₦airaland Forum

hush15:
I can't believe I will have to agree with you on this one. What could have transpired to the extent that her father raised his hand that hard on her.....

As long as it is not sexual abuse, then she must really be a rude girl but then again, I might be wrong. Whatever the case, she must have pissed the father off real bad.

I doubt it's a case of discipline. Most likely that of insult.
It's better to take insult from an outsider than to from your own child. Most of the people talking here on her side cannot insult their parents, except those who were never brought up with respect.

epainos:
Set of beasts. but the truth is that Nigeria is turning to the US soon. Cos this man is going to jail....he cant escape it. I trust those ladies....they will make him beg. If this man no prostrate for his daughter, he go remain small.

You kinkongs wey dey beat chest to beat your adult daughters, you go collect. Lol. So, make sure you dont change. In fact, I expect you to come against my post...but the fact is that I want you to be stubborn and change. No gree for me. I want you to oppose me very well...I assure you that you will prostrate and beg later. Beasts!

A man will prostate and beg his daughter??
It is obvious life denied you of a father figure.

TheBTCinvestor:
U must be sick in the head. So u can beat ur child to this extent with visible swollen face? I pity that kid that will ever call u dad. Cos ur meant to be confined to a mental hospital

Will you keep mum on the insults? It is people like you that wake your parents up with bicycle kick. Do you know if she insulted her father? Na people like you your pikin fit insult for public in the name of wokeness. Let us hear the story from both Ilebaye and her father before unwise people start being the judge of the entire situation.

EponObi:
It's better you delete your comment, go back to sleep, then come back and rewrite. You are giving vibes of a potential perpetrator.

The person said what he said and is not ashamed of it. He must not reason like you. Let's know the story from both the family and the girl who likes to twerk.

Allahismylord:
For video wey all of us watch?

This your sergio ramos defending is shameful and ........

Go watch am again, thenn listen to Harrison side of the story. It's sad you have to explain a visible fact to a sane being.

epainos:
This is a very good policy. Excellent. You even see people abandon old vehicles in the streets causing obstruction everywhere. When you start paying heavily, no one will teach you to make a car park in your compound. Also, people will make business out of this by making creating car parks everywhere. Just imagine how Lagos inner streets and corners are going to be free.

In Lagos, the madness of streets parking is notorous such that wide streets (as wide as 4 lanes) many times are turned to a single lane. And the minimum all streets should have should be double lanes. This is so great. Very good.

Infact, I pray the fees arent just tokens but heavy pays. As in heavy such that those who abandoned vehicles in the street will run to dispose them fast. I kuku trust Lagos officials...they will milk them very well. Make dem milk people like that.

Yes it is true. Government should also make sure there is a car park in every vicinity. A way to raise money daily. Imagine paying 1k per day for parking and 100 people come to park, isn't it good business for the government?

Macphenson:
This what the blood thirsty ASP should have done. The guy was even willing to volunteer information to the police but that demon in uniform shot him point blank.

The people the government gives Beretta pistols are policemen. So if a civilian is found with a Beretta pistol, police usually implies that their fellow service men must have been killed for them to have that pistol. So police usually kills the person as an act of revenge for their fallen comrade. That boy was shot in the leg and hand and that spot then was later taken somewhere and killed. It's an act of jungle justice by policemen that needs to stop. The Usman officer is now the scapegoat for that.

essentialone:
Bros... you no dey alone 😂. Your Badoo story na the same TED Talk millions of Nigerian men don give since 2018.

What you describe is real. Online dating for Nigerian men, especially Lagos axis, has turned to _Wild Wild West_. But make we separate emotion from data so you no go throway pikin with the bathwater.

*Why your experience was brutal – and why it’s not just you*

1. *“Hunger in the land” is facts*
Nigeria economy don humble everybody. ₦2k, ₦5k “urgent” request is the new “hi.” Ikoyi/Lekki bio is packaging. Many of them dey stay for Egbeda but claim Chevron for pricing power. When survival mode enter, “love” becomes luxury. So yes, 70–80% of women on Badoo/Tinder in Lagos are there for transactional reasons. It’s not app, it’s economy.

2. *Single moms everywhere*
Average age of first birth in Nigeria ∼20. No welfare, no child support enforcement. So a 22-yr-old with 2 kids needs to hustle. Dating apps = fastest marketplace. You’re not a bad guy for being turned off; you just have a preference. But understand the pipeline: teen pregnancy → baby daddy japa/run → she enters market. It’s a whole social problem, not “girls these days.”

3. *Catfish vs Reality*
Filters + angles + ring light = different human. This one na global, not Nigeria. But Naija own dey extra because meeting venue fit be risk. That “hide under table” feeling? Every guy knows it. Video call before meetup is now basic survival skill, not paranoia.

4. *Working class ladies doubling as HK*
Salary ₦150k in Lagos cannot carry rent + hair + iPhone + Uber. So “9–5 + 5–9” is real. Many have boyfriend wey be “love,” and clients wey be “business.” Harsh, but that’s the economics. The “reasonable ones far away” part? That’s geography. Lagos is huge. Ajah to Ikorodu is long-distance relationship.

*So is online dating completely useless? No. But your strategy was wrong.*

You went in like supermarket: “I don set filter, make I pick wife in 3 days.” Bros, even Shoprite no dey sell wife.

*Here’s what actually works for guys who eventually found decent women online:*

1. *Change platform + change expectation*
Badoo/Tinder = hookup HQ. If you want relationship, try Hinge, FB Dating, or even Twitter/X, LinkedIn. Smaller pool, but higher “relationship intent.” Better to have 10 serious chats than 200 “urgent 2k” DMs.

2. *Your bio is filtering wrong*
If your pics dey show car, hotel, chain, you’re attracting hustlers. If bio says “God fearing, looking for wife” you attract scammers who mirror that. Use normal pics: you + dog, you + friends, you working. Bio: “Lagos. I like football, amala, and long walks with no billing. If you hate dishonesty, we fit vibe.” You’ll repel 90% of HK, keep 10% real.

3. *Move offline FAST, but verify first*
1 day chat → 5 min voice note → 2 min video call → day meetup in public place. Anyone who refuses video call = catfish or married. Anyone who says “come my house day 1” = either HK or kidnap setup. Both na L.

4. *Pay attention to effort, not beauty*
The fine girl wey dey double-text, ask about your day, and no mention money in week 1? That’s the unicorn. The 10/10 wey say “wyd” then “urgent 2k” in same breath? That’s the 99%. Dating is filtering, not collecting.

5. *Adjust age range + location*
22–28 in Lagos = highest HK density. Try 26–32, Yaba/Surulere/Mainland. Many career women there, less “Lekki baddie” pressure. Or expand to IB, Abeokuta if you fit do distance. Love no dey only for Island.

*Hard truths you need to accept:*

1. *Apps reflect society* – If 60% of Nigerian youth are unemployed/underemployed, dating pool go reflect that. It’s not “girls are bad,” it’s “people are broke.” Guys do the same – “yahoo boy” bio, fake lifestyle.
2. *You are the prize too* – If you’re a decent guy with ₦2k to your name, no criminal record, and job, you’re top 20% already. Act like it. Stop chasing every like. The moment you stop sounding desperate, the HK dem go waka.
3. *Offline still wins* – Church, work, friend’s weddings, volunteering, gym. Ratio of “wife material” to “billing machine” is 10x better offline. Tech is tool, not savior.

*So wetin you go do now?*

1. *Take 30 days break* – You’re jaded. Badoo go make you hate women wey you never meet. Reset.
2. *Define “nice lady” clearly* – Not “fine + Ikoyi.” But: “Has job or skill, no kids or 1 max, lives Mainland, values honesty, we fit gist without money for 2 weeks.” If you don’t know what you want, app go give you what’s available.
3. *Try new hunting ground* – Join mixers, Twitter spaces, alumni groups. Tell friends “I’m seriously looking.” 80% of marriages still come from referrals, not swipes.
4. *If you must stay online* – Pay for Hinge Premium, set deal-breakers: “Has kids: No,” “Smokes: No,” “Looking for: Long-term.” Then be patient. Quality takes 3–6 months, not 3 days.

*Last word:*
Your post is not “bitter.” It’s accurate. Online dating in Nigeria is 20% dating, 80% economic survival simulation. But saying “no way” means you let the HK dem win. There _are_ homely ladies there – nurses doing night shift, teachers, small business owners. They just no dey loud, and they ghost fast when they smell desperation or billing.

Hold your peace, tighten your filter, lower your timeline. Wife no dey Amazon Prime – no 3-day delivery.

Sorry no vex ooo. But you should write a book about this, it would sell.

Biglittlelois:
At least pretend to be intelligent even if it's small.

A dull person will call an intelligent person dull because she can't comprehend him.

Dear women, please it is your duty to know who you marry before you marry. We are tired of hearing men are these, men are that. Those stories are stale.
No be you like fine man?
No be you like successful man?
You know say na womanizer but you still accept am. When there were better men out there but you married most likely out of greed.
Now because he did what he was going to do, you're now trying to play victim. Abeg leave us joor. Nigerians dey hungry.

Is it not the same Nigeria that thousands of people troop into weekly?
The only thing here which I feel is wrong is being forced to use an airport taxi at an exorbitant amount.
I have been to bad hotels abroad where the sheets are smelly and conddoms are under the bed. The way hotels work is this, if the one you're in is not good enough, check for another. You cannot expect a hotel of 25k a night to give you a regularly clean swimming pool.

One night, I had a truly frightening experience. My child woke up crying in pain, holding his head. I was terrified—I had never seen him like that before. I immediately called the hotel reception to ask for the nearest hospital or an emergency number, but I was told there was none nearby.

On the above, please why didn't you use a Google Maps to find a hospital nearby?
I know the country is not the best but there are over 200 million people living here and many are more happier, healthier and fulfilled than those living outside. Life is what you make of it, not just about where you are.

There's another school of thought that they go to Al-janar. Your people have been religiously miseducated.

E-money and Soso don see new business venture to dey sponsor celebrity boxing with no rules.

Banking on Peter Obi's popularity to get into power too. Like GRV, Otti, etc.
Wish them luck.

Pgateway:
Please is this normal?

I’ve been “prophesied” to by more than four different people—unrelated and unknown to each other—that I should never tell a woman I intend to marry her.

At first, I thought it simply meant I shouldn’t make promises I can’t keep, but my experience seems to suggest something else.

What keeps happening is this: I can have casual flings or light flirtations. I’ve even had situations where married women get too close, and if I were to push things, I could easily cross boundaries—but I don’t. I also attract women who just want something casual, while women I’m not particularly interested in seem open to something serious.

However, the pattern changes completely when I meet someone I genuinely like. The moment I express serious intentions or mention marriage, the relationship tends to fall apart. One way or another, she pulls away.

This has been my recurring experience, and I’m now over 40 and deeply unsettled by it.

I can’t help but ask: what could be going on?

People with spiritual insight told you this. And now, what they told you is the current reality. Many people are in this your situation, unfortunately, they don't have people to tell them like you have been told. It's best you find a spiritual solution to your problems I advice you follow the Christian way as traditional ways might yield more complication on the long run.
For your own good, avoid opinions here like that of Kobojunkie. Life is spiritual as well as physical.

Why is South African government doing nothing against xenophobia or are they also xenophobic too?
Is their hate tendencies against people who aren't like them the main reason why the Whites then decided that apartheid was the way forward?

cucumbar:
Even lizard go beat TIfnubu, if he leaves that election free and fair .

Avoid stories of free and fair. Let the opposition be united.

If you guys want APC out, then find a way to unite ADC and NDP or simply congratulate Asiwaju Bola Tinubu for a 2nd term

Spreading lies against a famous person has been a well-proven method Nigerians have been using to get money and fame.
Example of these Nigerians, Linda Ikeji, VeryDarkman, etc. Now that Twitter is paying for views and engagements, expect more libellous news like these.

This labelling of Obi a saint is stale. You his canvassers should be more smarter if you want him president.

We4all:
Her parents sent her to school, but she chose to prioritise sex over her studies. Now, look at how it ended.

Stop being judgmental, this can happen to anybody. No be anybody fault, you no choose to flex your sexual urge when you were young.

You reap where you sow.

He has been doing this quietly for a long time. First time I am seeing him do it in the open. Dangote is good in using the government to excel his business.

richmond500:
The man was arrested cos he was transporting guns and bullets to unknown people.

Honestly with the build up anger we have from killings and terrorism and govt granting these terrosists pardon after the military captures them.
I think the policeman had had enough from all these menace and decided to take laws into his hands.

Probably I would have done the same but not in public.

First we are not in a situation of war, crimes like that do not carry death penalty anywhere in the world. Executing him without following the judicial process is evil.
Also, there's a possibility that it was a setup. Who will accept a waybill for guns just like that? If the collector knew the illegal content he was going to collect, he would not have been there.
Okay, lets say the young man was actually guilty. Whatever happens to investigating further and getting to the root of the problem. If the young man was tortured and pressed the more, he would have revealed who sent him and this could have destroyed the network of arms transportation to that area. The young man even indicated that he co-operate but it's like the bigger kingpins is not the catch for the police there.
Our judicial system needs an overhaul.

Solofresh2:
I doubt Mourinho style of play in this modern day football, but then again, Madrid will always be Madrid sha

Benfica is doing very well.

Sowore should ignore the tout who wants to use him to grow his image.

DomPerignon:
Cole Allen wearing an IDF sweater

This has been confirmed to be AI bros.

It's like African governments including Nigeria are lawless.
A group of people will come from nowhere to practice xenophobia and their government throws a blind eye.

Congrats to the family.

Many of her foolish followers will follow suit.

Shinor:
His Imperial Majesty
Elector of Himself
From the lineage of King David and Queen Sheba
Emperor Haile Ras Tafari Selasie of I-thiopia

The only king who never leave his lions

King Solomon and Queen Sheba you mean?
Jesus didn't come from the geneaology of Solomon. It was through David's son Nathan.