EngrKUNLE:


Where would you love to serve

TonyeBarcanista:

Thank God you married a GREAT GUY
 
 
This is a generic term used by women when their bid to separate in-laws from their husbands failed them.


The older sisters are your own older sisters too. You have to be in their good book at all times as long as it isn't against your legitimate interest. As long as they are not telling you to do overboard


There is no manipulation whatsoever. It is you trying to separate your husband from his sisters. As a wife, you have to accept your in-laws as yours and live in peace with them as long as they aren't perpetuating evil against your interest. Your husband has lived with them for MANY years before he met you. He knows them better than you do. You have to find way to sort it with them than try to make him see reason to separate from them.

   What transpired among you in the 10 years? What is the recurring issue?

   
This is irrelevant to the subject

  
I'd do same if I was your hubby! There is no way you can claim to love hubby without showing same love and respect to his BLOOD!

  
Your mind has always been made up and you are done pretending! His elder siblings are all he has and you must take them.likewise


Go and make peace with your in-laws and stop creating this arrogance.

Do know that you will never enjoy hubby as long as you are warring with his blood!

If you like take the advice of all these frustrated, angry, bitter and aggressive feminists, and male she-men, NA YOU SABI

Xisnin:

Most people can see through his bullshit.
He would have been the true victim(from his own side of the story) had he not
brought up the other woman's angle.
Now everyone can see that he wants divorce so he could be with his mistress.

He doesn't need any advice, he should go ahead and divorce her.

Belafonte:
I wonder what you face at home if she can plan and carry out such an act as coming to fight an unknown person in your place of employment. Do you know some organisations would terminate you on the spot? They will tell her to wait for you so you both can go home together as they are typing your sack letter.

She has no regard for you, and certainly home for herself, but those are not even as bad as her sparing no thought for the child you with have.

She has told you she wants to leave and that you should too. Has it ever occurred to you that she could kill you? . It always seems farfetched till you're dead. Hopefully, you don't lose your life.

I would advise you to inform your people and hers of her intentions to dissolve the union and leave. They will try to convince you to stay citing all sorts of reasons, but if you value your life I expect you to leave.

As to your new-found love interest, I would advise against it, and if you can't, have very clear boundaries. Going through challenges can make is blind to the flaws our supposed relief can possess.

Good luck.

Nahnahvlogs:
Lol
That's the goal,to make people know its not as bad as they assume. Yes different camps with different ways of screening Thanks for reading.

dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

AntiWailer:


Next time learn how to quote properly on Nairaland.

It is my business to spot scam and scream about it.

Acquire a skill and wait for God's blessing.

Don't die in your f0lly.


Take note of the useless testimony in the picture.

The lady claimed to pay , pay , pay before she was paid.

That is the next advice they will give their 'investors'. They will tell you to keep paying and calm down about receiving help.

AntiWailer:


I drive your dream car without fraud u call MMM.

You can come for inspection .

Eediot.

Better go and acquire a skill. Instead of low life u call investment.

He bought a car how many have I paid for without involving myself in that low life scam.

You call that useless 1999 envelope car and want to flaunt to me and call it defeat.

Broke ass.
This guy is just but a child. u need to grow up.
Whats ur business if pple participate or is it ur money?
Busy body

kuchikau1:
both are of dsame value. One is given to ful time graduate while d oda is given to part time.

kuchikau1:
how many times will this have to be explained?

solomonsojay:


the certificate is as good as the name on it. be it exemption or discharge...d exemption state u are very qualified to serve but above the stipulated age of 30. cos den u fit break leg in drilling process as old man concern while u may miss the cash u gain the certificate. NTSC was meant to help the youths both socially, financially n mentally in both personal n nation building at large, to encourage unity n Peace + give a taste of responsibility n self reliance.
the certificate show u are responsible n support naija peace n unity even the the exemption but u just miss d cash cos u be agbalagba (big man) (the law that all P.T students Wont serve was made my naija so don't be alarmed go collect exemption joor n stop wasting or time.

Pylony:
Go for what you have interest in, that which you bring the best of your talent, some thing you love doing when ever you're at it between the two.

And don't tell me you're interested in both, cos you can't serve two masters equally no matter how hard you tried.

And what if the world help choose for you and you later realized its the wrong choice, what else?

Seat down think about it and follow your heart. That's how to deal with confusion.

smartleo:

Guy your prove,because naso dem lie say mmm south Africa dey work when he don crash since June,2016