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lalaosky:
if she cusses me and i don't cuss back, i'm seen as a "F00L, ÄSSLICKER, MR FAKE NICE GUY, NOT A REAL MAN"

if i shuold cuss her back, i'm seen as " NOT A REAL MAN, A MEANIE, HATER"


she quotes me and all is well but when i quote her back to defend myself with no IOTA of insult, I'M NOT REAL MAN..smh

kitty-cat, you win...this is my last comment on this particular thread....hope you're now happy and in your eyes I'm now real?

Ciao


*watching from the sidelines*

Thanks for your undrstanding and kindness. @bolded ; Its a only an immature prson that will tell you that. You will get married 2moro and once in a while, ur wife or daughter will get emotional and misbehave. Will u always handle them roughly cos u don't want to be called an arselicker? Your strenght shd be internal and not depend on ppls misguided and sometimes malicious opinion. I see a man as a LION. A Lion's strenght and glory is alays with him, whether he chooses to fight a battle or not. Someone can't say the lion is weak cos he is sleeping or keeping quiet.

lalaosky: i understand you and where you're coming from but it's either you didn't read my posts thoroughly or you're so quick to defend sweetlemon that you have to say those things to me.


the angel you're defending has been hauling insults at me and still i didn't attck her back.how matured do you want me to act?..smh

Be a man and walk out. You don't gain anything by talking back.

lalaosky: in your last series, you called me names first and i didn't retaliate.did you apologise?...nope!!

Did i attack you back?...nope!!

So you're guilty of what you speak...you call people names too so don't act like you're the only victim!!


as per the essence of your thread, i don't doubt it but your thread's name is a genralization shikena!!.i'll still keep saying it!!

I am disappointed. You keep chantingg and repeating after her. Truly, our gneration lacks the strong mature men of few words who will protect the women. We now have men who want to compete with women in a word exchange contest. A Big Man, seeing d way things have degenerated uncontrollably, will hold d woman he hurt and console her.

I am sorry but I have to call names here. Most of you are the proverbial pot who called d kttel black. You guys call somone attention seeker and yet to keep posting you thots on d same thread. Isn't it attntion that you are seeking?

In my village they say, " sane ppl do not fight with madmen cos no one can tell the difference wen the fight starts cos its now a fight of 2 mad men"

Also I thot, there was something called male chivalry. Real men do not exchange words with women. They make their points and walk out, no matter the amount of insults hurled at them. Its so unfortunate that lalosky and mynd, I cannot say d same abt u. You ppl have been utterly childish on these threads. A matured man, even though he knows he is right, will at a point shut up and leave a woman to keep talking. It doenst make him foolish or diminish his respect. Infact it will make ppl around rspect him the more. A man who will taunt a woman, in d bid of forcin her to see her faults, till she cries is a weakling.

all4naija: Lol... You're still practising and believe in the aged principles of our forefathers. Hahaha... Relationships and human beings are way complicated than your view here. Human perceptions, receptions and beliefs are different not to mention the make-up.

This my opinion and I am entitled to it. I also think its more sophisticated and civilized to be open about your sexual and emotional preference than sneaking around and hoping not to be caught.

If I can remember well, in our grandfather's time cheating was a taboo and only men were somewhat permitted. Evn at that majority of d men who did it, did it in secret.

So, if I support Will Smith's and Jada's open relationship, where both parties though married can have diffrent sex partners, then I would not be thinking like our grandfathers. So all4naija, I recommend u read every of my posts 20 times and redigest and meditate on them so that you can make informed and logical comments. I hate that I have to correct u all the time. I don't find that intellectually attractive.

Integrity is a concept of consistency of actions, values, methods, measures, principles, expectations, and outcomes.


Hmmmm....integrity applies in what he told the women involved. If he told them that its an open relationship then its fine. Conversly, if he told one party that he will be faithful and has another lady then he has no Integrity.

For me jealousy is hardly the case as I could like a guy and have a relationship with him but if I find out that there was another woman whom he promised exclusivity to before me, I will back out. If a man cannot be faithful when he promises, then how can he be faithful in other things in life. I value honesty, integrity and honour. No matter how much I adore anyone, if I find them lacking, I quit the relationship, no sentiments. My sense of judgement usually overrides my emotional attachment to anyone.

For example, I prefer Jada pinkett and will smiths relationship. They both know they can't be faithful, they agree that they can sleep with anyone they want but still remain married. In this case its not unfaithfulnss per say because there was an agreement and both parties have maintained their integrity.


To make my points clearer, I respect a polygamist with 10 wives more than a cheating monagamist with 1 girl friend. I consider the polygamist as being honest and brave about his choices and the cheating monagist is a coward. Male cowards are not attractive. Its like a lion without a fang or his roar. I also rate in this same class single guys who have numerous babes and keep hiding this fact from anyone of his plenty gfs. Even if he reveals this fact to one or two of them and hides it from others, he is a dishonest coward.

sexybash: kitty my e-freind does it mean that when a guy has another girl he does not have intergrity? cheating is the least of my issues like some one said you can never force a monkey to choose cherries over banana its good when men compare then they apprecaite or are you scared he might choose the other over you hell no , if my husband feels cheating on me will make me come back to my senses den i think he should HIT the freeway

He just watched 24 or ALIAS for the first time.

No wonder u opened that jealousy thread. Dis isn't right. Intgrity matters a lot.

sexybash: guy you too much ;
D mosttimes what we bother about are what really dont matter, my guy currently has a girl but you no what? he is too loving and caring for me to bother about any other girl as long as he is not married to her, i love him too death, but i still use my head some girls even get angry when a guy dosent call? SMHFT i be woman but i dey fear women

Sorry na typo. I was over vexxing when I was typing it. Imagine the fool. After d babe and d mama don suffer finish, he wants to come and enjoy. The punanny he left them no dey sweet am again?

bolseas: @kittykat...the man left her and her mother when she was 3 years old not 2 years ago.

"Evans left Adele's mother Penny when the Grammy-winning singer was three and has not had a good relationship with his daughter since. After he cashed in on the story, Adele dissed her dad, openly admitting she would never speak to him again"

lucenzo: "I'm not interested in her celebrity status or her money, I just want my daughter back and I want to be a proper granddad to the little one," Evans, a Welsh plumber, added to The Daily Mail. "I'm missing out on so many of the joys of being a grandfather. Simple pleasures like taking him out for a walk in his buggy along the promenade at Penarth like I used to with Adele."

Dis dude is so funny. You never thot u did ever miss her when u walked out of her and her mom, 21 yrs ago. You left them at the mercy of fate. Now she is a success and u want back in d pix. How do u make up for all the fatherly love she missed?

If she had turned out a junky, would u be pushing to be reunited? Stupid opportunist!

Its high time ppl stood up to them. It could have been termed as play in some old threads but this is pure old green eyed envy. Who is stopping them from celebrating themselves? Must we spend our time reading sad stories of abuse and wickedness on NLD all the time? An inspiring nice story is needed so that we don't all get bitter and feel that life is always bad.

This reminds of a lady who talked abt her loving fiancee some years back on this same NLD romance section. She wrote about the good relationship they had and how she made it work. Trust our darling NLDers, they never fail to disappoint. They all started calling her attention seeker and liar.

I wish you a beautiful future with your current fiance(soon to be hubby)

Sweetlemon: Awwwww Kitty! you didn't have to do this!!!!
I'm so touched and humbled!

Mr Lecturer, kindly give a practical example of what you mean because I fail to follow your line of reasoning. Last time I checked NLD encourages freedom of speech. If someone has found true love and wants to shout it on all the tthreads of NLD, they are allowed to(by d way that's one of the signs that a lady loves a man). How does that make her have self esteem issues? Someone who is not afraid to express their feelings like she does, to me has no low self esteem. Rather its d bullies who have inferiority complex. If not why would such a reference get them piqued.

As much as I have criticized her before, I enjoy her stories and celebrate with her. Ppl do not know that when u celebrate another person's success, u are indirectly inviting ur own success. On the other hand when you rubbish it, then you are telling God that success is bad so He shd not give it to you.


As for ppl saying that her story is fake, pls send me your proof. If you do not have proof, then shut up! Its in this same NLD that some ignoramus said that I amd just a secondary school leaver and came up with lots of baseless points to prove that I am fake. The same set ppl said their grievance is that I claim that I helped ppl get jobs and I said getting a job is easy. As a result they became bitter and it became an e-bullying feast. If not for some very sensible and strong NLDers, I would have become another Swtlemon.

This has made me to conclude that d avg Nigerian hates to see ppl talk in happy terms about their success often. They expect u to always share ur problems or talk abt ur success as if its a failure. Swtlemon if u need help call me, we will open 10 threads evry day. Let them quench and die.
Infact we go open thread so tey we run out of topics and start using d ones below:
Swtlemon and Bedguy takes Manhattan
Swtlemon and Bedguy in Haiti
Swtlemon and Bedguy with Obasanjo on a trip at Otta farms
Swtlemon and Bedguy at Obudu cattle ranch
Swtlemon and Bedguy learn ho to make afang soup
Swtlemon and Bedguy have fun laffing NLD haters
Swtlemon and Bedguy: Nile boat cruise
Swtlemon and Bedguy visit India
Swtlemon and Bedguy and so on and so forth.

Haterzz over to you. Have a field talking rubbish!

Boss13: You see why I say you still have self esteem issues. First, learn how to communicate to people. A lot of posts on this thread are filled with criticism . It shows that you have been misconstrued.

Narrow minds. I am sure u never read the link I pasted. Nigerians, always quick to condemn but will never do a simple intelligent research. Smbfy [quote author=blogger1.0]I think you are definitely the most silly one of them all....seriously just look at the gaddam 'paper' used to make the so-called pencil drawings...do they even look real to you?
Its all fake my dear[/quote]

This will work for insecure women with no brains. A sensible woman will never contact you again, when u r still on Number 1 commandment. She won't even let you reach number 2.

Most of these online ruls were ritten by bitter men who had their hearts broken severally. They therefore concort numerous sensible nonsense to boost there egos. Most of thse tricks are usually practiced by them in dream land. Believe them and practice in real life at ur own peril.

That's in a fair and just situation and assuming that life is always balck and white. I hv not cheated before so I don't know what I did have done. Also thhe times I was cheated on, I wished he had confessed and not me catching him. But above all, I would hv preferred that he became a better person. In oder words, it would have been better for me that I didn't know and he also was truly repented cos d damage was too much.

SAFO: You're right but shouldn't guy 1 have a say in the matter? If she wants to be contrite and fully accept her faults, make she come clean to the guy and let him decide.

His love for her could definitely be tempered if he knew what she's been up too.

Good lcture from a professional

FlyinNaija: Dear Nairalanders,

Most of the times when an aircraft develops a fault and returns to land, the passengers are in NO DANGER. Aviation regulations require that the flight be discontinued when certain conditions exist, whether or not they are considered to dangerous or not. If the destination is their maintenance base, most of the time the flight will continue to its destination. If the departure airport is the maintenance base the flight will return to its departure point, which in Nigeria we call an air return. That is why you will notice that most air returns in Nigeria happen in Lagos since it is the maintenance base of most airlines.
Single Engine failures in transport airliners are not a matter of life and death, provided the pilots are well trained and aircraft performance calculations are done as required. Most airlines do not even declare "MAYDAY" when they have engine failures anymore. Engine failures caused by bird strikes can be more serious since they can cause physical damage to not just the engine but surrounding parts including fuel tanks, hydraulic lines and flight controls.
On the issue of bird strikes, the highest occurrence of a bird strike was an Air Afrique Boeing 727 hitting a vulture at 37,000 feet (Manny check your facts). I hit a bird at 14000 feet a few years ago somewhere in Nigerian airspace.

Have a nice day

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Don't tell me you are so silly as to believe otherwise[/quote]I think u r d silly one.

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Have u considered that d 1st man mite be savin her for marriage?

She didn't say that she is not sexually attracted to d 1st guy. She only said he is never around.
If she wants to love him, she can. Love is a decision.

Morayo747: Just leave the 1st guy and move on with the next and hope he doesn't treat you the way you deserve to be treated. For all those saying she should go back to the 1st guy are you forreal? She didnt sleep with him but gladly opened her legs for someone she met after him doesnt that say it all? Sexual attraction is very important in a relationship not matter what anyone wants to say. If she didnt sleep with him then she aint attracted to him period!! I guarantee you even if she does leave the 2nd guy she will still continue to cheat on the first guy with someone else as she clearly is longing for something that the 1st guy is unable to give her.

I am talking from experience here...and I was the 2nd guy. The girl continued to cheat with several people after we were done. She's now married to the 1st guy but it was more of a case of settling before her time runs out not really cos she loves him.

Smh

Foolish gal

2sexy: oh u mean she probably still held on to d guy in hope dat If I dont accept her?

Dat 1 na her own palava oh... I dont av a single plan 4her.

She even sent me a message dat she wants a guy she can take serious... Plus sex blah blah.... Me wey no dey ginger sef. Na nw she want seriousness, but told me I WAS TOO SERIOUS BACK THEN and She wasnt ready at that time. . Experience is the best teacher.

She is on her cos once told her not even her Nake.dness would make me accept her back.

U told me that she came back around last qaurter of last year and u said no. She might hv met dis bf very recently.

When did u join NLD? Only friday? Are u sure that u r not an old moniker renamed? Anyway fhanks. Its experience d most painful but effective teacher.

SINn: @kittykatty, you're so intelligent when it concerns matters of the heart and poosie

U are just being emotional abt the whole thing. Read my first post very well. Younger ppl usually don't understand what love is all abt. Even u wey dey post doesn't understand what love is. Dis mumu babe thinks she is in love but she isn't at all. She is just a confused, spoilt, immature soul. She is very materialistic and silly. She like a lot of young ppl these days don't know the right values to look for in a relationship. A lot of ppl readin this thread don't even understand that love is a decision not a feeling. Its a decision that overrides every form of feeling that u cld ever feel. From her silly childish right up there, one can ascrtain that she isn't in love with those guys.if not, she would have been able to make d decision to stay with one person.

Love has 3 essential components

1 friendship
2. Respect
3. Passion

She has no respect for either of these guys. She has friendship with no 1 and passion for number 2. If she respected them, she won't be messing around. She has just been living d silly lifestyle that is common with our youths today.

What she needs to do is to take a step back, understand what it really means to love and then choose d better man. For now she is not in love with either of them. I only hope she has half d intelliegnce to process all d info being passed on to her.

[quote author=Mynd_44]And after all these, she cheated on him for 11 months yet you talk about how she will still love him? Abegi[/quote]

When she told u she wanted u, did u take her back? Did u expect her to keep waiting for u and remain single when u have made it obvious that u wld never accept her? That she loves u and u rejected her doesnt mean she shd be celibate.

2sexy: Kitty Kat, please drop the "she can still love him" thing.

If u care 2knw, my ex who said she wants me back and now single posted on facebook dat her boyfriend broke with her.

Where did d "boyfriend" come from?

The reason she likes d first one:


more caring,handsome, soft hearted and more financially buoyant than the 2nd one,

1st guy is always talking about the future and marriage,

2sexy d prcentage is higher o. The morals in dis country has degrade seriously. Its same for guys too. Faithfulness is fast becoming a relic.

I was disappointed sometime ago, by a guy I respect a lot. Dis is some one that preaches morality a lot. We had been studying ourselves and trying to start up something. Only for my guy to tell me that he had a babe but also added that it wasn't serious. To say that I was gobsmacked is an understatement. I didn't even question him, I just cut off every form of communication. How can a man tell me that my fellow woman is "hold body" and then expect me to ever trust him? I had already developed strong feelings for him but my common sense is stronger than my emotions. 90per of chicks in dat situation will continue in dat relationship hoping he would lave d oda babe and face only them. Thy won't have d strenght or sense to do what I did. Then u will see the 2 babes on NLD posting abt how they r fighting over one guy.

My point is dat a lot of women are still fishbrained. Not all of them have sense but we can't throw d bathing water away with d baby.

@2sexy,

As u grow older, u will find out tht life is not so clear cut. Not evryone was brought up in a family where good morals was practiced. What shd aim at is to try to correct and teach the right way to live. If after giving her this kind of advice which only a mother can give and she still messes up then she is on her own.

And by the way, for some peeps, 2months is too short for them to fall in love. I am not supporting her. Don't get me wrong. I just want to give her an advice that will help her. Afterall I have sufferred in d hands of babes like this. She dumped my ex for a skul bf, when d guy dumped her and my ex bought a car, she came back. Being that I wasn't alays in d country, she was always in his house. When I came back and found out, it destroyed my relationship. So na me suppose curse this kind babe wella but I have learnt forgiveness.

2sexy: Kitty kat, dis 1 no b mumism. Biko.

It's pure wickedness... If d 2nd dump her and still come back, she will go back.

Cant u c dat d girl is not a kid? She never loved d 1st guy and never will.

D good thing is d 1st will find out on his own. Dat is d beauty of things like this....

In addition, read my first post. It says, "Love is found at d middle not at d beginning". She didn't sleep d second guy cos she loved him. She did it cos d guy was always around and provided what d 1st guy wasn't giving her.

Also,love is a decision. Its not an uncontrollable feeling. You make a decision to love someone, it can be conscious or unconscious. Again, love has to be nurtured to grow. If she decides to love d 1st guy, she has to do stuff that will make d love grow.

The 1st guy can find out but I pray he forgives her. If she behaves well, he will forgive her. If someone makes a mistake u correct them, u don't have to punish them all the time. Telling her to leave d better man is not a wise advice. Its an emotional and judgemental advice. I have been cheated on and I have never cheated. I hate cheating but still we can try to help an erring one repent.

She doesn't love any of them yet!! No be woman again? Some babes can't hold themselves when dia man is far away, especially if dey haven't had sex. U be man, u no be woman so u can't say she can't love d 1st guy. U don't know how a woman's mind works. If d 2nd guy messes up, she will have a rude awakening.

For her to love d 1st guy, she needs more exclusive time with him. Also, since she is d seeeex loving type, she has to sleep with him often. Some babes are like that.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Not really selfish? Excuse me did you type that while sleeping. If there is one thing I know it is that she can try to stick to the forst guy but she can never love him. She wants the second guy id not she won't cheat on him. The girls you talk of did not change cos the bad guys dump them or cos they love the good guy, they saw that they might lose both ways.

What do you think will happen when the first guy finds out what she has been doing? Don't get her hopes up abeg[/quote]

Vengeance is of the Lords not mine. Its not rite to see someone going astray and not try to lead them back. D babe na serious mumu. She is also immatured and inexperienced. Make we help am. She is not really selfish. She is just a foolish youngg babe. The congo shining is confusing her.

I am a woman and I know what I am saying. Sh can still love d 1st guy. I usd to think like u Mynd until I started seeing babes do a lot of crazy stufff. U will even see dem loose their virginity to a bad guy while dey are engaged to good guy. Then on d verge of brking up with good guy, bad boy deals with them and they get their senses back and go back to good guy.


With age, I have come to learn that life is not really divided in black and white but in shades of grays and white.

I know say d babe na mumu but she can change if she will listen.
[quote author=Mynd_44]Wait a minute ooo. You really think a relationship with the first guy would work? You are on a long thing ooo.

She has lost both guys with her cheating atitude and I saying she breaks with the first guy cos he does not deserve the treathment he is getting. She does not can can not love him. She is a dog and will continue to cheat so she should stay with the second guy and leave the first guy alone to find happiness with a girl that deserves him[/quote]

D babes doesn't luv either of them. Love no be pikin word. Her head tells her that d 1st guy is a follow to mama kind of guy and dat man 2 is follow to room 5EX kind of guy. She even analyzed their characters and let us know that d second man has tempr issues. From my assesment, she is suffering from d effects of multiple orgasmic eruption caused by overshined congo. So whenever she thinks of leaving d 2nd guy, her pussy wll just tingle and she will stay back thinking its love. That doesn't mean she can't love d 1st guy but then she needs to flush out the disease I mentioned above from her system, so that she can think properly.

Now coming to d guys, from her description, me thinks its a supremacy war for d 2nd guy. He had hoped to take a quick one and leave but knowing some guys with plenty ego, they like a woman swoonin over them after they hv shined d congo. But this chick no gree to love am back so he still thinks d chase is not over. So he keeps staying in d relationship and also collecting free congo. D more he stays, hoping to finally cut d chase and make d babe fall, still babe they put am as second option. His self pride is now wounded. He is now like, so my bd boy skills can't get me this chick, he starts getting jealous and now has to start nagging. Even if u ask d bobo, he will geniunely think he loves her but once she discharges d 1st bobo, he will find himself loosing interest. Cos then he has finally won d babe.