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heniford2:
Hmm very true i noticed this too recently please Mr, Op correct some errors in your write up thanks we men needs to support each other anywhere anytime.

Done, thank you

This thread really touched alot of us men. Bless you comrade lecturer50 for being brave enough to share your story with us. You inspired me to share mine and I hope it inspires others to share theirs too.

Comrades we have been silent too long. NIGERIAN women have really dealt with us and unfortunately it's fellow men who fail us in our time of need.

Several years ago I worked in one of the top companies in Lagos in VICTORIA ISLAND to be precise.

I was the team lead, amongst my team was a young lady , who just joined the company . She was the sort who dresses very seductively and such .

Okay one evening after closing hours I was still in the office and she walks in and says she wants to have a chat with me. I asked her to sit , she then proceeds to tell me how she is very secretive, she is someone who can keep a secret and no matter what if she has anything to do with her superior no staff with hear.

I smiled and said thank you for the information but I am not about that life.

She left. Fast forward 3 months later to the end of the quarter, her appraisal was so poor because frankly she was terrible at the job.

She storms into my office later that day angry asked why I rated her a D.. (Appraisals are scored A to F based on performance) I immediately cautioned her not to raise her voice and sit down. She sat down reluctantly and I went over all the work areas I had been telling her through out the quarter where she needed improvement and yet she had made no effort to improve. She left angrily and slammed the door.

Now there was a report she was due to submit , the next day being a Friday she didn't and she left rhe office .. so I sent her a query . On Saturday she called me at home saying saying she saw the email query I gave her that she won't respond to it.

Comrades I got to work on Monday as usual , then around 12 noon I got an email from the human resources manager that I have been invited to a disciplinary panel for gross misconduct of sexual harassment . That same Monday by 3 pm in the conference room. I thought it was a joke, I immediately went to the HRMs office she was with the CEO they were having a meeting and I noticed that lady was in the office too.

I decided not to talk with anyone else so it doesn't seem like I am trying to use my relationship with the CEO to get favor which I felt would make me look guilty.

So comrades I went before the panel... of 5 and the lady was called in and she started crying recounting how I have been asking her to sleep with me since she joined the company but she has been refusing. As a result I have sworn to frustrate her out of the company !!! I nearly fainted in my seat.

She said she had witnesses , I was feeling dizzy with shock and disbelief!! I was asked to speak, my people I lost it. I told them I was innocent that she should call her witnesses, I couldn't hold it in I started shouting ..

Eventually they called in their witnesses who only said they saw her enter my office on several occasions o!! which is those times she comes for work or to discuss her weaknesses on the job.

My people... I was summoned back and told they didn't find sufficient evidence what she said was true but I will have to step down as unit head for fear that I will want to get revenge on her for attempting 5o slander me. I refused and demanded her sack to which they objected .

I rejected that and told them I would resign instead. The HRM begged me not to, the CEO who was a personal friend to me. I went atraight tobsee him, my Comrades I was crying like a baby... not for the job no, but because I was innocent and I know he knew I asked him why didn't you stand up for me? .. he said , guy I know you are innocent , everyone on the panel knows you are innocent but as you know this is a multi national , all the foreign board members are white women and this girl cried to one of them and they want justice for her so they want me to move to manage another department while the lady will be suspended.

I resigned and till tomorrow this affected my relationship with that comrade.

He should have stood as the Nigerian CEO and said no!! This man is innocent and sacked the lady ...

So to add to what our dear comrade said pls, We need to start standing for each other as men. LIKE A COMRADE said if they Come for your fellow man and you keep silent when they come for you no one with speak


I dedicate this post to my fellow comrades FanOfMyself , jditimiya and others

QueenAgbo:
Syh ashawo

Your brains are not working.

Dirty thing

FanOfMyself:
I will find time to narrate what transpired between me and a girl whom I saved her life and who happens to be a flatmate. I am convinced that an average girl (maybe it's only Nigerian girls) feels entitled. Everything I will write will be nothing but the truth. It's going to be a long read tho.

Comrade pls share this tale for other comrades to learn from.

jditimiya:
True talk, i have a story about this rape thing, if not for God and our blessed virgin Mary i may have be having a small room in jail oversea because of my roommate girlfriend. Thank God after much investigation the cops said i was innocent, it all started with hate. Women not all men like to rape and not all men do things for you because of sex.

Comrade looking forward to you sharing this tale with us

Ishilove:
Nairaland and woman bashing. Even the jobless ones living in 2 by 4 cubicles in Makoko are making mouth about how they are dealing with 'vaginarians' and earning their respect.

Keep shut madam if you have nothing to say

Thebig4:
Go get a life girl , i could have bring you into my circle so u see girls wen i mean girls i mean girls with class , brain and money but no u go fall my hand abeg shift.

Comrade that road side dog can't fathom these cereal comments you are making.

Her grammar scope is very limited and her thinking never evolved beyond using her body to earn a living so move along .

Remember if you lay down with dogs you will come up with fleas

QueenAgbo:
Shameless man.I can't even allow to see my pant.You are below my standard.

You sound like an illiterate. That man said he wants nothing to do with you that you disgust him yet you are disturbing him. Will you get out from here !!

Truthup:
Your experience is so unfortunate. The society is skewed against men on such issues. I have helped several young women and men without asked for anything. God wants us to show agape love to mankind. Two needy ladies I have only seen physically once that I gave N50,000 each in December 2021 for their business, I requested that the should block me after and if they do not, I will block them so that subsequent communications does not lead to sentimental attachment or them trying to show me gratitude by becoming too friendly. I have blocked both beautiful ladies, aged 25 & 28 years since end of December 2021 and will not re-contact them. One has assisted up to three young ladies in such manner with some given over N100,000, without sex involved. If you REALIZE it is by God's grace that you have whatever you have on earth, feel free to give out without demanding touching body or sex or online sexual gratification. This is the attitude men should adopt to avoid he widespread belief that all men want sex from women. Our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit.

How many Men have you helped ?

nenyewrites:
I laughed when he was happy he bought bed for 95000 naira. He is definitely living among low lives. That's why they reason in such low way. I'm sure they're lots of illiterates amongst them.

Oradell you just put the icing on the cake . Typical slum dwellers drama of simps and Whóres

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QueenAgbo:
That is how I have many of them messaging me here on nairaland for sex.

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Don't conclude it's for sex. Some may have a buyer for your kidneys since they are of now use to you .

Not every message fir a man is asking you out ,or some may have a job for you as a sales girl, or as an office cleaner

Smh

Evolutionlove:
Na those "Useless Oloriburuku Men" full shiiiithole these days. That's why I celebrated that bastard killed at hotel by that young girl Chioma. Most men hate, kill, and oppress their fellow men so much these days and then turn to the Vaginas to worship and spend on them. I have always said It, A lot of men are useless and oloriburuku people. Internally I hardly respect men these days because I have seen them finish. If I'm using sir for you, Just know I'm faking It and whining you fooooools......

I swear my brother.. the bastard is a senior manager in an oil drilling company o. He put all his prostitutes into jobs that pays them over 1 million naira A month.. bought flats for some pays alot of them monthly salary ... yet I have never ever seen him help a man.. do you know how many young men from his same Delta state have come to drop their cv? He will always tell them there isn't any vacancy now.

But I know whóres this bastard has changed their life. There is one whóre who a baby girl for this bastard..he bought her a house in London oh after employing her for years and paying her millions

See men are our own worst enemy in Nigeria. But abroad it's the reverse . Men help their fellow men there but in Nigeria ..men only help women. Bastards

bummyla:
So sad Bros! One of the problems I am having in my marriage is because I am a very tall and huge guy, marrying an average tall, very slim lady, who has a baby face. Everybody believes everything she says about, because of the huge gap in strength! But thank God she is not a good liar, the few times, I had to defend myself, people were screaming, and once she starts crying! Case close, she wins again.


Men are endangered species!

I feel your pain comrade. Take solace in the fact that you are not alone. Unitedly we stand and pray for each other daily.

Be strong comrade

Sonnobax15:

This is how good men are easily turned to bad men . I think it's high time men should start standing up for their fellow men.

Unfortunately ther are too many simps ..

My useless bastard boss for example is a billionaire . Who will rather buy his whòres flats is foreshore Osborne estate ikoyi at 240 million than invest 100k in a young man who wants to start a small business.

These Simps out number us Unfortunately. Either way Aluta continua comrade

Nonexisting:
This is why I dissociate myself from anything involving the evil gender except sex. Even the sex sef, I always try as much as I can to make it transactional. Everybody around me knows I don't do favors to women and don't expect any from them. The moment you do favors for them, you unintentionally create room for their evil manipulations. Vaginarians in my neighborhood know better not to ask for ordinary lift from me. I don't stop to talk or discuss anything with them and hardly accept greetings from them. He who is endangered should be wise enough not to put himself in tight situations. If you had been minding your business in that your compound, the daughter of Jezebel couldn't have had the guts to say shit about you.

Kai .. I am so proud to be a red pillar and meet , sound intelligent , awesome disciplined comrades like yourself sir.

People like ypu make the struggle worth while. You are a real man..

Bless you comrade

Felimax:
I hope nobody will abuse you.
Some things are not just adding up in your story. They said behind every rumour there is an element of truth.
A man is a man when he attain a particular stage nobody teaches him what to do, he makes meaningful decision with his life.
I use to have a neighbor then in Lagos who will sneak into my house to ask for favours. On a particular night she came she was in her nighties with no undies at all. I gave her what I could afford (not what she requested) and gave her a serious warning never to sneak into my house.
I am not claiming a saint but wisdom my dear brother. You would have been able to give her the little you could and warn her not to approach you again, she will dread you for life.
It's a man"s world already! Just move on please.

I like your no holds bared, disciplined approach. I am like this too.. women wrinkly notice I am not a man whose penis controls him hence they always quickly comport themselves around me.

When you allow certain boundaries to be crossed due to gender biases then don't complain when these ladies exploit same to hurt you.

Well done comrade

Godada:



This is an interesting write up but based on the setting, it's instructive to note the calibre of people involved: low lives. Face me I face you kind of setting.


The mental intelligence of the people involved is low and limited. Why? Accusations cannot be made based on assumptions.

What is wrong here is a case of slander. An appropriate course of legal action should be pursued by the guy in question.

It's asinine to assume a man who wants to help you wants to screw you. While the lady is busy working in Chevron, she wants to get paid in Total. That's tells the calibre of people at play here.

Anyway case it's obvious society favors the women and also kids. You have a marital tussle, custody of kids is given to the woman.

There is war in the land, women and kids are given consideration. A woman slaps a man, if he hits back, he is called unprintable names.

Lots of women knows this and exploits it to their best advantage.

So it's left for men is to rise up to the challenge that awaits them.

The society favors women.

You summed it up perfectly . This is a case of slum dwellers just being slum dwellers.

To the OP .. visit this site and thank me later MGTOW. Use Google to find the link.

Men have for long awoken up our harsh reality . This is why taking the red pill is the best thing you can ever do for yourself as a man.

MrBrownJay1:
question we need to ask IS: is it really that difficult for a "seemingly" good looking humble espectful intelligent hardworking woman to get a man to date her, let alone marry her, in Nigeria... that they now need to beg online like that?!?!?

no wonder Nigeria is doom, some broke legged donkey will then answer this ad and marry this fine DESPERATE babe... then turn around and treat her like garbeg (since she lowered herself like that), all because of "wanting to be called Mrs somebody at any cost".

BTW if she was indeed "intelligent" and all that then she wouldnt need to advertise online to get a man...tell us what you are hiding sista.

She is probably a single mum or worse from akwa ibom.

ChangetheChange:

Carry go Malami
Carry Go Buni
Carry Go Buhari
Consensus List is a must.
..Ride on
Who doesn't like the consensus List should go and form his own party and test his popularity if he wants to become president

Please explain this consensus list to me

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Angelfrost:
Nope... You just described yourself clearly.

You don't qualify to be noticed! Keep well within your self deceit, far away from the reality of hard truth!

P.S: I have never interacted with you. I would never have sullied my personality by even noticing you if you hadn't chosen to be unfortunate by mentioning me!

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helinues:
You dey mind those people..

When they could have been like some of us who prefer to be reading whatever chaos, confusion, killing and destruction in SE on news.

South East is as peaceful as North, those pokenosers should mind their business

Isn't this your partner ? A similar plan you had for nairlanders here right? until you were busted

https://www.nairaland.com/6945604/segun-fayomi-plethora-farms-accused

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Angelfrost:
1. There was absolutely nothing uncivil about my post up there, except you have issues with the bitter truth... It wasn't even a generalization, as I clearly used "some" to prefix my assertion which you would know to be true, except you wish to be hypocritical.

2. Intellect is quite independent of public opinion sir, especially balefully and amusingly biased ones like yours. You can keep your patronage, it is quite without worth.

3. With all due respect, what exactly makes you even think that some of us post or make comments here or on social media to gain respect?!!! Of what value is anyone's respect or even adoration on a faceless forum??! I state my opinions, truth, and perspective as delicately and respectfully as I can manage, and move on to more meaningful things... How non neutral and sentimental people deal with my opinions is really not my cup of tea! I earn no income or political leverage from Likes and Shares!!!

Bye!!!

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I was not talking to you. I don't interact with thugs. My comment was directed at the other member using your garbage comment as a case in point.

Please I would appreciate if you don't interact with me ever again on this platform.
I have watched you for a while , you are uncouth, bitter, narcissistic, unintelligent, and very uncivilized, hence I don't interact with such people.

Good evening

Never allow the evil ones dominate you

LordviccoDaGuru:
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This uromi boy. You are here harassing members again abi?

Don't worry

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Hisbah21:
do you know the entire supreme council of islamic scholars in Saudi Arabia condemned their views. similar councils worldwide...usually they will keep insisting,but its not an islamic view... Those terrorist see us as non muslims too... Assuming u can read in arabic i will have guided to so many books written,so many as old as 1300 years about it...Prophet Muhammad saw said " the era will come,you will see some people they will read the Quran per above you,and pray for better than you,but they go out of islam the spear when thrown"... prophet Muhammad saw prophecied about them, we called them kwawarij.


not everyone non muslim is a christain, we have ahlul kitab(christains and jews). we have Majus and so many others..someone that know Islam should be the one interpreting it for you,not just what you hear.

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Lies

Islam is terrorism and terrorism is Islam.

Facts are clear as night and day

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Hisbah21:
what you people didnt understand,Islam is contrary to what they are doing. they misinterprete the verses and most of them are not educated. they are extremist.. Prophet Muhammad Pbuh has a neighbour which is a Jew.

if a christain did something wrong, i usually dnt associate it with christianity,i knw christianity didnt teach that.

pls you people should be doing similar justice to Islam

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Trash

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Hisbah21:
and what few muslims deeds justify Islam?. we too condemned it,and Islam is not in support...for instance alot of christains commits alot of sinful deeds,that justify christainity,NO

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Muslims never condemned terrorism

Even the Blackburn community where he worships mourned his death ! They didnt co democrats his act no! Instead they mourned his death

That is truth for you

ProfGday:
The Muslim community who mourned that bastard should be put under 24:7 surveillance... All of those monsters are murderers like their mad prophet

Exactly thay part shocked me . They didn't co demn his act o, instead instead mourned him shows they belive in terrorism

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Gadafii:
When a Christian attacks schools, parks and kill people, innocent people.. the American society make excuses for him, blame his mental disorder or what ever fancy name they call it.
The go ahead to release his health records, how he has been battling with mental illness when he was barely 2 years old bla bla bla...

When he is a Muslim, he is a terrorist, no less no more

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Shut it

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aboyaji:
In our place, we have culture and tradition. You must call people to order when necessary. What makes one responsible? You think it's by growing mouthstache and pubic hair? Or typing away online that does?

Why do we have elders in the family?

He is my brother. Even though he's got his choice to make, the spirits must know you contributed your quota in helping your own when he was about going astray.

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No disrespect sir but you may need to see a doctor

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aboyaji:
Wait let me tell you what you don't know. I may have made a mistake quoting you. You don't sound learned in this discourse.

He is my brother. I am closest to him. I am not the type of adult that sits around doing nothing when things are going out of hand. I am very much responsible in his life because he is my brother. Get it?

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No you are not. You sound like a village busy body

Mind your own damn business

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aboyaji:
Some people are not well raised.

I had sometime last year sat my brother down. He's older than I am o. No be taata.

I told him it's still early to end this thing with that girl since he's yet to pay her bride price. Girl that makes him feel uneasy. Because she has your child. She calls to check where you are every minute.

There was a time she asked him to go home that it was late, while my brother was hanging out with friends. She wasn't in the same state with him o. Haha

She gets her phone subscribed every 2 days because she spends all her time online doing tiktok and video calls. This is not a hearsay or accusations. It is what's happening.

The same week she put to bed in her hometown, she asked for data money from my brother to post a new video she made while on wrappers in her house. She was even dancing. I said to myself, na wa o! A nursing mother?

I don't even view her post because it contains videos from tiktok. Na wife be this abi?

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Be silent and go and marry your own. You seem to pock nose into things that don't concern you.

You are a man not a woman! Learn to mind your business