without seeing every lady you meet as a potential wife. It's strenuous for both of you and then they will want out. Just let things flow and enjoy the moment. The one that is yours will come. No be by force or desperation

eepeepook:
Why not mix both? If one works and the other works, mixing the two will provide excellent results.

Lol na una kidneys and liver I just dey pity sha. You want to satisfy an overused girl abi

sparko1:
One thing lead to the other, but she couldn't send delivery, or send it via proxy

And why exactly is she inviting her ex in the first place.

Some men are 400ls they believe whatever their women say to them that's what's causing a lot of these nonsense. Once you spot that 304 tendency, don't negotiate or try to change her. Do the needful cos if not she would always come up with stories to create the environment to do things she's not supposed to be doing

I bet 99.9% don't even know what or why they're protesting and chanting "death to America" they're just doing what they're told to do for free meals. All the killings in the north end Kwara they have not protested is this one? Even Iranians are celebrating and these unknown people are protesting 🤣

Kwara state lol 😂

Lol

fuckingAyaya:
Man pass man no be child's na tell bulaba to condemn the killing I wan check something

You no like bulaba at all

Infolenka:
Why does every half caste person born from a mixture of white and black parents ALWAYS resemble a typical igbo person ? This is especially true among the female half castes who are almost indistinguishable from light skin Igbo women.

I think during the slave trade period a lot of white settlers slept with lots of Igbo women and this is the origin of all these light skin beautiful Igbo women that look exactly like half caste women.

There's no doubt you're an illiterate, at best an educated one. Where/ what is the meaning in/of all you wrote up there?

You think So the white slave masters sept with every igbo woman and then that altered the original genes Omor NL needs to be banned abeg see reasoning of a grown adult

While the entire world is suddenly retracing everything back to Africa and the black race, the op and his likes are still trying to feel superior by claiming Caucasian ancestry that is even dense in its entirety. So people still worship white skin in 2026... Omor jungle fever is real

Jman06:
Reading through this epistle, several clues gave it out as a fake story but many nairalanders who responded earlier didn't even notice that it's a made up story.

You escorted your wife to the airport and saw her take off alone yet you said she confessed to traveling to Ghana with a lover!

When you claimed you called her friend, the tone you said her friend responded to you is not typical of a friend. If this story was true, I'm sure that immediately you called the friend and started asking about the wedding, a typical Nigerian friend would decode that something was amiss and tried to play along to cover up for her friend.

Etc

You're wrong. She can fly to another state to meet her lover before heading out to GH.

Secondly not everyone is good at lying or covering up without any pre information. Fiction or not, similar things happen regularly

She's been cheating on you before you even confessed. Na you be the good person for the marriage. Lol

QuinQQ:
A person cannot change from good guy to bad guy for any reasonable length of time, just as you can't change your nature. "Good guys" are not good by choice. That's who they are and any change is temporary and would be uncomfortable and fake!

💯

I no understand. Arrested for aiding and abetting kidnapping, money rituals, and other related offences.. Why dem wan release am at all This country sha, just know people that's all

She must have been doing something very terrible and the man could no longer endure it anymore. Go and adjust your ways madam and draw closer to God or the experience will be on steady repeat even to the next generation if you eventually find ways to have kids. So break it now and wipe those tears

Mirasteel:
God! I hope they don't kill him. may God protect him and bring him home safely .

Forget those prayers. He's probably dead meat already

More reasons I will never resume church again. These people are just playing games with the gullible. Later one person will come here to mention the structure of RCCG. A blind structure that gave such a person the title of a Pastor lol... Every religion is a scam and man made bs to control the minds of others. Whatever she says has no weight because the US already have all the first hand information they need.

This is just sad. Some people are really mad but just moving like they are okay. She probably has unfinished business with the ex, was still entertaining him and didn't create clear enough boundaries. Na so one girl I used to like sha. She has just one issue. One guy is always around her 24/7 and when I asked her who he is, she opened up and told me the truth. The guy has been asking her out but she doesn't like him. She was the one who literally shot her shot on me so if she's lying that's her problem. But on a second thought as a G when me be, I asked myself something has to be giving this guy confidence to be around her shop 24/7. Either he is bankrolling something now or before but there must be something she's benefitting from him otherwise she go done fade am.

I then tried humiliations on the guy. I would come to her shop. and meet them both, she greets me warmly and I just tell her to follow me I'm taking her out, She would do exactly as I say, not once or twice even last year valentine, I did it and she excitedly jumped on me while the other guy was just there, She closed her shop he had to leave and we went out till midnight. Still this man no dey give up na there I come know say she's not telling me the truth 100%, because if as a man girl say no and you are still there, she still entertains him, then something is going on codedly. I told her all this, gave her time to put her sh111t together and when it wasn't improving I left them both. Now s's been mad at me.

He can't have her and doesn't want her to have anyone else it's guys like this that takes things too far. I no fit die for woman or make woman come die cos of me, I can't. I hate girls who don't know how to define and create clear boundaries. See how her day of joy turned to mourning. And for those stupid guys who think it's right pressuring women into dating or staying with you by fire by force, may your sisters, wives and mothers face the same thing.

Chai... This one strong, very strong

Superpack589:
This entire report is deceitful, as it leans more toward the side that the rape allegation is false. Lazy Nigerians who fail to read will now jump to conclusions after skimming the headline, further spreading the unverified claim that the rape allegation is false. This type of reporting downplays the gravity of the situation and encourages more men to commit such crimes, knowing well that most people will dismiss it as false even if the victim reports. This is one of the symptoms of a decaying society.

There is no victim here. You are the one who needs to read up.. Sheesh, this NL no dey make me use foul lingua on those who deserve it

https://thenationonlineng.net/controversy-dogs-rape-claims-by-tik-tok-user-mirabel/

Even though I can't trust the woman, I can't trust our politicians either. She should bring evidence first

epainos:
As Naija, if you no sabi pidgin....omoh eh....chai. And to think that I couldn't speak it some year back, not to talk of writing in pidgin is wow to me now. I deliberately started writing mainly in pidgin around 7 years ago...and today...I am so fluent. Omoh eh! The language sweet die.

Lol.. em sweet die
Some people really can't speak fluent pidgin it's understandable but you see some, mostly girls like to form for nothing. I just laugh when I see them. I have been speaking and writing pidgin since I can't remember. Even though I literally went to the best schools in my state as a kid but if you need pure English I go still deliver 100% with a special follow come accent sef The only thing I can't speak fluently is Esan my real language and I'm learning though cos it's embarrassing. Sometimes when I'm in the midst of my tribal men in Lagos and they are all speaking in our native dialect while I respond with English. I hear very well but na only speaking dey hard me. Na my parents fault cos they were speaking English to communicate with me instead of the language

LibertyRep:
Thienry, Arsenal legend as Scott always introduce him.

Henry is more attached to Arsenal than Barcelona, why?

That's where the love is bro and it will always be home. That's how life is too. Think about it

I just dey boil right now! Can you just imagine this bul@#$%p!!!... Releasing her to women affairs' ministry for what reason Do we have a men affairs ministry talk more of when the culprit is a man will he be handled like this Shebi una dey see how this country is going Next thing they will come up with some crooked ways to exonerate her of the crime

Ordinary consensual sex that a lady became pregnant the other day them use slap oppress the guy throw inside cell for not committing any crime. If we don't have a ministry that handles the welfare of men in this country then this govt is a joke, our judicial system is a mess and everything in-between in nothing.

Men are being sidelined daily, manipulated and humiliated by those we are supposed to protect and even the laws that's supposed to protect us. We have no protection and are being treated like wild beasts but the woman is handled and given undeserved privileges on every sphere of life. Very soon our basic rights as men will be compromised. Em done already start sef.

This is nonsense! Treat a criminal like a criminal irrespective of gender period!