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The only time I allow such from a lady is the first time and if the energy doesn't match, I don't call. You will know as a lady that the sex wasn't all that cos you will be the one wanting it from me and I honestly wouldn't miss it if you don't give it. I have met a few who are into it and don't hide it. I believe it has a lot to do with our culture as Nigerians too. When some ladies express themselves sexually they get shamed, trashed as spoilt or something of the sort. The only sex I can't do without is with a female version of me, a real freak. Sex is just what it is and should be treated as such, sex. Not a formal business meeting. Truthfully most ladies know nothing because if they know it's something they should participate in and enjoy to the fullest while they can they wouldn't be holding back pretending. I can't even be fully erect for a lady that's not really into it. If I manage first time just avoid me or I might do it if there's no option closer and konji is holding me ransom. Another type is those who say you're not romantic but they have no single iota of romance in them. You want what you can't give. And when we replace them they call us all sorts of names. Many Nigerian bannies and their one sided thinking sha

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What in God's name are you saying ?

She's not making any sense. Any woman that has issues with DNA testing or calls it mistrust or trust issues on the husband has dirty they're hiding because it obviously has nothing to do with trust but more of clarity. That she was even comparing it to lipstick on the face of a husband shows she's doing everything to avoid the truth

Sterope:
B always come before A in you people's book.

If you trust your wife, why would you want to conduct a DNA test!

Keep quiet there... Na them be this. Abusing the word "trust"

Gbolahan111:
Sorry for your loss bro.

A friend introduced me to Future trading last year. I lost over $2k. The sad part was while I was losing, this bros kept sending screenshots of his profits. He has over $30k, so it’s easy for him to make profits.

Spot spot spot

Rip. Seems like 84 is the age to go, same as the great Collin Powell. How time flies

By marrying a woman with principles and boundaries. Kids learn faster by example. What they see constantly molds them, and then you teach them the truths about life as they grow

Haahahahahahahaha... this false prophet with his fake miracles in his fake church. Now God uses a mobile phone? If the congregation can't stone him to kpai then they are far gone than himself. A certified crazy

datola:
Oh, so the Russian man is HIV positive!

Yeah and some of those ignorant husbands will now get infected. Imagine the explosion... I remember some rich HIV+ guys used to do this way back then in AbJ. Men and women still do this evil and then the cheating partner who thinks he or she is smart is ignorant of the fact that they are now carriers of the virus only to keep spreading to their legit partners and fck mates

They just killed him like a chicken. They should be caught by now though

Well... I just thank God for my penis 🙏🏾

Clairvoyancy:
Empty barrel.... I will willingly give you my location.... Me troll you? Lol.... I had to force myself to reply your shenanigans....

Funny enough how people like you can't express yourself without including insults, and when you are met with the same energy you dished out, you pick offenses... You had better don't mess with the wrong person if you love yourself....


Kids everywhere!

Okay lord king Kong, I hear you...

Clairvoyancy:
Rest bro, my comments aren't for boys.... Allow men engage me.... I'm sure you have married uncles, show them my comments let them teach you from experience ok....

Lol... It's so funny how you kids brag about your ages. You have no experience and going by your comments you are obviously still a boy at most in your late 20's / early 30's. Na NL dey give una wings like this na why but don't think you are completely anonymous. No let my hand reach you where you dey. Better ask somebody, real life isn't online trolling boy

pocohantas:
Good for you, but I will leave immediately.
It is not my body you will release strange demons and diseases into. There are women like you that don't mind, hopefully cheating men can find your type and marry you all.

Just make sure he's always protected physically and spiritually datzzoll

franchasofficia:
I said it on the other thread.

A worthy man or a great husband is not determined by his sexual conduct alone. Any lady that rates a man based on his sexual weakness alone will definitely end up with horrible men.






The only perceived wrongdoing I know many good and wonderful married men commit against their wives is "having extramarital affairs" or keeping mistresses outside their marriage, and why I don't usually see this as a big deal is because that is how every sexually active man was created from birth; to want to explore or mate with other women he finds attractive, it's a natural deficiency in all sexually active men.


The few sexually active men (if any exist) that stay sexually faithful to one partner till death are those that did it out of extreme commitment to religious doctrines and those that lacked the privilege, the opportunities and financial capacity to explore.



So long as a man respects his wife, treats her well, takes very good care of her and the kids, takes full responsibility of the family and dependents, respects himself by being absolutely discreet with his affairs, I see no big deal in him having extramarital affairs responsibly, only his maker and God can judge him on the last day, thank you all for your attention to this matter

Gbamsolutely bro

Clairvoyancy:
Another good reason not to play the good guy in a relationship.... It gets boring to them as time goes, they love drama as it is an inbuilt thing, a follow-come trait to that gender...

So as a man, try your best to exhibit some kind of attitude that will raise her BP once in a while... That will make them love you more, but make sure you know when to stop...


They have that Stockholm syndrome in them....

Pure b5. Never ever play any script for a woman to get her acceptance. Only a f***l does that to himself. Rather be your own original self and be so strongly. Originally beats everything. You guys still have not learnt anything.

So you rather be fake for a woman to like you?
Na wah. And this one get mind dey advice people on women matters

Whem you keep playing to her scripts it's very easy for her to code and then she see's you for what you truly are....worthless. Then you get used and dumped only to disturb us on Nairaland with more senseless topics over and over again.

Common sense should tell you if you follow that your rule she becomes really bored fast cos you're just an actor in her movie and since she's the director and producer, why wouldn't she sort for better actors for the role?

Funny part is, na dem broke shame pass. You go see church rat girl dey condemn man and call him broke meanwhile she no get shishi... Na guys when dey try to impress dem I pity sha. You wan impress who no fit impress you. No be muyen be that

ednut1:
why e never catch regina daniel?

Na you she dey cheat with? Grown man asking d*#b questions

OgogoroFreak:
You people can install sub meters. It's sold in the market. With that, everyone get to use exactly what they paid for.

If you can't load tokens individually it's not really helpful cos your consumption for this month might not tally with next month and so on. I hate sharing bills with people

Very simple, I dey give dem more work. One time back in abj i had this landlady's son. Always trying to know the girls that I bring home. We were just cordial and he would greet and make some weird remarks like " bro, is that your girlfriend? Haa I see you and one girl dey enter for night or that girl dey shout oo, I no just sleep again" it was those one room house not passage house but very public. I was still a 9 - 5er then so I only entertain guests after work , late nights, my off days and weekends. When he became too inquisitive I increased the number of girls on rotation and made sure no one had peace at night. That took care of everything.

Anytime I notice a monitoring spirit aka nosey neighborh I try to always give them a lot of work. Just ignore and overwhelm them with things to be nosey about. Na dem dey taya las las and start minding their biz.

Wether you choose to be a eunoch or priest, marry or not, celibate or sexually active, trouble is part of human existence and it also adds beauty to the experience. So for me, marry or not i must continue to knack better soft women till infinity. My God know why him give me better preeq and fire for body. Na una own be that. All I know is time dey to slow down and recharge and time dey to put the tool on rapid mode. If you like stay single and celibate for ever, life's travails will still hit you. You're only free when you kpai

benjyyyyy07:
Make person lead us in prayer abeg, need to fill my gas and pay light bill in the morning token just finished. I even get 35 for my opay.. someone lead us in prayer cos to ask for help for nairaland na war movie

Better go do wetin go bring money. So na prayer want pay bills abi? Hunger never samma you no worry till your belle touch back

dollytino4real:
ok sleep

Wetin make you no dey sleep sef

Coolis:
Been hearing of red flag, don't know if there is one here already.

Met this lady toward the end of last year in Maraba area of Nasarawa state. I reside in one-man villagers area of Nasarawa state while she reside in the lokogoma area in the FCT.
We 've been chatting. l realized she doesn't like typing much words so she doesn't give out enough information about herself. l decided we meet physically again last Saturday so we can get to know more about each other and that l would be coming to her area. I asked her to send me the address of where she stays in the FCT but she suggested we meet at one of the eateries in their area which l agreed.
She suggested ShopRite in Apo/lokogoma area and l said okay.

NOTE-
1, l like her a lot.
2, my income is about 100k in a month.
3, To and fro one-man village to lokogoma area in the FCT using public transport will take 5k or more.

I had about 15k on the day which l thought could take care of my TP and what she would eat. I knew eating out at ShopRite would be quite expensive than the regular eateries like Chicken republic and the likes.

I cut my coat according to my size. We agreed to meet at ShopRite by 3pm but l decided to get there earlier by 2pm to find out their food and snacks prices.
Meat pie and a bottle of soft drink N2500. Fried/jollof rice with a drink N6200.

I ate well from my house so as not to order their food. I also thought
that someone coming out for a date at an eatery by 3pm, would have eaten from their house and wouldn't order food but light refreshment like a snack and bottle of soft drink but l was wrong.
After a while of my friend joining me, l told her let's go to the service desk so she could make her order. Without hesitation, she told them she wanted fried rice with fish and a bottle of coke N6200. The moment l was told of her bill which must be settled before the food is given to her, l decided not to order anything at all but on a second thought, l asked they add one bottle of Schweppes(1k) for me. I know you will call me a SIMP here but it's better only her eat than the both of us to eat which would have taken all the money in my pocket and going back to my area a serious challenge.

When we were done at ShopRite, at our departure point, she was joining along taxi to her area, l gave 1k to her to settle the taxi man, she didn't want to take it but l insisted and she accepted it.

Now, here's is why l asked if there is already a Red flag.

I told her l would call her in the evening of the day, the l idea was to find out if she had a great time and if we could do it again soon. I called her around 7:30pm twice, the phone rang but no response. I called again around 9:45pm still no response. Then l sent a message to her on watsapp that it looks like l didn't measure up to her standard and that l couldn't believe she didn't answer all calls l put across to her. I told her it seems our meeting meant nothing to her.

After a few minutes later, she replied me that she went for a program that lasted more than she thought. That was why she couldn't answer. I replied her that she should have sent a message acknowledging my missed calls and l wouldn't have insinuated our meeting meant nothing to her.
I haven't reached out to her since then and haven't heard from her either.
Men and brethren, you have it all. What do you think? Is there a red flag yet? Should l still reach out and maintain contact or to forget her? Thank you

It's okay to be a novice bro but you goofed sha... I never laff like this for long

First off never put yourself under any pressure whatsoever to take a girl out for fun, NEVER!!!
She obviously saw you sweating and over calculating and hence she wouldn't want to do it again except maybe when hunger wire am and she go take you like M*g*

You dey take babe out on a first date to shoprite and na 15k dey your pocket? Why bro? Instead jump the shoprite and change location bro.. no look her face, be the controller. There are cheaper places that will fit your budget and they can be fun for her too all na your packaging bro. It makes no sense that she's ordering food and you dey order schwepps. You dey sick? Abi you want flush belle

Next time do things accordingly. Only allow her chose location when you can spend freely. As a guy you should have some coded places that offers almost everything but at low prices and also know upscale places too so that you can switch tempo when the need arises and when the pocket is happy. I have been in your kind of situation before but I never ever dey calculate I learnt my lesson back in university after blowing my weekly allowance in one night on a date and her friends . Now I must hold more than what we can consume but I never spend more than I should. One time I had this girl on a date Na me even suggest domino for the banny and she met me there. The domino dey my zone and they are familiar with me too (I'm regular there cos of my little nephews and niece) so it's like my home. Wetin she take na just Ice cream wey dem dey use that chocolate and waffles do. My only calculation was how to take the strings off those sexy legs at the end of the day nothing else concern me wetin she dey eat. I took water cos I don't do sweet stuffs which she knows cos we have been on a date before. After then I changed location to movies (already planned by yours truly) its not even expensive but it was fun, then later to somewhere else very beautiful and standard but very budget friendly and closer to my estate for a reason. Ordered drinks, we both ate one large bbq fish and chips. I didn't need to break a bank and I saw she had fun and at the end of the day she cum.

What I'm saying is never put yourself in a position where you will be over calculating abeg. It's childish lol you really make me laff. You for trek go house

phemmie06:
A lot of people will blame the woman but there are some questions we need to ask.
When was she married?
How old was she when she was married?
Was she mentally ready for marriage or she was forced into it?

The report did not tell us if there's any kid.
We were not told if it was done during provocation....what is the history of the husband, who is he?
How old is he?
How many wives?
What is her belief concerning woman.... I heard a religious leader saying that God created animals and also create some other animals, to be used by men (he was referring to female)

All these are irrelevant right now and still doesn't justify that. She's criminal minded and should face the full wrath of the laws (both sharia and normal laws of the land ) when caught. She could have simply escaped without trying to unalive the poor man

cardoctor:
Is there no padlock for that thing cos the way this is going, I have to be concerned about mine.

Better start wearing like 5-6 jeans dey sleep now make she nor go shock your enemy one midnight.. and make sure you face down no lose-guard sleep face up ooh na you sabi

Diamond098454:
Manhood gone hmmmmm no more work for him hmmmmm a big tragedy has befallen that man for the rest of his life


Imagine maga with no third leg

Is that so? This girl you no innocent at all chai. So na maga be the name?

TimiofAbuja:
Nigeria suppose to have section on Netflix, youtube and all streaming platform because I have seen only this in the movie before. The sad truth is if these kidnappers are highly connected, they will be freed and nothing will happen The doctor has the done the right thing anyways.

That's the sad reality and it goes to show that most heinous crimes are committed by those who are in power pretending to be fighting against it at the same time. It's in cases like these you smartly take laws into your hands. I mean he's a doctor. There are ways and means to do this intelligently and quietly and nothing will be traced back to him.

SeverusSnape:
They should be executed immediately. Very heartless people.

I agree with this 💯

Apcshit:
You are daft

That best describes you. I know you want me to use certain words tp describe you properly so your rainbow associates can give me a ban, but you're not w0rth it

Na these guys forming Romeo and I must love by fire by force. Any girl that wants to leave, I will help you open the doors very wide and if you hesitate i bring in another so you have more reasons to leave and don't look back. Can't jeopardize my life for any woman when dem full everywhere. Now the foolish guy will waste away in jail

Chai this one strong bro